Please no hate I was on birth control when the child I’m pregnant with was conceived. Mentally and financially I cannot support another child I have two and that’s all I can handle. I live in Alabama how do I go about adoption processes ? I’m 22 weeks now.
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I don’t know how it works over there but i hope everything works out for you both
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No one should be judging you firstly. Second join some adoption groups on fb for support, and I’m sure there are several agencies in your area, you interview them and see who you ate comfortable with.
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Thanks for not getting an abortion!
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I’ve never gone through the process however I do recommend making sure you do plenty of research before you do it. Do research on the different types of adoptions and what each one means for you and the child. Lastly, you are so unbelievably strong. I hope you have an amazing support system that can help you through this as well.
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Contact your local pregnancy center they will connect you with potential adoptive families.
I live in Alabama. If you don’t find the right place, I’ll take the baby. I’ve been a momma for 32 yrs. I’m pretty good at it.
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I think you’d start by reaching out to an adoption agency. They will help you find a family that you are comfortable with raising this child. No one should judge you, and you’ll be making a family hoping for a child very happy. Hugs to you for going through this.
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I’ve had an amazing, sweet experience feel free to message me.
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I am a birth mother, I placed my child for adoption was able to choose the family had them over at my house once or twice after my child was grown. Not going to lie it is a heck of a decision but it was for me and for my child the best thing I had no business being a parent, he had an amazing life
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I’ve never placed a baby for adoption but do your homework first. And I commend you for wanting what is best for.your unborn child. I send you a remote Hug because anybody knows that is a tough decision but remarkable on your part. But as I said do your homework research and don’t just hand your precious gift to the first person. That is a Gift your providing to someone.
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It’s a real easy process. I live in Alabama and have adopted a child. We went through the probate office in the county we live in.
I think the social worker at the hospital where you’re receiving prenatal care might have some resources. 
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I have gone through the process in TX if u ever wanna talk to anyone please pm me
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Adoption is so wonderful 
best of luck to you:heart:
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Thank you so very much for placing your child for adoption instead of opting for an abortion. I’m sending you huge hugs and lots of prayers for you and your unborn child. 
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I am an adopted child. And so grateful to be chosen by a great family. God bless you for choosing your unborn child’s life.
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A church group can help u. Are their pregnancy programs around you. Dept human services may be able to point u in right direction. There are so many loving families out there. Bless u all
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I have no advice but I do know of a couple who have struggled with infertility and the wife had to get a hysterectomy due to severe endometriosis. They are desperately wanting a baby to love.
If you want to reach out to me, I can give you information. Look up different options on adoption as well, depending upon if you want an open or closed adoption. Make sure you find out as much information about who you are placing with to, that is very important. Do you want the family to already have children or not to have children!
I live in Alabama also. Mom of 9 plus raising 2 more. I just wanted to tell you that i commend you for what your doing keep your head up honey. If you need a friend please reach out any time.
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If you don’t find someone more local to you I been trying to do adoption privately no agency 100% cash payment but I live across the states
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Talk to the social worker at the hospital affiliated with your primary care provider!
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My niece is adopted the process with her was fairly easy because her mother was related to the adopted mother I don’t know where to tell you to start but you are giving someone the give of unimaginable joy!
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Make sure you are connected with some mental health programs and get help after you give the baby up. I promise you that you will need it.
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My brother and sister in law are looking to adopt. Faith Joy
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I give you a lot of credit for considering adoption, it’s not an easy decision. The adoption process is different for everyone, and different in each state! You can place a baby thru an agency, or privately with helps of an attorney. The fees for both are covered by the hopeful adopting parent(s)…each state has their own rules/mandates regarding all of this. There are websites like adoptimist.com that can help. My husband and I are hoping to adopt (faithndmikeadopt.com), and I work as a caseworker with families and children…there are social workers who can help also feel free to message me if you have questions! There is no judgement, and plenty of people willing to help…
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I’ll adopt your baby , I’m a mother of 3 , I had a miscarriage in 2021 I have been praying for a baby for so long. wishing you the best with adoption choices though and sending up prayers for the situation.
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I would adopt your baby in a heartbeat. I just lost my baby at 28 weeks and mine and my family’s life is broken.
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I have a couple looking so very hard to adopt - they currently reside in GA. Please DM me and I can connect you!!
Your local DHR, planned parenthood and free health clinic should have all the information you want/need love. Do your research and see if you want an open adoption or not as well.
I would love to adopt! My husband and I have been trying for 9 years to have a baby
Do you believe one of your older children would take one for the team and trade up their own mother to go reside with a stranger. Being older and having lived it they would certainly understand your struggle more so than a newborn.
Of course not, and neither would this baby.
I would encourage you to research adoption loss, adoption trauma, how it feels to be adopted, how it feels to have kept siblings, the effects of adoption on the kept, the increased suicide rates for mothers and children of adoption loss.
You’re already a mother, why not concentrate on creating a stable future for yourself and ALL your children. Nothing says you can’t try to parent give up if you must.
ALL infants including adoptees are geared as humans at birth to want their OWN mothers love, breast, touch, smell and voice. We may have no choice but to learn to live without our mother’s and conditioned to call a stranger mother but at birth SHE alone was our universe. I hope you find away to parent and if not I hope you and all your children find peace.
I hope you feel nothing but supported in your decision. You should do what is right for you and nothing else. I’ve been a labor & delivery nurse since 1988. I’ve never put a child up for adoption or adopted a child, but I’ve been present intimately when over one hundred (adoptions & various forms of surrogacy) have happened. These have been the most joyous, and the saddest experiences in my career.
You have time. Don’t rush into anything (picking an attorney, family, person, agency, etc). Some are wonderful, and some are honestly quite predatory. If anyone you meet gives you a funny feeling, always trust your intuition- you have 100% control. Every state has very different rules in “changing your mind” once paperwork is signed, which contributes to stress and pressure.
IMO, and from my experience, if you have someone chosen for your baby that you are already 100% certain you want to parent them, contact an adoption attorney. Meet with the attorney alone, and then the attorney will guide the process. A good way to pick an attorney is Google reviews, Yelp Reviews, and Birth Parent Groups/adoption. You can get a ton of information there.
If you are completely lost, you can ask to speak to a social worker thru the office you receive prenatal care (if you receive it). If you are religious, and organized religion is important to you, every major church has very quick access to an adoption team. They often have families lined up, and either attorneys or people competent and savvy at filling out paperwork. I would not recommend a religion based organization to anyone who isn’t fully on board with that religion. The worst thing to see is someone who doesn’t believe, already vulnerable, being manipulated & bullied under the umbrella of faith- it can be very dark & ugly. Those tears are the hardest I’ve cried. I would avoid religion based adoption programs unless it was something I already believed and bought into or wanted for my baby (I don’t know how the LDS Church is in private- in the hospital, they are so supportive of the birth parent, and don’t try and force any decision making or manipulate anyone- that I’ve seen. I’ve seen many LDS adoptions, most being people who showed up to L&D and decided to place their baby then).
If you have no idea where to start, and want to talk to Social Workers who specialize in adoption, there are many private adoption agencies in Alabama. Unfortunately you have to pay attention- some call themselves social workers, but they are not. Here is one agency that has an actual team of educated and certified counselors.
I’m in California- I’m sure things are a little different. I just want you to know you are awesome and deserve to be treated with full respect. No matter what you do or don’t do. If anyone disrespects you, they are vile, or if they seem creepy, they are!!!
I wish you much peace in your journey- I can’t imagine how difficult this is. 🩷
You can do this mama!! You don’t give your children away!!!