What’s the longest yall have had an argument with your spouse? We are going on day 4 without talking
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I never went without taking to my husband but we really never fight. We might have a disagreement once in awhile but we still talk to each other. 36 years together and married 35.
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12 hours maybe cause we’d go to bed lol
If a day time hours like 2 or 3 .
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?? How old are you guys 12 ? Grow up
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You both should be thankful you’re able to argue with one another. Mine has been gone for 24 years. Miss him every day. Life is too short, don’t spend it arguing.
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4 days?! How do you communicate about important things in the household? What about the kids? That’s too long. Typically our fights are over by the next morning after a good night sleep.
By day two, I put my pride aside and asked him for a hug. I knew we were both mad and both thought we were right, not quite at the point of letting it go…but I truly deeply hated the distance… being in the same room and feeling alone. So I decided not to allow it to go any further than it already had, asked for a hug and told him I loved him. There are times in life where yes, you get mad at each other and communication can fail because of hurt. But in those moments you can take a breath and decide you’re going to step out of the hurt and re establish connection. From there you can work on communication again. We’ve made it 14 years and counting 
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Just stop and think, who is this helping? Communication is what makes a lasting healthy marriage. Unless it is something major like infidelity, abuse etc. the little things are just really not worth it. I just experienced a woman losing her husband at a young age due to a farming accident( my brother in law). That sure puts things into perspective.
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It’s never great to go to bed angry with each other…every day that passes are feelings lost
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I could only hold out about two days but they where hard. Once after an argument i slipped this note into his lunch box. (Although im mad at you I still love you) it went over big.
Not communicating is toxic and damaging to the relationship one of you needs to take the high road and start talking soon . You need to talk about what stopped you talking and sort it out. Me and my partner have these moments. Longest we did was 24hrs and with each out I felt hatred that he didn’t come forward to me then it hit me I was opening up either so I told him we had to talk and we sorted it out. I felt like if we didn’t do it soon there would be no going back and we’d break up
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An hour? Being silent isn’t going to solve whatever issue you got going on. So we take an hour to think about shit and then we talk.
Silent treatment is form of abuse.
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Last argument we had was 2012 and we talked it out.
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That’s a choice your making and it’s not healthy. Break the silence stop waiting for them too. And not more then a day
Only a few hours. I don’t think not taking solves anything and it is pointless to me.
Communication makes a healthy relationship. So should be talked about not silence. I don’t go bed on a argument even my kids
A week. He went on a fishing trip in rural Canada and had no service. Came home and showed me pictures of him with a freaking wild bear! He wonders why I worry when he’s gone 
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Um 3 probably. But anything that was said was short. But we always work it out!!
Not speaking is just prolonging the argument.
Nothing is solved and the initial fight is just waiting to be continued.
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does he even know you had an argument? maybe he just thinks you stopped talking and he now has time to think for himself, lol
0 not talking and avoiding the problem is immature and petty. Put yalls pride aside and work out your problems
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I am a Mental Health Counselor. When I help couples with communication I teach them how to control bad communication and help make the arguments become about what the actual issue is…not about who is wrong. You can always stop an argument with
“Since we can’t come to terms about this, let’s take some time, think things through and have a conversation another time”.
Don’t hold a grudge, write the issue on a piece of paper leave it out, think about to yourselves and when you have a slow evening get some wine and ask your partner/spouse if it’s time to talk.
Writing it down takes the need away from having to fight it out right then. You won’t forget about it but the anger will be gone.
Contacting a mental health specialist would be a great way to learn how to work things out.
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What’s the end goal?
Seems extremely childish to me. Communication is the key to a healthy relationship.
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Are there seriously grown adults out here giving their spouse the silent treatment?
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Only a few hours if that .
A few hours, maybe. I can’t stay mad or hold a grudge. I need to resolve issues.
Childish. What if something were to happen? And suddenly he was gone. Would that fight be worth it? Would it be worth the 4 days you’ve lost with your best friend?
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Someone is hiding something then !
1 sleep? We are adults, not children.
are we 5 or what?? Biggest key to any type of relationship is communication
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Probably a week maybe longer and I was mad at him
We still talk, even if super angry. We don’t do the “no talking thing”
Ask yourself…Is it really worth being that angry with someone who you share a life with?.. sounds like a pretty petty miserable 4 days…
Never this is childish behaviour and I’m not a child
7 days. It was the best 7 days ever. And so quiet
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30 days.
i also did not cook for him, pack lunches or do his laundry.
only communication was via text & that was simply regarding the kids.
i refuse to back down when im right (this was 3 years ago & exactly what i said would happen, did.) not sorry. when im angry the best thing for me to do is to not talk to you especially when i cannot talk to you nicely/calmly.
Well work I’m stay at home mom he works and had many jobs in 9 years being together but Maybe 7 hours since the time we got together yes we get mad af at eachother yes we fight go to bed mad sometimes but by morning I’m brushing his hair he native American has mong hair rolling his cigs and have him work clothes but even when he worked 13 hours he would call me on breaks even if we had an argument life short ppl can clash it’s not ok to just stop communicating… you can walk away take a breather but the cold shoulder is mean and sleep on it but by morning talk about it
Four years. He’s dead so, conversation is shitty.
Maybe an hour or so? We don’t really fight. We promised each other in the beginning to not let feelings linger. I personally could never be in a relationship like that.
A few hours at best as silent treatment does nothing except for continue to break down trust and erode away the relationship leading to worse outcome than not talking. Take a few to collect your thoughts and to be calm enough to talk reasonably then be adults, talk it out and make up. If that’s not possible and the situation is that serious that you can’t talk it out and move on then it’s time to permanently walk away.
2 weeks. After that If we did speak it was only about the kids.