So I just need some advice. My kids dad and I separated in April and since then he had been trying to get me back until like 3 weeks ago all of a sudden now he’s talking to somebody else but now that I’ve realized everything about why it’s not working and what we need to do to change he’s shutting me out. I told him how I feel and I continue to do so and his main things were showing appreciation and that he’s respected and stuff like that. We were together 5 years and 3 kids later I’m not giving up. Idc what he says bc he tells me only time will tell if you want me back but then tells me nothing will change and it’ll only change for a month but it won’t cause now on my part I know what he’s wanting from me. What are some things I can do to show him appreciation and that he’s cared for and loved? I want to make this work but it’s hard getting through to him that I mean what I’m saying.
If he’s Ben trying to to get toy back and then moved on but now he’s moved on you want him back?
that’s what it sounds like to me anyway… me and M partner split for a year while I was pregnant then when I had given beith to our eldest, we was still speaking seeing each other and going on weekends away together with our baby even though we wasn’t together but we ended up back together and been back together for 7 years now and had another little one
Sounds like he wants to have his cake and eat it too. Why do you want someone that doesn’t really want you? You can do better and deserve better. Let him go.
Don’t chase him! You are worth so much more.
Is this what you wanna teach your kids? When someone treats them like shit in a relationship, they should still try to hang on and pursue that relationship? That’s really shitty behavior. 
So he was trying to get you back, until someone else shiny and new came along? If that is the case…cut your losses now and move on.
Girl. Hes playing you. Hes already gone and is stringing you along incase other women fall through …
Open your eyes and have some self worth. You and your kids deserve more
He kept you around till he found a new woman. Now he’s done with you. Move on.
Another words you didn’t want him untill someone else showed interest ?
So , he was trying to get back with you and you said NO , and now that he finally gave up and is moving on you want him ?
Hope he stays away from you and find someone who is mature enough to appreciate him
Hes talking to someone else…
If he was really about you…there would be NOONE but YOU.
Move on mama! You deserve so much better.
Show this man how happy you can be without him.
Not to be blunt but you were the one denying all his willingness to make the family work out until 3 weeks ago. He finally gave up and there’s a good chance he isn’t going to be back. You’re just jealous and bitter now cause he finally found someone else and it’s not you. It’s time to let go and just let him be there for his kids.
Stop wasting your time on this man.
Wait……so he tried you wouldn’t give in. Then he said screw it and moved on and now all of a sudden you’re “not giving up”. And realized you were wrong???
I hope he stays away and stays moved on. Please let this man move on and do not be this woman 
And for everyone saying “ohh he kept you around till he found someone new”. Please reread a few times about how he tried and she pushed him away. Do not reiterate her toxic behavior
Think about why you wanted away from him in the first place. Don’t fall for this again. If someone truly wants you he won’t be interested in others. This guy is totally playing you. Find someone you deserve to be with.
3 in 5 - you both didn’t think this through- he tried he thought it was worth saving - you didn’t- now you think it’s worth saving - he’s given up. All ya can do is try but don’t be to upset if it doesn’t work out. Trust n believe everything in life is for a reason. Life is to short, young one, and you have kids - be respectful, responsible, always considerate during this time. Your children’s future relationships will be built upon what they see, hear and feel about how you two treat each other.
this sounds like i don’t want him, but i also don’t want anyone else to have him. which is toxic. you both deserve to be happy, you’ll find someone new and feel all the happiness again, just try to be a good coparent, that’s how you can show appreciation. the feelings of jealousy and animosity need to be separated from him as a father.
U wasted his time with all that now he is completely done and moving on… u need to accept that and also move on…
You can’t change him. Just because YOU have the common sense to “figure it out” doesn’t mean he has any - chances are he doesn’t . He wants to go play w the gardens tools- let him go. Find a REAL man
A man talking about time- wants to extend his play time. Tell him goodbye- if you sss ain’t in this house e w me and your kids in three hours you can stay yo ssa gone for good . Get a lawyer and your child support . Men act stupid when they think you’re stupid
It sounds like you only want him because you now can’t have him. Leave the man alone. Let him be happy.
Most of y’all saying he playing her really need to reread what she wrote. The man has been trying to make things work she kept telling him no. So he takes the hint gives up on her. Moves on with his life or trying to now she wants him back. Sounds to me like she the one playing games. You didn’t want him he moved trying to be happy. Maybe you should move on too. You didn’t work the first time.
Sorry but he can’t wait forever for you to decide if you want him or not and anyone who thinks if he really wanted you he would wait are delusional. You’ve spent months dismissing his attempts to win you back which no doubt broke him. I think all while he was available you didn’t want him and now he’s moved on you’ve realised what you have lost. He tried for months and you didn’t want him, you now have to let him move on. If it was true love you would’ve wanted him before someone else came on the scene . Let him go it will be toxic if you got him back because once his single and free for you again these feelings will no doubt go again. This is a clear I don’t want him but I also don’t want anyone else to have him.
So he tried for 3 months and you kept rejecting him, now that he’s moving on, you want him? Why? Why not 3 months ago? Everyone saying you deserve better, I don’t think so. That man tried.
Nope. This requires professional counseling. Really. Do NOT even think of getting back together without therapy.
Just work on yourself for awhile and wait, he’s gonna be focused on that other person until it works out or fizzles out. You’ve gotta let him see what a relationship with someone else is like for awhile, as long as he’s not bringing her around the kids yet it’s fine. Just be a good coparent and try to keep it non personal, let him do his thing and if you still want to try again with him later maybe it will work out. It’s hard to step back but you should never chase someone, he does understand you want to try he’s just focused on someone new right now and doesn’t care.
Sounds like you both need to just move on. You clearly didn’t want him, you just wanted him pining after you, now that someone else has his attention, you suddenly want him back? That’s a little girls game. You’re a woman and a mother, don’t let your kids see you acting cold and then desperate over a man.
Are you sure you don’t want him now cause someone else has his attention … let him be. Cause you’ll probably push him away again if he was to try… no game playing. He’s moving on
Why didn’t you want him back before 3 weeks ago? You just want him now because he finally found someone else. You need to move on from him and find someone else as well
You weren’t willing to see what you needed to do for him all that time he was trying to get you back… but now that he’s with someone new you magically can see what you need to do ? Girl please. Let that man go.
you weren’t considering reconciliation until he found someone that wasn’t resisting him…
Gross. Put that love and determination into your kids. Not that shitty man. Time to grow up.
lol girl move on he’s playing u. U didn want him when he wants du and now it’s the opposite. Smh move on and let it be
If he’s got a new relationship, I don’t think now is the time.
Don’t beg for someone to want you.
You’re kidding right? Why would you consider taking a man Ho back . He isn’t going to keep it in his pants . Next time you let him in he could give you a STD . So what you have 3 kids with him . What goes on between you two affects your children . It’s not good for them
If ya that worried about getting back with jim why not when he was trying why only worry about it now hes stopped trying
So let me try to understand this, you didn’t want him back until someone else got on the picture ? That is how I’m taking it. You don’t want him but you don’t want anyone else to have him either?
He’s holding you off while he’s seeing someone else
To start stop playing games it’s not fair on him or the children,you didn’t want him till he found someone else,accept yous are not getting back together,accept you need to be both mature and be able to talk about the kids and put the kids first
Hun, he’s done by the sounds of it. People will only chase their loved one for so long before they emotionally shut off and move on. All you can do now is focus on great coparenting and friendship, do that without strings so the kids don’t suffer. Maybe one day he will feel like he can trust in you again or worst case is still a positive because you’ll be solid separately for the children.
Fuck him suck him and feed him. It’s not hard to keep a man 
He’s not coming back sweetheart. Please focus on you and move on
Move on. Never beg for a man’s attention. Focus on your kids and gaining some self confidence.
“Too little, too late” sometimes you have to value what you have before it’s gone.
Soooo he stopped chasing/trying and now you don’t know what to do with yourself because you always thought he’d be there to fall back too huh? Sometimes you don’t know what ya got til it’s gone so learn from it and move forward; don’t repeat mistakes.
So he chased you for 3 weeks you ignored him he finally moves on and you change your mind like a little kid playing with a toy that someone else has and now you want him back!??
You could do yourself a favor and move on. If there are that many games after 5 years; it wasn’t meant to be. Trust me, I know this one.
Give him up. Sometimes you’re a better person without a SO. Take this time to be you & find yourself. Let him do the same. If you’re meant to get back together you will. If you keep trying to force it you’ll push him further away.