Maybe try talking to the dad on switching a day or you can take them there after the photoshoot.
No show…if it’s okay the kids are missing from the pictures…it’s okay your all missing from their pictures. Simple
I would tell them you aren’t able to come
politely decline. Sounds like they’re playing games, but you’re above that since you love your children equally.
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I’d not be going and telling them that you have 3 children and not one. They probably made it difficult so it was just your son as I bet they don’t see your daughters as family as there not blood. I hope your partner is backing you on this and is mad about it too.
either see if your ex can change weekends or don’t go
So every year- I take all of my children (6) for christmas pictures. During this time I also take a picture of my children from a previous marriage and my daughter- and then his boys with my daughter. Both set of parents love the other children- but i also think it’s nice for them to have these special pictures. i include all pictures on the card- but i know my stepsons mother sends a picture of just her boys- which my mother in law also hangs - so i do like for her to have one with their sister included and for my mother the same.
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I would not go or take my child. A lot of people in here saying to ask dad to switch time, you shouldn’t have to! They purposely scheduled it when dad has time. They can be the ones who ask to reschedule! It’s not a family photo is the family isn’t included. They purposely didn’t include your children so why reschedule the time they have with their dad to please people who don’t care for them? I also think you should talk to your husband because you are his family now and it sounds like he is choosing his old family by allowing then to treat you and your children this way.
Since they didn’t bother speaking to y’all about the date, they probably don’t want y’all there anyway. You and your husband should take y’all own family picture with ALL of your kids and give it to them. Problem solved. 
If he agrees Pick up your girls for a couple of hours get the photo done take them back to their dad…if not and u feel wrong about it you sit out of the photo also but let your husband decide about himself and his son…don’t make spouse or boyfriends decision for him… that is is family let him choose freely don’t cause resentment towards u that can surface years from now
Just don’t let your group participate. Chances are that if you manage to get all of your children there, your older two won’t be included in all the pictures.
Tell them no thank you. You’re not going to exclude my children or pick favorites it’s all or nothing
Talk to your Ex and ask to have your girls for a couple of hours so they can participate in a family photo. Sometimes a person doesn’t need to complain or cause an uproar, you just need to find your own solution to the problem.
Your spouse needs to handle that. Tell him to let them know that your kids are not available that day and you have to reschedule when all the kids are available
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I wouldn’t go!
This was definitely done on purpose. ALL your kids are a package deal.
What does your husband say about this? I’m sure this isn’t the first time his family left out your other kids. Put a stop to this now. I’m sure they already realize they’re treated differently.
To have family pictures done without the whole family is just hurtful, it may be his stepfather’s family but to take pictures without him will make him feel like he’s not part of the family. There’s no amount of growing up or realizing that will ever make him feel differently.
And the amount of people that are saying it’s ok to not have him, I’d imagine they have never been around divorce or they have and just co-parented very recklessly without a regard to their child’s feelings.
I hope you’re able to stand your ground here because once they get comfortable excluding your son, it will be a regular occurrence.
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Ask Dad if the kids can come for the photos and if not then decline on the grounds your family can’t all make it.
Dont forget the kids down the block
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I would decline. All of us or none of us for something like that. My co parenting relationship is great and I can get my daughter when need be on his time and vise versa.
You are right
Do not do it
Good mama 
Take it from someone who grew up in a house that didn’t have any pics of me but all the other family members if your other Babies were to Ever see those photos it would break their heart
1 that’s awful they’re deliberately excluding them. 2 maybe see if you can switch weeks with your ex? If not I say not even you and hubby should participate
If you’re good with your ex ask for your daughters for a few hours. If not then don’t go. Do not take family pictures without your daughters there too
It makes me sad when I see posts like this. I cant believe that people still hold this type of attitude. There are so many blended families out there and when you fall in love with someone, you’re falling in love with all of them and that includes their children, their past traumas, etc. As families we should all be working together to heal. Things like this make matters so much worse. It’s important to let your husband know how this made you feel. He needs to speak with his family and let them know that your daughters are also his children and that he would like all of you to be in a family photo together. Change the date or none of you are going to be in it. As human beings if they can’t understand than they’re the problem. I’m so sorry that they hurt you.
I invited my step niece for pics with her kids… She was told a month in advance what day it was… She didn’t show up… Soo… Not mad about it… Jt dnt go… Have yr own pics done…
If you can’t get your girls for the picture I would let your husband and son go (if they are wanting to), but if I were you I would not be in the picture without your girls. As a mother of 3 I would not do any family picture without all my kids there.
Just don’t go 
if they don’t want your daughters in it then they don’t need your whole family in it
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You shouldn’t even be asking for advice on a situation like this! Any parent would say it’s all or nothing!!!
All children should be included it the photos or the photo shoot should be CANCELED 
I was going to suggest speaking with your ex and seeing if you could get the girls for a couple hours. But, when the SNL said JUST brings your son, I would tell her to kick rocks and none of my family would be in the “family” picture!
This was probably done intentionally in order to leave them out and further exclude you from the family. Talk to your ex and see if he minds if you bring them to have the photos taken. You can pick them up beforehand and drop them off right after. Or, maybe compromise with him and see if you can switch one day for a other. If I were in the situation, I wouldn’t go without ALL of my children.
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I would politely decline……
That’s so damaging to your other children. And absolutely disgusting that they would almost “plan”’it.
Stand up for your children, And let them know you are a FAMILY. And your other children are your sons siblings.
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Hell no
You get all of us or none of us…
We are a FAMILY
If you dont get that then you don’t get us !!
PUT YOUR FOOT SOWN FOR YOU KIDS MOM! STAND UP FOR YOU KIDS!
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Cant include all my kids then you wont get none of them. Nuff said.
I would decline their invitation. Family is all or nothing. They Don’t get that. And, yes, schedule your own photo shoot.
If your childrens father can’t switch days for you to take them with you guys then it wouldn’t be a chance in hell my other child was going…. They knew your children would be away and that’s why they booked it… try and get your kids even if it’s JUST for pictures or don’t go at all!
nope, if my girls are not going to be in the pictures then none of us will, we are a family packages take it or leave it, sorry
I would decline the whole thing and get my own family pictures taken. You shouldn’t have to ask your ex for the time to get your pictures done. If you do and he says yes, that’s great but I think I would still say no just because they told you to come without them and it sounds like they don’t like you much anyway…
Decline, whole family or nothing at all!
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Send your husband and son…stay home enjoy the quiet…who cares it’s a picture for husbands parents
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