Hi! What would you do if your kid got attacked and hair pulled by an able kid (non-verbal) while waiting in the hallway of the school? My daughter got wound on her right face but just a little bit, but she was afraid to return to school.
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I’d talk to the principal/school maybe they didn’t know your daughter got hurt. Are there cameras where she was maybe look at the video to see what happened. Regardless she needs you to be her advocate.
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I would explain to my child that there are people whose brains are not like ours, and it causes for them to not be able to control their actions or emotions.
There are a lot of great books out there you can read together to help with understanding and ease the anxiety and fear.
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go to school get them look at cameras and get the kids parents to come on deal with it and show ur daughter they will stand for her rights
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It is the school’s duty to do everything in their to prevent any physical harm to their students. This being said it is not the disabled child’s fault either is he is easily prone to attacking others he needs to be monitored at all times. This is not only to protect other children but the child as well. This child may attack a child that is larger and may fight back not realizing he doesn’t know better. This is a situation that needs to be addressed promptly. I would make sure the school is aware of the incident and would asked to be informed as to what corrective actions are being taken to protect both children.
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principal talk is a must !! I don’t care if its mother freaking Teresa that hurts my kid, they need to stay the hell away!! principal, teachers, other kids parents and this kis clearly needs an aid to keep him in check as he is violent. no. no. no. do not let this go !!! if you don’t speak up this will keep happening mama.
Part of the contract for"mainstreaming" disabled students usually covers self harm and harm to others, someone needs to confront that issue before the next incident happens in art class with scizzors
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I had this same situation with my son,as I understand the child involved aggression was unintentional I explained to my son just that, the district and Para of other child was very much responsible for allowing a circumstance like that to evolve… As parents we immediately go into Fight flight mode to protect our children But in a circumstance like that we have to understand that a child with special needs May not be able to control Their emotions I suggest that you reach out to the school district I also suggest That you speak to your daughter About children with special needs There are many books available in order to educate Both you and her To understand it further and make her more comfortable with returning to school
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When a disabled child kicked my daughter in stomach,I went to school and told them the aide needs to be responsible for watching him she had really bad stomach issues and just because he is disabled doesn’t mean they can let him get away with stuff… I have a special needs child and I don’t let her get away with hurting another child
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Talk to the school and have the event (not necessarily a punishment) addressed with other parents. My concern is if this kid doesn’t understand their own strength there could be some dire consequences to the physical outburst(s). It’s a serious concern.
I would also have the discussion with your daughter about the differences and or challenges that other kids may struggle with. This in no way means she should take a beating regardless of a child’s disabilities. But, she can learn to be patient and how to deal with situations in which she may feel scared. She may need some counseling to get past the trauma.
I’m sorry for all involved. This is a very unfortunate situation.
Speak to the principal. The child might be non verbal but you have no idea what provoked him. So find out what happened & go from there. No your child didn’t deserve to be attacked, but by getting answers it might help prevent it from happening again. The child obviously needs a para.
Go to the school and talk to the teacher and principal this is not acceptable
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That’s scary! We have pick up patrol at our school and it’s amazing! I’d call and set up a meeting!
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Set up a safety plan with the school and maybe look into a kid smart watch so you can track her. My younger two are runners and the school said a lot of people put air tags in their little ones shoes so they can find them
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That’s a massive safeguarding issue. Speak to whoever is in charge ASAP
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Call the principal n the transportation person that’s bs
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I’d definitely be looking for a new school, no way would I take her back there! You already know the answer, trust your motherly instincts!
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STRAIGHT to the school board! Especially sending a child on a bus with no parent waiting at the bus stop!? Absolutely not.
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This is in NO way acceptable on any level.
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Report the school for neglect to social services the same way they’d do to you if you put your kid on the wrong transportation or couldn’t find your kid for 20 min.
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I just want to say as a school employee… It is extremely chaotic the first week of school… Especially with kindergarten kids. This is new to her and I’m sure if you reach out to her teacher she will be more than happy to discuss your concerns. I don’t know how things go at your school but our school does stage dismissal… Pre-K and kindergarten go first, we have a waiting area where all classes meet and we split into bus riders and pickup… More than once I have put kids in the right line and they decided to go follow their friends… So yes ma’am it has taken us a few minutes to find out where they went. I hope you reach out to the teacher and be calm and find out your school’s dismissal protocol.
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You need to have a meeting with the principal asap. That would not be tolerated in any school district!!
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Hi! I taught in a school for a few years as a primary teacher and can give some insight into why this may of happened and to help navigate this. It was pretty common while I taught that kindergarten and primary students would often forget where they were supposed to be or would filter themselves into the wrong crowds. Often teachers make a list first thing to ensure students get where they are meant to go safely, however, building routine and teaching several young children at once what to do is extremely difficult and there are always a few drifters in the beginning of the year that take a moment to learn what they should be doing at the end of the day. I understand your concern, typically those doing bus duty range in grades and so they will not always be the adult that knows your child. This is one of the things that makes it difficult in the beginning of the year. I suggest discussing with your child’s educators to ensure your child has a name tag necklace or bracelet that is brightly colored to let them know immediately if a child is in the wrong line or goes to the wrong area during parent pickup. We did color-coded name tag necklaces for our primaries and used color-coded areas so the children had an easier time sorting themselves and adults could quickly identify who should be where. If this persists throughout the year I would be concerned though. I know how difficult it is for parents when their babies are beginning school and things like this happen. I highly suggest communicating with your child’s educators and working together, I have seen first hand that when parents and teachers work together it can really make a huge difference for everyone!
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Change schools obviously they are not a safe place for any child!
I’d be looking for a new school…and making formal complaints about all of that to the superintendent. And if they don’t do anything about it, take it to the media. I guarantee u they will change their ways once this gets out. Absolutely unacceptable. The police should have been called after 10 mins with a missing child. Where r their serious occurrence policies??? 10 minutes of a missing child is WAYYYYYY too long…not only that, I’d be concerned being one of the parents for the 2 random children they brought out to a stranger! What’s to stop them from sending a child home with the wrong person? Or some creep that’s trying to nab a child. Omg this is so completely wrong and very scary.
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As a mom to a child who just started kindergarten too . Absolutely not acceptable we trust that our kids are safe and watched over I would not feel comfortable sending my child back there
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Scary but honest. First week is rough.
Call the school board first
Contact principal and teacher, also bus garage
I’m discouraged by the amount of people who want to persecute the teachers and staff. This is the #1 hardship for teachers: parents who are intolerant and unappreciative. Please be kind when you speak to your daughter’s teacher. As others have said, the first week of school is hectic. Give grace. I’m sure it was scary that they couldn’t locate your child, but she was not in imminent danger. Your child may have not followed directions, and the teachers and staff are doing their best to keep SO MANY students organized, while everyone settles into this year’s routine. Give grace.
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Throw a big fit with teacher principal and all the way up
Teachers in here defending these incidents are nuts!
Go to the principal and tell her what happened. Maybe they don’t even know. Obviously the line of communication is broken.
I would pull her from that school 🫨
Maybe instead of posting, go to her school! Misplacing a child is unacceptable.
I would be meeting with the principal and the superintendent immediately and probably not letting my child back at school until it was addressed. This is unacceptable . And anyone excusing this behavior would be the first one to bash a parent if they lost their child for 20 minutes and something happened to them. Children have been abducted in less time. Would yall make excuses then if this child went missing?
No. Just because something bad didn’t happen THIS time doesn’t make it excusable. You don’t wait until something bad does happen. Safety is about prevention not reaction .
My kids school has the kids wear a name tag with their name and name of the teacher at this age, actually pre-k thru 2nd grade to avoid this happening. This is absolutely NOT ok, I would find a new school asap. If it happened once and wasn’t so traumatic I’d say give them another try but this happened twice!! Plus she was on a school bus?! Scary
When my oldest started public school, the first 3 years, we would fill out all transportation paperwork and everything at open house, & we always put her down as a bus rider, but for some reason, they would ask my 5,6,7 year old daughter if she was bus rider or a car rider, & because she WANTED me to pick her up from school, she would say car rider, so they would put her in the car rider line & then call me, because they thought I was forgetting to pick up my child. I had to explain to my daughter every year that she had to be a bus rider & why, because I had to work, so she was supposed to ride the bus home to papa’s house. Like, why do they even have parents fill out paperwork if they’re just gonna do whatever a 5,6,7 year old child tells them???
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You call the cops & an attorney and file for neglect of a minor - and anything else you can to get their @$$es in line.
They KNOW better.
Yes it’s scary. Thankfully she is ok. As a mom of 4 there have been moments I have had a curious child run off somewhere else. So I could only imagine with there is a whole lot more little ones.
The first week of school is usually chaotic. Especially for kindergarteners. They don’t know the teachers yet and the teachers don’t know them. Sounds like the school needs to deploy a better system for dismissal. Our school has bus tags on backpacks for bus riders. Stickers for car riders. Younger grades get picked up in the front and upper elementary gets picked up in the back. I understand where your fear and concern comes from but I truly think you should go talk to the office. Go to a PTO and school board meeting to offer ideas for new plans. Volunteer to help with dismissal if you are able. What a lot of people seem to forget is teachers are still people. They still need a system to keep things running smoothly. The title teacher doesn’t make them perfect or immune to human error. Be proactive and help with the situation instead of just being angry.
My grandchildren’s school has the students come out and stand with the teachers until the parents come and get them. They aren’t allowed to wander. I would raise hell.
That is scary, in all honesty I’d call children’s services on them because they can’t keep track of or properly supervise the kids.
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My youngest is in 4th grade now… but when she was in kindergarten, she went to go in from the playground to use the restroom… when she was done, she took a wrong turn and instead of going out the doors leading to the playground, she went out the doors to the front of school/parking lot. The doors automatically lock, and she wasn’t tall enough to push the button to request entry. She was out front of the school for over a half hour. I informed them if it happened again, they’d hear from my lawyer.
This happened to me as a kid and it was terrifying.So definitely go be mom bear at that school…
I utilize a smartwatch on my son So that will literally never happen to him because I can call him and be like. Hey, i’m in the office.
We also went this route. Because my son is much older now.But when I was working, I didn’t always beat the school bus home and would sometimes be home ten minutes before him or fifteen minutes after him depending on traffic and so we had the smartwatch so we can keep in touch and I could track his.
A school should nowhere your child is at all times!
Your daughter needs to be taught to follow teachers instructions. They didn’t lose her. She wasn’t where she was supposed to be.
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I think you schedule a sit down with the principal and ask him/her what they are going to do about it. Clearly they have a systems failure and need to respond with an action plan.
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Go to the administration office and sign a grievance! That’s flat out dangerous!
Definitely find a new school
This is one of many reasons I do not believe public schools are the best thing for our children. The system is broken and definitely do not put kids first.
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My grandson wore a watch that was programed with information so his parents could tract his whereabout at all times.
Join the PTA. It’s all part of it.
Honestly , I have a hard time believing they brought you the wrong kid 3 times, unless they had exactly the same name. , I have had a child accidentally put on wrong bus to go to sitter instead of home , sometimes 5 year olds do get confused and followed the wrong group, maybe there were other kids on the soccer field , I think your blowing this out of proportion , trying to make a mountain out of a mole hill.lll why not just discuss it with the proper people , instead of putting in on here, such as ,teacher principles and other school staff. Could you keep 20 littles going in right direction all the time
You’d be surprised how often this happens. You can switch schools but you may end up with a similar experience. I’d talk to your child about where she should go/be. I’m not sure why she’d be on the soccer field unless she wandered off there? Sometimes kids do, and it’s scary af but too many kids and not enough staff.
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Yeah my older kiddo just started kindergarten they did half days this week and full day today so he gets out with older kids I’m a little concerned how today pick up gonna go. I’m still gonna walk up n grab him then maybe try car line next week.
Call the police. Let them advise you and the school how to handle this. Hope this helps…
That shows a lot right there. Especially 2 situations in the first week. I would definitely be looking into transferring to another school
a few weeks at my sons school the substitute, took my 1st grader out of the bus line to stand at parent pick up. My son was crying when he knew I was at the bus stop waiting for him. I cried and panicked finding him at the school no call - my son was scared. So was I -
I immediately talked with the receptionist who had excuses for not calling me. The principal didnt call me back - & My son depends on the adults to make decisions for him! He cant think outside the box for his safety. So I emailed to have record since they are quick when our kids or late or tardy all he had to say was accidents occur. I warned them I almost did a missing child report on them for this. But I emailed everyone from the school - teacher, principal and receptionist and the superintendent! And I reminded them that they needed to be more responsible for my son. The school has public contact or request it and we use a app to communicate for our school. U can call the admin office of schools to insure they are reminded to keep our kids safe.
New school asap! Also, contact the superintendent and let him know what happened and you’re leaving the school
My dad went to pick up my son from school last year. (Preschool in an elementary school bldg) they ask him multiple times are you sure he’s here? Omg. Finally they bring him out and said that when they called out and asked for Alexander Lewis, he said his name was Alexander Hamilton. 
In kindergarten?! I get the bus mistake. Even tho it shouldn’t, i can see that happening. But not being able to find her??? And bringing out the wrong kid twice?! That concerns me. Honestly, what id prob do is Keep her there. But at the same time start looking for other options. Also try talking to parents whos had kids go there and ask about their experience. Come up with ur plan B so if something happens again u can pull her. Either way. Go with ur gut. I always say when it comes to my kids, I’d rather be overly cautious than sorry. Esp when they are that young. As they get older u have to let them make choices and learn but when they haven’t been old enough to have common sense yet and depend on u for everything, u just can’t be too careful. Also, u can buy a gps thing that hangs on her pants or around her wrist so u always know where she is. That way if they can’t find her again, u at least know shes somewhere in the school
All those things aren’t okay
I’d report the school for negligence. What if your child had gotten hurt? What will happen the next time they lose her or another kid?
Make a formal complaint to the principal and the superintendent…you might also want to bring it to the attention of the school board …
Perhaps you could volunteer at the school to make sure the kids in your charge get to where they are supposed to be so that this doesn’t happen to someone else.
I’ve been a parent of multiple kids for 15 years. I’ve dealt with 3 daycares/kindys and 5 schools in total and nothing like that has ever happened to me. I’d 100% move her!
You can make a complaint to the school board about it, they will investigate the situation.
Okay this sounds like an extremely inattentive school. The first day I could ALMOST forgive except you put a child on a bus without a second thought and then “misplaced her” the next like she was piece of paper? I would report this change her school
That is absolutely ridiculous! My son started kindergarten a couple weeks ago , they make kindergarten students where a name tag with their teachers name on it for the first couple weeks of school . Filling out the information to start them into school they ask if they’re riding the bus or not, you meet the bus driver , AND when you go to their class for openhouse the teacher also has a paper to fill out stating what bus number . It is ridiculous how not prepared your school seems to be.
I’m sorry but the amount of complaints I’ve seen about kindergarten already this yr is astounding… my child is in kindergarten and have noticed she hasn’t eaten lunch in 3 days and now her lunch box is missing … I swear these schools give a 
less and less about these little kids … they are pretty much begging for kids to be homeschooled cuz the teachers they are hiring are complete …some of these comments blaming the child and parent are sick and scary
It happens. Kids haven’t been given their tags yet, and the sticker they give them, they tear them up and just run around trying to socialize. My own son was without a sticker and running around at the end of school, teachers were looking for him. Thankfully I have 2 older kids in the same school that promptly found him because they knew exactly who to look for. It’s not a gigantic deal, calm down. Happy your child at least was in school grounds rather than be out on a random bus and end up who knows where by itself.
The only way my dad was aloud to pick up the kids is sign a paper proving your a relative that worked the paper went to the police station my dad & parents had the names on it too for their proction
This happened to my son- he followed his friends on the bus to the daycare he used to go to. Trust me my husband and I were livid but honestly there wasn’t anything we could have done.
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Join the PTA. Advocate for your child. No one will but you.
You need to talk to the principal and If that doesn’t help go to the school board
Scary however talk to the principle first
I would probably contact the district and possibly cps. Someone hirer up if going to have to check that school! There’s no reason for the nonsense!
Set a meeting up with the principal
I would be changing schools
I’d be up at that school finding out what the hell is going on! That’s pure CRAZINESS! There are too many way to organize dismissal, so that this type thing doesn’t happen! At my kids school the kids get out of class according to how they get home. In the younger grades the zip tie a plastic decal showing how they get home. If they’re a bus rider it’s a bus & the bus number is on the decal. If they’re a car rider, the decal is a car & the parents have a car shaped decal to put in their front window with the kids name, grade, & teacher name. The teachers make sure the kids go when & where they’re supposed to
Oh I am so glad I am Gigi now . This would have me highly upset! Not a great way to start the year .
she’d be removed from the school and the school a d everyone in charge of her hair would be reported one by one
It’s normal that they are disorganized at first , but they should be more careful and organize soon
Go and speak to the principal
And tell him what you just told us
Pick her up at the door of her class.
Go to the school board about this. File a complaint.
This would not happen in my school district. And, if it did there would be some people fired
Go speak to the dean or superintendent. Just happened to my son too. Put him on the wrong bus…sent him 45 min away to an after school program. Wasnt until a worker there saw his name tag and had to call the school to come back to get him. He then had to ride by himself that whole way. They finally got him to where he needed to be 2 hours later and no one called me. His real daycare had to tell me
Anything could have happened to my son so I walked in without making an appt and I specifically asked to talk to dean/principal/super and needed to know their protocols. Raise hell if u need to! Trust me, they will remember u from there on our and make sure that baby is exactly where she needs to be.
Also… I got a luggage name tag and placed it on his book bag stating his name…teacher…and labeled his daycare name … you can put
NAME
TEACHER
CAR RIDER
YOUR CELL
Our school assigns each family a number the minute the kids are pickup. That number follows the kid/family until the last child is our of the elementary school. All car riders go to the gym, which has a side door that they release kids for.
- the number must be displayed. Passenger side dash.
- 1 staff member outside radioing the number in.
- another staff at the door, calling kids names and they go outside.
- another staff ensuring kids get loaded into cars.
People… especially those saying it’s no biggie, this falls in conflict with the guidelines and RULES these people are held to! WAKE UP!
It’s always an innocent blunder until it isn’t and a beautiful little child winds up seriously injured, abducted or even worse, dead.
Yes, little kids are hard to manage when theres dozens of them free ranging between rooms and wondering exploring their environment which is abundant in new and exciting activities to do and even more appealing, without mum or dad controlling the scene, yes it is easy for a little one to slip through OUR efforts to keep track of and wind up outside or playing in the toilet water, but that is precisely why educators and care facilities have very detailed and specific guidelines for how they are to care and supervise OUR babies! The fact that your child was m.i.a, and for over 20 minutes mind you so that tells you that all staff were asked if they knew her whereabouts to which they did NOT, so you can see that all of these guidelines and LAWS were disregarded! Set your bar higher…please I’m begging you to take this as a green light to be “that mum”, be as extra, fussy, demanding, non negotiable as you please! There’s no do overs in this life and our kids safety is not the area where we ought to allow ourselves to be timid…too cheap…or more worried about coming across as…whatever…and we should absolutely be intentional with our actions always keeping in mind that we are our kids safety, we are the gate keeper and the voice.
This person’s child was not even noticed as missing, they didn’t even remember they existed let alone that they weren’t where they were supposed to be… for god knows how long, remember the mother said she waited half an hour for them to search the grounds and find this child, that terrifies me. And more so this was not an isolated incident! This was the second or third safety issue - IN THE SPAN OF A WEEK!-
whose to say the child wasn’t off on their own for 4 hours?
Whose to say each and every person that works in that facility is not a predator!
Just the other day I was reading that the courts had finally finished the case on Australia’s worst paedophile…he was caught living about 10 minutes away from me…
Wanna take a guess where he worked and what he did for a living??..
care to guess how he got access to these poor children?
This man committed literally THOUSANDS of despicable and soul destroying acts on little children he was entrusted with. He got away with it for years, a lot of years, he even recorded it and shared his vile videos on the web… again I’ll remind you that he was a trusted and well liked carer of children for decades.
Now do you think this woman’s concern is worth ignoring?
You never ever tell a person to ignore their primal gut instincts. Ever.
I say equip her or her backpack with an AirTag…. School may not know where she is but you will!