Let the kids know each other x
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The kids did nothing wrong and growing up without having a relationship with one of their siblings will only cause resentment when they are older.
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Stay in touch for the kids. They deserves to know each other.
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Ahhhmmm Have you gone to the police??
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ummmmā¦ well donāt keep the kids away from their father. Just because they donāt want to talk to him now, doesnāt mean itāll be that way forever.
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If that is her only motive then I think siblings deserve to get to know each other!
Let them know their siblings, so they donāt meet on personal terms in the future. Just set boundaries.
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Iād allow them to be siblings, they have nothing to do with the situation.
Sheās still a child technically. Sheās just as much a victim here as you. And especially if domestic is involved she could really use someone I bet. Build a relationship with her so the kids can get a chance to have theirs.
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I would be VERY careful with all of this.
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The siblings need a relationship with one another. Put your issues with her aside, and let the children be a part of each otherās lives.
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The kids should visit their father as often as the prison permits. I think it is a good idea for your children to keep in contact with their half sibling. They may choose later in life to NOT stay in contact, but for now they should have the opportunity to know their family.
Wow. Umm everyone is commenting on the fact that sheās 17, and the father bla blaaa. But u didnāt ask that, you asked about her keeping in touch with you for the childrenās sake. And frankly yea. Let these siblings know each other. The children are not at fault for whatever mess the father created.
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So you called and had him arrested correct?
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First off, I really hope you called the cops on himā¦ secondly that baby is still going to be your childrenās sibling and they deserve to know/have a relationship with that baby
Pretty sure thatās statutory rape of a minor 
I think I would allow them to stay in contact with their sibling. But wow on your exās part,smh
Nah manā¦ what about your kids who are already born? Going through the trauma of divorce. Do they know Dad got a 17 yr old pregnant? If it were me, I wouldnāt want them to know. Imo They should NOT know that. Not while they are kids and still developing. It could seriously negatively affect THEM and their development . As their Mom -I believe your first responsibility is to protect YOUR children above all else. So the girl and her unborn child donāt get consideration here.
It is the responsibility of your husband and the gf to look out for the welfare of her child, but not at the expense of whatās best for yours.
When the kids are older or adults fine. Tell them. Itās still gonna suck, but they will be in a better place and age to cope.
The children are innocent. They deserve the chance to know each other.
The baby did nothing wrong. Itās not their fault the dads an idiot. Let the babies know each other its their sibling.
Of course you should stay in touch so the kids can know eachother. I would also be going to the police too.
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Yallā¦ first of all there is not enough information here as far as the age goesā¦ How old is this guy?? If he is only like 20 or 21 this is NOT crime like damn!!! I was 17 when I got pregnant with my daughter when I was 16 just turning 17 and her dad was 20. Now if he is like 30 or something then yea thats kinda weird. Secondā¦ now like dv shit is not okay. I would stay away from him for now but let the kids have a relationship.
I would want to know my siblings!
Take him to court i would be careful
Iām friends with all my sons siblings mothers, and thereās multiple.
my son knows who his siblings are! But, I was the young one. I was 16 and he was 24. 
I say do it! They are siblings.
Iād let them stay in contact. None of the kids are at fault for anything. Donāt punish them bc dear old dad thinks w the wrong head
This is really hard. My partner and I split for a while when I was 23 and he began seeing a āvery well knownā local girl.
We never saw eye to eye but she fell pregnant. I didnāt find this out until 4/5 months into her pregnancy and by this time my partner and I were back together and there was some speculation as to if my partner was even the dad due to her promiscuous ways.
We had our child 2 years after the baby was born and when the girls were 3 and 5 she contacted me and we began a relationship between them. Itās been turbulent and hard and honestly sometimes I feel like the effort isnāt worth the pain but I much preferred to be the person who kept this going or let my child know about her sibling than a stranger one day.
We have had contact with his daughter many times but even now the mum continues to be a problem and the relationship is very sometimeish!
Itās so hard because you love that little person because they didnāt ask to be born and you love them because they are family irregardless of who their mum is.
Yes let the kids see the baby but not him thatās pedo shit
First definitely call the cops on him sheās under age smh ā¦. Second i would have a conversation with her first then let the kids go on play dates the kids donāt have anything to do with it ā¦. Wish you the best of luck
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How friendly is she to you and the kids? Just curious.
Itās not the babyās fault. I would want all the siblings to have a relationship if at all possible.
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Girl thatās up to you, if you cannot handle being in her presence I donāt think u should be forced to put yourself through that but if you can stomach it then do it for the kids momma.
I think you should let your child/ren form a bond with their sibling. Itās not the babyās fault they exist. But on a real note, turn the pedo in.
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I would allow them to be in contact with their sibling. Itās not the childās fault that their bio dad is a POS.
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I would let the siblings have a relationship. Itās not their fault their dad made questionable choices. But the kids deserve to know eachother. I think itās actually mature of the 17 yo to want that for the kids as well.
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I know it will be hard and trust me I cannot stand my daughterās dad but I would not change anything in the world for her to know her siblings.
First off eww. And second stay in contact. Get to know her. But also set up boundaries and rules, such as no talking to the kids about dear old dad. If she gets back with him then contact is off etc.
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You guys have the opportunity to be wonderful co-parents. Include her and their siblings in some fun activities. Show them that there is enough love to include all of their family. It will benefit all of the children.
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Drop her and the father the kids will be better off inthe long runā¦
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My ex cheated on me and got the other girl pregnant. I hated her for a long time but we get along now and Iām happy that the kids can know each other if they choose.
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Let your children know their new sibling and the mother to be might just really need you because no one else can understand your ex other than you . I know it wonāt be easy but be a guiding star 
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Wtf , Iād be keeping them away from him . But take this poor girl under Ur wing the man is clearly a monster she herself is still a child the kids sibling is jst as innocent
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I honestly think itās pretty mature of her to want her child to have a relationship with their siblings. Considering that sheās still only a child herself. All of the children involved in this situation are here, or will be here, because you both had relations with him. At one point, you saw something in him that attracted you to him. Apparently she did too. Aside from the fact that sheās still a child, she may not necessarily be that different from you. I say give all of these children the chance to get to know each other. You never know, the two of you may end up being a great support system to each other. Your issue shouldnāt be with her, or her child, but with the guy that you both decided to procreate with.
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My dad (24 years ago) got a younger girl pregnant. She was either 2 or 3 years older than me. They were married soon after finding out she was pregnant. Since they have been divorced, but I still have a great relationship with my brotherās mom and either him as well.
17 yr old? there is a bigger issue hereā¦how old is he
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not the babies fault
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I would call the cops
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If sheās the one coming to you then let her kid see her kids siblings. If I was in your position I would be more then happy to, maybe one day have your kids spend a night over or have her come over for a night with her kid and you and her have a night together and chat. Maybe yāall can talk about their baby daddy and find something to bond over.
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Iād let the kids get to know each other, but thatās just me and because Iād personally want them to know their siblings. As far as them not seeing their father I agree with that. Heās a predator and isnāt safe to obviously be around especially if heās know for dv anyways
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Honestly, that poor girl was taken advantage of by your ex. At that ripe age, we are quite volunerable still. I would absolutely take her under my wing, befriend her and support her in this journey.
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Your children shouldnāt suffer because of their fathers bad decisions and neither should her child. Be as mature as she is being about the situation
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How old is he?! Pretty sure under 18 is classified as rape, no matter how āconsentualā anyone wants to say it is
Let them know their siblings.
Donāt be petty and not let the kids see their siblings.
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Unfortunately, youāre between a rock & a hard place. I would stay in contact with the poor girlā¦ she may not be blameless, but the child is. You do have alimony AND Child Support?? BUTā¦ what do YOU want ?? I would befriend her, she needs all the help she can get. Show her how to file for Child Support too.
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Let the kids see their sibling. Donāt punish them for his stupidity
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Sheās still so young and was manipulated by him. Let her kid know your kids. Itās not the kids fault but itās their blood
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Support her. Let them know that baby.
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The kids deserve to know their siblings. Iām friends with the other baby mamas that my two childrens fathers have so they can know their brothers and sisters.
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Man I tell you my ex husband moved an 18 yr old in are kids still see him. But not no more because he provides more for her then them
So a 17 year old can see the right choice in this situation and is trying to make sure the kids have family. And you a GROWN woman is on the fence because of what? Because your feelings are hurt?
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How old are your children? Are they old enough to make their own decisions? It is up to you bottom line. Say no if you arenāt comfortable.
I would let them see the baby. Not any of the kids fault, they should know eachother
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I would if heās not in the picture.
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I would let them know they have a sibling and when she(17yo)matures and they get older let the child come visit and maybe holidays and birthdays
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Sheās a victim. At 17 thatās still a child, mentally and legally. Let them see their sibling, donāt punish her and the kids for his mistake.
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I 100% wouldnāt blame her or the children for any of this, so Iād definitely let them have a relationship.
Aside from that, Iād also make sure that young woman is in a good place and is taken care of. Sheās a minor that was taken advantage of (idc what you say 17 is still a minor, and if you argue w me about this, take your pedi self somewhere else), and thatās not her fault in any way. (Esp since obvious domestic abuse was involved).
I donāt understand how someone can be more upset about the cheating than the obvious huge problem here?!
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Sheās 17. He used her. Unfortunately when we are adults we have to make hard choices. She needs you. Even if you or she donāt want to admit it.
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My daughters dad has 5 children from 4 different womenā¦ the only thing keeping any of them apart is the distance between all of us. But we(the mothers) keep in contact we have each other on fb the kids know about each other and are always welcome to talk to each other and see each other when able to but living over 4 hours apart makes that hard. I mean thereās reasons for hard feelings between all of us honestly but none of us have any and we just do what we can for the kiddos itās not about us and definitely isnāt a reason to punish kids that did nothing wrong and had no choice in the situation
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Dont punish the kids for your husbandās stupidity let them know their sibling(s)
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Swallow ur pride, she was a stupid kid and he took advantage, look on the bright side, u have a sitter lol let the kids no there family, she will move completely on and have a family of her own with someone who deserves her and so will u, the bigger the circle the more love
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17 years old your talking court and possible jail as in actual jail; he should of waited until she was legal age to at least sit or dance in a club without a parent present in the United States.
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Ideal circumstances or not, I would encourage your children to get to know their sibling. Their sibling didnt ask for any of this any more than they did. Be the bigger person.
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Report him to law , and let kids see her child if everything works out.
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Iām in Australia and the consensual age is 16 for girls & 18 for boys so itās not illegal ā¦ in any case, I would see how the kids feel (age dependent of course) and go from there. I would be concerned though that she may still have contact with dad and this is his way of getting to your kids. Do you trust her? At the end of the day itās your kids half sibling so they do have a right to know them and have a relationship. Tread carefully but I think it will be good.
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I hope he is in jail - that is statutory rape in most states. I would wait awhile for deciding about your children getting to know her child. Get DNA test - make sure it is your exās child.
Iām the type of person who would actually try to support her. Itās great what she wants to do!
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Whatās DV? And let the kids have a relationship. Try and make the best out of a shitty situation
l get paid over $135 per hour working from home. l never thought Iād be able to do it but my buddy makes over $16347 a month doing this and she convinced me to try. The possibility with this is endless.
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Good on her for being brave and strong enough to leave. If it were me, Iād allow them to know each other. Itās not the kids fault that their dad is trash. Allowing the siblings to have a relationship will reflect well on you.
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Remember, at 17. Sheās still a kid. Donāt dismiss it. Get to know her. Sheās a lot more mature at 17 for saying that then some moms in their 30ās.
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Tell her to GO TO HELL! NO WAYshould she have any say about what your kids
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First of all, he needs to rot in hell. Secondly, yes I would allow my kids to know their sibling.
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He groomed her, and she got abused by him. I get your hesitation, but I would allow them to know their sibling. Itās not her fault heās a pedo
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Let the siblings have contact. Donāt penalize the children for his mistakes. Iām glad sheās being an adult about this. Bravo to her.
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Thatās grossā¦its not that girlās fault. Sheās young, being groomed and gaslighted and abused. Heās the problem. Not not her. Let the kids get to know each other and be siblings.
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Sheās literally a victim, in every way in this situation. 17 is legal in my state but itās still nasty and not to mention the DV? Iād definitely keep in touch with her to make sure the child is good and maybe you two can have some sort of relationship unless there is some stuff missing between you two on this post. I donāt see a negative to it unless sheās still gunna mess with him. But sheās a child.
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Be the better person and set up some sort of visits throughout your life so those kids know their sibling. Itās not their fault
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Itās about the kids. Even without their dad and their life itās important that they know their siblings. Especially if her kid doesnāt have any other siblings it would be good for her to find comfort in them. Your kids could help him/her deal with things when theyāre older because only they will understand what itās like to have him as an absent father.
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At least try for the kiddos and then go from there 
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Donāt punish the children bc of the actions of thier father. Let then have a relationship with the sibling if they want to. If they are old enough to choose to have a relationship with that sibling then ask them. It doesnāt mean you and the other mom have to be best friends, set boundaries with her of what you expect and what you donāt want the children to know of her relationship with the father. Donāt make a decision your children may look back later on and have bad feelings towards you bc you withheld a relationship with a sibling from them just bc you donāt like how that sibling became to be.
Thereās no reason that the children should not know each other. You and the other girl donāt have to become best buddies or anything unless it happens naturally, but being civil will be a good thing for sure. I think the kids will appreciate your efforts.
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Kids Should never be put in the middle of adult situations they should get the chance to have their other siblings in their life. If it was me i would allow it to happen but if the other woman creates problems (meaning she is young and might not handle it as a woman should) do not allow this to disrupt your peace and it becomes a problem in your life then thats not fair to you so dont let that happen.
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Umm excuse yāall my friend was a 16 year old mom and she did awesome. 
Also as a former child that was kept from my brother: what the hell is there to be on the fence about? These kids are family now like it or not. That girl is young and needs another mom to help her figure out how to be a mom. Help keep your family stay together thatās what you do. I donāt give a damn if you like it or not yāall are family now through the kids. Thatās just how it is. There is no fence, and the only side you should be on is the kids. This isnāt about the adults whatsoever. Not even a little bit.
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They are siblings; one of the best blessings in life. Make the effort.
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Itās not her fault, sheās doing what she thinks is best , NOW - sheās 17, Iām sure weāve all done dumb crap at that age
My partner and I have been together 10 years, his exs girls (not his kids) come over all the time too spend time with their sisters (his kids) - our son loves having the extra friends to hang with and we love having the girls all spend time together - itās about family, nothing more, nothing less
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l get paid over $135 per hour working from home. l never thought Iād be able to do it but my buddy makes over $12792 a month doing this and she convinced me to try. The possibility with this is endless.
Details HEREā¦ https://homej0bonlinework24.neocities.org/
If it was me and he was definitely out of her life then I would support her. She was most likely naive and has been through DV. I think itās incredibly mature for her to want to support all the children having a sibling bond still.
Also imagine your children learning about another sibling later in life that you denied them ever knowing, could cause issues between you and them later.
Donāt do it for the woman do it for the children.
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I would do what you feel comfortable withā”
As long as it doesnāt hurt you every time you see her. But definitely let the kids be together whenever possible
Be kind to her but you donāt have to be around her.
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