i have a custody hearing in the 28th, what should i expect i’ve never been served for anything. baby daddy served me and wants my son physical and legally. does the judge talk to us at the same time? are we in separate rooms? i’m nervous as the days get closer and high key stressing about everything.
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I know nothing about those hearings but I wouldn’t strongly suggest an attorney. Attorney can advise you and possibly get a delay to give you time for documentation, etc.
You should at least see a lawyer.
Then, you should be Googling state custody laws. You should understand how your state runs.
But, 100%, see a lawyer.
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Get a lawyer!! I can’t stress that enough. If you have a lawyer & he doesn’t you have a huge advantage. If you both have lawyers you’re equal, depending on the lawyers of course.
Agree with getting a lawyer. And not much will happen the 1st day. Will probably set another date and might set up visitation
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Get an attorney, like yesterday. They will help guide you through everything and what you should expect.
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Get a lawyer, but it’s his son too. Go in there telling a judge “my son, my kid” and it won’t look good
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If you can’t afford a lawyer request a continuance and ask they provide a lawyer for the child to make decisions.
On another note it’s gna be both you in the room he’s going to ask if you agree with the filing party you’ll say no I don’t and they will schedule you for mediation. If there are allegations of abuse in the order simply say you disagree with the allegations and if there is a current visit schedule you can say you’d like to keep the current visit schedule for your child’s benefit until a agreement can be made. Go in emotionless go in confident even if u gotta fake that and go in being zero conflict and all about making sure we stay consistent for your son’s sake. Family court only cares about the facts and what is best for the child. If u go in crying and telling the judge no he’s wrong he’s this he’s that and make it about how much you disagree with the other parent the judge will not make the decision you wanna hear.
If you don’t have an attorney get one NOW. You should have resources in your area for income based legal representation. As to what’s going to happen at your first hearing? If you weren’t married to the father, Paternity will have to be established first., so the judge will order a Paternity test or the dad can sign an affidavit saying he’s the father. Not much else will probably happen until you retain legal representation.
Yes, lawyer, up. But if you cant right away, its okay. These things take lots of time…sadly.
Go to court. Be quiet. Listen to the judge only!!! Do not be baited by the ex. When it’s your turn to speak, only speak about what is directly asked. Short truthful answers with no emotion will serve you best.
In the meantime, focus on your health and well being. It will do more for you and your child than you will ever realize. Hugs.
Rarely do they take the babies from their mothers. You have to be doing or not doing something pretty drastic