What should I have done in this situation?

Not have taken him in. Called a cab and sent him to his home.

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He’s an addict sounds like they blame everyone but themselves.

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Tell your husband to disown him,i would not put up with that he is a spoilt bratt who has not grown up.

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I would have called the cops… I don’t deal with that messy shit in my house and I sure as hell would never let him back. He needs help and that’s not good to be around. Your hubby needs to get rid of him for good.

You need a new circle of friends. If they all see you as the bad guy, replace them. And don’t let that food near your home again.

I would have called his wife mom or someone or a taxi. If that didn’t work then the police

He wouldn’t have been alive long in my home.

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U did nothing wrong but try to help him from what it sounds like

I would have done exactly what you did. And then I’d learn from it. One time thing…no big deal. If he’s an alcoholic, I’d cut ties. Don’t invite this into your life.

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I would have called the law!!!

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I would have called the police.

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Wow this guy drove his car while being drunk…I seriously hope no one was hurt/killed by him? You should of called the police, sorry but if this was me, that’s what I would of done, most car accidents happen because of drink driving (also drugs).
Hope you’re ok now tho?

You did the right thing only after he got a little sketchy I would have called the cops to get rid of him. Friend or not that is not ok

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Who cares what he says

u did the right thing but as soon as he got hateful and disrespectful to you n threatened you id have called cops

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Why didn’t you and your hubby drive him home when he first showed up you could have followed in your car and brought hubby home hide the car keys somewhere in his house where you could tell him after he sobered up

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The only other thing I would have done was be sure to take his keys. I also have zero tolerance for aggressive drunks so at that point one of 3 things would hve happened - his mom
Would hve been called to come get him, we would have driven him to his house and kept his keys my last resort would have been the law.

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If he was as unreasonable as you say and abusive to you and your husband and just a total drunk don’t worry what people say they probably already know how he is!!

Leave the circle of “people”. They aren’t friends.

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No you weren’t wrong he disrespected you in your home. You done what was so right I would have done the same it shows you are a caring person not to let hubby’s friend not drive…I would get rid of him he sounds no good get husband to let him know not to socialize with you anymore…or him…

Tell your circle of friends what really happened. If they side with the absuvie drunk then they aren’t friends you need and I would cut them out of my life. I would also not help that guy out again. If he shows up at your house call someone to immediately come get him. If no one can I would call the cops. He can have 24 hrs in the drunk tank to think about his behavior

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You can’t sober someone up with food or coffee.

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Drive him home or to a hospital ER and leave him. You’re not responsible for an adult male.

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I honestly would have called paramedics to take him to a hospital if he was that bad, it’s not your responsibility to take care of him and it’s common for people to get aggressive when intoxicated.

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Too bad you didn’t take photos of the mess he made and liquor he drank. Fuck what they say, he came over uninvited at 1am drunker than shit. You accommodated, he was aggressive and ungrateful. That’s his problem

I would of called the police

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and I would like to know, what happened to the dog???

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Let him talk! A true friend will get all sides of the story before they make a decision. If they don’t then they are shitty friends and you don’t need them.

I have no words to explain how upset I would have been. I get mad thinking about it!

I wouldn’t have made him breakfast . I would have taken his keys and let him sleep it off and told him he drank all the alcohol in the house

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That mofo would have cleaned up his own vomit, then I would have called the cops on him for drinking and driving. You can’t reason with drunkards, he isn’t going to ruin your name because the big baby didn’t get another drink from you….and if people believe the idiot then that’s on them and they aren’t your real friends

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You’re alot more respectful than I’d have been!!! If a drunk person threw up all over my bathroom, they’d be cleaning it immediately & hospital grade sanitizing the entire room!! Cuz I sure ain’t! And don’t worry about what your friends all say. If you’re all friends, they obviously know he’s an alcoholic :woman_shrugging:t3:.

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Hopefully he won’t come around anymore. I would have thrown him out, he would clean up his own mess, if my SO didn’t like it then he can go with him.

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I would have called the cops. Friend or no friend

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My husband would of knocked his best friend out if he spoke to me the way that guy spoke to you!! This guy was completely disrespectful in more ways than one and he’s lucky you didn’t call the police cause you absolutely could of!! You can only help someone so much, you did what you could and he still was nasty. He’s wrong for slandering you but he has a problem. Eventually when he’s ready to get the help, then maybe he will realize he was a complete douche and apologize. What people say about you is none of your business… don’t let it get to you cause you know you’re a good person and tried to help him.

I would have gotten his keys right away and called him a cab. Next I would give him a bill for all the bottles he emptied. Your husband should have taken care of his friend from jump and more importantly he should have defended your honor and cleaned up after his friend. If everyone he’s talking to are your friends they should know better. I’m sure they know how he is and possibly dealt with his crap themselves. Your husband should demand an apology from him !

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You were a lot nicer than I would’ve been!
If your friends haven’t figured out what kind of person he is, they will eventually.

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You went above and beyond. Let him go, you guys don’t need that kind of friend.

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I’d imagine if they’re your friends, they would tell you what he is saying and you can tell them all of this. I’d imagine your friends know who you are and I’d imagine they also know who he is and that he’s a bit of a drinker…. I would imagine they’d come to the conclusion that your story is more accurate. If not, well, then they must not know you very well or be crap friends. Have you talked to your friends? He may be talking crap but they may not even believe it. You let him stay the night to keep him safe, idk what he is spreading but I’d imagine most people would assume that someone who is trying to keep the drunk friend safe, isn’t a shit person. If they do then….? Get new friends who aren’t so swayed by BS stories? :woman_shrugging:t2:

You were more then decent to him. I would have called his mom right away to come get him.
Or I would have taken his keys and had my husband drive him home or called a cab.

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Lol fuck no you weren’t wrong.

When he drove off I would have called the police. If he had left your house and had an accident…u could have been in trouble

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I would of had cops put his butt in the drunk tank. He should be great full you didn’t . Tell him he’s not welcome anymore.

I would have gotten his keys and called a cab to take him and his dog home right away. I’ve dealt with people like this in the past…no way would he stay at my house!!

He’s embarrassed of his own behavior he stuffed up and he knows it but if he goes round making out ur the bad guy u may not have the chance to say how much of a dick he was he’s trying to save face

You couldn’t win with this one. Might have been the end of the friendship with a budding or actual alcoholic which you really don’t need but calling the police would have been a good solution. Could just get yourselves in trouble with this “friend.”

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Honestly, Your husband should have taken over, he shouldn’t let anyone disrespect you. If someone is being aggressive in your home, call the cops. You need to call this man out on his behavior and tell your friends what really happened. If they think you are wrong, you need a new circle of friends.

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You can’t speak reason to a drunk

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I would have called police for the abuse as well as soon as he left driving drunk. You did right. Your friends will understand that and if they don’t …your better off without them in your life.
Sometimes God culls out the ones who do us harm .Thank God he is working on that now with others “friends " as well. The loyal ones will stand with you. Don’t fight it. Accept God’s hand in helping you and keeping you safe. If I were you. I’d just stop drinking as well. God says " be vigilant and sober minded for the the Devil walks among us”. God bless.

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I think you have a bigger problem with your husband. Ask him why he’s being a little punk and not coming to your defense. 

You should have called the police , his mom , or simply driving him to his place

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I mean. I would have called the cops. And if that makes him or my husband unhappy then too bad. That’s completely unacceptable

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Girl, your man should have handled this. It’s not your job to babysit his friends. He really put you in a fucked up situation.

You could have called the cops and let him get a DUI. Worse, he could have killed someone. Clearly has a drinking problem. I would simply let him know if theres a next time you’ll call the cops and if he doesnt stop harrassing you they will be called. No excuses for that behaviour and not worth having as a friend.

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You did everything you could to help and no your definitely not in the wrong

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First off, I wouldn’t consider this person “a friend”. A friend wouldn’t steal all of your liquor, be abusive to you, then bad mouth you to all of your other friends just because you refused to give him more liquor. A friend wouldn’t show up in the middle of the night drunk & impose himself into your home.

He has issues.

If a friend of mine showed up in the middle of the night, drunk, I wouldn’t let them drive anywhere. I’d give them a place to sleep it off til morning, then I’d want to know what the hell happened, to cause them to drink & drive their way to my home. Maybe some major tragic event or drama occurred to lead them to drink that much. Maybe they are suffering depression over a relationship or work issue. I’d give them an opportunity to talk it out.

But it’s never ok to drink & drive. I wouldn’t allow them to leave my home drunk unless they had a sober driver to take them where they want to go.

You did the right thing, and if your friends don’t agree, then it sounds like you need new friends.

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There is such a thing called an Uber - or taxi . Next time call one and him in it .

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Alcoholics have a way of turning people on you and making you believe you’re the problem

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The only thing you should have called a cab
Stuck him in it
Even if you payed for it
It would have been cheaper than keeping him
Who cares if his mother got involved his not your responsibility
What time as your man doing about it
He drove home drunk anyway

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You should not feel bad at all.

Never apologize for doing the right things. Real friends will ask your side of the situation
But a liar has so much practice but you don’t need anyone like this in your life.

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I’d have called police when he showed up at the door. I’m not dealing with a drunk :man: in my home.

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Nope. You took him in and took care of him. Delete all of his contact info. Don’t even speak to him, the ungrateful jerk. Tell your friends what he did. Let the truth ring out, loudly.

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He wouldn’t be a friend of mine or my husband’s any more. I would have had my husband drive his car home & followed. I wouldn’t tolerate anyone being nasty to me especially in my own home. & if anyone else is taking his side, I would explain your side & if they are still taking his then I’d leave them behind as well.

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You did more than I would have. First of all he wouldn’t have made it through my front door in that state. We’d probably take his keys and ask someone to take him home leaving his car parked for him to pick up later or call someone to pick him up. If he gave us grief about taking him home then I’d take his keys, give him a blanket and pillow, shut him out and tell him to sleep in his car. If all of that failed, I’d call the police and ask them to escort him home. :woman_shrugging:t3:

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First off your husband should have addressed the liquor when you all got up and the state of the bathroom and made him clean it up; no matter the state he was in. A friend doesn’t pull that crap on a friend. Also, that morning or day your husband should have gotten him a ride or driven him home when he work up. No reason for him to stick around and be abusive to anyone.
You went above and beyond. If people in your group of friends bring this up to you address it; tell them what happened. Otherwise I’d blow it off. His actions will speak for himself.
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For those of you knocking her husband for not doing anything, did you really read the post?! It clearly states that she told her husband not to get involved when his friend was being a jerk to her. She states the friend was a big guy and she didn’t want a fight. SHE requested he not do anything about the guy’s behavior.

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I would have called the cops on him. Zero regret and no apologies for it either. What a reckless human. Could have killed someone while driving or gotten violent and hurt someone in your home yourself included. Anyone who makes excuses for that drunkard is not worth keeping around you at all.

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He should be apologetic towards you if anything and offering to pay for the booze that he helped himself to… A friend wouldn’t do what he did. Full of piss and bad manners./mental condition . No excuse.when he’s sober let him know you don’t have friends like that and your not welcomed at my home.and if your other friends know you at all they will know that he’s talking crap. You shouldn’t have to defend yourself with real friends.

U let him stay the nite grate he ended up drinking all ur alcohol wth out permission thts 2 laws broken getting violent nd abusive or not is 3 I would have called the cops on his as wen I relised he was drunk nd drove to my place or I would have called them wen I noticed he helped himself wth out permission to my things nd u definitely should nd could have called the cops told them ur adress the adress he was going to nd tht u couldn’t get the keys nd unable to stop him but he was drink driving instead u did none of those things so how would u feel if he didn’t make it home because he had caused an accident wth some innocent driver on the road

Dogs sleep outside. Would have either given him a blanket and pillow or called an uber

I’d have lifted the smelly drunkin b#stard by the scruff and f#cked him out the door

Call the police or EMS and suicidal based on his spoken word
You shine as you. Don’t alibi. State if asked he was drunk and disorderly

Call the police to let him sleep it off in jail.

Clearly, a foreigner (grammatical mistakes and mam )wrote this nonsensical story. The entire debacle could have been solved by calling a cab for the drunk and keeping the dog at your house for his/her protection until the drunk sobered up.

He wouldn’t be a friend anymore and the friends that just believe him before asking shouldn’t be friends either

I would have to tell him he is lucky I didn’t call the cops, for getting IGNORANT with me in my own home!! He would no longer be welcome!! Friends or No friends!!

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I would have called a :taxi: to come and take him home

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Wtf! He would not be a friend anymore! I would have lost my :poop:! Send pictures of the puke and empty alcohol bottles to all of them with the caption, DO NOT ANSWER THE DOOR AT 1AM! Hahaha He will show them his true colors too.