What to do about a married man flirting with me?

Can I please get your advice on something. A married man that works as under a contractor for our company always flirts with me and it makes me really uncomfortable. I don't want to tell my boss, she will fire his ass yesterday and he has a family to provide for. Please help me figure out how to confront this man without getting into trouble myself.
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Tell him. If he continues to flirt say “ I find this very uncomfortable since you’re married. I’m flattered, but please just stop” or however you want to say it. Some woman are more shy while others are more blunt, so just make it known you don’t like it however you can. if he continues I would tell your boss. There’s no reason you shouldn’t be comfortable in your own work place.

Help a mama out and respond anonymously on our forum. What to do about a married man flirting with me?

If he really cared about his family he wouldn’t be flirting with you. Tell him to stop

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That’s not your problem … sounds like it’s his problem now don’t it :face_with_raised_eyebrow:

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Uh… maybe ask him to stop. Let him know you aren’t comfortable with it and if it continues you have no choice but to report him. Cuz at that point he knows and it’s past the point of creepy.

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Tell him to stop. If he does stop report him. HE should be thinking about the consequences to his actions, not you. You don’t have a responsibility to his family, he does. If he doesn’t want to get fired he shouldn’t harass people (which is what he will be doing of you say stop and he doesn’t).

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Seems like you want it too stop your just too nice and dont want drama. Hiss/growl at him if you cant find the words. He will leave you alone. And yes ive tried this it works

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I would tell him you know his wife even if you don’t then he’ll be like fuck lol

Tell him to stop or report him it’s that simple

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“Listen I appreciate the flattery, but the minute someone hears you say something slick you will have to tell your wife and kids you lost your job because you as a married man chose to try to look and flirt with another woman and if you don’t tell her I will. So two choices walk away and only speak to me about work or lose your job and all livelihood along with your dignity because I will mess you up”.

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You cant get in trouble for someone thats potentially harassing you. Either you stand up for yourself or tell your boss. Be part of the solution if you want it to stop.

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Tell him to stop, that it makes you feel uncomfortable. Straight and to the point

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Some guys are just flirty. It doesn’t mean he wants to leave his wife for you. My husband does this a lot. It just his personality. If you don’t like it ignore him. He will get the hint.

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Tell him to stop? He’s married and should know better so who cares if he looses his job! If he does it’s his fault not yours.

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Tell him to fuck off? If it continues, that’s on him and absolutely go to your boss about it.

Is he flirting or just being nice?

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He’s an adult. He knows what he’s doing. Tell him to stop or you are reporting him. If he doesn’t stop report him.if your boss and your HR sucks and does nothing,like my last job. Go over their heads.report the company. Its called harassment and there is a law protecting you from it.

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Would it make you uncomfortable if he wasn’t married?

Tell him to fuck off, rudely. He will stop, trust me. Lol girl wtf you can handle this :sweat_smile:

Tell him to stop straight outright. If he doesn’t make sure he knows you’re not afraid to get his a$$ fired for sexualharassment. It’s his fault if anything escalates from there.

Him potentially getting fired for inappropriate conduct is not your problem. Him having a family to support is not your problem. Your problem is repeated unwanted attention from this person that is making you uncomfortable. Ask him directly to keep his interaction with you professional or you’ll have to report it, and then follow through.

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Tell him to stop? If he doesn’t then report him.

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Just tell him straight up to stop.

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Tell him to duck off then ignore him completely

Flirting or being nice? Often times people mix up the two. It’s sad that in the world today you can’t be nice without it being called flirting. If you really think it’s flirting then tell him you don’t appreciate it and go on. If it’s him just being nice and you mistake it for flirting then he can clear that up.

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Next time he comes your way tell him “hold that thought while I clip on my bodycam and audio mic” that should set the tone for a different theme

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Remind him that was he’s doing is making you uncomfortable and it’s not right.

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you won’t get in trouble, and if you ask him ONE time to stop (make sure you have a witness) and he continues, report him, he SHOULD be fired

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Ask him how his beautiful wife and kids are. That will stop him dead in his tracks

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He knows he has a family at home and is continuing his behavior. I’d start with saying something to him and if it continues then tell your boss ansd DON’T feel bad for the consequences he receives.

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Just straight out tell him. Chances are he’s not even aware he’s being crude.

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Tell him you met his wife at the grocery store and you see her almost every week.

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If you’ve never told him his behavior makes you uncomfortable, then why report him? Maybe he’s just being nice and not even flirting. Some people are just like that… Nice :+1:
If you tell him his behavior makes your uncomfortable, and he still does it, then and only then, should he be reported.
Don’t play games

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There’s no need to get involved in his personal life, you don’t need to seek out his family or any of that. It’s in a professional work place so it should be handled as such. Tell him, that his actions seem flirtatious to you and that they make you uncomfortable in your workspace. Do it in an area that has audio and video recording just to cover your ass. If it continues, then report it accordingly. Don’t worry about his family, that’s not your job

Tell him how it makes you feel…Mean what you say and say what you mean!!! Cuz he may not be taking you serious… Record the ordeal so you have proof if you go to the boss…

I had a similar problem. I told him to stop and he kept trying. I just started ignoring him and he finally got the hint. But if it’s getting out of hand I’d report him

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Some people are just flirtatious as a form of communication— I USED TO act this way… I thought I was charming and charismatic. UNTIL someone took the time to let me know that it wasn’t cute. What I considered harmless banter— others perceived differently. My ignorance didn’t excuse my behavior and it certainly didn’t make it right— but I’m glad that someone took the time to talk to me before attacking my career and my marriage.

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Tell him , hey I respect the fact that your married and have a family to support, I hope you can respect that too. He should catch on .

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Kick him in the nuts and remind him he’s married

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That’s why we have video on our phones

What do you class as flirting??

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Just tell him to stop? Have you tried that?

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Some people are flirtatious. He may just think he’s being funny. Just tell him
Or ignore him. Unless he’s being super aggressive or it’s completely out of hand then tell your boss

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Tell him to go flirt with his wife instead of you!

Tell him maybe he should try using all that thirsty energy on his wife. And tell his wife all the inappropriate examples of what he says to you, even anonymously, if you don’t want to be known.

Whilst I do agree with most… I know someone married with a family that does this and so on… and some don’t seem to have a problem with it that most of us would… she should trust her intuition and do what she feels to be right.

Next time he does ask how his wife is doing. If he doesn’t get the hint tell him directly to stop.

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Tell him if he doesn’t quit his wife will hear about it

Hello… just say what you just told people in your statement…say… you’re making me uncomfortable…

Tell him if he doesn’t stop u will tell the boss n his wife so he will lose

Tell his wife!!! Tell your boss!!! If he gets fired, that’s the consequences of HIS actions!!! If he hadn’t been a scumbag and cheat on his wife by flirting with you, he wouldn’t lose his job!!

Laugh at him and say “ew”.