This literally happened to me. Guess what? I dropped them all. I unfriended them on here. They dont care to come see my child, never were available when I asked to bring the child to them to visit, so they dont even get to see pictures of her. You dont get to pretend to be someone of importance to my child. You are either all in or not there at all. Being a part of a child’s life when its convenient is not okay. When my kid asks to come over and visit for the 10th time but you “may” be doing something later, eff off. My kid has people who care for her who are there and always show up, sorry not sorry but if you cant be there ever and never make time then step out of our way.
My family rarely visited us.
Live your best life XOXO
I live this everyday . Nothing to get overly stressed over . It’s a good chance to teach your child don’t to get offended or feel to sad when people ain’t around no matter how much you want them to .
Say fuck them and move on…my kids don’t know either side of their family and it’s sad!
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No. It shouldn’t be up to just you. They’re showing no interest. Don’t push your children on them. Maybe it’s for the best. I have family that HARDLY see my kids. But are quick to complain I never bring them around. If they wanted to see them, They would try
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Nope🤷🏻♀️. If they’re not trying, why should you?
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Stop trying. It is their loss not to be in your child’s life.
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Nope… Its exhausting…
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Nope. Just leave it. Go on without them. You cant force someone to be in your child’s life. Your child is better off without them, since they obviously dont want to be there.
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Nope. You’ve made your effort. If they want to be involved, they will.
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I have a brother that has never met either of my 2 children. The oldest is almost 26. I left invitation to visit open and he chose not to.
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No. They’ll figure it out.
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I have so much to say on this but won’t because of the eyes who watch every move we make! NOPE stop making the effort! It’s unfortunate and not fair to the children. Your kids know who love them and who wants to be in their life. These are the same people who become but hurt when those children want nothing to do with them because they don’t even know them!
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Their loss I gave up and makes no difference why force a situation better off without them 
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I would continue to live my life…
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It’s their loss. Don’t ever push it. If they cared enough they’d be there. My suggestion, make your own “family” friends who love your kids the way you do.
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Nope! Their loss not yours. Do not raise a child with family that doesn’t care and has the will power to just leave. Bc if they don’t come and then they finally do, you never know whent they will just walk away.
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Stop trying. I have a a quote but can’t share it, it says:
Be a part of my kids’ life or not. I won’t beg you. You’re missing out, not them. Just don’t get mad when they don’t know who you are.
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See ya when we see ya.
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Nope! My children dont need to see them if its always and i mean always the only time they visit when its convient for them
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That’s the same thing I was dealing with and I gave up trying. Obviously they don’t want to be part of the child’s/Children life then so be it.
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Lol mine never visit nor do their dads side visit. Just move on and your kids are way better for it.
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I would live my life unfazed and move on. You can’t force a relationship or love, their loss on watching a beautiful life blossom.
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Not a dang thing. If they dont want to see your child. If they dont realize how amazing ur child is. Forget them . That’s their loss, not ur childs!
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Never stop trying!!! I admit that I have been that family member and then my nephew was killed in a car accident in September. I have never missed an event since…hopefully nothing tragic like that has to happen for your family to wake up but sometimes people don’t realize what they have until it is gone 
but just so that you don’t ever live with a regret, please never stop trying!
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people are not like they used to be my 8 and 12 yr old boys rarely get visits from grand parents things are just nothing like they were when i was a child
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Nope… their loss…fuck em… I have the same issue with my family… my daughter will not go unloved and she will never know who they are either… if you want to be petty and you think it’s going to effect me or her , you’re sadly mistaken…
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Stop making the effort I had to learn this I was the only one doing it! I have family that hasn’t even met my son and he is almost a year!
not my problem anymore he will know who loves and cares for him!
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I have an uncle that lives 700 miles away and actively tries to be a part of my kids lives. My husband has 1 uncle that tries too. That’s it though. Not grandparents aunts cousins none of them. Their loss. We enjoy our family and no one else matters.
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I try to make an effort but I haven’t tried as hard lately because it’s not very often they actually visit. I get life gets busy and figure if they want to see my son they will reach out and if not then can’t force people to be involved, they’ll make the effort if they want to.
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I decided once i got pregnant, if they dont make an effort to see my daughter she wont know about them. Im not going to waste all my energy on forcing relationship. Im also not going to have my daughter wondering why her family doesnt love her enough to see her. Ill be more tha happy to drive her to the family if i need to, but they have to put in effort too.
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The only family member who sees my kids is my mom and that’s only bc she babysits before school so I can work…I’m not concerned about anyone not including my kids in anything as family. I do a great job loving and caring for them to make up for anyone else not. That’s more important anyway
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Don’t visit the grand children don’t even know the grand children
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I had this issue with a family member of mine- after continually cancelling on me for stuff that they thought was more important I decided to cut them off. It’s been almost a year, and I’ve yet to look back. 
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My only family now is an uncle who lives in Australia, I’m in uk. We speak at least once a week n messages go back n forth between. My ex on the other hand, his folks n siblings talk a few times a week to my kids. My family have all disowned me due to not conforming to what they wanted. Their loss, missing out on 2 great kids. Dont look back, teach ur kids that they can lead their lives the way they want x
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It’s disappointing when family especially grandparents don’t make an effort but the loss is theirs.
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I make the effort because regardless I want my kids to know their family. Does it suck? Yeah, but my kids love their family and that’s the only thing that matters to me.
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My parents have never met my 6 year old. It’s their loss. End of story.
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Nope. Anyone who doesn’t care to put that child in their life themselves doesn’t deserve my wasted effort.
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My family doesnt come and see our daughter and we are 45 mins away but I also dont go see them. I am currently pregnant. I don’t hold it over them it’s their loss if they dont come and see her
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Move along. Never force anyone to be in my child’s life.
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It’s tough. I just remind myself they are the ones missing out.
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Their loss! You shouldn’t have to push it! Make your own family! There are friends that are better family then real family to some children!
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My grandmother in a different state doesn’t speak to me or acknowledge my kids because i didn’t make sure they had a relationship with her. She always kept in touch with my brother and his children. Family who live nearby don’t call or visit either so it’s usually birthday parties or family gatherings my kids see them. My mother lives 2 houses down from me, so she sees my kids all the time lol
I won’t make the effort. If they want to see my kid they can contact me. They know how simple as that 
also to add if you don’t make an effort to see my child than do not expect invite to bday and stuff
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Guess what: their loss.
I’m sorry you’re going through this. I know how you feel, my son is two and my father has never visited. Just reassure your child that it is absolutely not their fault. I would just stop reaching out. You did the best you could mama.
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I am in this exact situation… Like i could’ve almost been the one to write this… Pretty much all my family lives within 15 minutes of us, my sister, brothers, dad, grandpa, aunts, cousins… And yet im a SAHM and everyday I ask at least one of them to just come over and visit i even offer to make dinner because unfortunately with me having really bad social anxiety I dont have friends… But 9/10 they don’t have time… Some of my family has only seen my son once and hes SIX MONTHS OLD and yet they live only 10 minutes away from us… It hurts me everyday and i think about it way too much and most nights I cry and get depressed because the only person im close to anymore is my fiance and he works 12pm-10pm so most of the day I go without any other adult interaction… But at least i have my awesome fiance and his mother that check ups on us… 
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It depends can they afford it or are they ones just lucky to make it from week to week. Are they close by and just don’t visit. If they are close by and can afford it if far off then ya let them make the effort. If they don’t that’s in them not you.
I cut people off. I don’t need half ass family members.
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i dont make the effort but i dont cut them off either
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Nope life goes on and my child will learn this with time.
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Tell em to get fucked!
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Uh yea… that’s your responsibility to your child. You fend for them regardless of anyone else. My daughter’s sperm donors family has nothing to do with her, and then half of my family doesn’t either. But it’s their loss. She isn’t going to miss what she doesn’t know exists. That and I am a mother, not just a DNA contributor to my child. Drop it for the little ones sake.
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Find a new family. We had a falling out with my family and my in-laws (a very long story) but my son is 5 and has been asking about grandparents so my friend’s parents have offered to allow him to call them grandma and grandpa. My friend’s parents have been there for me through ups and downs unlike my parents so I’m more than happy for them to “adopt” him as a grandson
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My dads never met my almost 3 year old but it’s his loss really. My son can’t miss someone hes never met
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Just keep on with your life. They know they have an open invitation. I understand the hurt…but remember…it’s their loss!!!
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Nope…they would have if they cared
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Stop trying. Their loss, your gain💕
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My kids have family that live 10, 5, and 2 minutes away and they aren’t all overly present. They don’t invite us or them anywhere. They decline invites. They go literally
Months sometimes without talking to them, asking about them etc. It used to bother me a lot, because I always thought why aren’t they important to them. Why aren’t they a priority. Why don’t they love them etc. I gave up trying. And they are so much better off. They don’t get their spirits and hopes crushed. I backed off and now the relationships are almost non existent. That’s not my problem because I am not responsible for them having a relationship. They are.
It’s their loss. My kids are amazing. They are funny. Thoughtful. Kind. Creative. Imaginative. Grateful. Sweet. Spicy aha truly amazing. They are missing out on some fantastic mile stones.
Actions not words. You can say you love someone until you are blue in the face, but if you live five minutes away and chose not to visit them. Ever. Those actions tell me. Meh I don’t care. I have better things to do.
I’ve learned to let go and focus on them.
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Sounds like they’re blood but not family I’d stop waiting my time it’s truly their loss
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Haven’t spoken to my bio mom in YEARS… let it be known that because I was done with her she still had every right to have a relationship with her only grandchildren as I am an only child but nope… she never tried! So we just moved on and realized she never done anything for us in the past so we went the ones missing out, she was/is! Don’t worry about people that don’t worry about you!
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This is the exact situation with my partners family they dont bother with us so we dont bother with them I’m pregnant again and they aren’t even getting to meet this one
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Nope. Fuck 'em. I only allow people that want to be in my daughters life. Her father chooses to miss out so I let him. He has my number and address but makes absolutely zero attempt to know his daughter. That’s on him. You can’t make people be family. They have to want to.
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You get over it and move on.
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When raising my children, my, now ex Mother in Law would sit in the car in the driveway when they on very few occasions actually came to our home. Her reasoning was that her knees hurt. Funny thing was, she was able to ride in a vehicle cross country and then stay in a house where she was required to sleep upstairs to visit her other grandchildren. That stuck hard with my now grown daughter. It was her loss though.
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I gave up and it took them 10 years after i stopped bringing him around to actually want to be part of his life. You can only do so much. I tried for years and with no avail gave up. Now they thank me for being such a great mother
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Family isn’t always blood. The people that are in your child’s life are your child’s family
Move on with your life. Don’t look back. You aren’t going that way and neither are they.
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No need for part time people in my child’s life. You don’t want to be there… you won’t. I’ll make the decision for you.
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Uhh cut them off, like I did
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Absolutely nothing. Majority off my family have barely or never seen my children and they’re 9 and 2. Their loss
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My mother in law used to give my children money ( $50 each ) for Christmas, this year she didn’t . She only gave my husbands daughter cash. And she is a great grandmother ! My daughter of course so she has not acknowledge my grandson . I feel so bad for my kids and my grandson. I did tell her how I felt and haven’t spoken to her since .
Nope. I’m the type to put forth the same effort others do though. Don’t care if you see me or my kids? That’s fine, I don’t care if we see you either. Don’t be surprised when my kids don’t care about you.
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Nope. It isn’t a one way street. Sometimes your friends treat your kids better than your own so called family does. Facts.
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Kids don’t miss who they don’t know
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Nope. Id cut them out completely
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Nothing. Don’t bother with them. They are not family lol
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Nope let they asses alone
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💁 i enjoy visiting my family. I live further away and my hubbys family is in another state. My parents are their only living grandparents & they dont travel. My siblings have their own issues why they don’t travel. 💁 maybe I am just weird but it doesn’t bother me if they dont or can’t come to my house. My kids deserve to know their family.
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Nope, my time is better invested. Say, you’ve tried for more than 2yrs and no change then peace out, you want to know something, find out on your own because I’m done trying to fit you in where you obviously don’t want to be bad enough.
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I’m not interested in part time people in my childs life so I dont bother to extend anything (obviously holiday or bday I do) they want the relationship so they need to be the one to initiate it.
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This is apart of the reason we moved 400+ miles away. We lived 30 minutes away and they refused always had an excuse but they would see the other grandkids all the time and call them. They have never once called my kids even after moving so far and expect us to be the ones to drop everything to go visit still. ( they are perfectly capable of traveling just too lazy to do it)
My kids grandparents on their “fathers” side do not visit or send cards or anything!! And although it is sad and may make my children feel a little unloved , my parents made up for what the others didn’t do
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Coming from the other side of a situation similar to this…ask yourself this: are you a toxic, slanderous, abusive, narcissistic, manipulative asshole who weaponizes your child against your family to get what you want just to treat them like absolute garbage and less than human immediately after? It sucks that mothers and children are a package deal sometimes but individual quality of life amongst family is important too. If you are any of the above, YOU are hurting your child, not them. If you are not, they suck and you’re better off without them.
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Nope. No. Not a chance.
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My ex’s family never saw our kids after we divorced. They were three and five. He didn’t see or support them either. My kids are grown now with their own families. I know it bothers them on some level but it was what it was. Grandparents, father, and uncle are dead now. They have cousins they never met. We lived in the same place for 20+ years and they knew where it was.
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There comes a time when you have to accept that you, yourself have tried and it’s time to move on… when that time comes, its not giving up, it’s moving on for the sake of your child and the rest of your own family’s mental health… i have been through this in the last few years… it is really tough… but know that at the end of the day, the invitation was always, always sent out but never taken up. If the child is old enough, tell them that you’ve invited them but you got no response. Doesn’t matter how close or how far away the other family live, if they choose not to visit, it’s on them… also my invitations were for them to come to me or me to go to them- still nothing…
love your family and go visit other people… xx
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Nope! I tried to reach out to my ex in laws to see if they wanted to see our son. This was their response. “We don’t want to talk to you or see you at any point. But, we’d love to see the baby.”…
So, they dont see the baby since I have sole custody and they want to act like children.
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My daughter is gonna be one soon and my in-laws haven’t even made a effort to come meet her. We live in CO & they live in CA. My MIL has every excuse in the book as to why she can’t come out and then tries to make me feel guilty because we haven’t come back there! My mother (whom Ive had a rocky relationship the past 5 years is about to come out for her second visit since my daughter was born and is talking about coming out again for her birthday) people put effort in where/when it’s convenient for them! Good luck momma! Just remember your baby will remember who was there for them
My family is very close, loving and supportive…
They’ve all had alot to do with our son.
My partners family however is very different.
Not close at all… Hes had a very different upbringing…
Our child has not met anyone from his dads side… not ever spoken to them… nothing…
Except his “so called aunty” partners sister… who met him once than vanished.
Very weird to me!! But no loss…
Shes the only one I’ve met to…
It used to upset me…
I used to wonder why they never wanted to meet me or our child…
We know nothing about eachother…
But now i just dont care…
Why should i care about anyone that doesn’t care to know us.
Move on🤷🏼♀️. I have a family member like this… although I havnt made an effort, they certainly havnt either… they are welcome to see their grandchild but they chose not too so their loss.
I have 4 kids and I can count on one hand the number of time my family has came to any of there birthday Party’s they are 15 (triplets). And 13. I have 4 siblings and we all live with in 2 miles of each other’s. My kids are at the age where it don’t bother them. Because we have a great time with out them.
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My kids get more attention from strangers at Walmart than from their own grandma, my mother. I have always reached out and invited her to visit the children and even if only once a month. However, the invitations are ignored over the years and we only see her on holidays - she wants to love from a distance. The kids are confused by it and it hurts my heart during the rare occasion they ask about her. What can you really do? Should you REALLY have to beg a grandparent to show love and interest for their beautiful, curious grandchildren? I dont think so. If it isn’t there, so be it - I moved on and allow it to be what it is. You can’t force love into a hardened heart. One day when grandma is too old to remember, my kids wont know her and so they wont feel obligated to ever visit. She will regret it one day when it is too late to make up for lost time. Side effect is, my kids aren’t going to go visit a stranger. What kind of conversation can they have when no memories were ever made together?? That’s the side effect. What a shame it will be for her in the future. Life is just too damned short.
We are going through this right now and have been for 8 years. My husbands family has not taken effort to step up for there grandkids. My kids are old enough now to understand they do not come around and my kids do not want to talk to them. My motger in law would come visit for like 15 minutes but then go next door to her other grandkids and stay for hours. We moved because we got tired of it and they know where we are but yet they do not come over for 3 years now. On my daughters bday we went to mcd and i look out the window when we are inside sitting and there walking in the pizza place. I was livid. So we have stopped speaking because of how they are. Its sad when you try and try to tell them how you feel but yet they still dont try to be around. When my kids have kids I will be bugging them all the time sorry but they are my life. I dont care I will be there up there ass all the time. You can only do so much and then it becomes well they are the ones who cant wrap there brain around whats more important. So we know who truly loves my kids and who does not.
I have family who has never seen my son. Do I care? No. Because family isn’t always blood. Family is a group of people who love you and your son and support each other through the hard stuff and the good stuff. Why stress about people who don’t make an effort when you can celebrate the love you have surrounded your life with?
Place people in their lives that try. You can’t force people and its frustrating to try. Kids aren’t dumb. They notice. Mine do.
Some in-laws are not worth the effort. Feel sorry for Jessica and Adam
Naw dont even bugging them and do t they to force them or ur kid ot kids to have anything g to do with them honestly teach them u all they have and if u have a good man or woman ur with u and that family is all u need