What would you do if your husband made a comment about your weight a year after giving birth? He was asking how long it normally took to “bounce back”…saying he thought I would be back to “normal” by now…he then said he was sorry once he realized I was upset and he didnt understand why I got upset when it was “just a question”…Am I over reacting about this?
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I’d ask him how quickly it takes to “bounce back” from 
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I’d tell him sometimes you never really bounce back and sometimes people change. Pregnancy changes your body and it isn’t the same for everyone. Then I’d tell him how would he like it if every time something on his body changed it was pointed out and asked when it will bounce back.
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Absolutely take it with a grain of a salt and move on and if your not confident or comfortable then do something about it. People are always going to talk and question things.
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Ask him how long it will take from him to bounce back after a foot in his assectomy.
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First of all YES, it was insensitive. Second, it’s good that he immediately apologized. Lastly, you have every right to be upset and no you’re not overreacting.
Is he in good shape? Is he willing to get into good shape with you? As in go on daily walks in the neighborhood with you and baby. Or, is he willing to either to work out at home or get a babysitter for y’all go to the gym together, or watch the baby himself so that you can? Does he help with making sure y’all are eating healthy and keep junk food out of the house?
After you’ve had time to cool off talk to him and tell him why his question hurt you and tell him what you need from him to “be back to normal”. Wishing you the best 
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If it’s one and done and he has learned that it’s a sensitive subject; my suggestion is forgive and forget. Give grace and move on. He is not breaking news to you, you already know that you haven’t “bounced back”.
My oldest babies will be 20 this year and my body still hasn’t “bounced back”. Your body will NEVER be the same. You gave him a child and that does things to your body that he will never understand.
If he’s worried about your weight, tell him you can lose 100+ pounds by switching your marital status to divorced!
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He didn’t say anything about “your” weight. He asked a question. He’s a man, what do you expect?
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Man I bet he wishes he had chocolate socks 
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If this is first baby, then it very well could have been a simple question as he might not exactly know. Just gotta educate him a little that it takes time. Some women never go back to normal. A baby can seriously change a body.
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Child birth alters your body. Sometimes permanently. Tell him this is your " normal " since having his kid. If he doesn’t like it, let him know that you can lose 100+ by going single
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It doesn’t sound like a malicious question and he apologized for upsetting you. Just let him know why it was insensitive and explain your feelings.
Tell him his balls are saggy and ask him when they’re going to " bounce back to normal"
You’re not overreacting at all. He’d feel a whole lot differently if he grew a whole ass human and pushed it out of his body
That’s disgusting of him 
sorry but he’s a shallow pig. Good luck with that one
Tell him you’ve embraced the mom bod and are not focused with weight (even if it’s not true), and if you are working out say your focus is muscle recovery post-birth or whatever. Just not everyone CAN bounce back to pre-birth just like that. My pre baby weight was 160 but I didn’t even get below 200 until my daughter was already a year old, and I was working and moving quite a bit. Entertain the idea that you may be a thicc mom and there’s not a damn thing wrong with it. If he’s really got a problem with it, and you birthed his kids, take him back to his mother.
,is he Actually still alive what a cheek
He apologized !!!
But , if the question was so upsetting to you, do something about it.
Tell him you could lose a couple hundred in 5 minutes.
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Ask him when his 
is going to go back to normal
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Somebody has “foot in mouth” disease…
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How long does it take men to bounce back from having that penis?!!!
Yes and no. The truth is “bouncing back” is different for everyone. Some woman take a couple years to level out some take a week. Yeah I know not fair. It’s just the way it is. I’m assuming you are also waiting for your old premom bod to come back. Honestly you might lose the weight you might not. I’m not sure what your size was before however depending on how much weight you gained also makes a difference. As well if you Breast fed it could take less or more time depending on your diet.
It takes about 5 years for your brain to go back to the way it was before but it never really is the same. About the same for your body. Just remember the smaller you go the more the stretch marks show.
For me it was too much lost right after and took almost 7 years after the last kid to gain any weight back and not look anorexic. I had four
I have had two
More in the last two years and my boobs are gone. Also remember that boobs and butt are fat so be careful how you decide to “go back”
Hugs were all beautiful and we all think we’re not. Moms kick butt
That is all
Ps. You could use a rolling pin or frying pan. But he still won’t understand. And I’m sure he looks different now too. Maybe remond him of lack of stud muscles or where he lets himself go. Yeah guys aren’t so keen at times. He probably really didn’t mean it. My second last I had really big breasts and now they are gone and he made the mistake of saying something. And I never had huge ones like these either. It still pisses me off and she’s 3.
Hugs. Guys suck
wait… you supposed to bounce back??? guess i got the memo late then because i am still waiting on that bounce back🤷♀️
Yes you are overreacting. If your husband can’t feel.comfortable to talk to you about any and everything he will just quit talking to you. If you are that sensitive about it, it’s a you problem.
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Ask him how long it took his mother to bounce back 
I would ask when he would get his sexual stamina back and last longer than 3 minutes like he used to. 
Because I’m
Guys are clueless. Just educate him about what happens in childbirth and how it changes your body for good, i.e. it changes your breast tissue, stretches out your abdomen, maybe even rearranges your abdominal muscles and organs a bit. Let him know that the Hollywood set usually look good after childbirth because of plastic surgery. Show him how much a “Mommy Makeover” costs and what it entails. Just ask him to love you for the new you that you are.
If YOU’RE bothered by your body, hence your negative reaction vs. just blowing it off, decide what you want to do about it and ask him to do whatever you need him to do to help you reach whatever realistic goals you set.