Hey mamas, I’m in a crazy situation and I’m lost and confused. What would you do if you open your boyfriends/ husbands phone and see the last app he downloaded was tinder? When I asked him he said it was for work, (he works fast food) so it just doesn’t make sense. Today I asked him and he said to believe what I want…
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“Believe what you want” is classic. He’s doing something wrong. Period.
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The fact he actually thought you would buy such a lame excuse is insulting and then ‘Believe what you like’… He’s checked out. Time to move on.
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What job would require you to download tinder anyway? Come on, I don’t think you need anyone else to tell you what’s going on.
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Believe what you want?!?
I also just said I don’t care what you think. Do you really want to be with someone that doesn’t care what you think?
My ex husband did this! Told me a porn site made his account. He had a photo uploaded and a little bio written exactly how he would write things 
Together 13 years and married for 10 so I stayed. Fool on me for staying another two years because he then had an affair with our friend and baby sitter 
Hi, my ex husband literally did this and said it was for getting his dating advice business going. We’re now happily divorced!
I strongly suggest splitting bc he’s not taking you or your relationship seriously unfortunately.
Edited to add: if it makes you uncomfortable, don’t tolerate it. While it’s not fair to you, it’s also reaffirming to him that he can get away with it, so what’s to say he won’t take things one step further? Save yourself there heartache babe, it might be tough but you’ll be better off without that, trust me.
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You leave. He works fast food and then tells you he downloaded it for work. 
he could have said it downloaded by mistake when he updated his email. But nope, he didn’t even try to find a decent lie lmao
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Immediately no. He’s looking and or already cheating and that’s a fact. What you do is go ahead and throw him in the trash because he is no longer good.
He’s seeing “if anything is better” he may not have cheated yet but he plans on doing something down the track.
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He’s gaslighting you. Follow your gut. He’s obv cheating or will cheat. And if he doesn’t, him downloading tinder is grounds for cheating. Use this information as you will.
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You know he’s lying when he says, “believe what you want”
He’s trying to cheat or is cheating. Leave.
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It doesn’t make sense because he’s full of 
. He’s trying to see other women sweetie.
I will download it as well other dates app and go on a lot of dates 
Seriously, do not stay with a man you can’t trust
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Big no and when they say believe what you want they are full of shit!
Believe what you want? He’s gaslighting you, and technically cheating, if he’s talking to girls, on a dating app.
Believe what you want is a classic “I’m going to do what I want” phrase and he’s clearly looking elsewhere why else would you download tinder?
He’s cheating Yw god
I can’t even fathom
This is a real question
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Girllllll. No. Immediately no. He’s playing you. He’s going to gaslight you into thinking your crazy…. He’s lying.
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I don’t care what he does so no big deal
It’s always the “believe what you want” bullshit. That’s the answer right there. If he wasn’t in the wrong, he wouldn’t say “believe what you want”. If he cared why would he say that? Why would someone that cares about you, want you to have that in your head. Leave him because he’s not being honest. He doesn’t have a legit answer for you. He’s being unfaithful. It’s for work…what a joke. He goes on the app at work because that’s where he can be on the app, and when he’s not around you. It’s time to move on. I’ve been in this situation and it’s sucks but you’ll be happier without him. 
Tinder equals hook ups unfortunately, don’t let him gaslight you.
My ex had tinder. And his bio said “Found the love of my life already. I just want to make friends.” Yeah, okay. I couldn’t compete and got tired of it.
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Dude’s not even smart enough to come up with a better lie.
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He’s either very dumb, or he thinks you are… Whichever it is, he’s not worth your time or energy.
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Yeah that’s a big ass lie.
Work!!! Seriously? Liar liar pants on fire!!!
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A cheater and a liar. You know what you should do.
Download tinder yourself, create a fake profile and catfish his cheating ass!
“Believe what you want” is their way of saying “yes and i have nothing else to try argue with”
No job ever needs tinder. Such a pathetic ahole
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Run don’t walk and go you’re own way. He’s narcissistic and presenting typical gaslighting behavior with he “it’s for work” and " believe what you want" statements concerning a matter that is so blatantly obviously not accurate.
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If he works I’m the food industry then tell him download the McDonalds app. Tinder is his choice I’m being a Ho. I would suggest a whole new man.
“Believe what you want…” greatest line ever when they’re lying. He’s trying to gaslight you into thinking you’re crazy. No one needs tinder for work. That’s the dumbest thing I’ve heard. Lol Honestly call up his work and ask if their employees need Tinder for work!
Leave him. The believe what you want is telling you your not wrong. I’m sorry though 
Listen he is entertaining other woman and that is not ok! I just went through this myself. I was dating this guy for almost a year and found out he was entertaining others. Even if it’s not physical yet it more then likely will be. It’s disrespectful…
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For future reference, all you need to know is contained in either a Destiny’s Child or TLC song. Listen to the song “Say My Name”. Your man is “running games”. You do not have time to play with a fool who tries to tell you that he needs Tinder to work at McDonald’s. He cannot even be bothered to come up with a reasonable lie. Sorry for the bad news, but looking back you’ll be glad you moved on. You deserve better.
Working an undercover “covert op” for his fast food joint, download Tinder to see if someone swiped right on not paying for refills? when he closes this case he can quit slingin burgers and go back to the FBI
There is NO way he needed to download tinder for work. Trust your gut and cut him loose ASAP.
Believe what you want = you’re right and I don’t even think you’re worth lying to
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Does McDonalds now offer McMatchmaking too?
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Nope. Goodbye. You let this slide and accept that bs excuse he will cheat on you endlessly and blame you for it because you “accepted” that he downloaded tinder
work would never tell you to download tinder … specially at a fast food place … he download it for his own sake … girl i would def leave him
I’d get an OF and tell him it’s for work
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Unless he works for tinder (would still be suspicious) he’s looking for or has a side chick
You know the answer. You throw the whole man away.
it’s not for work. He’s cheating on you, love
Cheating on you or is looking into it.RUN
Ouch…he’s not even a very good liar…
There you go he said it for you, “Believe what you want!” yeah girl their is your answer
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He’s taking that"have it you’re way" to a whole other level
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Soooo, hear me out here. He wants to download stupid apps and act like you’re dumb, download Only Fans and when he asks it’s for work. 
Nobody for any reason needs to have a dating app on their phone when they are married or in a relationship
He’s trying to cheat. Leave his ass
I’d be dumping his ass and doing my thing clearly fucking lying