NMR if your husband out of the blue one day juat stopped wanting to be intimate with you what would you think? My husband an I have only.been together a few years. We were intimate a lot and then it just stopped. Well do it once or twice a month and that’s it. I’ve asked him if I have upset him somehow and I try to talk about this issue but he just blows it off.
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Honestly it’s called life. Just talk to him and tell him you feel unwanted. If your marriage is going to last you need open communication. My husband and I have been together 22 years and have been through various ups and downs in ALL departments. His is usually he’s just tires and stressed.
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Could be a lot of things.
He may have physical issues he’s embarrassed about and doesn’t want to talk about or it could be there’s someone else but you need to try and get him to talk. Tell him how it’s making you feel and want to know if you can help him. Tell him you need to know if there’s someone else and go from there as to why and if he can categorically prove it’s not then you’ll go to a dr with him and help him that way. Reassure him there’s nothing to be embarrassed about and drs hear and see this all the time, it will probably be an easy fix but tell him you love him and want to help him
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Sadly most of the time it’s a cheating sign. Secondly it can be a loss of intimacy. 3rd it could be medical. When he won’t talk about it I’d threaten divorce over it.
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I think you should talk to him about it. Intimacy is very important to most couples but so is communication and compromise. Good luck to you both.
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My husband has bad back and neck pain and health issues
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Age is relevant. How old is he
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Low testosterone is possible if he eats a lot of processed foods, he might need to be tested to see… is he stressed? There could be multiple things going on. Also, like someone else said, age is relevant. The best thing you can do is talk to him and tell him what you are feeling.
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It may be a medical issue or stress . This can be very emotional for men. Try talk but be patient.
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Health issues and age going through the same thing with my hubby finally last night but I could tell he was having issues
It’s awfully early to be having intimacy issues, IMO. Many things could be affecting his drive. He could be having health issues, stress, it could even be age if he’s an older man. It could also unfortunately be infidelity. If he’s young, he could also be starting to feel the effects of marriage and feeling like the relationship has become stagnant. Sounds to me personally, like it may have been a whirlwind romance, & his affections are waning since getting married. Marriage isn’t something to enter into lightly while still in the honeymoon phase of the relationship.
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Its life. It happens.
Be careful how you approach it. Because it could make it worse.
Just ask him… hey anything i can do to get you in the mood sometimes?
Also acknowledge that if he is stressed or tired he may not want to. Just like us chicks.
Just keep in mind its not always cheating
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He’s absolutely sleeping with someone else if it was a lot to start and now none and he’s aggressive when asked about it yeah I wouldn’t doubt that for a minute
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I’m the type of person that needs intimacy atleast 4x a week … this would be do unacceptable. I would definitely gind compromise from my stand point, but your talking about a handful of time PER MONTH? I’d keep on with talking about it, and tell him your not going to let up the issue.
I fear the worst for you here tbh. it can mean so many unwanted scenarios, but you deserve the truth.
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I’d assume he’s getting it from someone else
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It can be a large group of things from stress at work, money, etc to medical, weight, low testosterone to even a change in you and what you maybe stopped doing or won’t do that makes him feel unwanted. It could also be a change in you, lack of hygenie, excessive weight gain for no reason rtc.I find it funny how many on her jump to cheating, check his phone, demand answers etc. That’s a great way to drive him further away. Be caring and nurturing not nagging and complaining when talking to him about it. Men generally get ashamed if it’s medical and afraid to ask a doctor. Try changing the routine up, spontaneous and even a little mischievous. Reach over in the car, throw a movie on to entice him etc
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Are you in the relationship for who he is /a friend or for sex?
He’s likely either watching p°rn or he’s cheating. I don’t tolerate disrespect. He refuses to be honest about it, no matter what it is. I’d leave.
I’d personally demand answers or leave to be honest. Either cheating or has medical issues.
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Be with someone who enjoys sex with you. I stayed in a sexless marriage for the children. Stop!!! It’s your life and live it for you! Make yourself happy! I never knew what sex was really like until he left me.
It’s your life no one else’s!
- Intimacy isn’t sex. Intimacy is the daily trust and showing of care one gives to another. Making a safe environment to discuss changes.
- Just because you are married doesn’t mean either side is required to sexually perform whenever the other wants them to.
- Changes in sexual habits are normal and don’t mean cheating, medical issues, etc, so never assume!
Just talk to your spouse in a gentle loving manner, without any preconceived notions. Find a compromise. Relationships go through adjustment periods and you have to be willing to accept them if you want the relationship to mature and be stable long term.
Could start by checking your phone records. Definitely will start there.
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My friend told me to write her opinion which is that it’s normal to quit having sex once married.
Yeah….hes got a side piece.
As men get older they think sex is a number between 5 and 7
Is the loss of intimacy with you accompanied by better hygiene, wearing cologne, attention to hair, grooming and dressing. More time away from home? 
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Wooohoo no more kids Lmao
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- Medical issues that he is not comfortable to talk about yet.
- Low testosterone
- Depression/ Anxiety
- Infidelity
- STD
- He doesn’t want to be with you anymore
- Bored about monotony ( like doing the same in the same place )
- Needs you to spice things up
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There could be many reasons for this. Depression, something medical, exhaustion. Talk to your partner. Please don’t let these people make you assume the worse.
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Is he stressed out? Maybe work is stressing him out. Maybe he needs to talk about something but doesn’t know how to start the conversation. Check on him, and don’t let him say he’s tired…don’t pry but let him know your there for whatever it is. Is he in pain? Maybe he can’t get it up/go for long and is embarrassed?! So many things. Life is so hard for many right now. Hope it leads to a heart to heart and things get better. 
I feel like after 40 it becomes a task for them. Sadly enough. 
I’m going thru this right now… but we are both overwhelmed and stressed with 6 kids who seem to be extra stressful lately. Both are tired and fall asleep. It sucks.
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Could be a sign of low testosterone
It sounds like he is cheating
In my husband’s case - he had terminal cancer.
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Stress, Erectile dysfunction disorder, other health issues, midlife crisis, or if you want to jump straight to the worst he’s cheating &/or no longer attracted to you.
We’re going through the same but I’m the one who is not in a mood. Part of it was we’ve been through hell and back. He had and still is a very toxic case with his ex wife and kids and it took most of his time and attention. And I felt unwanted and distance. And I think it has something to do with medical issues. Pray for your marriage. Hope things will turn around for you guys
I know it’s crazy but not all men are sexually charged and if they were sometimes with age that drops off.
He could be having issue with erection and doesn’t want to think or talk about it
He could be struggling with depression or something else medically is going on
Or he’s just mentally not there. My suggestion would be to keep pursuing him gently and keep trying to talk with him. Don’t get offended 99% has nothing to do with you.
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Oh, no thank you. I could never, lol. However, don’t jump to any conclusions just yet. Check his history and see if he’s doing anything before doing you. Don’t care what anyone says, you’re fully in your right to snoop at this point. Second, maybe he just got comfortable? Maybe he needs to hit up a doctor?
My soon to be ex husband did this to me. I still don’t know 100% why. I just know how it feels and I’m sorry you’re going through that. Best thing you can do is talk to him and tell him it’s impacting your marriage and your mental state that you arent demanding you just want to fix it.
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Get him hence to a doctor with haste. It could be a simple medical fix. If not that, then counseling… which is a good idea anyhow.
New medication? New source of stress? Has he gained weight? Not enough sleep? Depression. So so many reasons. Cheating could be one but if thats the only concern than its probably not that
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Age could be a factor, depression, stress from work, even low testosterone. Could be a medical issue or simply that as men age their sex drive decreases. Either way the only way to actually know is communication. If he can’t communicate about it then that is the real problem.
Could be ED? Some guys just straight up can’t get it up and won’t talk to a Dr.
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Is he spending less time with you? On the phone or always distracted? If so it could be someone else. If you know for sure it’s not that, it could be stress.
He’s boinking someone else
Could be stress, Depression , Not everything is about sex in a relationship
Did he initiate every time and have since stopped and you only initiate twice a month now? Maybe he got tired of rejection and figured when you want it he will be there?
All these people making excuses. He’s cheating
He may have a porn addiction that he’s not telling you about. He’s getting “off” in other ways that doesn’t have to do with you. And which I consider CHEATING!
That would be my first thought.
well that sad…ive read that men usually want sex twice a week on average and looking back at when i was married that about right…so if he has lost interest somthing is going on…he needs to have a good physical… also does he take blood pressure pills…that can have a bad affect on his sex drive
Plenty of different reasons but in case my now ex husband was cheating.
Honestly, there are so many things it could be, you’re going to have to find it out from him. Has he gained weight, has he lost his job, is he depressed? Or have you changed in any way, have you had a kid, gone back to work or quit your job?