Besides getting help. I felt like everyone forgot about me. On those days hopefully your SO is understanding and gives you extra love and attention
Never turn down help.
You will never be able to sneeze of cough without peeing.
The more you take the child to the bathroom each time you go the sooner they will potty train ( monkey see monkey do )
You will be given a lot of advice, you are not obligated to take any of it.
Baby gates are life savers.
Make sure to have the tough conversations with your man about things like circumcision, discipline, sleep schedules, family that can and cannot see the child.
They will out grow newborn size faster then you can blink, stock up on larger sizes.
A diaper or wet wipe raffle is the best addition to a baby shower you will ever ask for.
Diaper genies are worth the money.
Bibs are a waste of money.
I cannot express this enough, in the first 6 weeks you need to sleep when the baby sleeps. This will not only restore your energy, allow you to heal quickly it will help baby acclimate to your sleeping routine and this will.make it easier to change the babyâs sleep routine later.
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Wish someone would if told me more about depression because it doesnât really get talked about or put out there much⌠you got this mama!!
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Donât give them advice unless they ask for it 
you donât want to play with a pregnant womanâs emotions like that.
But if it were for you, the one asking, it wonât be easy. But it is absolutely worth it. And itâs important to remember that in the bad days.
If youâre staying home all day with baby, donât bother with clothes. Itâs a lot easier to change a diaper on time if you can actually see it and not have to guess all the time. The amount of time you will save on laundry will be a blessing. Even now with him being over a year, if we are staying home all day, he is only wearing a diaper unless he was put into a sleeper the night before. And with baby #2 due in January, I will definitely be remembering all the little tips I learned with the first.
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Dont wake the baby to eat, the baby will wake up when hungry. NEVER be ashamed to ask for help or a break. Keep a caddy by your bed with diapers, wipes, formula, water filled baby bottles ( if bottle feeding ), take everything you can from the hospital, your are not stealing it lol its there for you to take, when fixing to leave the hospital ask if you can get extra diapers, formula or anything else because they usually will give you a lot of asked, sleep when the baby sleeps, make time for your significant other and ice packs for your down stairs are a life savor lol.
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When ur baby cries, they want YOU not grandma not daddy, not aunty. Snatch that baby away and feed them. It will teach them that YOU will be there when they need you. You dont let them starve. They will learn to trust you.
If someone offers to help while you sleep, allow them 
you wont get ANY sleep otherwise.
You can sleep with your baby safely but if youve had even ONE glass of wine, let them sleep alone. One glass vs a sleep deprived mama will be enough to cause an accident
You cannot spoil your baby, love on that baby.
Formula can save your sleep, you will feel guilty at first but at the end of the day, you will still be a good momma
Feel free to enter a mom group for your babies birthday month. I joined one and i run everything by those moms!!! Also, feel free to leave it if it gets toxic!
Ppd can happen to anyone, even dads no matter how adaptable u think you are. Dont be afraid to ask for help.
If you plan to breastfeed, start watching a show you can watch while you feed. I recommend desperate housewives
Learn gas massages , and get some gripe water. you may have a colicky baby & thatâs no fun
Jess Hovers channel on youtube is my mom bible⌠please check out her âhow to care for your newborn 101â so many great life saving tips there
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This is all new for you as much as it is new for the baby, they have to learn it all from scratch. So even on your worst days just know you are doing a good job, before you know it you and the baby will get into rhythm.
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Do what works for you and your family. What works for others may not work for you and thatâs ok! Enjoy the ride but itâs also okay to cry every now and then. Being a mom is harder than anyone tells you but itâs so worth it.
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Buy a box of diapers (various sizes) every time you grocery shop before the baby is born. We did that with our first, and didnât have to buy diapers for the first year.
Write everything down. Pee diaper? Write it down. Poop? Yup. Bottle feeding⌠Write down the ounces. I remember being asked those questions at the first few appts â I could barely remember my own name, let alone that info if I didnât have a page for each day. 
Trust Your Heart, You are going to be fine, You will NOT be perfect, but You are perfect for This child
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Sleep when they sleep if at all possible
Take care of your mental health , donât be afraid to ask for help
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Let them sleep with you if thatâs what you want. It is the best bonding time I had with my kids!! 11years later, theyâre still welcome to jump in bed with us at any time.
Also, that you do not need all the fancy gadgets to successfully raise kids. I didnât have a bottle warmer, or special nappy bin or even a monitor. I didnât have a designer dummy chain, nor specially designed cups and what all else people come up with these days. 
Donât wake baby to feed, please let them sleep ⌠
Postpartum depression is a real and very serious thing. Dont be afraid to talk to someone near you about how you are feeling and reach out to your doctor for help. Dont be embarrassed or ashamed. If anything, you are stronger for realizing you need some help.
Keep an extra shirt for yourself in the diaper bag in case you are the target of bodily fluids while out and about.
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Just remember that everything is temporary⌠and the tough times (or nights, or teething, or whatever) do pass. And itâs hard for sure but so worth it!!
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Do YOU and raise that baby the way YOU want to! Accept advice but YOU are the momma and make sure others remember that. itâs all new to you and the baby but it will all fall into place
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Cherish them cause they grow way too fast! And find time to take care of yourself!! No itâs not selfish, You canât give from an empty vessel. And love your spouse.
Go with your gut. Your maternal instincts will kick in. You know things did you donât realize you know. And as you get to know your child you will be the best judge of what they need and want.
Do what you feel is best for YOU and YOUR baby, regardless of all the unsolicited advice that youâre gonna receive from family, friends, and even strangers. 
Also, Post-Partum Depression is very real! Never be ashamed to reach out for help!
Ask for help donât do it all on your own
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Babies feel their mothers vibes. Just try to go with the flow and donât stress.
I had two chill babies who started sleeping 5+ hours a night after one week. 
I wouldnât. Unless they asked. And if they did. Iâd tell them donât let your man get away with not helping. They poop black tar when they are born⌠and yours isnât going to be pleasant.
And if youâre feeling helpless or worried. Your feeling overwhelmed. Please. Call text ⌠speak about it. your loved.
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Take time for yourself and donât forget to make time for daddy
Donât downplay your feelings and they are real get help early we all need some form of help! And do whatever your the most comfortable with that gets you and baby the most and best sleep as thatâs crucial to taking care yourself to be the best momma you can be!
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The baby blues are very real and you will cry a lot. Itâs okay to cry, itâs okay to ask for help and take a break. Itâs okay to take care of yourself as well, baby needs a happy and healthy mama.
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Get as much sleep as you can
Do what you feel is best both for you and bub.
Listen to yr gut instincts .
If you need help do not be afraid to ask
Donât be afraid to tell people to fuck off when they harp on about how you should be parenting 
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My best advice would be to have your baby in a bed time schedule and not to co-sleep 
I have a 3 year old now that doesnât wanna sleep without me being in bed with him. (Not to mention no sexy time with your man)
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Do not feel guilty asking for help and hug and enjoy the newborn stage.
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All that newborn bliss is crap. Itâs ok to not be OK. I was a hormonal crying mess for a few months. The post baby blues are depression are really really common. Ask for help!!!
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DO NOT wake a baby to feed them, unless under certain circumstances. Also, donât isolate yourself.
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Itâs okay to need help.
Itâs okay to take a break and let grandma/uncle/godparent take the little one for a couple hours.
Breastfeeding is HARD and not for everyone. A fed baby is a happy baby, whether by bottle, breast, tube, or a combination of the three.
ZIP. UP. ONESIES. Especially the reverse zipper.
Buy all clothes and stuff secondhand (garage sales, resale stores, etc.) You can find new w tags for 1/4 the cost.
Postpartum mental illnesses may be scary, but I promise if you tell your Doc about it they will not take your baby and they will help you.
Babies are tougher than youâd think.
You are tougher than you think.
Youâve got this.
Congratulations!
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There are already so many comments i agree withâŚso mainly, YOU as a mother knows what is best for your baby, YOU know what your baby needs, and YOU are doing an amazing job as a mother! Donât let anyone else take that away from youâŚyou know your baby and your body best, so you got this momma! There will be some times when you feel like asking for helpâŚgo ahead and do it! Raising a newborn is hard and everyone needs help sometimes! Donât feel like you are asking too much or too littleâŚitâs all about learning and adjusting. No matter what, you know what is best for you and your little one!
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Donât let people tell you what to do! Do what you feel is right for your child!
Dont get the button sleeves. Take a nap when you can and dont isolate yourself. Postpartum depression is real and difficult to handle. You can have an easy baby and a supportive partner and still get depressed. Tale car of yourself
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dont lose your self trying to give the world to your childâŚdo something that makes u happy every once inawhile.
its ok to put ur crying baby down for 5 min and walk away to gather yourself, its ok to let your baby cry in general.
sleep when baby sleep, house chorse can wait
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To tell other people to fuck off to honest. Like Idgaf! Iâm sick of hearing what you did or what you should do. Just fuck off basically. Do what you feel is right cut off everyoneâs opinion they ainât right ever
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Donât be afraid to ask for help, no co-sleep you can have baby sleep in the same room as you in their crib or bassinet, feed them when their hungry not just when you feel they should be eating, donât carry them so much and itâs okay to have them cry you donât have to pick them up every time they do because it becomes a habit
Sleep when ever possible housework comes last you are not wonder woman and cant do it all. Think of your own mental health. If people offer to help accept it. Oh and once baby is sorted put down to sleep they do get used to being in your arms makes harder work later. Enjoy every second they are a blessing.
You canât spoil your baby!!! I spent ages worrying he wouldnât go down in a crib but they only know you so cuddle away. Also baby carriers/slings are great purchases still carry my 14 month old
itâs ok to speak up and say how you feel and donât feel like you have to do it all yourself because there are people who can help
Enjoy the time you have together while bub is small they grow up to quick time flies
Itâs your child not anyone elseâs! Raise your child the way you want to raise them! Thereâs no such thing as too many cuddles and you can not spoil your baby!
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Trust your instincts!
Lower your standards on cleaning and housework. Just love them and everything will turn out ok
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I see a lot of people who tend to take advice personally. Donât get offended or pissy about it. You can listen. You can hear them out. It doesnât mean you have to do what they say but hearing them out doesnât hurt. Sometimes it will help âsparkâ a different idea for your own solution to problems.
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If something is concerning youâŚbring it to your childâs doctor. Dont let this wonderful land of facebook cause you to overreact or underreact to something thatâs bothering you and stay away from google.
Parent however the hell you want to. Donât let people bully you into believing their parenting style is the right way or the only way. The world is such a different place then it was 20 years ago⌠shoot even 7 years when I first became a mom. Listen to your motherly instincts because they are your natural guide. Every child is different and you were chosen to be their mom for a reason.
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You will cry. You will get overwhelmed. You will get through it
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Doctors and nurses are not always right for your baby. Sometimes the old ways are best. Follow your gut
No one told me about the baby blues! I cried at everything a week after giving birth, it got better after that.
Donât let ANYONE guilt you into anything or feel a certain way. You are your own person and your voice for your baby
Get yourself a carrier (tula,ergo,etc). They are lifesavers when baby wants to be held and you have stuff to do. My daughter was sick last weekend, so she helped me make a roast, muffins, and a birthday cake in her carrier
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Say what you mean and mean what you say. Never say something you donât intend to follow through on, good or bad. Children rely on consistency, so create routines and schedules early. Set healthy discipline practices from the time theyâre small. This will definitely help avoid major battles as they get older!
Enjoy every second they ainât babies for long
Love with all your heart
Follow your gut instincts. You know whatâs best for your baby.
They will cry its ok if you need a minute or 10 take it the calmer you are the calmer they will be so if you feel overwhelmed walk away go potty wash your face have your coffee then come back (make sure they are in a safe place first )
Its okay to ask for help. Youâll be tired (people did tell me this but nothing can prepare you for how exhausted youâll be) so those dirty dishes, clothes, chores - they can wait, sleep when the baby sleeps. A baby who is fed is best, if you donât want to breastfeed or canât, donât stress it. Formula will also give you a healthy baby. You will find out who your true friends are & theyâll love your baby like it was their own. Donât stress the people that you will lose, their part in your story was over & thats okay. Take time for yourself, even if that just means a long hot shower and a hot meal, you need to feel human and taken care of too because youâll lose yourself in motherhood easily. Diaper genies and wipe warmers arenât needed. Youâll question if youâre doing things right, you are. Just trust your gut. You will never know a love greater than being a mom, its the best! But if you get down & have post-partum depression, it is okay & normal, seek help from your doctor. much love and good luck Momma
You know your baby best donât let people tell you your baby is fine when you know something is wrong
If youâre feeling overwhelmed please ask for help and take the help. Find support wherever you can. Itâs hard. Get as much rest as you can also. Itâs very hard
Donât be afraid to do what you want and tell others no. Donât feel bad for not wanting to be and parent how everyone else does. Be comfortable saying no.
Stay strong, your never perfect and thatâs ok. Do your best. AMD let anyone tell you how to raise your kids. Ho with your gut. Last thing, enjoy it. They are only little once and they grow up fast.
Get the zip up onesies. itâs ok to cry. Donât feel bad if youâre having a hard time breastfeeding. Itâs ok to let your baby sleep and you take care of what you need to take care of. Youâre still you youâre not just a mom you need to have time to yourself as well. Youâre mental health is important makes you a better you!
Be easy on yourself.
You both are learning and growing with each other.
The cleaning can wait, its true that the moments go by fast.
And finally, you are a great mommađ
Time flies, enjoy the best moments and take one moment from a bad to make it a good day. Itâs not foing to be easy, one minute they are newborn babies and the next teenagers and then on there own with a family and kids off their own, somedays are going to be harder then others but believe it or not itâs the moments after the hard days that make it all worth while
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Always have bottle of water for yourself next to your bed and nappies, wipes and change of clothes next to the bed for baby so you donât have to go too far during the night
A messy house will keep being messy, your baby will change daily, spend your energy on your infant.
Itâs okay to be overwhelmed. Itâs okay to cry. Itâs okay to feel like you cant do this. Every emotion you will feel is okay. Just remember itâs okay to talk about it. It will not and does not make you bad or any less of a mom. How youâre doing mentally is so important. Donât feel like you have to hide it because you are not alone.
Best advice Iâve ever gotten was, if you have tried everything from changing the diaper to feeding the baby and they are still crying, strip them down and start from scratch. Sometimes its little things that make them cry, like a random hair on their leg.
MAKE LOTS OF VIDEOS.
TAKE LOTS OF PICTURES.
This will be your fuel for hard days, even if the kid is the one who made it hard!
Do what works for you, the amount of time I was told I was making a rod for my own back and now I have the most amazing 5 year old. I also have a 3 month old, my 5 year old refused to ever be put down and was a terrible sleeper, weâve treated my daughter the exact same way and she loves to be put down and sleeps a dream. All babies are different what works for one wonât for another. They sleep or they donât. Do what works for YOUR family. Youâll do greatđ
Trust yourself, take the abundance of advice with a grain of salt. Every baby is different. Just relax, none of us really know what weâre doing.
Donât co-sleep youâll never get them out of your bed!
Just be nice to yourself and give yourself and your baby lots of grace. Find your patience and hold on to it.
If you are too overwhelmed its 100%okay to put your baby in a safe place and step away for 5 minutes even if they are crying they can pick up on your energy and if youâve exhausted all the other options (feeding diaper etc.) It may make the whole situation better if you can just take a deep breath for a second and then return to the situation
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My mother told me this at nap time donât tip toe around ur house be normal then the baby will learn to sleep threw everything⌠I could vaccum in my daughterâs room and she wouldnât wake up ⌠Donât rush anything mine will be 13 in May and Iâm not ready
Nobody knows what the hell they are doing. Us parents just wing it every day. đ¤ˇ
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Take your naps! Donât feel guilty for not getting things done. Housework can wait! Take the time to cuddle: play, read.
They grow up to fast
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My advice is to RELAX!!! My oldest is going to be 9 next month. I spent SO MUCH time that first year scared to death that I was going to screw him up some how. No juice, no sugar, everything had to be exactly by the book!! I forgot to just take a breath and enjoy him being little.
When the second one came, I was more relaxed. âOh really??? You are 7 mos old and found your big brotherâs sippy cup of juice, huh? Well if the sugar makes you hyper and you donât take a nap, I donât want to hear you complain because you did it to yourself, ya know!!â
Please, for your own sanity and to prevent mom guilt later, RELAX!!! Take a breath!!! You got this no matter what so donât ever doubt yourself!!
Youâre gonna want to lose your shit sometimes! Itâs ok to put the baby down and walk away for a minute, doesnât make you a bad mom just makes you human!
Breast milk doesnât regulate until 12 week.
Diapers are expensive, look into cloth.
Take your sweet time with that precious baby. I know it is said often and I used to be the one to roll my eyes, that I had all the time in the world with them. If you have a preemie, I would highly suggest to buy an owlet sock or something very similar⤠and know that you are a good mother, through good and bad days
Believe in yourself you are amazing you will make mistakes but that exactly what they are - mistakes xxx
You will do fine. Dont be too hard on yourself.
Stop reading all the books about babies, they are not all the same. So what works for others might not work for yours⌠And you canât never spoil a baby, babies need their mommies 24/7 and being there and providing support 24/7 makes them grow into secure, stable adults later on in life
Take lots of pictures!
The days/nights are long but the years pass quickly.
Love each precious day.
Donât over spend on your children. They do not need all those toys or clothes. Make a college fund and go on vacations!
I was also told to make a photo album for them. Print two copies of your pictures so you have one and put one in a photo album for your child. Give it to them as a wedding present. 