How is much drama in a family too much? From the beginning, there’s always been some sort of drama! Mainly my lovely sister in law, she needs to have all the attention, she needs to have everything go her way, or she lashes out! She’s mean, she spreads rumors, she lies, she physically abuses my brother in law and has openly admitted it and has tried several times to come between my husband and me! Now I have forgiven and let it go several times, but enough is enough! Her narcissistic ways have weighed down too much on my own little family, and it’s not fair. I’ve since cut ties with her, and now the whole family is turning against me and blaming me because “it’s about the kids” even though she has been a horrible nasty person to so many people, it’s somehow become my fault! I’ve told my mother in law that we just want peace and happiness and love and no drama and she told me “it’s not a perfect world” SO I’m asking how much “drama” do you all have in your family!
None in mine dramas bad for the mind
We have lots! But it’s mostly ex wife drama where she is trying to still be part of the family.
I’m about neck and neck with you only it’s my hubby family who disowned him because his bitch ass sister starts drama and their are scared of her dumb ass they believe her lies. I’ve been done with all of them I don’t need to prove anything to anyone that I’m a good person and shes not. I certainly don’t want my children around any bad people with bad vibes
I don’t have connections with any of my family, we just don’t seem to have the same point of views or life style… I am open to almost anything but they don’t accept my personal views on things so it’s always them fighting with me. You miss them yes, but it’s a lot of stress that isn’t good for you to keep trying. I don’t have bad blood with them just choose not to associate myself with the negativity.
If this isnt my own life I swear we’re twins!!.. girl I got all kinds of drama in my family. My main problem is my inlaws… my husband is so far stuck up their ass I cant deal no more. My husband is treated like a slave by his stepdad and mom… his older brother left as soon as he graduated because of the slave treatment between him and my husband… while their 2 younger half brothers are treated like kings… even his mother is treated like a slave while her husband/their step dad sits on his ass all day. I’ve brought it up to her many times that she’s a strong ass woman who needs to stand up for herself… but instead she sits there with no back bone and does whatever he asks … and then they treat my husband the same… I’ve gotten into it with them several times over the way they treat my husband and they dont care as long as hes still around to do what they need him to do… and unfortunately out of all the shit talk and the threats of this and thst… the stuff they say to him about me and trying to over take our son and the stuff they do to him right in front of him… he still stays like a puppy dog and do whatever asked of him… everyone in his family including me and told him and tried to make him see what’s going on because everyone sees and knows what going on… he still doesn’t care to listen as long as he pleases them…that’s some of my drama… but the whole sister in law thing… I get 100%… my drama with her has calmed down a tad mostly because she’s got 3 kids with my brother and now I have my son were kinds getting along…but the only time they want anything from me and my husband is if we help them… she cheated on my brother several times… called her out for it… when she went to get married her bachelorette night she called my mom and asked to watch the kids while she and everyone else went to party… didn’t even bother to invite my mom who’s helped her with so much… between her and my brother they get the royal treatment… it’s always been them over us completely… and then she tells me that my family’s never done a damn thing for her…my parents and grandparents constantly give them money for this and that…my mom came down for a whole week when she had her last kid(by csection) to help her watch the oldest 2… and then when they got married they had their wedding in PA which is where she’s from…(we live in florida) she got pissed because no one could afford to travel up north… and then when my husband and I got married(we got married in the town we live in )everyone was there because we made it to where no one had to travel… the kost anyone traveled was my husbands grandparents from texas…but we’ve somewhat made amends cause were moving and they are too so we’ve just been spending time here and there with the kids
It is about the kids. Meaning their well-being. You have every right to protect your child from toxic people no matter who the person is to your child.
Your baby comes first. F*ck them if they hate it 💁
Your lovely sister in law wins
Nope. You dont need to allow that at all. We cut all hubbys family off 2 years ago after 10 years of constant bullshit drama.
I don’t have time or energy for people and their drama. I just simply don’t communicate with people.
If something negatively effects my son, or will negatively effect him, my husband and I don’t allow him to be around it.
stick to it and stay away
It’s not your place to make everybody happy. You just have to let everyone know that you’re not going to deal with drama. Everybody needs to stop making excuses for her behavior. She will continue to do it as long as she can
Let them keep her and you can live life without them. Itll be shitty for a while because they’re all going to throw shit at you but try your best to let it fall away. I hope your husband and you are in agreement and he supports your decision. He should defend the choice you’ve made as a family. The grandparents can still see the kids if they agree to leave that non sense at the door and they come over for visits right? Under your roof they should agree to your terms.
If you don’t put a stop to it it’s only gonna get worse,We put up with so much crap, now it’s to the point Where I hope I never have to see them again!
You made your decision. Accept the benefits and the consequences. I don’t have any drama right now in my family. No toxic people pushing to be in my life. 
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…Maybe I’m the toxic one?
No drama here! I dont allow it. Keep anyone who is toxic at arms distance. Talk to them only when necessary. I get grief for it but it’s what is best for me and my family.
I know it’s awful. But your kids come first. They’re probably excepted her ways but you don’t have too. You need to decide with your husband who your children need to be around and who they do not.
Every family has that ONE person😅
I’ve learned to keep em at arms length and do my own families thing and whats in the best interest for MY FAMILY 🤷
Only you can answer what your limit is. I have a short fuse so I’m alone on purpose. Happy but it’s quiet
I don’t talk to anyone in my family at all!! And you know what it’s been a year of peace 
!!! I don’t plan on changing it either they have used my children ect pretty much same thing it came to a point where the relationship with my children and my family was very negative they only like one of my three children and don’t like my husband so needless to say it’s been amazing with out them ! My husbands family is ok way more supportive them mine we still have ups and down like anyone but it’s nothing like my family it’s mostly just me and my husband with our three kids no one really stops by or makes and effort to visit or help with the kids a baby sitter is near impossible to fine but it’s still 100 times more peaceful
Yes my sister is the attention seeker and I’ve recently cut her out, but my parents keep letting back in and out. I’m sick of telling them ‘i told you so’
Only drama around me is from my daughters dad. And I ignore it. Cause later that day or the next morning he apologizes. Dude has problems. Honestly I wouldnt want my kids around that just cause she will either do it to the kids too. Or teach it to the kids. And neither are good.
You can’t change a Narcissist, but you sure can ignore them!!
Throw the whole family away. You did not marry his family, you married him, and your kids dont need that shit. If it was me, I’d tell my husband that I’m cutting ties with his trashy family and that would be it, if he loves you and your kids he’ll follow suit
Honey your so right to disconnect from all the BS. As long as you, your children an husband are happy that’s all that matters. So what if your MIL doesn’t agree with your decision…if she chooses to feed into all the drama so be it. Just wait until it bites her in the ass. Just concentrate on your happiness an peace of mind.
When You’ve had enough!!
15 years I am seriously over it I’m thinking it’s time for me to stop today and my 50th birthday
Stay away, people can see your kids whenever they want to NOT in her presence.
Toxic is toxic regardless if its family. I’ve cut ties with plenty. If something or someone is draining me, my kids, or my relationship with my fiance… they gotta go!
Stand your ground and stay away. Tell your mother in law to grow the fuck up or shut up. You DO NOT have to tolerate your narcissistic sister-in-law and remind your hubby that you married him not his totally dysfunctional family. Keep the children out of this negative environment.
People like that enjoy it all and the others perpetuating it by entertaining her and her bad behaviours. Your making a stance and the others feels attacked also bc they are still invested. Let them go and let the relationship be on your terms
Enough is enough when it starts to effect your mental health. You did the right thing by walking away from it
Every family has that one person. Listen to your limit. Cut it out when you can’t deal with.
What is family na really… if it’s draining u stay away from it… peace of mind is much better than toxic family around… Stay where peace comforts u
I’m going thru this with my great grandchildren, because the granddaughter won’t do anything to correct the bad behavior of her 5 year old. I don’t hold it against my grandson for not wanting his boys to be around this. It hurts like hell not to be able to see them every weekend. But their safety and mental health comes before anything else. You do what you have to do
Stand your ground. She had the right to be as nasty as she wants, and you have the right to not be affected by it. You also have the right to protect your kids from it.
My only question would be : how does your husband feel about it all?
She can either shut her mouth, or you shut the door. Period.
I dont let my kids around certain family members because of how they are. I see it as protecting my kids. Blood or not you dont need toxic people in your life!
Nothing more peaceful than removing toxic people from your life. I used to be a doormat. ‘Used to’ being the operative phrase. I found myself, removed the toxicity and NEVER turned back…
I suggest it for your own sanity.
If you live in their house then get out as soon as possible and take your family with you so that way you don’t have to live in drama anymore!!!
Kids dnt need to be around that insanity anyway. So good for u mom!
If its really all about the kids then they dont need to be around someone with such horrible personality.
Plenty of drama in mine.
Their loss!!! No time for it
I did the same. Walked away from my mom. She hit my daughter who was 28. My daughter hit her back. Longer back story but of course its all our fault. Not my moms even tho it was. Ive never looked back. And I’m ok
Do her a favour , let het be checked she might be suffering from Depression episodesblet her be checked by psychiatric
Walk away! Love them from afar. You have your very own family and there is nothing wrong with wanting peace and quiet.
If your siblings can not accept that then let them have your sister in law and let them tolerate her.