When does the feeling of wanting another baby go away? Backstory: I had my tubes tied when my youngest was born almost seven years ago, and now I literally cry every month when my cycle starts because I have this deep desire to be pregnant and have another baby. Does this ever go away?!
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I’m feeling this too
The feeling never goes away I had a boy and a girl in 1988 and 1991 and then stupid me left the guy I was with that had a vasectomy taught me into getting my tubes tied back in 2000 2001 stupid me does it then here it is I’m fixing to be 49 20 years later and regret it so bad because for the last 20 years I have wanted another child so bad I was too young to have got my tubes tied it’s just sad I tell everybody I know now if they’re going to get their tubes tied to think very hard about it before they do it
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I had my tubes tied and constantly feel like I want another baby. I think its normal
It never goes away it’s been 12 years since I had my twins which made 4 kids total and I still want another one
It never goes away… I’m going through it now, I was suggested to tie my tubes or get a hysterectomy because I was high risk during both my pregnancies… today there is so many advances in medicine, I now feel so stupid for being afraid of the words high risk.
But here is what I do to ease my mind… I think of it this way my age, my health plus my finances. Plus I got two babies now and it wouldn’t be fair to add another to care for when we barely get by
I think many times we regret tying our tubes not because we truly want babies but because we can no longer do what women are meant to…I know I feel worthless and like a failure
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Have you considered adoption?
My tubes were cut and burned when I was 22. I’m 40 now and wish that I could have had more kids 
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I had my tubes tied. I love the 2 I have. Never wished for more
I just watch videos of baby/kids having a tantrum or when cleaning a diaper. The feeling does go away and comes again.
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Plenty of babies out there desperately in need of a stable loving home. If it’s really about raising and loving another child, then go that route. If it’s about being pregnant and spreading your genetics, it might be more about you than about expanding your family. 2 different things. Just food for thought. Otherwise, Idk if the feeling goes away. I don’t have the energy, money, or time for another special needs child, and since I’m 2 for 2, I’m good regardless of how tempting it is to try for more. lol
I also tell myself why have more babies/kids when you can focus more on the ones you already have. I hope that helps.
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It never goes away. I know damn well a pregnancy will kill me and we lost our youngest to a terminal, genetic disease and I still want a baby.
I don’t know I guess I’m just different but I had my tubes tied the day after my youngest was born in 2015. She will be six on the 14th and I think God every day that I do not have another baby. Saying that I do have three teenagers as well so we have four kids in total. I just know that my mental health could not take another baby and maybe that’s why I think like that.
I mean not to be all in your business but have you thought about maybe getting your tubal reversed? I heard it can be expensive but some women do it if they want another baby or maybe adoption.
You could borrow my 7 year old for a weekend. He’s a Gemini and a great reminder every second of the day why I’m on birth control.
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Babysit for another Mom who needs to work? Baby for the day and paid for it. Win-win.
Some tubals can be reversed. See your doctor.
I think for everyone it’s different I’m pregnant with baby #4 and have absolutely no desire to ever be pregnant again I was honestly done at 3
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Mine was once my daughter came out. I am 1 and done.
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It can. I had an ablation and my tubes removed June 2019. I wanted another baby but we tried and couldn’t get pregnant. The desire faded.
My youngest is 9 and I still get baby fever. I think mostly because I never got my boy.
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No. I decided after my fourth that I was done. 19 years later I had my fifth and now I’m crying because I’m a widow and I desperately want another but I don’t want a new man in my life. Can’t afford IVF and I’m almost 46
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Babysit your friends or family baby, the feeling goes away. You must have not wanted anymore after your kid was born and your feelings for another may change after caring for another.
I have 3, and absolutely don’t want anymore. I dated someone after my last was born, he wanted a baby and I had to let him go because I know in my heart I don’t want anymore.
I am almost 40 and had a hysterectomy 2009 and wish that I could still have another baby often.
i felt the same had 6 and would have loved more
Adoption is always a choice. Pretty much costs the same. 
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Just wait a while, your teenagers are almost grown, they will be having your grandbabies soon. Lol
Sounds like it was a mistake to get your tubes done…
Speak to your partner and doctor. Sometines it can be reversed.
But this is exactly the reason its nearly impossible to have it done in AUS… too many women have regret for the procedure
I dont understand why there are laughing emojis at this post. Parents laughing at another women for wanting a child whether she has one already or not.
Im sorry you are regretting your tubes being tied! Adoption is an amazing choice if a reverse surgery isnt an option for you;
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When your 19 and 3 year olds r fighting
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Whenever I get like that I ask to take a relatives newborn/small baby and the next day baby fever is gone. Works like a charm
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Volunteer to babysit a baby that has colic over night.
Play Baby Shark, Barney, or Bubble Guppies on repeat.
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Ivf could be an option for you
I had mine tied 24yrs ago after our first was born. I was just 24 Partial hysterectomy at 36. I’ll be 48 In a few months. I still have days where I see a little baby and I want one but I think back to the health problems I had bringing my son into the world and all the bottles,diapers… Nope not again…lol
I hope so. I had my tubes removed 3 months ago with the birth of my third child and I’m still trying to get used to her being my last. I had them removed because we really can’t afford any more, but it’s hard.
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Im so scared of this. I just had baby #4 and am waiting for scheduling to call for my tubal but I am so hesitant
Hmm. If you have the funds you can get a donor egg & sperm from a sperm bank (unless you have a willing father) and get an embryo implanted. But it’s pretty expensive, like $50,000.
There’s also adoption, which is also expensive & there are few healthy babies in the U.S.
But you can bring children into your life through teaching children (Sunday school, tutoring, ESL. I teach dance, but do whatever you’re qualified for), being a Big Sister, or volunteering with any number of organizations. Or offering to be a foster grandmother or just a help to a family that could use some more loving and helping hands.
Maybe go to therapy too. Why is this so crucial to you? What is so wrong with your life now that you feel only a baby could solve? Need unconditional love? Maybe a rescue dog could fill that hole in your heart. Or find a cause you are passionate about & work for world peace, clean water, saving the whales or Save the Children as a paying endeavor or as a volunteer. Know that you and your existing family can be enough.
Its hell, I know. I want to get pregnant so bad too. That feeling will be forever but the good news is many people have gotten pregnant while having their tubes tied.
I have one girl she is 5 I’m 34 the thought of the baby stage is exciting and you urn to have that again but then I remember I’d be starting all
Over again and kids are expensive and the feeling passes I am only meant to have 1 I myself was a only child