I would never leave a 1 or 2yo alone… my 4yo plays in her room alone but I check on her every 15mins
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My 4 year old and 8 month old play perfect together if i need to leave the room for a few. But i always check up on them…
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I’m sorry but I do think you are being a helicopter mom. I let my 4 and 5 yr olds stay together in a childproof room while I do other things. Check on them frequently but I don’t sit in there and regulate. Littles are learning what behavior isn’t good and they will learn to work through their differences and siblings are always mean to each other. It is the way of life.
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At that age my kids were always in my site…
My living room and daughters bedroom is all child proof and “safe rooms” basically nothing but toys. She’s 2 years old and allowed to play by herself in those rooms. Me or her dad will check on her every couple minutes just because you never know what could happen but we don’t do it for breaks. She likes to play alone sometimes so we give her the space she wants. A half hour is definitely a long time to leave them alone though I wouldn’t do it without checking every 5-10 mins
It really depends on each individual child. If your gut says “no”, then you know the answer already.
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1 and 2 is too young but 6 is fine.its time to start teaching some independence and allowing some self exploration.
But as far as that other little bullying brat,if the parents dont discipline and your child is unable to defend themself,then you defend him/her however you see fit!If that means pushing back, do it.some kids act out because theyre craving discipline.
But they would only get 1 chance to put their hands on mine, im Mama Bear and whoever has a problem with it can…
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“accidentally” trip and elbow their kid 🤷:joy: if they say anything say you didn’t think it was a problem since he can do it to your child, and if the kid says something ask how he likes it 
JK jk that’d just be a huge mess. I’d say teach his parents a lesson but it sounds like your hubby needs a lesson too
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Tell him you respect his wishes and he should show you some respect and do the same.
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I think it depends and the kid. Mine is 5.5 I check on her frequently in her own room(she’s special needs)
I leave my 8 month old in her play pen to play while I cook dinner in the other room, my mom was a helicopter parent though and scolds me for not always being in the same room as my children 24/7. We have different parenting styles. As long as the child is safe, a couple of minutes wont hurt. I wouldnt leave her for a half hour though.
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No way too young. All it takes is one little fall my daughter fell on ceramic tile and busted her head open and had to go to the hospital my other child years ago had a lamp fall on her head all it takes is one minute
To young, sounds like they are are lazy parents…
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Mine are 4 and 5 I let them go into rooms together or on their own but doors are never closed and I check up on them every couple minutes. I can always heard them or see them and don’t leave them be. 6 year old might need a break from the younger ones and you know ypurself how much you can trust your child
Do what makes you comfortable mama. If you have to police the older kids at family gatherings to advocate for yours, do it. If you have to parent the others to not be mean and advocate for yours, do it. As far as your husband deciding not to be involved or wandering off to play video games, get family friendly games to play with the kids with or spike the game console.
Definitely not age 1 especially if you are worried about him being bullied… My 1 year old loves to try to pull the night lights out of the socket and always seems to find any semi small toy to put in his mouth, 2 is sort of iffy… I do let my 4 and 5 year old play in another room but they always come whining to me about anything little that goes wrong… but with the bully kid I’d probably be rude to him if he didn’t stop and his parents didn’t control him if he doesn’t listen to someone correcting him
I definitely wouldn’t leave the one year old alone probably not even the two year old
I’m like the most overbearing mother in the world and I leave my 1 and 2 year old to play in their rooms alone sometimes.
I don’t close the door or anything. But I don’t just take off… I can hear if anything is going on. How big is your house? 
I guess since I have a small apartment this has never even been a question to me?
At 1 and 2 I wouldn’t leave them. When my oldest was 2 years old he was in the lounge playing, I went to feed his brother in the bedroom and his dad went to the toilet. By the time my partner came out (like 2 min later) my son had escaped the house and was across the road in the neighbours yard. Thank God we lived in a quiet area or I don’t know what could have happened.
Your youngest kids are still babies. Leaving them alone for half an hour is bordering negligence, in my opinion. So much can happen within just a few minutes; why risk it to play video games? Not even to finish work or put a load of laundry on… Video games?! That’s not worth the safety of your children. I’ve seen a few comments suggesting that the 6 year old can keep an eye on the younger two and that is equally baffling to me. A 6 year old is not responsible for their 1 and 2 year old siblings. That in addition to the rest of his behaviour… your husband should re-evaluate his priorities and whether he truly has their best interest at heart.
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I’m sorry but I’ve got a three-year-old and a one-year-old I can honestly say I do leave the rooms they’ll do their own thing and play by themselves the three-year-old basically deals the one-year-old know because he knows the difference between good and bad I’m not saying your kids don’t but unless you leave them alone they’ll never learn that they can do stuff independently they’re always going to want your help but it’s okay to leave them alone for a little bit so you can clean our go to the bathroom by yourself or cook dinner
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My 3 and 1.5 yr old play in their room… door open…
We have Cameras so I just open the app on my phone and keep an eye on them… and i can talk and hear theu the camera too. They normally just run in and out anyway lol
Whoop the bullies ass … whoop your biters ass… 10 minutes alone, walk in check on them… walk back out… They have to learn some sort of independence.
I let my 2 year old play in her room by herself all the time but it’s all childproof nothing that will fall or anything else that could hurt her is in there. Her door never shuts and she will go in their and play with our german sheperd. I dont see a problem with letting your child play by themselves in a safe environment. As for the other brat I wouldnt allow my children to play or be around him. Bullying is bullying no matter what age.
No one knows their children better than their momma. If you don’t think it’s ok then it probably isn’t-maybe later this year
My almost 3 year old and his almost 4 year old bff play in different rooms from where I am often, they always have. I wouldn’t leave the house longer than to check the mail or trash bins out but I think they’re completely fine just being in a different room from you at any given time during the day even with sensory disorder and biting habits. But that’s just my opinion I wouldnt like lock myself in another room but have no issues leaving them to do dishes or laundry or anything
I could leave my oldest alone in a room from a young age. Even to shower. (Super quick shower but still hahah) my youngest, not a chance. 5 mins and she was doing something, shes 5 and still needs constant checking up on
All kids are different.
My son is 15 months, he plays in his room by himself so I can get stuff done around the house I have a camera up watching him, nothing is plugged in, sockets are covered. It’s okay to let your child be independent.
6 and 2 year old would probs be okay to be in the other room together unsupervised but I’d say the 1 yr old is too young
It’s ok to leave the kids to play in there rooms. Let the kids entertain each other especially at home. Normally if a kids quiet then it’s time to investigate lol. Also for the kid that is bullying that’s a sticky situation cause it sounds like that kids is allowed to act that way. I’ve always told mine to never throw the first punch but if someone hits them to defend themselves. There was a boy that would always hit and fight my kid and one day he made Hunters nose bleed and the parents laughed it off at that point I told Hunter hit him back next time. The boy came back and tried doing again one day and hunter laid him out busted his nose and everything that kid stopped hitting him from that point on.
My kids are 2 and 8 and they play alone in their rooms or upstairs in the playroom all the time💁♀️ if one gets hurt then someone will come tell me, ill kiss the booboo and then they go on and play. They’ve been playing alone since they can walk, both of them.
I have a two story house. I will be on the first floor and my 2 year old daughter in her room on the second floor playing and watching her shows while I clean. I have what is called a dormi. It is an app on the phone that is for monitoring baby. Its video and audio. It has flashlight and night vision abilities. If you have a spare phone simpily download the app to both phones put up a command hook in each room you feel youd ever leave baby alone in. Make sure you get a cheep 10ft charging cord for the spare phone and a wall outlet is close to the hook on the floor ect. Hang it up high enough and at an angle so you can see as much of the room as possible
Never leave kids to babysit kids !!! Not ok . Your husband is wrong.
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1 and 2 year olds should never be left alone. A 6 year old would prolly be okay, but I personally wouldn’t leave my 6 year old alone for a long time, they still could choke or have an accident. Just like any child could, at any age.
Considering the info, for your children I think you are right. For my children (2,4,7 & 8) I can leave the room and let them play and know they’re fine. Same as family gatherings, I keep an eye on them but Im not like up their arses following them around, but thats my personal circumstances. If I had the same circumstances as yours Id never leave their sides lol
My daughter is almost one and ive left her in her pac n play while i took a 20 minute shower and cleaned the bedroom. Leaving the house i would say 8-11. As for leaving the room i would say a half hour isnt that bad.
Let me add i also live in a one bedroom apartment. If you have a large house i would say if you have to leave the room take the 2 younger ones and put them in there rooms for a minute. My daughter cant get out of her pac n play and shes still in a crib.
At 6 yes it’s fine. But 1 and 2? That’s a no from me, I have a 2.5 year old and I dont trust him alone, now his 4 year old sister is allowed to go play in her room
I am a helicopter mama and I give zero f**** What anyone says lol. My son is 1 and constantly putting stuff in his mouth, for example he almost swallowed a marble his sister left on the floor the other day so no I wouldn’t leave him be for more than 5mins at a time lol. I let him wander through the house but I keep a watchful eye constantly lol.
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I think it’s up to you and what works for your family. We have a 3.5 year old and a 9 month old and they play together well, I can let them both play in the playroom with a baby gate up and go take a shower or go do laundry or whatevs. I’d never leave them like home alone or anything, but our living room and playroom are set up for kids and my 3.5 year old will come get me if his sister so much as sneezes. At family gatherings the 3.5 year old goes and plays with his cousins in the yard or wherever toys are, and we check in periodically. I think a lot of it comes down to personalities and how they play. Our only rule is the kids don’t eat unsupervised because of their ages
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It depends on the kid. Some kids are great by themselves. My oldest at 2 years old could be left in a room without worry, he’d come get me if he needed. My youngest is almost 2 and I wouldn’t leave him for 5 seconds alone because my house would have exploded.
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6 year old can play in another room. The others same room
You do need to let go a bit, but not leave kids alone where one may get hurt, how about getting a baby monitor so you can leave them alone, but still see what they are doing while you do something else
My daughter is 2 and I don’t follow her everywhere, my house is VERY child proof though
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I once left my 2 year old unattended with her 2 year old friend…I ended up with black sharpie all over the walls
the 6 yo is fine. 1 and 2? nah.
At 4 I started leaving my son alone to play or watch tv while I did some chores or take a shower. Now he’s 5 and I have no issues leaving him alone for a while. At 1 or 2 though I wouldn’t have dared to leave him unsupervised even for a couple minutes, they still don’t know right from wrong and could still get them selves into a lot of trouble
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At your own home, it should be a non-issue to allow your children to play freely without you having to be in the room and standing over them constantly.
Its not realistic to watch them every second of every day and it deters their ability to foster independence.
My kids are 2 and 6.
They can play in their room or the living room. I check on them periodically if im not in the same room but i don’t need to hover. If there’s an issue they let me know.
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1st of all… if as kid elbows my baby in the face ON PURPOSE & the parents do nothing to the kid… I’m gna find out if they can take an elbow to thr face… & 2nd… NOBODY dad or not is just gna TAKE my kids & leave me at home… I have 4 kids… ages 16, 5,2 & 5 months… the 5 & 2 year olds do play in thr room without me in thr…
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It’s fine.
My daughter is 14 months old and I sit in the lounge room outside her bedroom while she plays in her room with the door open.
If she has been playing quietly for a few minutes I’ll check on her.
If I hear her talking I leave her be
Maybe your kids are getting bullied because you are being over the top and making them stand out
6 alone with the 2 yes, 2 on their own no, 1 no
They can play in another room with the door open if they’re within earshot, But I’d always go check every 10mins
Your 6 yo yeah, not the 2 lil ones
I’ll put it this way, the 6 year old is probably fine in a room alone for a few mins WITH AN OPEN DOOR. I have a 6 year old that will sit in his room alone without being bothered. However we check on him. Same with my 8 year old.
The 1 and 2 year olds are probably not ready to be left alone in a room. They could get into so much in just a matter of seconds. The only exception I fined to be okay is naptime/bedtime also with an open door.
Always supervise kids till they don’t need to be supervised any longer x age has nothing to do with it xx
I mean the 6yr old yes the 2 yr old eh the 1 yr old no
Given what you’re saying and they’re age, be the helicopter🤷♀️ It seems you’ve explained your reasons why to your husband and they’re not good enough for him for some reason? That would be my biggest issue, it just seems disrespectful to basically say “then I’m taking the kids without you, even though you’re clearly uncomfortable because of XYZ and your feelings about OUR kids are irrelevant because I was fine”. IMO, parents NEED to be on the same page, whether you disagree or not, you need to back your partners/other parents wishes and COMPROMISE!
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My daughter just turned 2 in November, and for the last 5 months she would go in her room and watch TV or play and she’d close the door until she needed me. I’ve tried putting stuff in the way but she’d move it and close the door. She just rather be alone 
I think it depends on the children and situation. You’re the mom if your instinct says not yet than go with that and who cares what they think. Alot of the time mom knows best, especially when you are the one around them daily
Also if the parents don’t say anything to that child for being aggressive, you say something to the child. As parents we are the only ones that can truly stand up for our kids. If your husband wont do it, you do it. I say stuff all the time to kids that are mean to mine. Now I dont lay a finger on them, but a stern “Don’t do that to my son, that is really mean. I wouldn’t want him to do that to you.” Won’t hurt him, but it will send a message to him and his parents.
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Mom’s know best don’t EVER doubt it! Go with what YOU know is the right thing to do.
No way!!! Imo yall should get a camera that goes in the room for.when you need a break …my 6 yr old I trust I’ll just be like “____ what ya doing ya ok?” But my son just turned 4 and there is no way in hell I trust him for 10 min alone in another room he is roudy and were having him tested for autism spectrum disorder but he may not have it…every kid is diff and some more responsible than others trust your motherly instinct if.you don’t think it’s ok don’t do it and if your husband wants to keep running his mouth tell him "I’m not asking you to watch them so just stop " and the thing with the other kids …they wouldn’t be allowed around my kids anymore
One is too little young to be unsupervised. The rest are okay. You’re in the same house.
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No don’t still young 6 year old ya that’s old enough to know but 1 and 2 no anything can happen my 3 year old ya I can leave him in his room to play and read books but it’s in a safe room by himself my youngest I won’t but she’s only 8 months and she scares me she puts everything in her mouth doesn’t matter what it is or how small it is she finds something and trys to eat it she thinks everything is food
If your children cannot play freely without you watching them every second of every day, you have not baby proofed correctly and that’s your own fault. My children play independently with me periodically checking in, my oldest is almost 3 youngest almost 1. Theres nothing they can get into. Relax a little.
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1 and 2 yr olds…never…you CANNOT leave them unsupervised
The six year old is fine to leave alone in a room to play for a half hour, you can’t watch them forever. At some point you need to allow your child some alone time to be independent. In regards to your second child, that’s a different story, being sensory sensitive is difficult so you would probably want to stick around a little more for their safety and comfort. Besides the fact that your two youngest are too young to be allowed in a room unattended. You just never know. Good luck though!
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My one year old was always within view of not in the same area as I … my oldest bullies my second and my second has Sensory overload disorder and falls along the gray line of being on the spectrum and my youngest (he’s 4 now) just kinda does his own thing and likes other stuff he isn’t a fan of being around his older sisters anyways but my girls are a little older of an age gap than your kids 13 and 10 but it does get over whelming with the kids constantly in the same space but maybe if he’s not on a headset that he can hear if an issue arises, my so gets too into the game that he wouldn’t ever think to stop and check the kids I swear
Mine are 6 5 and 1 I have left my oldest two alone when they where 3 to play while i got stuff done around the house I would cheak on them all the time or call there name and see what they were doing now they watch and play with there little brother but when they are at school nope ny baby is always with me while i do dishes hes in the kitchen with me playing with his toys witch ever room im in hes in there too with me
If you’re still in the house, they aren’t alone. Geez. That being said, 4 and up should be within listening distance. All children are different tho so depends on the child.
My son is 4 and he will play in his room by himself, but i check on him constantly. I watch his cousin who is 2 and he will play by himself also. His bedroom is in eye distance from our couch so they are being watched closely all day. Just be sure to secure all dressers and toy shelves to the wall so they cant tip them over.
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I think it all depends on what you’re comfortable w/ when it comes to your kid. You know them best. My 1.5 year old can play in his bedroom by himself because it’s completely safety proofed , of course we still wander in to check on him or pull him up in his monitor but we don’t need to sit in there w/ him. 30 minutes is a long time to leave them alone.
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My son is almost 5 and he plays in his room alone all the time
If u r just leaving them in a room alone there is nothing wrong with that hover much
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I was never left alone until I was 10
I definitely use to leave my son in the living room with his toys and books while I went and threw a load of laundry in or put my makeup on I could hear him and the house was pretty well child proofed.
they are going to be fine…if its just the room…my kids are 7 5 and 3…we leave them alone in their room all the time to go to household chores
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A 1 and 2 year old should never even cross an individuals mind to leave them unattended.
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My son is 4 but also has autism and lately I hesitate to leave him in a room alone. I can barely go to the restroom for a few minutes because he starts getting into things he knows he’s not supposed to. So in this case, we make sure he’s always around someone. It’s different for every cold, however.
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My kids were left watching tv alone while i did chores at 6 & 7 yrs old. They did pretty good at that age.
My 4 year old has a huge playroom that hes left to. He also has free reign of the house. But our only thing is that he’s only allowed on whatever level we’re on. He can’t be upstairs alone while were downstairs and vice versa. If you’ve properly baby proofed the kids should be ok with periodical checks. You don’t need to be up on them every minute of every day. They need to learn to play independently too and to keep themselves occupied the right way.
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I would never leave a 1 and a 2 yr old unsupervised. Is the 6 yr old having to babysit ???
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Seriously? A 6 year can be in a room without a parent. Maybe even a two year old if its kid proof. Even a one year old for that matter. You need to let your kids grow up
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Ain’t no damn way my husband would take anyone’s side but mine. He would tell me later what he thought was wrong that I did but to the world and everyone else we are a united front.
As for the aggressive child, elbow him back and say he fell
I think with all of your concerns. Dont leave them alone. You know your own children. If you leave them alone and something happens than everyone’s going to turn and say why did you leave them alone. ( based on the little one that bites)
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Teach the 6 year old to fight…lol seriously we had a boy next door who was his frienemy and he would knock mine down in our back yard, slap him, just mean in front of me or not he was a brat. I banned him from my yard. So my son was 4 at the time the other boy was 6. I told him if he does anything to you again (see each other at the park with siblings) you punch him right on the face and we practiced. Call it crappy parenting, but that lil kid didn’t mess with mine anymore. 
no need to constant hover if they can stand up for themselves.
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Lol my kids are 2 & 6 and play in their rooms fine
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You protect your kids. End of story. Doesn’t matter what anyone says because if something happens they will blame you
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I only have one child and he’s 2. let’s just say I can’t leave him unsupervised ever
1 and 2 need supervision at least look at them every 2-3 minutes they get into stuff fast lol and if they’re quiet run to check… 6 tho give that kid some space
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My kids r 1.5 and 4 they go to their rooms and play all the time with each other or by themselves
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How TF does anyone leave their 1 yr old unsupervised?? I’m asking because I WISH this was possible. This kid is crazy!! I find him climbing his clubhouse or trying to stand on his push car 
He just spent a night in the hospital after hitting his head against a chair hard enough to give him a Concussion. That happened right in front of both parents and his older sister, I can’t imagine leaving him unattended for even a minute 
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I have a 6 and 3 year old they both play independently with us checking on them periodically but my 3 year old is never long by himself he usually comes and finds one of us around the house
Same if they start to fight they either find one of us and we help them deal with whatever it is or they figure it out themselves
You will be aboe to tell with the cries what is one you have to see and what is one that they can deal with
And with other kids being mean you can always say something i know i have spoken up to others and the kids often stop being mean
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Usually before something serious happens. Ur mom senses will kick in.
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I never left my 1 & 2 year old unattended anylonger than to use the restroom. If your child with sensory issues is the older one and is autistic he may not understand as a 6 year old and could accidentally hurt one of the other children. I think always supervise them together. You know you children better than. Anyone go with your mother instinct. I think dad is being a bit lazy.
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My son 2 and plays alone in the living room and his room he’s also a only child tho and i can see him on the baby monitors maybe at least discuss with your husband about putting some up where you can be in your own space yet still be able to hear and see what the kids are doing it would be a compromise where you both don’t really lose you can still supervise them while attending to whatever you want.
Never till they are 21 lol
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I let my 2 year old and 4 year old play in their room alone. I frequently go up and check on them.
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Your husband is out to lunch. A 6 year old can not properly supervise a 1 & 2 year old.
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Maybe your kid is biting him. 
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I let my 1yo play by himself in his room.
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No way 1 and 2 yr old will put anything in their mouth and choke… No no no
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