How young is too young to be left alone? My kids are 1,2,6. My husband thinks leaving our kids in a room and leaving the room is fine. He will play on his video games. He will tell me to leave the room and take a break that his parents did it to him, and he turned out fine. My youngest bites, my middle child has a sensory disorder. I don’t think it a good idea, and we argue about it constantly. I believe we could do dishes while they play…but leaving the room for half hr is too much. He also thinks on family dinner nights with his family to allow the kids to be unsupervised. I am called the helicopter means parent because I won’t allow the kids by themselves in a room. One kid bullies my kids at the gatherings, and his parents don’t give him repercussions for his actions. He elbows my kids in the face, and his parent acts like it’s my kid’s fault, or they just say don’t do it. He’s very aggressive. What should I do? I’ve threatened not to go over there, but my husband will tell me he will take the kids and leave me at home. I’m scared my kids will get hurt. My youngest can’t even talk…he picks on him the most because of it. I’ve had to tell him to go to his mother, and he couldn’t play with us, whic,h led to a fight with my husband and me. He always takes there side over mine.
One and two is too young. Six year old should be fine
Maybe if the one and two yo are in a playpen
Your husband is the fourth child it sounds like! Sheesh 
Maybe record how these other kids act with your child. Send each family member ignoring it the video. Tell them discipline their kids or you will. A swat on the ass never killed anyone.
I wouldn’t say they’re too young. But with age combinations, the biting, and the sensory issues I wouldn’t leave them all alone together
This is a repeated post 
from January…
Six is fine, one and two year old far too young x
Being a helicopter mom is fine especially for your younger children. I agree with the previous comment. Your husband is the fourth child and the bully. Stay in there mom. You will never regret it.
Depends what they’re doing in the room. I didn’t follow my kids around 24/7 and left them either alone or alone together in rooms their entire lives but again it depended on what they were doing (my kids ate 16, 8, 9 and the younger 2 are boys and super rough with eachother at times. Always have been. Probably always will be)
I’m the odd man out:::: they are fine. Is he leaving them in the bathtub alone? Is that room baby proofed? If not then … do it… then they can be left alone. Problem solved
So we’re just repeating questions now? This is the second one I’ve seen that’s a repeat from last year. Word for word.
6 year old is fine to be left alone. A 1 and 2 year old no way. They could put something in their mouth and choke.
Your husband is wrong on every level.
6 yr old fine for short periods… 1 and 2 year old?!? NO WAY! Way too many things could go wrong, and 6yr old should not be given the responsibility of keeping the other two safe- not the child’s job.
My kids are 3 and 5 and I let them play alone in rooms.
Maybe they are repeating questions so they can get some more opinions. I don’t know why everyone is so pissed off about it like if you don’t like it… follow something else 
Not a 1 and 2 year old. To young to be left unsupervised and to young to have a 6 year old keep an eye out.
6 yo sure, but not the younger two.
That’s a lot of issues. Mine are one and three, we do not leave them alone ever. Like in the kitchen and they are in the living room, but it’s all connected! If we are at anyone else’s house, we DO NOT ever let them out of our sight
Helicopter parents save lives
You know your kids and what’s best for them, if your not comfortable leaving them unattended for any amount of time that’s your call, me personally I don’t care if my kids are in there rooms alone, I’ll check in on them often but I don’t follow them everywhere. There 7,5 and 2.
As long as the house is child proof. Also cameras in the play room work great.
The 2 and 6 year old can play together in a room for short periods of time. The 1 year old should not be alone
My son is 19 months and he and my 7 year old play alone in his (childproof) room all the time.
I see nothing wrong with younger children being left in a room by themselves if the room is baby proof, door open, and a safety gate in place for short periods, like long enough to start a load of laundry, to wash the dishes, play pens are also good for that. Nothing says your can’t check on them frequently. If you hover too much they won’t ever learn to play by themselves so you can get stuff done. When it comes to the family your little ones will one day be big enough to fight off the kids that are picking on them. Your hovering and worrying about every little thing does no good for them or you.
6 year old yeah sure for maybe an hour or so,if the 1 and 2 year old are upstairs with you while your cleaning and you pop your head in to see what they are doing every now and then year sure i did it and as for the dinner gatherings ild be telling your husband ypu dont like it or ild be filing for divorse just because thats his family doesnt mean they can treat his kids like trash and allow that to happen to them
Why don’t u out dad and his games in ur room were he belongs lmao… And have livingroom set up for younger kids play area and maybe make a more 6 yr old play zone in his room and if u have more space in another area like bsmt or something but also have play for him in livingroom just gives him more freedom of choice to play in house while other lil ones are still to wee
There is no leaving my kids they follow me everywhere. But yes I do walk out or the room without them.
You do not need to bring your kids everywhere with you in your house. Do you not let your kids play on their own?
I don’t hover over my kids like that once my youngest was mobile I let her and her older brother play in another room together while I do other things. I check on them frequently. They are now 3 and 6. They are currently roaming the patch of woods on our property. I can’t see them but I can hear them and they can’t get off our property. I’m
You feel comfortable watching them and that is how it should be. What is the purpose that he is seeking by leaving them alone?
He needs to take the wheel too and when you cook he watches them and when he cleans you watch them and in other opportunities both will be watching them and enjoying them.
Your husband is just trying to play the “lazy” parent so he can have adult time maybe? Well sorry buddy once you have little ones you have to just buckle up and be a parent
Tell your husband to kiss your ass! He is the dad, HOWEVER , no one knows like the mama. You being proved right may cost your kid damage sonehow… dont be shy about avoiding that!! I had to stand firm, one cousin wasnshootingnat my kid with a bb gun hed just got for christmas…no one reprimanded him
…I took the gun from the kid and walked my kids into the grandparents home to gather our things and left the gun and left, 7 he ride back home. Hes my ex now
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As far as family gatherings I’d tell your 6 yr old to stand up to the kid who is bullying him and if he hits him to hit him back since his mother won’t do anything about it
The other 2 little ones i understand not leaving them unattended at gatherings but not at home.
U dont need to sit on the room with them every second. I have twins. They are all over.
Leave your husband he sounds like a piece of shit.
Depends on the room, depends on the kids. I’m sure they’d be fine for a short amount of time in their own home. I’m pretty sure most parents don’t follow their kids around constantly.
Your right…he’s wrong protect your children do what ever it takes. F***EM an his family too.
Mine is 3 I let her sit in a room by herself, I check on her frequently and have a camera in her room. But if one of your kids is biting and the other has a sensory issue it may be a different situation. If you don’t feel comfortable with it then don’t do it. I never do anything with my child that I don’t feel comfortable with…
i’d say if they were all playing together ethane they’re fine to be in a room together. but outside? no. in your house in like a play room or something yeah it’s totally fine to leave them be for a little bit.
I let my 3yo play in his room by himself. But I know what’s in there, and I check on on him every so often. But just leave him in any room alone or in someone else’s house in a room alone? No. If he’s in the living room I might go to my kitchen, but I can see him, we have a very open concept home, there for I can keep my eye on him.
Only you, mom, knows what is best for your kids. They’re part of you, your body & soul. Sounds to me like he’s setting you up to feel comfortable with them being bullied. Get your oldest into self defense/martial arts. Teach him to defend himself & siblings. Until then keep an eye on the bully. Keep record of every family dinner, you asking not to go, how you & kids are treated. You’ll need it in the future when you’ve finally had enough of your husband & family bullying you around & divorce him
Mine is 2 and I let her play in rooms alone. Shes currently playing in her room right now. Of course I check on her but I’m not going to sit in there and watch her every move when I’ve got things around the house to do.
My 6 and 4 yr old are currently playing in one of their bedrooms while my 2 yr old watchs morning cartoons while I have a cuppa and wake up and i can see both doors from where im sitting and I can hear them, sometimes they get silly and jump around or have arguments and sometimes they hit each other but thats what kids do of course any fighting or hitting is dealt with quickly, but they need to firgure stuff out for themselves and kids get hurt its part of being a kid.
This is the second time I’ve seen this one.
My 2 year old boys play alone in their room.
Why are you posting stuff from 3 months ago???
It’s your house you say what goes and what doesn’t . Set an example for them then. It’s your house your space if they don’t act right then they can leave. My go to is if you don’t stop I will ask you to leave . Idc . Raise your kid or get out.
He sounds like a shitty dad
Baby monitors are perfect for this. Let them play in another room and you can still watch everything!
5-6 is old enough. The rest need to be supervised.
Some of y’all are real messed up. The little kids will be okay for short periods. If you can’t leave your 6 year old alone in a room for at least an hour, you’ve already failed. And anyone saying only mom knows best and if dad doesn’t get on board he can leave can fuck right off. It’s dad’s house, too, and dad is a parent. You guys don’t see eye to eye, no couple ever does 100%. But quit acting like he’s letting the kids play with crack pipes. Some of y’all need a serious Xanax.
Lets be honest. Sometimes mommy needs to do something and it us easiest without chiĺdren. My boy is 2.3 and I leave him downstairs for 10/15 minutes sometimes while I am upstairs, I leave all doors open, no music on so I can hear eveything. I always make sure he is really into the activity he is doing and he knows when he calls me I come right away. If he is fussy I take him with me. I would never leave my child unsupervised with other (older or agressive) kids in someond elses house.
I always let my.son have his alone time
Only the 6 year old. Not the babies
Protect your children, at 1 and 2 no not in another room.
Tell him to go sit in the bedroom and take a break and play his video games I don’t think children that age should be locked in a room
My daughter is almost 6 and she is allowed to play in her room or the living room alone. I wouldn’t leave a 1 or 2 year old alone though.
Sounds like your husband needs to man up and stand up for you and your kids.
10-15 minutes is fine to be alone to play, you should ideally check on them after that but I agree with you 1 and 2 years a lot can happen when they are with other kids! My kids are 8 and 2 and if they play together in another room I still holler in there and ask what they are doing or if he is watching his baby sister. Your husband shouldn’t allow other people’s kids to pick on his, period!
I wouldnt leave a 1 or two year old.
At 6 yes alone 1 and 2 not for more than a couple of min…
My two year old plays in her bedroom on her own but sometimes with her friends who are also two. It’s a safe room and I have monitors to keep an eye on them.
Set up a video monitor and watch from the other room it’s good for them to have their independence and alone time with siblings. Your husband might be annoyed bc he’s a man and probably doesn’t think much about how they could get hurt. All kids get hurt if you react to everything they do they will react the same way
I understand leaving the 6 yr old for some alone time but not the other two. Too young.
I make sure If my 16mo is alone shes given NOTHING she can get into. I mean NOTHING
You need to relax a bit. My 2 year old will destroy her room but I still leave her in there to play for a little while. I wouldn’t leave my 2 year old alone with another baby tho
6 I’d say is plenty old. 1 and 2 I think need to be checked on while at home. Or have a baby monitor of sorts. As far as a the in laws I would 1000% stick by my kids if there is another child bullying. The parents not correctly monitoring their kid.
I just recently started letting my 3.5 yo play alone, but I am always within earshot and he knows where to find me.
I leave my 3 and almost 5 year old in their playroom unsupervised some of the day but I don’t leave the 5 month old in there with them unless I’m in there. Independent play without an adult is good for kids
6 yes, not 1 or 2 but still not even the 6 year old for too long of periods. You would still want to check in. You’re doing the right thing by feeling that way. YOU know your children, not us hun. Do what you feel is best but i wouldn’t leave a 1 or 2 year old unattended in another room.
6 years old yes cause they know things but the other 2 kids no
If the room is childproofed, I would use a baby monitor so they can have some independent play and you can have piece of mind. I would not be comfortable with them being unmonitored around a child that will bully them and would protect my children from the abuse allowed by other adults who refuse to reprimand the bullying child.
My kids are 3 and 9 and get can play alone without me worrying. But I have everything put completely up that I don’t want them to have (markers, paint, slime etc.) The 3 year old on her own, I don’t leave alone for very long just because she will take everything out all at once and make a mess.
My daughter is 2 and a half and will walk into her room unattended. Shes pretty good about just playing with her toys, or sometimes shell climb into her crib and read a book lol. Shes in there with the door open unattended for maybe 20 mins at a time. Her room is babyproofed, door stays open, and im a room away and can still hear everything. To me that seems okay. But i know my kid. Not every child can be left like that.
Well I wouldn’t go over there anymore for one. But my kids have free reign of my house except my bedroom. They are 1, 4, and 6. My home is baby proofed as well and I never go more than 15 mins without checking on them even if it’s just a sound off lol. I’ll yell out the baby’s name and wait for him to respond then the older kids. The six year old is very good at telling me what the baby is up to though and usually he’s with him in the same room bc that’s his idol at the moment.
I let my 8 and 6 year old play on there own in there bedrooms they get up in the morning on therr own I use to I wiukdent let my youngest be on her own as I worry about her as she has possible autsm and she having these funny turns like fits so she cant be on her own but she kicks off and tries to push us out so we have abought a camera that way she is getting to stay on her own but I can keep an eye on her from the camera she will think it’s great leaving her to play when ever she wants plus I can keep eye on her on the night as well x
I have a 1yr old and he’s never unsupervised. He can sit and play in his room and I check on him every 5 or 10 mins but majority of the time I’m playing with him. At gatherings, he’s the youngest and never left uunattended because I’m his mom and he can’t talk yet so it’s my responsibility to make sure his cousins don’t pick on him or rough him up. You go with your gut feeling. Idc what my SO parents allowed him to do, that’s them. Doesn’t matter what your husband’s parents allowed your husband to do, you know your kids better than anyone. In my opinion, don’t leave them unsupervised. Especially if one bites and can’t talk to tell you if something happens and your other has sensory issues. Be the helicopter or you will regret it. They can get over it.
I have a 6, 4 and 1 year old. All doors are to remain open except bathroom door. My house is baby and kid proof. My house is basically made for them. My 1 year old likes to play nerf guns with the 2 oldest without bullets of course so i let him. It all depends on the maturity level. My 6 year old very mature but i do check in with them every couple minutes. But if your child has sensory issue and is being bullied i dont think they shpuld be left unattended
At 6 yes but 1 or 2 year old I wouldn’t walk away for like 5-10 minutes max but it’d be checking all the time
Your husband should be backing your decisions over anyone’s. They’re your children, do what makes YOU comfortable.
My kids have always been allowed to explore our home alone
Check on them
The 6 year old and 2 year old are fine but the 1 year old no.
I leave my 2 year old and 10 month old in their playroom all the time. As long as everything is child proofed and you are listening for them I think it’s fine. I would never get anything accomplished if they had to be right next to me 24/7.
I let my 7 year old and 2 year old play together alone. But not for long periods. I always check up on them. BUT they also get along really good, don’t bite, or hit each other🤷🏼♀️ if I were you, I would set up a video monitor so you can still watch them and make sure they’re ok but still physically check up on them.
My three year old plays by herself for like an hr at a time. I’d keep a one or two year old near me though…
Kids that young should never be unsupervised
I would let them all play together… talk to the other mom and come up with rules the kids have to follow.
Way more advice but it sounds like you need to find a good therapist/ counselor to help you deal with some of these specific challenges🙂 best of luck! Don’t be afraid to reach out!
The 1 and 2 year olds, no. I would have them somehow supervised at all times
My 7 year old and 1.5 year old play together alone in other rooms sometimes. It’s really not a big deal, our rooms are baby proof and they have a blast together.
With the 6yo there l would say leaving the room but staying in the house for no more than 15 minutes. Anything happens the 6 yo will tell or the little ones will cry out.
Plus, when we were kids, some of my older cousins were rougher and meaner to us younger ones and my parents weren’t mealy mouth about it. They didn’t care who they pissed off. They said either y’all discipline your kids or I’m about to, then they took them seriously and told the older ones to be nicer to the younger ones. Just gotta stand your ground. When kids get hurt these days, hospitals automatically think it’s abuse. Another reason not to leave them alone. Kids get hurt but gotta be careful.
The two youngest I wouldn’t leave for more than a couple of minutes.
For a few here and there is fine. My daughter played alone in her room since she was three or four but she also didn’t have a younger sibling til almost a year ago now. She’s 9. I have her keep an eye on her brother in his room so I can use the restroom, wash bottles, or get dinner going. They’re not actually alone and I’m a single room over for a few minutes.
The 6 year old should be okay to be left in a room alone. If you have to leave the younger ones alone, say to like run to the bathroom or grab something from another room or clean up a little, then make sure they are distracted. Give them toys to play with or turn on a cartoon they will sit and watch, you could probably even have the 6 year old keep an eye on them for a minute. But they should not be left alone for a long period of time.
Maybe look for another husband
I did with mine but I gradually built up to that. Check on them often and then increase time as I could
My kids are 6,4,3,1 and the 3 year old is autistic they all get left in the living room with their toys and their rooms alone so I can get stuff done. 
I’d say they are fine just check in them from time to time. As far as the other kid messing with your babies smack that kids ass his parents clearly won’t discipline him and I’m sure I’ll get back lash for this but several friends and family members kids have been spanked by me for hurting or being an ass to my kids. I don’t play around big or small I’ll smack them all when it comes to protecting my kids.
I have a 1 and 3 year old, their rooms are child proofed so I’m comfortable leaving them play alone but will still check on them every 10/15 minutes
No
Watch your kids at all times
Buy a gate open the door so you can watch them but they cannot come out
The 6 year old yes… even maybe the 6 and 2 year old. But Id be within a good ear range and lay my eyes on them every 15 minutes or so. Not the 1 year old!!