At what age do you start knocking on a child’s door before you open it? I’ve taught my son to knock on my door before he opens it. He’s eight years old, I was wondering if I should start extending the same courtesy to him?
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I would. If he’s allowed to have it closed then you should knock before going in.
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If the doors closed I’d knock
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I always do out of respect for them… yes kids deserve respect also
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Yes knock .teach manner early
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When they move out.
Let me add the lol so all the Karen’s don’t get offended
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At age 8 I would knock and proceed in, I personally would not wait for him to say come in.
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Yes, you should show him the same courtesy and knock.
When they get their own house and outa mine. Children are not equal to parents and if you teach them that they’re equal the respect for adults will leave. Next you’ll be asking permission to enter when they’re up to mischief. Don’t give kids authority over adults and yes knocking on the door is asking permission and that’s too much authority at any age. Keep them a child til they leave to meet authority and respect. It varies to what degree depending on the child. Furthermore these are my thoughts and if you don’t like it talk to God. I said wtf I said
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I knock if my sons door is closed. For the most part he typically keeps it open.
I listen and if he or she is on a call or something, I come back. I generally tap lightly then walk right in, especially if I am just dropping off a snack or clean clothes or something.
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We had an open door policy.If just hanging out the door stays open a couple inches, still knock and enter.May have door shut for changing clothes purposes,etc,knock and wait to enter,approx 10 min,.I allowed privacy but no secrecy.
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Please, I think it teaches common courtesy.
I don’t knock I have dogs lol and then they race and srand between you and whatever you knock on. My son is 11 and the doors are to remain open…changing clothes? Go in the bathroom. If I need to get in the door to the bedroom and it’s closed I just say knock knock
I def knock before entering, I’ll give a couple taps then wait a min then open, I don’t want to walk in on anything that could traumatize me 
I prolly started about 10yrs old I never thought about it before then one day the scenario popped into my head and was like I should start knocking lol my 2 youngest never have their door shut but my teen always does mostly bc he don’t want the cats in his room or he’s playing games and can be loud
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Always! Closed door means they want privacy.
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I dont knock 
i bust through the door like the koolaid man make eye contact and slowly close the door my kids love it (mom of 5)(8yr 4yr 2 yr 1 yr and 13 day old)
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I don’t knock and wait for an answer but I usually knock and wait a couple secs. She’s 11 but I’ve always done this. I believe everyone deserves privacy. If she wasn’t in there alone I prob wouldn’t knock at all or would knock then enter but when you’re in your room alone u deserve privacy
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Once they are about 12 I start announcing my arrival. I believe they deserve privacy. My husband didn’t and he walked in on something he can’t unsee. He knocks now. Serves him right.
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I started at about age 5.
I’ve always done it since they were in big kid beds unless there was a loud noise or crying lol.
Always. I will knock, pause then go in. With my teen I wait for a yea?
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My oldest is 11 about to be 12 in January and my twins are 10 and my son 8. I knock on all the doors just in case they are getting dressed changing. Even though I’ve changed their booty’s plenty I want them to have their own personal space.
Don’t expect a child to understand boundaries of knocking before entering your room if you aren’t also knocking on their door before entering. Show mutual respect. Children learn from their surroundings. I’d show them the same courtesy you are asking for from them. Lead by example.
I’d say yes if u think he would want that. I do my daughter is 8
I’ve always taught that. My kids use to want their doors open but right around 10-11 they started wanting them shut. They already knew we knock and wait for a response with closed doors. I also very rarely go in their rooms without permission now.
Mh Don wanted privacy at age 10
Since they were old enough to dress themselves. I always knock and ask to come in. I never knock as I enter. It’s their space and I want them to feel safe in it. Which means they can set some boundaries within reason
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when they hit the puberty age because ain’t nobody trying to see nothing and they want privacy at that age usually
My bedroom door is open 24/7 (literally) so nobody knocks on it at all not my mom nor my son . But if it’s shut I would think they would knock but idk 
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When my son had a bedroom upstairs I knocked and my mom knocked but he sleeps downstairs now so I’ll just ask if I come downstairs or not.
Now if my door is shut my mom says hey are you alright or what’s wrong or what happened
If the doors closed I knock. Respect is a 2 way street
I started from a very young age. Not necessarily for privacy reasons, but to teach them that is what u do. Showing them respect, teaches respect.
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Mmm…no closed doors at my house…I need to know what they are doing…who they are talking( mines have no phones…but if they had) society is too messed up…internet is also messed up…maybe when older…and still know and go right in…mines are 9 and 7 girls
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I have always knocked… at least 2 taps and then walk in. I didn’t wait for a response until they were adults.
If they want to get dressed privately then always knock … in saying that my kids really have there doors shut. Itll be a couple more years befor you really want to be knocking for your own sake lol
It doesn’t hurt it’s up to you
I probably would start doing that around puberty or 6th grade ish…
They mimic what you do. So yes. I expect my kids to knock and wait for an answer so I should do the same. My daughter is 11 and my son is 9. I give privacy, I expect the same in return. Exspecailly since they are old enough to dress them selves and such.
Also edited to add, that doors normally stay open in my house. If a door is open it is fair game to just walk in. A closed door is for when someone wants privacy and that is when knocking is needed.