Yea I’ve been with mine for 5 years on the 15th. He says he wants to get married but wants it to be traditional when he asks so I’m in the same boat. I get it.
It’s just a ring and a diff last name… it don’t change anything and in some cases it makes things worse bc they think you won’t leave then… if you are happy with how things are going then why try to change anything ….
If you just want a ring tell him to go buy ya one…
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Talk to him. You need to if you have kids together. Have you never talked about it? His reaction to the general discussion of marriage will tell you all you need to know
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I’ve been engaged 19 years never married but have 3 kids
Not everyone wants to get married. Have you even had the conversation? How do either of you know what the other wants if you don’t TALK about it? Personally, I have a beautiful ring and don’t care to get married. Just celebrated 12 amazing years and wouldn’t change a thing! We both feel the same about marriage.
No offense but I like the videos with her in it. She is hilarious
Being married is a government and religious construct, it isn’t necessary for happiness or commitment
The only point my husband and I could even see to getting married was so I would have his good insurance.
A piece of paper really isn’t going to change anything 
Does he know that it’s something important to you? Have you had a conversation about marriage? My husband proposed 1 month after our 1 year anniversary and was talking about marriage at only a few months into our relationship. When they know, they know. Maybe your boyfriend isn’t sure even though you have kids together.
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I would ask, but that’s me.
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You are putting to much thought into it. This should be a discussion with your partner. Marriage is overrated anyways.
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Just talk to him. What’s the worst that’s going to happen? He doesn’t want to get married? You guys could still live a long, happy life together. Hell, look at Goldie Hawn and Kurt Russell. They have been together for 39 years and they’re not married.
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Tell him! Tell him how you feel. Communicate your feelings. Be honest.
Marriage is important to you…& that being said? If he values you? He’ll value what is important to you.
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I’ve been with my man 18 years wear a beautiful ring everyday but never married. We have two kids together and he raised my oldest daughter from a prior relationship. Never been an issue 
I think society puts an image that everyone must be married but that’s not true. I know lots of couples that were happy then got married and split up shortly after but I also know couples who have been married for years and have never been happier. I guess it’s just all personal choice but you feel that strongly talk to him about it.
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If he wanted to he would.
With that said, if you really want to be married, you need to talk to him, directly about it.
Also, as someone who has chosen to divorce more than one husband, I want to caution you about trying to marry a man who doesn’t think it’s necessary.
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They don’t take so long if they want to marry you. He hasn’t asked because he doesn’t want to get married. It’s as simple as that.
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why don’t you ask him?
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Maybe youre not the woman he wants to tie down. 
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He’s not committed, In my opinion.
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If marriage is your goal, then you need to sit down and have the conversation. That said, marriage often puts the woman at a disadvantage and is quite costly to reverse. The tax benefits, etc., may not be worth it. If you are happy with the relationship, stay; but maybe talk through the pros and cons.
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If they aren’t married there are issues with health insurance unless they each get it through their jobs. You can’t add a girlfriend or boyfriend to your health insurance. Plus, if they are in the hospital you may not be able to visit if in ICU or make decisions for your loved ones. In Michigan, there don’t recognize common law marriages anymore. These are some of the issues that same sex couples face and why they are fighting to be able to marry. There are also inheritance issues.
I understand not wanting to marry. For some it works but there are valid legal reasons why you should especially if you have kids.
Maybe he doesn’t want to marry you ?
My husband had been with his childrens mom (2 kids) for about 7 years and never had any intention to marry her.
He met me me and instantly knew he wanted to marry me. We got married after 4 months. Would have been sooner if we didn’t live 3 hours away from each other.
We’ll be married 5 years this month
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He’s not going to hun
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He’s already got everything with you without the legal paper. Easier escape.
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No to sound like a downer it took mine 8 years to propose. Have been engaged for 4 so 12 years together and last week tells me he doesn’t love me anymore and to pack my shit and leave. With nowhere to go. So starting over with no car or place to live. But atleast I still have my job
It’s time you bring it up.
Proposing and marriage should never TRULY be a surprise. It should be something you’ve discussed, agreed on, and look forward to. Otherwise, you’re not prepared to get married to that person.
So, tell him you’d like to get married and see if that’s what he wants too. Talk about why or why not. Discuss your future. This should’ve been a convo had LONG time ago. But do it now instead of waiting further.
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The saying goes “Why buy the cow when the milk is free”
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Ask him to
Marry you
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Um… a little late… no one stays married anymore. If it was really what you wanted you should have waited on having kids. Marriage changes people and relationships.
Why buy the cow when the milk is free? I asked my hubby to marry me.
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Why would he marry you when you’re given what you’re supposed to give in marriage??? Girls have it all wrong nowadays!
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If you don’t tell him what you want, then he ain’t gonna know that’s what you want
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Have you had a discussion about each others views on marriage? I’d start there
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If he hasn’t asked yet, I doubt he’s going to.
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so, we are all cows! (that phrase is so silly and aged) 
My husband proposed 1 year into our relationship and we married 6 months later. We’ve been happily married 40 years this past May. We couldn’t keep our hands off each other 
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If it hasnt happened by the 5 year mark…probably never will. Or youll have to bring it up…which is obviously not the energy you want behind a proposal.
Frankly…men know within the 1st year if they plan to marry you. Sounds like hes not committed.
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Some do. Some don’t. I don’t think it makes a difference to the marriage. I think there are some who want to be stable first and others who see you live together with kids and don’t see a value in it. It’s possibly him not wanting to change what works. I think you need to talk to him about how much marriage means to you and ask him about it. Don’t make it a whiny “when are you going to propose?” but talk about how you’d like to be Mrs … Hopefully he’ll realise how important it is to you.
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If that what you want then you need to be straight up and let him know. He may think you don’t care about that.
Set a time frame and tell him “if You’re unsure about me then it’s time for me to move on.”
He should know by now if he wants to commit.
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Tell him to shit or get off the pot! Two kids together? Does he not know the benefits you’ll have by getting married? Not to mention the children?
Probably doesn’t see a need for it. You’ve got two kids, looks like you skipped that part and went straight to the middle part of the story
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Men don’t take long to propose, but when you decide to shack up and play house…well…
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I’m surprised you’ve been patient for 7 years. I’d be saying something after 7 months.
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Why propose when he has everything that a married man has ? Kids etc…
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After 7 years and 2 children you have alot of blessings. Not a judgement, an observation only. The longer a couple cohabitates/looks “married” from the outside, the shorter the marriage. He’s chosen you or he wouldn’t still be around. In other cultures you would already be s er en as married. Ask yourself what it is you really want. The relationship? The party? The show? The sharing life together alibgvwith the children? Only you can answer those questions. No one else and no need to share those answers here.
Took my man a year and a half maybe you got the wrong guy…
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It took my man 4 years & had our baby boy in 2020
A man that waits that long to propose is the same kind of man that’s going to resent you for getting married in the first place. If the ring and government involvement makes or breaks it for you just leave cause getting married at this point will probably do more damage to the relationship than anything
I asked my husband to marry me
Ummm maybe there’s a reason how about jave an adult conversation with him and no on Facebook with strangers?
Why after 7 years? He seems to be ok just the way it was s so if you aren’t, speak up!!!
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men don’t take that long to propose. my husband proposed after we’d been together 7 months. if you’ve already got kids and are living the married life but he doesn’t have to tie down to you legally, he’s obviously not going to, or he’s saving up the money to get a ring/pay for a wedding and can’t quite save up enough because of everyday living expenses. either way if marriage is what you want, you gotta say something.
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They don’t. My ex husband (he’s shitty so take this with a grain of salt😅) took under a year. Fast forward 6 years and my fiancé who is the kindest most genuine person I know, took about 6 months. It has nothing to do with you and everything to do with the man. I actually think men know sooner than women if they are going marry that person, and they won’t waste any time when they know you’re the one.
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All marriage is is a paper…, if you need a paper to tell you that your supposed to be together forever well bad news hun that doesn’t mean anything . I said what I said and stand by it… and yes I’m married and we were only together 6months before he asked. Sarah Diveley
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l Get paid over $109 per hour working from home. l never thought I’d be able to do it but my buddy makes over $18711 a month doing this and she convinced me to try. The possibility with this is endless.
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A hubby did in a month 3 months married
Because they don’t want marriage
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It’s not MEN it’s that MAN.
My husband proposed after 5 months of dating. We’re going on 8 years now.
That being said, maybe he doesn’t realize how important to you.
For me, I could care less about a piece of government paper. I knew I’d be with this man for life without needing the government in our business. But marriage was way more important for him. If it wasn’t I’d never consider getting married
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Same here been with mine for almost 12years and soon to be 7 kids and nothing
Bringing up this conversation isn’t necessarily making it not his choice. But it’s possible he will never. He may be comfortable with what you are at already and you may have to discuss this with him
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Sounds like you all need to learn how to communicate. Does he know your expectations? Do you know his?
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Some people, like me, just don’t want to ever be married. He may be one of them
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Because he’s getting what he wants without the legal responsibility… he can walk away anytime and you have nothing
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For me i look at it this… He’s with you because he wants to be with you and your children, not,m because ot a piece of paper and a bit of gold. But that’s just me x
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He’s not interested in marriage. If he did, he would’ve by now…at least by the first kid.
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Sometimes men want to wait for the right time to ask. Maybe he is trying to plan out how he wants to do it to make it a special moment. If u guys are happy together and there are no problems with u guys then I would wait it out. I mean u can also sit down and have a conversation to see what his views are on marriage and tell him ur views on marriage as well it could also be that he isn’t sure whether or not u would want to and hes siking himself out saying if I ask she will probably say no or something along those lines so its a fear of rejection alot of men get like that too. My husband and I met when we were in high school and 2 years later I was pregnant. We were still together and graduated high school and went to college and everything locally because of our son. During that time I ended up pregnant with our second son and we lived on our own in an apartment together. We faced financial problems when I lost my job at the hospital from getting sick working in my field of study because I had certification already but I was going for another year to get my degree at time. We ended up moving in with my parents with our first son and then I ended up having my 2nd son living there. All in all it was 5 years and 2 kids later before we got married and even then my parents didn’t want us too but we were 22 so we done what we felt was right for us and we are now 33. We ended up getting on our feet and moving into a house on our own again when our boys were 3 and 1 where we have been living for the past 10 years together. Although 2 years after we moved into our home we got pregnant again and had our daughter. My kids are 15, 11, and 8 living with both their parents. My oldest son is special needs and my youngest son has his health issues as well and that didn’t break our relationship like it would for some. Like any couple we have our ups and downs but we never really argue we’ve had maybe one huge argument in our relationship and we sailed that storm together working through it before we were married and with 3 kids still manage to keep the marriage and relationship alive even now I have my health problems and became disabled. I used to work a full time career after my degree in my field of study and come home take care of 3 kids and clean and cook for my family and the cooking was 50/50. Now because of my health im not able to do all that anymore which leaves everything up to my husband which is a stormy problem in itself for me cuz I feel bad im incapable. My husband and I have been together for 16 years and married for 11 years and because of my health I felt the need to say uk if u want out u can u never signed up for this to have a wife who can’t do anything that she would do for u normally. He assured me that he doesn’t care because he did sign up for this when he married me. What im saying is men propose when they are ready to propose and alot of the times its not because they don’t want to but it could be a financial thing. If ur happy ur happy just be together and enjoy each others company. U have kids and ur living together so its like ur already married just without the legal paper work is all. U don’t want to push either for it because it could also make him feel a certain way and then it could never happen because then he could see the relationship going in the direction of ur trying to be pushy and controlling. So to not mess the relationship up I say just sit down and maybe discuss with each other what u feel about marriage not necessarily flat out saying we need to get married because its been 7 years. No sit down and say so love or baby whatever u call him in ur relationship and say that u would like to know how he feels about the subject of marriage and want to know his views on it and u can tell him how u feel about marriage and what ur views are. It opens the door a little bit there as well because if he hasn’t thought about it yet then it can open those doors and have him thinking about it. Also be prepared for whatever he might say as well because if he is at the point where he enjoys being with u but doesn’t want to get married at all then u either have to except the relationship of being together without the legality of it and enjoy ur life together or decide if ur going to leave or not but in my opinion if the relationship is good id just stay why break off just cuz he doesn’t want the legality of it. My aunt was with someone for 30-40 something years and they never got engaged or married but they had such a great relationship together and just enjoyed each other’s company. I’ve always known him as my uncle eventho they weren’t married. So they weren’t married but they were basically common laws or whatever its called ik they don’t really recognize that anymore now a days like they did back then. So my opinion is if u got a good thing going then keep it going it shouldn’t matter if u are legally married or not. Good luck!
It’s not men. It’s man. That one. My boyfriend made me aware of his intentions for us to be married within three months of dating. We’re not officially engaged yet but he’s planning it and has looked at rings. We’ve been together just over a year and have a son. This all came from him btw not me asking or begging.
Anyways it’s because you’ve made it okay for him not too. The expectation isn’t there.
Why on earth would he propose when he can have his cake and eat it too? He getting that Wifey treatment on the girlfriend salary. He getting the life without the legal responsibility.
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They don’t. Yours isn’t because he doesn’t want to, and you’re already playing house. He’s getting everything he wants without the actual legal responsibility. Waste of your time.
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You are now victim to getting comfortable too soon. He may never ask because the status quo works. If you don’t have that conversation, you will be forever waiting and resentment will grow. It will still be his choice to or not.
Or, you can do what I did an flip the script. I proposed to him with a gift that equated an engagement ring in value. He was caught completely off guard and loved it.
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You will have to bring it up in conversation… If my partner was waiting around for me to ask he would be waiting forever because I never want to get married 
It’s a piece of paper 
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Most men are afraid of commitment due to being hurt in the early years of dating as in early teens. I personally proposed after 2 years of dating my wife.
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Have you communicated your thoughts about marriage with him?
Is he aware that you would like to get married?
Perhaps he’s happy with the way things are, and doesn’t want to change that.
You give him everything why would he need to
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You should probably bring up the conversation. Afterall, you want to be married. Having the conversation will let you know if he wants to be married to you. Find out and make a decision about what is best for your life.
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Probably something you should have discussed before having 2 kids together. If he doesn’t want to get married which is a possibility, you have to ask yourself, are you going to happy continuing with things the way they are, or do you want to take your kids, leave the relationship and start over? He may not have a paper commitment to you, but you are living together and raising kids together which is another type of commitment. If he didn’t want to be there, he wouldn’t be.
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he’s probably just not ready
Why should he. Living together, kids. Family established. Its just a piece of paper. If you need it. Tell him you do. If he refuses you know where you truly stand. As a sit in that’s comfortable until Ms right comes around
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Look… We all know relationships are so weird these days. Im sure everybody can agree with that. Somethin people dont really look at marriage and how different it is. Theres no benefit to being a married man. When things go wrong (as mentioned earlier, relationships are odd these days), if the two split the man ALWAYS gets screwed. Marriage is more like… A policy. You have to follow the terms and if you dont, there are legal ramifications. Just my opinion
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A piece of paper changes nothing, he’s with you because he loves you, many couples don’t feel the need to marry nowadays.
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I have been with my 14 years he has never proposed it doesnt mean he loves you any less, also you might want to talk about it discuss where you two are at in the marriage department. If you dont bring it up maybe he just doesnt knw how important it is to you?! communication is key!
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That was me. Almost 10 years (high school sweethearts)
Once our son was born, I just said to him “I went through 9 months of carrying your child, the pain child birth, yet he has your last name and I don’t”. 7 months later we were married.
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The old saying…why buy the cow when you get the milk for free?? You do everything a wife does with no demands on him. You should tell him you want marriage… Youve been with him 7 years?? Should of had this conversation A LONGGGGG time ago
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Cause he don’t wanna marry you sis. That’s why. If he wanted to he would.
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Not all men are like that. My wife and I married 13.5 MONTHS after we started dating. I think in any relationship that communication really is key. Some men/women DON’T want to ever get married. Some are hesitant and unsure of marriage. MANY people think “it’s just a piece of paper” and that “it changes nothing” especially if they are living together with kids. So I’d sit him down and just ask him. Do you want to get married? Let him KNOW that marriage is your intention and if he DOESN’T see marriage in y’all’s future/near future then he NEEDS to just be honest with you. Then let him answer honestly and go from there. If after 7 years he CAN’T see it OR he is still unsure, you have to decide is this a deal breaker for you. Nobody would fault you if it was. I will say this
WHAT 1 MAN WON’T DO, ANOTHER MAN WILL.
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ASK yourself why are you hanging around so long…
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Why should he? He has you, the kids and no real obligations and free sex, housekeeping and a cook
Why should he you’ve already had sex with him and living like you’re married.
Is there a reason you can’t or won’t propose to him?
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“I don’t bring it up” but then wonder why he doesn’t do it.
Men can’t read minds. If you never talk about your wants/needs things will never happen.
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Alot would rather just keep doing what their doing. He has everything already and he’s probably thinking it’s an unnecessary waste of money. 
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Because they don’t actually want to get married when they can get all the benefits without it …
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Two kids, 7 years. You need to require it. Stop waiting.
Gotta communicate your views and feelings hun. Maybe he doesn’t know it’s important to you as long as you’re in a committed relationship. You can’t ask us, you need to ask him.
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I think some men just need a push. Lol
Straight out tell him you want to get married.
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Things happen when they happen! My husband and I met when we were 12, started dating at 19, moved in together at 21, had our only child at 23, got engaged at 31and married at 35. We are now 37 just celebrated our 18 year together and our 2nd wedding anniversary. Our daughter will be 14 in a few weeks. Your timeline is your timeline, everything happens when it’s suppose to!!.
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I was with my ex for 15 years. He never proposed. I had to walk away
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He doesnt want to be married.
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Some people just don’t want to get married.
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Girl I been with mine for 20 yrs and were not married. Were engaged but not married.
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