Why should men be the ones to propose?
It’s 2022. Two people can just decide to get married.
Have y’all even had the conversation about what you each want for the future? If not, that’s probably a conversation you should have had 7ish years ago.
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Could be he feels he doesn’t need to because he has the family and basically a wife without it being official. Why propose when he has everything now?
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You in a rush for taxes to change? Insurance? Etc?
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I mean… you’ve been tg for 7 years. Live together. Have kids together. Pay bills together. What’s the point in getting married? For a piece of paper that says you’re tied to each other legally ? Common law and kids does that too…
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I told my man that he had 3 years to decide if he wanted to marry, because that’s all I could give him. He knew marriage was something I wanted, so it wasn’t truly an ultimatum. The start of year 2 he told me he wanted to marry me, I asked when and we went from there. Being afraid of rocking the boat is how you get 10 years and 2 kids in, without the marriage you want.
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What’s stopping you from proposing to him?
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Jsut buy yourself a crappy ring and wear it and maybe he’ll upgrade you too a nice one 
lmao might work , hell notice the visa payment before the ring 
Taking you for granted. You will make someone else a good wife. It doesn’t take long to realize you love or in love with someone and you want to spend the rest of your life with them.
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Time to get another boyfriend. Just tell him it’s time for you to move on. Don’t waste your time on him anymore.
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You are giving him what he wanted without ever having a commitment, so he can have all that & anything else he wants, in his way of thinking. That’s not the road to a marriage proposal & a stable life so don’t be surprised.
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Men know when they found the 1.
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They don’t want to accept responsibility.
Doesn’t always have to be the man to purpose…
Not all men want to get married.
I don’t get the ‘i need to get married thing’
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If he’s not purposed by now, statics have proven they typically won’t propose at all.
You ain’t the one to move him to marriage.
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Men do not take long to propose. If he wanted to he would have no offense. I dated my husband for a year and a half when he proposed to me. 3 months later after he proposed we got married. We’ve been married for 3 years now. He knew he wanted to marry me and we had the discussion about it. Have you brought it up to him? Or talked to him about it? Are y’all on the same page about it? I think you need to communicate with him about it.
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There could be a plethora of reasons why they take so long. Some aren’t ready, some may not want to and some feel as though they are already getting husband privileges so why bother. 
You guys should’ve had this conversation 7 years ago. It didn’t have to be a deep conversation. A simple “how do you feel about marriage” would’ve been sufficient. But it’s not too late. Ask him NOW how he feels about marriage. If he doesn’t want to get married, the ball is in your court. You can stay and be miserable OR you can move on and find a man that wants what you want.
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Honestly some think they already have a girl friend living with them doing wife things. What’s a piece of paper gonna do? That’s how a ex thought he told me this.
If u truly want to marry him why don’t u ask him to Marry you??
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You need to communicate with him. Men aren’t mind readers. Have an honest conversation with him about what you want. He might think you are content with the way things are. He doesn’t need to do an elaborate proposal for you to have a happy marriage. Maybe talk about it together and decide to get married or not from that point.
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He might not even realize you want him too if you’ve been together that long with kids he probably already views you as married have a talk with him
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If you are with him and he is doing his part why should you need a piece of paper
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He may never propose. He may be with you just for the kids. If you were his ONE… he would have a ring on your finger. You need to sit down and talk about the “What Ifs”… what if something happens?? You both have NO legal standing.
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Not all men do this.
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Maybe he doesn’t want to marry?
Maybe he’s not ready?
Why can’t he just date you?
What’s the rush?
You just need to communicate with him.
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You ask him. I proposed to my husband 
and we went ring shopping together. Chose a date and got married.
My dad and my husband said that a man knows you’re his wife within the first two years. In your case, it sounds like he may be waiting to see if there’s something better. I was in the same boat before I married my husband. I say cut your losses.
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Why are the comments on here always so freaking brutal? Who talks to other people this way who are in pain???
To the person who sent this in: not all men take a long time to propose. If he hasn’t yet, there is likely a reason. As others have said, marriage isn’t everything but if it is something important to you, it is something you both should talk about. Maybe you can both come to some common ground about it. And you can both decide what you can accept in this relationship. Sorry you’re hurting 
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Talk with him about it and how you want to get married, and if he doesn’t want to, then it’s time to move on if that’s important to you. It’s good to be open about it instead of waiting around
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Waited 8 years…had a 2 year old…were now 2 years engaged and 10 years together with a nearly 4 year old…when the times right the times right…i know 10 years is quite a milestone for most couples! X
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Men know. You’re probably not the one
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Well communication is key. You are setting yourself up by not bringing up the topic of marriage.
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Because he thinks it doesn’t matter to you. You are already have everything. Just a piece of paper
Why buy the cow when the milk is free ? My Mother used to say.
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If a man is going to propose they know early on in the relationship. He is probably never going to propose to you. You’re giving him everything and he has no reason to marry you.
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I was married 13 yrs, divorced 10 years then met my partner of 17 years, no need to get married. maybe he is so secure he doesn’t need a piece of paper. There’s always a leap year for you to propose
After a year it’s a waste of time and time to move on.
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Why some women are so desperate to get marry? I know 7 years might be too long to be waiting for a proposal ,but a marriage doesn’t determine the success ,longevity or meaning of your relationship.
Do not try to “ fix / change “ something that is not broken
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My husband proposed within a couple months of us dating and we married just after being together a year
Why don’t YOU propose?? Nothing wrong with that 
sometimes it’s cute imo to switch the role
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How can he propose when you are in his house surely and given birth to two kids
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They really really don’t want to be married, because then they have to be responsible.
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Everyone is different.
If you don’t set the expectations they may not know….
If you have made it seem like your content not being married then he may just be cruising along with you.
Men don’t long for the marriage or the idea of marriage like women do.
Uh bc he don’t want marriage clearly lol
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Mine done it in 5 months. Married in 6…(and no I was not pregnant lol)
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Mine took 9 years and 4 kids later lol
Communication is always key. Just ask him about it nicely and no ultimatums. Maybe he’s been thinking about it already maybe he never wants to marry or maybe he just feels married already and isn’t thinking about it. I think the longer you’re together prior to getting married is better. My husband and I were together for 7 years 3 kids 3 kids and a house before getting married. It’s a life long commitment make sure it’s both what you want
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Iv heard the saying befor, Why buy the cow when he gets the milk for free? But there are 2 sides to that saying " I Say" …lol…well, if he dont own the cow, guess he cant bitch bout who else gets free milk…ya might want to run both saying past him…see if that doest plant a seed of thought…lol…good luck…oh, and keep us posted on the wedding date…your welcome.
Either he has no interest in marriage or you’re not the one 
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Because men take most of the financial burden of marriage.
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Honestly, you’ve already given him everything a wife would without him spending a fortune on a ring/wedding. Sounds like you’re going to have to make it known how you feel…
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Unfortunately I stayed in a relationship for 15yrs waiting and he ended up proposing to someone else right after
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I think you two should sit down and have a real conversation about the relationship. Is there going to be a marriage? Just a partnership? Do you two want to go to a lawyer and draw up the documents so you have the same rights and protections as if you were married? You guys have kids together so there needs to be conversations so they’re protected as well. If one of you dies you as the partner are nothing unless there’s protections in place. What about your home? Phone bill? Life insurance? Do you each want the other to make medical decisions? Have the conversation so you know where you stand.
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People do what they want. My first husband asked me in 15 mins of knowing him, my second asked me like 5 months in.
When you know you know. I would be having a real sit down and asking what his plans are long term, maybe he just doesn’t think it’s that big a deal since you already have an established life together.
Have you talked about marriage? Does he know it’s something that is important to you? Some men don’t think about it because they are comfortable and they don’t think there is a need. Express how you’re feeling if his values on marriage aren’t the same as yours then you need to consider if it’s really that important to you or if it’s something you can live without
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My husband proposed in the 3rd month. 10 years later with 2 little kids. I think when you know, you know.
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7 years and 2 kids later …if he wanted to he would
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Why purpose? You’re already doing all the “wife” things. My husband purpose at 7 months and we were married a yr after meeting. Then he moved in. Stop giving men access to husband privileges when he’s still on the boyfriend package
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I have been with my guy 37 years. We out lasted most marriages
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I had 2 kids , bought a house and after 12 years together he proposed … what did it change ??? Nothing !! Lol
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Because you let him… Way past putting your foot down
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Only men who don’t want to get married take so long.
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Lol my hubby and I were together 18 yrs before we married. 25 years together.
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Mine did it in 2 years, I’d had our son but we waited that length atleast because I felt like it was plenty of time to decide if that’s what we wanted or not. Our wedding is in December of this year 
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Why should he? You’re already doing the wife things.
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I feel if your the right one he won’t make you wait. My husband proposed at 1 year. 2017 and we got married 2020. 3 kids together, love doesn’t wait 
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My parents have been together 43 years and never got married. Their state isn’t “common law” either. Some just don’t want to.
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Some don’t, my husband and I only dated for a month when ge proposed and 8 weeks later we were married
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Your already doing all the wide things why he should he now? It’s just a piece of paper that doesn’t change anything besides your last night- if it’s good why change anything
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My husband waited 10 years to ask lol
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My finance proposed 7 months after being together . We have been together for going on 16 years. We have a house and two beautiful daughters 12 and 15. My thoughts are it’s just a piece of paper and changing my last name. It isn’t going to change how I feel about him, we have been through plenty of hard times just like married couple and have gotten through them.
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I mean have you guys talked about this? Does he want to get married? Does he know you want to get married? I feel like there has to be a bit of discussion around a proposal
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Mine waited about 8 years to propose. But we had been talking about it for atleast a year.
he doesn’t want to marry you 
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Why would he… he is getting the milk for free… 
lol
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Just don’t want to b married
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Why should they? They don’t have to
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Have you guys had this conversation before.? Like does he know that you want to get married is he wanting marriage. If you had this conversation then yeah you are in the right to bring it up. Not everyone wants marriage and that’s okay but if it’s something you made know you want then you guys need a conversation
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“I don’t tell my boyfriend I want to get married and he won’t read my mind. How do I get him to read my mind?” Fixed it for ya.
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Sorry…I don’t think he will already.
He has you , 2 kids and living together 
I’m just saying
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You have to be married for insurance purposes, life insurance being a huge one. If hospital issues come up its a hassle for “boyfriend” or “girlfriend” to have a say on the treatment. I was with my ex for 14 years but never legally married (my choice) the hospital called his mom for stuff even though I was there and she was states away and had no idea what he wanted done. Talk to your man, it doesn’t have to be a pressure thing but you need to know what he’s thinking for the future. Men will do what you allow them to. Standard though is men know if they want a future with a woman in 6 months tops. He might not propose right then but he already knows you’re the one. If he’s waited 7 years and hasn’t brought it up to you, that’s a huge red flag.
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Why do women choose to stay in a relationship for seven years and build and create a family with a guy who hasn’t committed to them? 
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Honestly it’s a fairytale to expect a man you’ve been with for years & have kids with to surprise you with a proposal lol yes it does happen, but the reality is most couples talk about marriage and decide together that they are ready, then look at rings and go forward planning together. Just talk about it and get on the same page.
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Men know what they want in the first 6 months. And they know if they love you in the first few weeks. Is it financial. Or is it believe that it means nothing. My boyfriend said it was just a piece of paper. I explained how I felt about marriage and that it is the next step in love. The final commitment. Also a healthy step in life. He agreed with me. By the atmosphere he lived in before and the life he had before convinced him that marriage meant nothing. He also wanted to have the money for it all. He proposed last December.
My man proposed 4 months after our first date. So it’s not all men. Have you talked about whether he even wants to be married?
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Maybe he doesn’t want to get married. I personally will never get married. My aunt has been with her live in partner for almost 20 years and neither plan to ever marry. Have you talked to him to see if he’s someone who doesn’t want to be married?
Being married is just a legal thing. Health insurance and life benefits. You can still be in a Committed relationship, have a kid, buy a house etc.
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Hunny you’re a place holder.
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If you give men “wife treatment” without being married they will never have the incentive to marry you. That’s just the facts. He probably just doesn’t see the need to propose because he feels like he already has you locked in so what’s the point.
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They don’t girly I was in a past relationship 9 years he never proposed left relationship. My now husband asked me to marry him after a year of being together….
Have him proof read your ad that you draw up to send to say Alaska stating that you wish to be a mail order bride – “Nice lady with 2 children looking for a man who wont make me wait forever to get married, I’m sweet but as it turns out not eternally patient” that may or may not get your answer but its guaranteed to get his attention
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He probably doesn’t want to get married or he doesn’t want to marry you.
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Why are y’all always so pressed on getting that ring and paper? Either enjoy the relationship whatever way it is or move tf on. Petty 
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We’ve been engaged for 11yrs and have 3 kids and 2 angel babies. To some it’s just a piece of paper and money. We are happy and the kids are happy to us that’s all that matters. Talk and see if he’s happy and ask what he sees y’all’s future like
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Not all men or women want to have the titles married. I know relationships that have lasted 40 years and they consider them selfs married, they don’t want the title nor do they believe in the peace of paper. Maybe you need to talk to him and see what his feelings are on it all. It has nothing to do with love, you either love someone or you don’t, it won’t make your love stronger or weaker.
Because he has you and the kids without a ring, so why would he need to get married?
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You have to talk to him about it. In his mind there is no need to propose cause y’all are already acting as if you’re married. Tell him you want to be married and all have the same name. Her needs to know how you feel about it.
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You need to bring it up. He may be comfortable with things as is and thinks you feel the same. Let him know that you see marriage as important and being the next step for your family. Have an honest discussion with him.
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Just be honest with him, ask him where he sees y’all’s future going.