Why does my child argue with me every morning about going to school?? Its always a struggle and I have to force him to go in…he is 10 and this has been happening for years…
1 Like
Because you continue to engage in the argument.
2 Likes
My kids are the same especially for both around those ages. Mine are in high school now, it’s a little better but it can still be a struggle, I remember hating school also. Kids are mean, (as well as the work force with adults)… I found out my son was having some trouble with older kids on his bus and at school(bullies)
sorry not much solutions. Have you asked why? Grades? Kids? Friends? Bus ride with kids, older kids?? Teachers? Something going on?
3 Likes
Have you ever met with his teachers to see how he is doing? Not just academically but behaviorally as well? When my daughter didn’t want to go it was due to behavioral issues. The structure, rules and expectations at school that she didn’t like. Academically she was doing above average but hated going and found any way to not go. We moved eventually (not due to this but military family) and now she cries when she misses school events, or anything school related and loves going. The class size is smaller and the structure and expectations are the same but communicated differently. Teacher is different as well.
In our oldest there is the dislike for school, and the conversation is without the basic k-12 education what jobs or life choice do they have? At 17 if he doesn’t want to go the options are go to school and graduate or go get a job till he realizes he needs at least a GED. It’s not an argument. Kids don’t have a choice. It can be a discussion but arguments mean they have a chance at possibly winning and that’s not going to happen.
Communicate with him and ask him why he doesn’t want to go. He could have anxiety about going. Something could be going on that is making him not want to go.
My son did this before and it was because he was getting bullied especially last year.
4 Likes
Maybe he is just not a morning person. Try an earlier bedtime. He’s probably fine once he gets there.
My older girl hates school and I hated school as a kid until I was a adult it never stopped. We hate it for the same reasons. Bullies and feeling stupid in a room full of kids who seem to just get it.
Because you have allowed him to argue with you he is a child so he is obligated to your rule stand firm now before it’s to late
If he’s being bullied teach him to stick up for himself. Bullies are cowards and will back down when you stand up to them.
1 Like
Because you allow the argument. I don’t negotiate. School is a non negotiable. Your not pukingand you don’t have a fever? To school you go. You don’t want to go? That’s fine. I hear that. I don’t want to go to work, but it’s still gotta happen. Gonna try to argue with me? Ok fine - I will physically dress you and drag you onto that school bus and when you come home? Your room gonna be bare empty except for a mattress on the floor. No soda pop, no fun snacks, no devices. Each week you go to school without a fight, you can earn access to 1 item back until you’ve earned all of your items.
Luckily I’ve never had to go this far with my kids, but its because they know I will and they dont like to FAFO.