Why will my 3 year old look me in the eye and say she doesn’t have to pee and then pee her pants? It’s a fight every time to get her to use the toilet. I’ve always tried to take away the pressure and not make it a big deal and it does not work for us either
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My niece and nephew did this and they have now been referred to specialist because they can’t always feel when they need to wee or poo. Always put them on the potty or toliet after a drink or food this will encourage them to really feel what’s going on inside them. But please speak to your GP ’
My daughter use to tell me she was too busy to go to the potty. When I signed her up for pre k I told her no more peeing in her pants. q she’s been doing great since!!
Because you’re asking a child a leading question and they will give you the answer they believe to be correct at the time. They don’t forward think like we do. She probably hasn’t yet associated the urge to go with the necessity to bring herself to the toilet. It’s something she needs to learn still- have patience. Instead of asking, just take her to it every couple of hours and see if she will go. Eventually it’ll become habit for her.
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Maybe try taking her more often to the toilet . Try holding her as you are using the toilet. I have 6 children and I had a couple I had to teach , other than my son his dad taught him, taking him more than usual whether he had to go or not. One of my daughters she would tell me her stomach hurt and I’d say go 
and her stomach felt better, I believe it’s just all about more encouraging is all
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My son just hated the potty. Once he found out he couldn’t start pre k without going on the potty he started. Sometimes a goal works
I wouldn’t get her checked by no doctor yet. Don’t ask her just about every 2 hours tell her it’s time to go potty and take her.
I ate cookies in front of my one kid that did that, and that child was told, if they went pee in the potty, they could have a cookie too.
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Instead of asking her if she has to go take her in saying it’s time to try to potty. Do this every 2 hours. Also get her checked out by a doctor there may be some issue going on.
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Hot take, but maybe your 3yo isn’t ready to use the toilet yet, and that is perfectly normal. People have become so obsessed with forcing their kids to go by a certain age and it’s psychotic. I obsessed with my first kid, and I hated rushing her every 30 mins-2h to the bathroom and it made both of us miserable. With my 2nd and 3rd I left them tf alone. Showed them the potty, how to use it, and asked daily if they felt like today was the day, and they declined. They both were not even remotely ready until near 4yo and 4yo each. And you know what? There was ZERO bribing, zero tears. They each woke up one day and decided they were ready, and that was it, they did it, and the regular potty too, not one I would have to clean after. If you want to take away the pressure, give them back the pull ups and just ask them if they are ready, heck every time you have to go remind them they could too if they wanted to, and leave it alone. I’m doing the same with my 4th btw, but she is just 7mo so I have a long way before that happens. 
each kid is ready in their own time, don’t force it.
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At that age you just announce to the child that it is time to go use the toilet. Asking if they want to go they will not want to take time away from the activity that they were doing so the answer will be no they don’t need to go because in their mind that activity they are doing is a better option than walking away from the activity so no they don’t want to go away from that activity to go use a toilet.
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Stop asking her first off because of course she’ll say no cause she wants to continue doing what she is doing at that moment you asked. You tell her it’s time to go to the potty and you guys will play again right after she’s done. Get her excited for it too
Does she know whether she needs it? Does she tell you? The nerve that tells you doesn’t always form until aged five. You can just get them to go every couple of hours if not but don’t scold for accidents as they genuinely don’t know.
Because it’s a fight and she’s afraid of you probably
Apparently she hasn’t make the connection.Quit pushing,she’ll get it.Use reg underwear so she can feel when she goes so she equates the sensation with the act.If she puddles the floor have her clean it up.
I never ask my son if he needs to potty. I told him when it was time to go potty. Every 30 minutes. On the dot. “Time to go potty lets go”
Drop everything and watch the movie, We Need to Talk About Kevin, with Ezra Miller. You are welcome.
I’d Stop asking her and just walk her over to the bathroom for frequent breaks even if she “don’t gotta go”make her sit there for 2 mins or so. Sometimes we don’t gotta go as adults and if we sit on that toilet it’ll flow…
Just taking my kid potty every 30 mins to an hour didn’t work for us, she’d sit there then pee immediately after we got up. I finally let her roam around naked, with the toddler toilet in whatever room she was in. Then she didn’t have to tell me, and I didn’t have to ask she would just sit and pee when she had to go
She may not realize. Many aren’t ready at 3.
I tell mine to go potty or they will lie and keep playing and forget and pee on themselves. I make them stop periodically and go. Also we give high fives and m&ms if they have to go. They now sit on the toilet and push as hard as they can to get those m&ms