I didnt realize my teen had so many cavities and now I feel like a terrible mother. Our dental insurance is so bad we have not been going…will the dentist judge me for taking them in
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My now 8 year old has severe cavities and I didn’t realise until it was bad. I was so fearful of taking him to the dentist out of guilt but they have been nothing shy of amazing with him. They’ve never made me feel judged and explained that a lot of it had to do with his bottle/pacifier usage as a baby/toddler.
Do not fear, they are there to help and have seen some seriously bad dental issues before
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Yes they will call cys for neglect saw it done to my mom’s bf nephew
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They won’t question it. They will give you ways to prevent them.
But try to make your child a appointment every 6 months for teeth cleaning and xrays.
I have 4 kids. It’s easy to find a place that will group your appointments, so it isn’t such a hassle.
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Who cares if they do. Get your childs teeth fixed before they get infected. I had a root canal and its not fun!
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So your embarrassment trumps your kid’s health? They can die from infections that travel to the brain. Just go and do better from now on. Is it from letting your kid go to bed with a bottle? Leading cause of bad teeth in babies & children. How old is your child?
Even if Dentist does judge you. You need to get your child’s cavities filled. Question is what’s more important you not being judge or your child’s dental and health
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No
As it’s due to circumstances out of your control
Dental assistant here. Be honest. We know dental care is expensive- we know kids will only do so much- and that includes brushing and flossing. Get them in and get the issues taken care of. Have the hygienist or doctor stress the importance of taking care of their teeth to your teen. They might listen to them over mom. Schedule regular cleanings. Some offices have dental plans if you end up without insurance again. My 9 year old had so many cavities when she was 4 it was so embarrassing bc I’m in the field I know better, but they never judged, I did that to myself.
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No they won’t. They shouldn’t do.
Be unethical if they do
They will say something but when they do explain your circumstances and they will just be happy you did bring Them in
Who cares if they do? You’re getting them fixed now right?! Shouldn’t that be all that matters?
No. Dentist are professionals and they appreciate crappy parents keeping them in business.
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No that’s how they make money
The longer you wait the worse it will be. Who cares if they judge?
I take my kids every 6 months and my 8yo still gets cavities, had the root of a tooth rotting that they had to pull and has had a couple caps on her teeth… it could have happened very quickly for your kiddo like it does mine… people judge people daily… nothing you can do about it. What I would judge you on is you now knowing there is a problem and still not taking them out of fear of being judged.
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It’s not likely they will if they are any good however At this point you need to suck it up and get over what the dentist may or may not do in regards to you specifically and take your child in for the care that is needed. Now that you realize there is an issue to continue to ignore it and refuse care is medical neglect and abuse. If you can’t afford it then set up a payment plan, find one with a sliding pay scale so payment is based on income, apply for state insurance or sale items of value to get the money.
Is judgement worse than your child needing care? This wont be the first time hes seen something similar. He will just do his job.
As a dental hygienist of over 20 years, we have seen the good, the bad, and the ugly. We do not judge. We are happy you came in to address the situation!
It doesn’t matter. Just take your kid in.
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If they do, find another dentist.
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The dentist should not judge you. However, better to get it taken care of now, before all of his teeth are rotten. Even good moms, get in bad places with ins. I know several good moms who struggle with this. Just take him, I doubt they will say anything to you, and if so just explain.
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Being judged or not, take care of it. Would you not go if they do judge you?
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Be honest with them, at least you are now addressing the problem. Have them talk to,your teen and explain how important it is to do what they need to do. Please let us know how you make out….Best of luck.
They won’t judge. Plus genetics have a lot to do with it. Some people go to the dentist every 6 months and still get cavities.
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Who give a 
take you’re child to the dentist. I mean I’m sorry but it’s because you haven’t took them that they got so bad. Dentist love when you got cavities they getting paid for it
Do it, so they don’t have to struggle at 18 to get their teeth fixed…
If it’s a good dentist, no. Just be honest and willing to fix what you can at home and they will fix what they need to in the office 
Just take them and be honest. My kid’s go ever 6 months and 1 has cavities ever single time we go. He has issues with his teeth with not enough enamel.
Probably not. Unless they (unts of a dentist.
Not to your face anyway. Take him before it can’t be fixed
We go every six months and somehow in that time my 6 year old got 8 cavities, mostly in between them from not flossing well. I felt terrible but we went back to helping brush and reteaching good dental hygiene habits and he hasn’t had any issues since. Sometimes things happen, even if you take great care of your teeth genetics can mess them up, my whole family has terrible teeth no matter what we do