Not crazy, but you should tell him just like you said it here. He should listen to you. And if there isn’t anything going on he should be caring enough about.your feelings to make some changes so that you don’t feel like there is.
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He’s not necessarily cheating. My husband is a great man, and we have a great sex life, but he is NOT turned on by pregnancy. It’s just not his thing, and even though he thinks I’m beautiful pregnant, he doesn’t find it sexy. My last (3rd) pregnancy I really let it get to me and was thinking the same thing, but honestly it was just my hormones fucking with me.
I suggest just talking to him. Be honest, tell him how it feels and how that it’s making you question his fidelity. He may just be scared that it will upset you if he admits he’s not sexually attracted to you at the moment. If that’s the case, PLEASE try not to take it personally. I know that’s easier said than done, but it’s not you.
Hire a private investigator & you will get your answer pretty fast!! What state are you in?
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You are not crazy, but a cheating partner can make you feel that way…
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Ask her m. Ask to go to counseling or go yourself
Red flags 
. Start sleuthing, but be prepared for what you find. Speak to a divorce attorney to get your ducks in a row because you need to protect yourself and your kids before you strike.
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Gonna go out on a limb here and say it’s completely possible that he’s depressed. Talk to him about it. 
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Trust your instincts!
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It’s so common for men to cheat on their pregnant wife/girlfriend. I’m so sorry if he is please don’t blame yourself, I went through it too.
How did behave when u were pregnant with your other children…is this a pattern or a one off And was it a planned child or an accidental pregnancy Many things aside from cheating could be affecting his attitude at present don’t jump to the worst conclusion talk to him
If he was a real man you wouldn’t have to question him. Woman have great intuitions. We just have to stop trying to make excuses. No married man is going to go 5 months without having sex with his wife for Just no reason. Maybe he just feels disgusted with himself. As he should. You shouldn’t be feeling like that! Everyone has time for what they want to make time for!
I’ve been there and felt exactly what you’re feeling. Situation almost identical to yours and I was right and you probably are too. I’m so sorry 
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Why have so many kids? You’re only messing up more lives. He’s probably scared that he can’t handle anymore! You guys need help!!
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He’s seeing someone. My ex husband did the exact same thing.
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By the way, why aren’t you two married? You did everything backwards. Do you think having more kids will keep him attached to you??
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Sounds like depression to meeee
gut instinct is a real thing. i would start looking more into it
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It’s never too late to walk away and lap up your kids on your own. Be strong and good luck.
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He probably didn’t want anymore children 
Maybe he’s fighting his own demons inside… a man can be stressed out too.
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I swear any change in behavior women are quick to resort to cheating is the reason smh. Did you guys discuss more children before you got pregnant? Maybe he has resentment and could be distancing to leave or figure out. Because if this wasn’t an agreed decision he could very well have trust issues with you as well. Like how would he trust you to say you are on birth control? What if you want more and he doesn’t? Is it possible he was happy before and feels betrayed now? Are you remembering to put your relationship first so that your children have a family? Ask him and if he resists then give him the space he needs and guarantee everything will unfold itself
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If he ain’t want more kids he could have done his part to prevent it. Fuck him and his childish ass
Sounds like he’s having an affair, IMHO
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Yep be very suspicious, all the signs are there,just keep your mouth shut and your eyes peeled until you get evidence then blast!!!
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Was child number 4 planned? Were the first 3 planned? Seems your husband doesn’t want any more children and taking it out on you. You two need to communicate. That’s what grown up do. Doesn’t sound like your husband knows how to communicate. Maybe he’s afraid to share his feelings with you. This is a good example of how divorce happens. 2 people that don’t listen to each other.
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Chances are if he didn’t act this way with your other pregnancys then he’s depressed or cheating while supposed to be at work… talk to him communication is key… ask him why …
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Mine admitted pregnancy is a “turn off” so I do appreciate the honesty
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Need to have a sit down & communicate, you have a family & he may be overwhelmed with thoughts of another child if this wasn’t planned!
Carve out a time for discussion—Good Luck & Prayers!
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He’s cheating pretty obvious.
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Do the children have his last name. Did he have a family before you? There are too many unanswered questions.
Sounds like your going to be raising 4 kids by your self ,your a woman you diffientley knm if hes cheating or not
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7 yr itch for him maybe?? Sounds awful god love you 
but red flag anyway for me
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Talk with him it could be something simple as low t or something as serious as cheating… btw low t does more than just lower their sex drive also young men get it too
Hes fuckin someone else
Have you discussed (in depth) how many children you each want? Maybe it’s time to think about birth control. A family that size can be a lot mentally and financially and take a lot of energy. Not everyone is up for it.
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Actions speak louder than words unfortunately. Sad for your situation four children. Hopefully all gets better for you. Maybe for peace of mind go see where he says he’s working late
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I have 3 kids and I was all over my gf all the time until she felt uncomfortable or it hurt. But now with 3 kids we hardly have the free time or when we do we’re both so tired we just go to bed holding each other life isn’t about sex everyday but it definitely is still wonderful lol
Lots of red flags and always trust your gut! You need to have a serious conversation with him!
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You’re not crazy!! Maybe just flat out ask him if something is going on! Watch how he reacts, his body language, his tone and facial expressions.
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7 year itch … maybe life was staring to get easier as the kids got older and now there is a new one coming he feels trapped and then strayed for that whole sort of demeanour change I’d say cheating or depression. To hold of to an argument from months ago is very immature and sounds like an excuse.
Ask him straight up, if he gets angry and defensive and turns it all around to be your fault then he is guilty…. if he takes your hands and is apologetic and there’s just lots going on at work and he is calm and just feeling a bit lost then I’d suggest couples counselling.
Good luck
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As a lady said above confront him or do a little spy work so you have evidence then confront him I’d go with the second, always trust your gut defo something iffy if he won’t sit next too you or kiss you and is coming home late leaving early, hope your ok sending hugs x
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If your gut is telling you it’s usually right
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Sounds exactly how my husband acted when he was cheating on me. Hopefully not the case but a drastic change in behavior like that would be cause for concern
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Sounds like you need to sit down and talk about it. A grown up conversation.
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Could be depression it’s not talked about often enough but men can get depression durning and after a wife is pregnant
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I’d be concerned if he wont even kiss you, that’s really odd. But I think you just need to ask him, if u feel unsafe to do this have someone there, not necessarily in the room that you and him are in, but if you are worried at his reaction. Did you resolve the ‘row’ you had months ago, you might think u dod, he may disagree
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If the 4th baby wasnt planned he could just be bummed out or overwhelmed at the thought. If it was planned then maybe hes looking for an out and doesnt want it to be his idea. …which could be because of another woman or just wanting to get away from a full house. Some men are great until something hits that one nerve then bam they gotta get away. … To know for sure youd have to snoop in his phone or have him followed …or sit him down and have a serious talk
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If he can’t show you some love than a talk needs to happen & if he doesn’t have a good reason for his behavior than I would be considering my options.
Not crazy he’s been messing around with someone else. Exactly how my ex behaved when he began to. It’s all about him
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Sounds like he’s cheating but I could be wrong, highly doubt it tho. Start asking him and digging through his shit
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Buy a tracking device off of Amazon and put in his vehicle and collect as much into as possible before you confront him, or at least that’s what I would do. Common law marriages is a thing in most states, FYI.
The goal isnt to see how many red flags we get. Time for confronting the problems. If it goes on too long there will be resentment.
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You’re not crazy! I think you should ask if something is maybe going on❤️
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I mean… Maybe maybe not things change some times but there does need to be a conversation… communication is key
Not crazy have him followed or check his phone. Get call record from carrier. He’s finding paradise somewhere else.
You need to tell him and see what he says. Your gut isn’t normally wrong
Maybe he stressed out about the pregnancy. Its all speculation as inly he knows whats happening
No. This behavior is suspect. Go with your instinct.
Definitely something to be suspicious about. Trust your gut. Tell him exactly what you have posted about…
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That is alot of red flags my dear
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He’s gonna have to grow up and resolve problems like an adult. Tell him to talk to you about it or get the hell over it
Can I ask what’s a row? I truly have no idea what you’re referring to, and yes I reread it a few times.
Trust your gut, it’s always has been right in my experience
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He is definitely cheating been there done that bet you look in his phone you will find your answers
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He’s with someone on the side
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You being pregnant May have something to do with his behavior. Talk to a counselor
Maybe he doesn’t love you any more , talk …
Instincts are never wrong
Always trust your gut it never lies
Wow almost every woman is saying the same thing, red flags he’s cheating but if the woman being pregnant and didn’t want to be touched doesn’t want to talk or sit by her partner it’s ok it’s because she’s pregnant.
How easily we try these days to run from marriage the problem is social media you have to many Dr. Phil’s.
Do I know the answer no you are the one that has been with him and need to figure out how to get him to talk might be work might be a new baby, men are simple hell he might be thinking about the next fishing trip
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Always trust your gut girl ALWAYS
A wife always knows when her husband is lies to her
It sounds like he didn’t want the 4th baby & as a husband or father, he can’t say that so he is resentful & he is distancing himself. Idk if he is necessarily cheating but he is definitely ignoring you by not answering your calls & steering clear of you at home.
You already know. If he is not attentive to you when carrying his child… then that tells you all you need to know.
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No you are not crazy.you have to find out what he is up to.spy him just for few days.
Sounds like he met someone at work
Sounds like a man who is unable to communicate…my husband withheld sex and made me feel unattractive…then left me without any discussion…some men are cowards and can’t stand confrontation…mine had mommy issues too…in contact every day and let his mother treat me like shit and would not stand up for me !
Do you think the MSN is possibly stressed? Maybe even depressed that you are pregnant again
He sounds depressed.
I would guess some kind of mental illness if he’s not cheating.
Trust your intuition.
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Honestly…we could all say whatever. But you personally would know if something doesn’t feel right.
Id go with your gut above all else.
You have one of two options:
- sit him down and bring it up and watch how he reacts (body language, facial ques, where his eyes go) or
- you investigate yourself without giving opportunity for him to delete evidence (in the event there is any)
Personally…id search myself THEN talk to him.
But thats just me.
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go thru his phone. youll find out
Communication is the key
Trust your gut instinct.
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Always trust your gut
Fuk tht pregnancy is a turn on it’s a natural thing and it makes all u mummy’s GLOW hes the one with the problem not u
He is likely cheating, or someone cast a spell on him. hire a private detective if you can. If you are a Christian pray
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Sounds like you should ask him.
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Maybe he is resentful and didn’t want a number 4? None of us know though, hope yall can communicate and resolve the issue.
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He’s cheating…check his phone…that’s what I would do…
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Maybe he’s working more to provide… Since you guys have a big family… Maybe he wasn’t ready or isn’t looking forward to a fourth child, that’s a lot of kids and not many people really want that many kids. I wouldn’t jump to a worst case scenario
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Something is definitely going on. If you’re thinking of leaving that’s going to be a big decision with four kids, unless some of the other ones are older and more self sufficient. Sounds like he isn’t up for communication. If you are able I would go to his office at night and check up on him. This is a very sad situation, but in todays world it sounds all too common.
He’s cheating,take my word for it,been there my self.
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He def has something going on with him physically, emotionally…. Maybe both!??? I guess it could be a lot of things. Obviously cheating is #1 concern. Maybe he’s having a hard time mentally and preparing for the added expense of this new baby coming. Maybe his testosterone is messed up and he doesn’t even want to get close to you bc it would embarrass him if he couldn’t perform or it makes him feel bad about himself to even consider sitting with you, holding your hand or being intimate in ways other than sex bc it makes him mad at himself and brings in resentments for him. I don’t know what that’s like but men are super sketch about this type of thing. They wouldn’t ever want anyone to know that, they are way too proud of their manhood ya know. I mean first and foremost I would just pay attention to the paychecks, I mean with that much OT or just extra hour worked, you should see at least some diff in the paychecks… keep in mind that the more you make the more they takes and taxes will only be higher when you make more so the increase may not be as much as you are thinking and expecting so don’t freak out if it’s not adding up exactly (hours worked~ $ paid) With that being said, your gut is def always right, there’s SOMETHING off and going on with him. You can try to have a conversation with him, but if he does have a man problem he’s probably not going to want to talk to you about it. Unfortunately added stress and anxiety that he may be having about the née baby coming could keep him turned off ya know. It’s not ok to treat you like this or to distance himself from you and make you wonder. I might have him followed and/or checked out if you really want to know the truth and don’t feel like you are getting it from him. There’s def work to do here on someone’s part. However you are also pregnant and need your rest too! Don’t beat yourself up too much momma, I’m sure the problem isn’t with you. Congrats on baby #4!!!
You think 1 kid is enough. Not into too many kids +not married. Truth . People need to stop with the assumptions 
Always go with your gut feeling!!
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We don’t have intuition for nothing. But before you do anything drastic, just talk to him. You don’t have to accuse him of anything. All you have to do is explain exactly how you feel and why. Say a lot of ‘I’m feeling’ not ‘you make me feel’. You don’t want to push him to be defensive. If he becomes defensive on his own, I would be more concerned. Good luck.
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I just about had an aneurysm trying to read that
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