My kids are supposed to start in-person school tomorrow. I know a lot of people don’t believe in masks or covid being as bad, but (we had three family members pass from covid and others get sick and have long term health issues) Is it selfish of me if I last-minute decision not to send them to in person school. They wanna go. Will wear a mask if they do go. But our state made it illegal for schools to require all students to wear masks. Aughhhh I’m so stressed about the whole situation. What would your mommas do? PS, my oldest is asthmatic.
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Help a mama out and respond anonymously on our forum. Would it be selfish of me to not send my kids to in person school?
I would keep mine home too if I were in your situation. You sound like a caring mom.
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I don’t think it’s selfish for you to do what you feel is best for your children. I personally can’t wait for my kids to go back to school but everyone is different.
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We live in that state too. We kept ours home last year but have decided we will be sending them back this year. I don’t think it’s selfish. I would probably feel the same way if we had so many family members pass.
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Yeah our family got covid and it was really bad. Last year I did remote with my son. This year is only in person but masks are required. So I’m going to send him in person and we will see how things go. If you have the option of remote then I would do it.
Do what you feel is best for your children. 
No, it’s not selfish. Especially with an asthmatic child, even if the other(s) aren’t, they could bring it home to your more vulnerable child. You’re being protective, but not overprotective. Especially since you’ve had other family members pass, and with the Delta variant. It’s just smart to want to keep your young ones safe.
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Trust your instinct.
If my kids didn’t need that in person way of learning(they have IEPs) I’d keep them home. So no I don’t think it’s selfish of you do to 
I decided to homeschool this year
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I want to keep my kids home too, but my oldest has learning disabilities That she needs to be in school… and my younger two need social interaction with kids their age
I think this is pretty much a decision any caring parent could have made on their own esp if one of the children has asthma.
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Nope. It’s not safe without masks.
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I homeschooled mine last yr and doing it til he graduates now. I’ve known several ppl to pass away from covid. And me and my son talked (16 now) and we both feel it’s best to continue homeschool til he’s done. Do what u think is best for your children and your family.
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Not at all! I think it’s a good choice to keep them home; cases are rising and are going to continue to for a while. The people who think it’s no big deal and don’t wear masks are part of the reason why we can’t get this under control!
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Depending on their age, I would include them in the decision.
What state I know where I’m at fheybstill wear a mask in school
My 8 year old is asthmatic and we are homeschooling. Did remote learning last year and our district isn’t offering it this year.
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I’m very thankful that my kids are old enough to get vaccinated and decided they wanted to do it. I don’t judge any parent’s choice about school…there’s so many variables and there’s no right and one size fits all answer
You do whatever you feel comfortable with. There’s nothing wrong with that. You won’t be the only one keeping their kids home to do virtual learning.
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Homeschooling is an option
We are going to be homeschooling this year.
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It’s not selfish. You have to do what you feel is best for your kids. Keep in mind any time you go against the grain (homeschooling, wearing masks etc) people WILL critise you. They do it to make you question yourself & take your freedom of choice from you. Don’t let them do that to you. Teach your kids not to care about others reactions.
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Definitely not selfish at all . It’s scary . It’s got my anxiety through roof . I don’t wanna send my kid . And they done away with virtual. I’m trying to get her into homeschooling. But it can be a wait .
Such a tough question. When do all the risks outweigh benefits? Always bullying, peer pressure, sometimes abuse, risks of school shootings, drugs, other kinds of violence, the old random flu and strep and now add to that Covid and variants… only you can make that choice for your own family and no it’s not wrong whatever you decide.
You would not be selfish keeping then home. You could even work in a few things that will get them started for next year. With adult suoervision work in cutting papers. You can draw a straight line and then move on the curves and zig zags and have them cut the lines. This will work on fine motor skills. Also getting wood puzzles this helps with recognizing letters numbers animals. Another thing i have done is gone to dollar tree and they have apackage. Of practicing tracing numbers and letters. Laminate them and have them practice using erasable markers writing over them. You can find a website to print out there name on the same kind of line paper and also laminate it so they can also pratice there name. So many things that can be done at home to help them be ready for school and to also keep them active so they are not bored or getting into trouble 
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You do what you feel is right for your children/family. My daughter stayed home last year and did the online learning. And I’m struggling with the idea of sending her back to regular school this year. I just don’t know what to do…
I let my boys have a voice in their education and medical decisions I am not the one who has to sit at school and learn and hopeful carry on with it so if I’m pushing something they don’t want they won’t stick with it. Same lines with most of the medical there are some things that are not negotiable in all areas until they are older but they have voice and that is heard.
Both my boys want to go to school in person and be there. So I support that.
I have asthma and I’m a Nurse don’t get to stay home and my oldest has lung issues from being born premature at 26 weeks. He wants to go. He couldn’t stand the Virtual or Hybrid so In Person he goes!
I have had severe COVID and have also had friends die of it and I am sending my kids to school they were A students who had Cs this year and they wanna go back ! Our schools make mask optional ! It’s a personal choice of what you think is best ! I feel like if you wanna wear a mask wear it and if you don’t don’t - vaccinate if you want it and if you don’t want to don’t ! Make your own choice and don’t push it on to others !!
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No it’s not selfish it’s our job as parents to protect our kids even if it’s not what they want to do. Do what’s best for you and your family but plenty of people home school or do online school. They can get peer interactions through other activities such as sports or play groups
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It is absolutely your choice, and you shouldn’t feel bad. I’m sending mine to school anyway, I’m terrified but she needs it. Our school is strongly recommending masks or virtual learning. Since my child is in kindergarten, I’m sending her to school simply because she NEEDS the socialization. If she were in 3rd-6th grade I’d consider virtual
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We pulled ours out of school this week due to COVID-19. Do what feels comfortable to you and your family
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I am not a mom but I do have asthma…And I am fully vaccinated and even wear a mask but not everyone does and if its not mandated in your area… I would totally keep your kid home and being a concerned parent is not being selfish. Not wearing a mask is selfish. You gotta do you and yours momma.
My youngest is too young for the shot and we currently have 185 active cases in my county. I’m in the process of getting him signed up for K12 because I don’t want to risk him catching it. He’s the only one in our household who isn’t vaccinated and we have several family members who could die if they caught any variant despite the fact that we are all vaccinated. No it’s not selfish, you’re doing what’s best for your kids and your family. With this new variant affecting kids, I personally feel it’s better to be safe than sorry.
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Maybe try K12 Stride Academy, I too was back & forth about sending my 5 year old. We will be trying homeschool for the first time. The cases in my town are rising & there’s already outbreaks in the schools.
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Kids don’t know what is best for them.
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I’ve had students sat next to kids who’ve tested positive and not got Covid with no masks. I would look at the stats for your area. If it’s a high Covid area for Delta variant then the risk is going to be higher. Otherwise it’s low risk. I’ve seen very few students have positive PCR tests and it was very random as to who got it. No students ended up really sick. Unless you are keeping them permanently isolated, the risks from going places are just as high.
Help a mama out and respond anonymously on our forum. Would it be selfish of me to not send my kids to in person school?
My state made it illegal as well, BUT the kids can opt to wear one. I’m person learning is so important, it would be a shame to limit them out of fear. Most schools are sanitizing nightly. Home schooling is a huge commitment, if you have the ability it’s certainly an option but listen to your kids, take what they want to do into consideration. No ages are mentioned, that is a factor as well. Tough choices lie ahead for all. No mention of their vaccination stays either, of the oldest is able perhaps consider the shots, FDA standard approval is expected by September. That way if they were to catch it, it wouldn’t be fatal. It’s a touchy subject and these are just my thoughts. Good luck.
I’m terrified as well ! 17 & 4 year old and my youngest won’t wear a mask. It’s soo scary I don’t want either of them off to get sick. And taking the bus!
I’m honestly on the same boat my anxiety has been bad this week knowing I have to send my son back. I made the decision to keep him on a home based program. But our District is making it impossible for a working parent. I’m so lost I don’t know what to do 
it’s my job as a mother to protect him . And I will never forgive myself if he gets sick it’s really bad out here in Cali with the delta variant.
If your gut tells you to keep them home, keep them home. Trust yourself. 
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If you can home school them, better to coz Covid is no joke, as you know
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I would do the same. Covid is not a joke
Selfish? Absolutely not. I know the kids are tired of being home and want to see their friends, but this is a serious health issue. You do what’s right for you. Follow your gut with this. Maybe not now but they will thank you for keeping them healthy and safe. Good luck.
Personally I feel like if you been out and doing shit all summer then you need to send your kids to school, kids need interaction. I say send them. Unless you stay home 247 for the rest of your life
This is a tough time to be a parent. There’s no right answer. We just make the best decisions we can with our kids. I’m sending my older girls & homeschooling my youngest son.
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I’m in the process of pulling mine now. I have no faith in the human race at this point.
Delta is killing kids. Its taking anyone. It doesn’t care.
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Mine are going to school, they love school and are advanced in their classes, they love their sports too. I choose no masks, no shots but that is the choice that my family makes. I don’t criticize people for what they want to do, if you feel better about keeping your child home that’s what you should do usually mama knows best 
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Your kids YOUR choice
I would do as I please and not ask the opinions of others.
The fear mongering in these comments is deplorable.
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Not selfish at all. My two older boys did online school last year and thrived. But we have a 5yo autistic son who cannot miss another year so I am stressed right out. This delta variant scares me.
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I’m in the same boat girl. Backwards Utah did the same thing, passed a law so masks can’t be mandated. And they say they care about the kids here. But I have a 9 year old asthmatic daughter who can not be vaccinated. Toughest decision ever. She wants to go and says she will wear a mask but I’m not into playing Russian roulette with her life.
No it would make you a concerned parent making a choice to protect their children. If masks are not mandatory when school starts back for our babies, they will be remote learners again this year. If that means I’ll have to be a teacher’s assistant to three different grade levels again while I work then so be it. We survived last school year and we will do it again. Your family will too:pray:t5:
Also if everybody does not wear masks then wearing masks won’t work. When I wear a mask it is more so for the people I encounter and when they wear them around me it protects me….so the ban on the mask requirement is counterproductive.
Sorry but you might as well lock them up in a closet and never let them out… This will go on for a while.
Do what is best for your family not society.
Better safe than sorry! If your gut says keep him home then I would listen… your intuition is there for a reason.
Im in the same situation i didnt send mine last year and they arr so far behind now , but my oldest (17) has severe asthma , and my other two (16,11) wont keep their mask with them much less on them I dont wanna send them but its hurting them more mentally to stay home 
I wish this crap would hurry up and go away !!
Absolutely not! You do what you think is best for your children and if you dont feel confortable sending them then dont send them, thats just you trying to protect them just explain to them that this is temporary.