So my daughter will be a year old next month, and I’m having a small party. I was thinking about inviting my midwife, who delivered my daughter. I was wondering if any other mommies who have had midwives have done this? I know it may seem silly, but my midwife was so helpful and supportive during my pregnancy and after. I don’t know if it would be inappropriate to invite her to the birthday or what everyone’s opinions are. Please, no negativity or making fun. I’m just trying to be nice to someone who was very supportive during a really hard pregnancy. And yes, I know that’s her job. But still, midwives do a lot for our babies and us.
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By all means invite her
I think it’s a really sweet gesture. You should ask her
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I think she’d probably be honored, the relationship you guys had didn’t disappear.
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I think that is a wonderful idea❤️
No harm in inviting her 
That’s so lovely .I’d ask her
I would invite her !
I think it’s sweet , especially if she still helps ! I’d ask her
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Your talking so well of her …so why have any doubt ? I am sure she’d be pleased
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If uou two are still in contact go for it!
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Invite her! My OB and all her nurses love when bring our older kids in and they get to see them grow up!
Ask her and then invite her to the party
Don’t worry about what other guests or family would think . Do what you like! you feel it in your heart for a reason😊 a beautiful gesture!
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Invite her…my midwife was wonderful during my pregnancies and deliveries…it doesn’t matter what everyone else thinks…do what makes you happy
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I think that is the sweetest thing I’ve ever read - and I believe she would be delighted that you want her to attend - God Bless you and your sweet heart for caring about the one who helped bring your beautiful child into this world.
I think that would be so sweet and I bet she would love it
Why would it be inappropriate to invite ANYONE to a party. It is a lovely gesture and means you want her to be part of the celebration
I think it’s a lovely idea.
I would! That’s super sweet. Even if she says no, at least it confirms her hard work isn’t in vain, you know?
Not weird! All she can do is decline! I’m sure she would love to see the baby she delivered doing well! 
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I am a birth doula and would love to be invited. I may or may not come depending on what my schedule looks like, but just being invited would be a very sweet gesture.
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If you want her there then definitely I’m sure she would love the gesture! It’s about you & baby, no one else!!
Go for it! I invited my midwife to my baby shower. My midwife became a dear friend and we would invite her to do things and our kids would play together.
I think it’s lovely!
I don’t see anything wrong with it. Go for it.
Definitely invite her. She would appreciate it. She may not be able to come if she is busy but I’m sure she would love that you thought about her if she can’t make it!
Its the first person that ever held touch seen your daughter! Ofcourse invite her with no hesitation. If people feel that inappropriate they are out of touch with being human! Love the way you think! happy birthday little one
All she can do is say no, go for it!!
That’s a nice idea, I know in NICU nurses love updates I’m sure she would love to see the baby
Invite her! I would think she would appreciate the invite
I would say if you have spoken to her numerous times since your baby was born or if you bump into her you could casually invite her to drop by if she wants. If you no longer speak to her I wouldn’t. It could make her feel guilty if she doesn’t want to and then feel obligated to buy a gift.
Invite her. If she’s not comfortable, she won’t come. I have invited my daughter’s support staff in the past. Some have come, others not. They were all gracious about it.
It’s up to you! I think it’s a lovely gesture x
Invite her because it’s a lovely gesture that I’m sure she will appreciate! But I wouldnt be offended if she didnt actually come! She may like to keep a professional devide from her personal life! Xx
I think she would love that gesture. But if she’s as great as you say; she probably gets a lot of invites so don’t take it personally if she doesn’t attend.
No I think it’s awesome
I think that’s bizarre
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It’s YOUR party (you’re paying)! You invite whomever you please, regardless of anyone else’s opinion! I think she belongs there and should be invited since she brought her into this world with you. But my opinion shouldn’t matter!
Absolutely invite her.
Who cares what anyone else thinks… if you want to invite her, do it. I bet she will be delighted to get an invite!!!
Heck no she would love that invite. I invite the dr that delivered both my girls as well as the midwife! They loved it!
I worked many years at Flower 5th Avenue Hosp. I became friends with a family because of how I combed the new borns hair. It would be wonderful for you to invite her…please do
I would absolutely do it! A nurse at the hospital when you go in to deliver is very appreciated and important! but I would think a midwife would be more…I dont know what word I’m looking for, (not that I think nor am I by no means saying a nurse is less!)but I would definitely ask her if I wanted to. I mean you why not, she may feel good that you asked. If she doesn’t want to or thinks it isn’t appropriate she will decline.
I never have but don’t think it would be weird to do so. I took my youngest to see the doctor that delivered him a few times.
In my ob/gyns patient rooms there were pictures of babies or kids that the drs delivered. I had a midwife too for another of my childrens birth. I think it does not seem inappropriate or anything but maybe a keepsake memory to let her know you really appreciated all her help during a special time, if you dont feel comfortable inviting her.
Invite her! All that can happen is she not come, but keep that same mind set! Its better to do something thoughtful then not to do
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Not unless you are friends with her
Seems like a wonderful kind gesture to me. Go for it momma!
Only weird if you make it weird
No. Invite who you want
I wouldn’t do it unless you were personal friends with her as well. She’s a medical professional who was doing her job.
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Mine came to my son’s first birthday. (My son is now 7) she gets him presents and cards on his birthday. She delivered my 11yo nephew and she delivered my stepbrothers girlfriends three kids too. Eldest of his is 7 in March.
I have a picture of her holding all three on her lap.
She is friends with my stepmum though. Who is also a midwife. She writes Auntie Sandra in them all. I’m so happy she still keeps in touch x
Of course you should invite people that supported you and made a difficult time easier. Life is short be nice and support one another. Happy Birthday
My midwife is my fb friend. I love her dearly!
I think it’s Very Nice!!
Invite her ! How lovely! If she’s busy or if she finds it inappropriate, then she would likely kindly not attend. But I doubt it, midwives are amazing and it’s awesome the bond we create with them in such a short time. I would invite mine when the time came.
I think that really depends on your relationship with her now.
I think it’s a nice gesture and if she can’t/ doesn’t feel Comfortable coming she can always RSVP no the invite
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Depends how close you are to her and how often you speak to her. If you have more medical conversations with her rather then personal and you don’t hang out as friends I wouldn’t
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Go for it. My daughter invited the student nurse that was following her pregnancy for a college project
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Great idea. I invited my doula to my sons 1st bday.
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I was really good friends with my midwife and her daughter who was a receptionist at the midwifes office so after i had my son we hung out alot BBQs ECT and the daughter babysit my kids
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I didn’t have a midwife or anyone with me for my 4 week hospital stay, my c section or the 3 week nicu stay. But, as a general rule, if youve seen me naked, on a table having a baby dragged out of me, I really don’t want to socialize with you in real life over screaming kids and overly sugary cake.
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Invite her. She will enjoy seeing her and will thank you for the gesture.
Worse case scenario, she doesn’t want to attend. I’d be willing to bet she would be touched by the invite either way, there’s no harm in asking if it’s something you feel comfortable with. I think it’s very normal to have a strong connection to an individual who helped you a lot through the pregnancy/delivery/mothering and you have every right to invite her
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I think it would be a nice gesture even if they can’t come they would be touched that you thought of them.
Definitely a nice gesture…and she may be honored by attending the 1st birthday of a child of which she helped bring into this world!
I became great friends with my midwife and she came to my daughters first birthday!
My midwife delivered all 4 of my children and we got very close. I invited her to family events and she of course came. When I required a hysterectomy to save my life even though I wasn’t done having children she was there for me immensely she truly is my friend now.
It sounds harsh but she probably means more to you than you do to her. She probably won’t come. I’m not being mean, I know midwives and this happens a lot x
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It depends on your relationship with her! I’m very close to my midwives and will always have a special place in our family. One of our midwives actually asked to go!
Not silly. Just send the invite.
My sister is a midwife and keeps in touch with a lot of families she worked with. I think it’s a lovely idea, and you can only ask, it doesn’t seem silly at all xxx
Do what you feel is best. External input from people that do not know you should be of no value.
Yes invite her. I don’t think she will think it’s weird
well, they normally don’t do too much after the baby is here… so, i think it would be neat to keep the relationship especially if you are going to use her again. I couldn’t use a midwife…
I don’t see anything wrong with inviting her.
I think it would be a sweet gesture!
I guess it never hurts to try. But if you haven’t kept in regular contact for the last year, don’t expect her to accept or show up. It might be weird for her. If anything, send her a beautiful thank you gift for your daughter’s birthday, and tell her some of the amazing things she’s accomplished in her first little year of life.
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Professional boundaries. You could invite her—she’ll probably not come. Send her a card instead with a pic. Everyone likes to feel appreciated-
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Of course it’s not weird, it’s an honor!.
If you’re friends with her … otherwise no. I liked my ob-gyn but didn’t invite him to anything
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Not quite the same, but my daughter has a occupational therapist & we invited her to the party. She was thrilled to be included in such an important day for our family. I say invite the midwife.
I think it is a sweet thing to do! Not weird at all.
I’d probably be more inclined to invite my health visitor but I saw her regularly due to my PND. Invite her but don’t expect her to accept, purely because of her job and boundaries.
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Not at all! Invite your midwife! I bet they’d be thrilled you thought of them 
Our midwife had a birth the night before my son’s party, so she wasn’t able to make it, but she was so happy we thought of her and had bought my son a book for his birthday before she got her invitation
If you still have contact with her, even occasionally, then I say invite away! If she doesn’t have any relationship with your family after your child’s birth, I think it might not be comfortable for her
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I have a friend that is a midwife and she is still in contact with a lot of her clients, go ahead!
I think it’d be fine to invite her.
If you don’t invite her though, maybe send her a photo of her with a “my first birthday” theme to it and write a note just explaining what you did her. You really appreciate everything she did for you during your pregnancy and labor so you wanted to send a little update on one of the babies she delivered.
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I think you should invite her, she helped get you through delivery and 1st year. Toast with sparkling wine.
A little different… but I invited my doula and she came!
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It doesnt hurt to ask, just don’t get upset if she says no or doesnt show.
Who care what people think if you happy and comfortable with her friendship…that what matters.in God eyes we are all brother and sister… even with the one we don’t like …
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Awe definitely invite her but remember her job is to help you and if she doesn’t show she might just be trying to keep things profesh & nothing against you
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I don’t think it would be weird at all. The worst that can happen is she says no.
Actually she would probably love it and you’re probably not the first person to ask… Bet she’s been to a few
Tell her you wanted her to be there for her first birthday because she meant a lot to you
11 years later and my midwife and I are still good friends. Not weird at all!
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My only concern is then would she feel obligated to bring a present. Even if you tell her not to she will feel that she must. Imagine being in her shoes and she gets invites to even 1/4 of the babies she helps deliver. Maybe sending her a picture of your daughter she helped bring into this world with a note of thanks again and how much you think of her when you watch your daughter growing up. Unless, of course, she has become a good friend of yours and you see her socially on other occasions. Just saying…something to think about.
Honestly that sounds super super sweet.
When my son turns 1 I am definitely going to invite our Kramzorgster Simone! 
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