I never had problems with my son’s side of the family except for one issue one person doesn’t seem to want to let go of. (Long story, short. My son was around 2 or 3 when his uncle and his wife wanted to take him for a weekend, and that time his wife was pregnant, and they just wanted to practice having a kid around and spend time with their nephew. So, of course, I agree, why not? That’s family. So when the day came, and I got my son ready, he ended up not wanting to go. I’m talking about kicking and screaming, saying no, he doesn’t want to go with his uncle. So I told him I’m sorry, but I can’t force my son to go anywhere he doesn’t want to go, and his uncle seemed fine with my son’s decision until his wife brought her two sense into it and since then held a grudge towards that.) My son is now ten, and she has the audacity to tell her daughter, she does not allow around my son if I’m with him. I have been nice for seven years, and I always allowed my son around her and his uncle — brought Christmas gifts, birthday gifts, and just because of gifts. But until I heard the truth on New Year’s Eve, out of all days, I’m fed up so am I wrong to say fuck it, he’s not allowed to attend family functions anymore with them because I’ll be damned if my son is going to be around them and talk crap about me around him.
Dont punish your other family members because of their actions. Other family members didnt do it just them…just avoid them.
Theyre petty and tell your son to not mind what they say! He shouldnt have to miss out on his family just because of a select bunch. Tell your son if they are talking about you, then have him say “maybe you should talk to my mom about that not me”
I absolutely would not let me daughter go somewhere if I knew they were talking crap about me. Her dad and I split when she was younger and haven’t really spoke since. I however would never speak bad about her dad especially around her and would expect the same from them. Us not getting along is not my daughters fault and she shouldn’t have to be around that. If they can’t keep their mouths shut absolutely keep him away.
id settle things once an for all tell her to put em up an y’all duke it out an after y’all done let bygones be bygones
Take the high road. They make themselves look like asses with that behavior. Tell your son that there’s the truth and then there’s someone else’s truth. Believe everything with a grain of salt and remember he is loved. The actions and words of others show their true characters. Let this be a learning situation for him.
That’s all over 1 cancelled outing with them? WOWZERS ! She (or they) must be 1/2 witted if all these years later this is going on. Or is there more to the story??
I totally agree with being upset. However you’re punishing your son and the other family members if you withhold him back. He deserves to get to spend time and make memories with the ones who want to be with him! As far as her, I’d have some words, with his uncle and his wife. I 100% agree if he was losing his shit, I would not force him to go. Especially if it was for a whole weekend. That woman needs to grow up, how mean?!
Trust your gut instinct of what it tells you to do😉
I think it’s your decision. I wouldn’t see why not
If I’m not welcome neither are my kids. If I’m gonna be uncomfortable there my kids and I ain’t going.
If they have kids they should understand what is wrong with them. My two-year-old is a mommas boy. I would not avoid it. I would say something.
You and her need to talk.
Like adults.
If she isn’t willing to get over herself, then by all means, keep her away.
Sounds like the uncle and his wife need to be put in their place and told to get over shit. They’re adults they can grow tf up and move on. I would not exclude my child because of the asshattery of other people.
you should talk to her about this
I’d say you either go with him, or he goes with someone you trust, he shouldnt miss out on all the good family because of that one family.
This grudge that they are holding onto is just petty and very immature. If I was you I would let my kid make that decision if they want to go to the family functions even if these people are there or not, however, I would also be calling my mom, dad, grandparent, someone older in the family to let them know that this uncle and aunt grudge that has been going on for 7 years over something minor has gone on too long and if it doesn’t get resolved soon you will not be subjecting your child to all the back talking, resentment, etc that goes on at said functions. Then make a plan for you 3 to sit down and hash it out like adults with a mediator who will not take sides.
Don’t punish the rest of the family. I’d call her and ask her what her problem is. But it sounds like she’s still butt hurt and holding a grudge and if that’s the case I’d be done with that. I ain’t got time to be pampering adults egos.
No your not wrong. They need to grow up.
If this is the only reason, your son is old enough to know if he wants to go, if its only one, dont punish the rest or your son. I understand where your coming from as that is just childish of her to do, however, like i said if its just this one and the only thing thats going on, then let your son decide
I’m sorry, I would not keep my child away from any family functions of either side because of one woman’s petty vendetta over something that happened years ago.
I would tell her to grow the f*** up And ignore her and tell my children to ignore her.
I would make sure they understand that some people are very petty and can’t let things go, even adults.
Then ask my kids if they want to go. If they are uncomfortable around someone then I’m going to listen to my kids opinion on it.
I agree with you!
I’m NOT Going TO LET anyone WHO disrespect ME or My kids father , be around my KIDS!!!
You and them need to sit down.and have an honest chat. If you cant move forward from that then yes l would not allow my children to be around family that bagged me. Ring them and ask to meet for a coffee, if they are not prepared to at least do that, well u already have your answer.
So your going to be petty and punish the rest of the family over them, your letting them win if you do.
I have a very similar situation with a family member who i do not allow my children around bc of negative talk about me around my kids. And over my dead body will you try to talk my kids into thinking negatively about their mother.
I wouldn’t withhold my child from spending time with either side of the family. Beef between adults needs to stay between the adults. Talk to your husband and your brother in law if you can’t talk to the wife directly. Kds aren’t pawns. As hurt and frustrated as you are, you need to put aside that resentment and not keep your son from the entire family because of one person acting immaturely. Be the bigger person. Show your son how to treat others even if they aren’t always deserving of kindness.
Don’t keep him away from family events. Put that stupid bitch in her place! She is absolutely pathetic!!
I know someone like that on my partner’s side of the family, so I 100% get it
Why make your son feel ostracized? I’d tell everyone what she’s doing and loudly while she’s there.
Don’t hold your son back from family who love him. Call her out on her $#!¥ and keep it moving!
It’d be fine if the negative talks between adults stay within the adults. lots of times the nativitity don’t stay with adults, passes down to the children.
Son is 10 explain to him what is going on with her. Let him make a choice to go or not. If he wants to go you go with him and just tell him if she says anything about you she should talk to you and just walk away. He might not want to go. Obviously he told you what she said? If you were there ask her ‘why?’ in front of everyone. I would not make my son go at that age either if that upset at 3 years old.
Sit down with her talk to her and get down to the facts why you are talking all that smack behind my back why she’s holding a grudge
I think you’re doing the right thing by going with him or confronting her about the past situation. They are adults, grow up.
U dont owe those ADULTS nothing. Kids have an intuition that we dont have and we shouldn’t force them to be around ppl that they arent comfortable with, family or not. If ur family wanna be immature then they have to carry that with them. Listen to ur son.
Don’t get caught up in people’s she said, she said drama
Confront both of them at the same time… the one who told you what was said, and the other who was accused of saying it.
You will see if it is true or not…Then you can handle it.
There is a lot of manipulators and a lot of liars…
At two… your kid throws a tantrum and you allow it… and now its caused a rift between family members. So. I think you still go to family functions and let the kids play together… be an adult and dont let yoyr kid control you.
God that’s a long time to hold a grudge
I would not bring him around the uncle or wife, or anywhere they would be
I wouldn’t go either.
I would comfort them. It’s your family isnt it? Screw that,don’t let her childish ass drive more of a rift. Handle your business.
Girl cut these people out of you and your son’s life. This is a non issue. Anyone who makes you or your child feel “less than” can kick rocks.
Sounds like there’s more to this story. Surely no one would hold a grudge for eight years over a 2 year old having a meltdown because he didn’t want his mother to leave him at someone else’s house??
Sometimes family can be assholes. If you and your son don’t feel comfortable being around them then stay away.
I’d be confronting this bitch and telling her to grow up or meet me outside 
I’m joking. But really, don’t make your kid miss out on cousins, grandparents etc b3cause 1 non blood relative wants to hold a grudge. Just don’t let her be alone with your child
Why would issues with those two people warrant making your child miss out on the rest of his family?
I would say continue to be the bigger person. One day your child will see it for what it really is. And he will have nothing to say that you kept him from his family. Now if your son decides he doesn’t want anything to do with them support his decision. It took 17 years for my son to see his bio dad for the person he’s always been. And he figured it out 2 days before thanksgiving. I’m still in shock to be honest.
They are ass s. I would call them out when their behavior deserves it . Stay strong.
Tell her how pathetic she is and that she needs to move on and let that go. Some people are just the worst!