I think it’s disrespectful. But I was raised to only lust after your spouse 
So to me it would be a big issue because I think if you’re following scantly clad women then you’re probably lusting after them. It all depends on what boundaries y’all have set in your relationship. My husband wouldn’t be cool with me following a bunch of topless men in speedos either. Lol
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Disrespectful. People can see who you follow and it’s also personally giving them attention. If you need porn, go to PornHub, not social media.
What kind of a question is this?! Completely unacceptable…maybe marriage should be re-considered!! Smdh!! Men…be frickin happy with the woman your WITH!!
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No I used to get really jealous when my ex husbands did stuff like this and then I came to realize 95% of men do it. Now if it’s changing things in your relationship like your sex,he’s hiding things being secret then it’s an issue just my opinion.
Over reacting, unless the girls are local and or he knows them personaly
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I have been married almost 17 years. I follow a lot of handsome men on tiktok, instagram, etc. I could care less if my husband does the same. We are in a relationship, not blind or dead. It’s disrespectful if he is commenting inappropriate things or messaging them privately.
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Really? Of course it’s disrespectful time to let go he wouldn’t like it him you were doing it,
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Unacceptable bc it could lead to more then just following someone on social media .
It’s questionable that’s for sure. Talk to him about it. But do you not trust your fiance enough not to look on his phone? Does he look through yours?
I am old over 70. But He would not be my fiancé. I would call him long gone history. But that is why women today get treated like dirt. Have respect for yourself and be a lady. Old is good. 2021 stinks if you put up with that behaviour. What age do you call young women 10-19??
I would move on without him
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I would leave as well. Sorry 
imagine leaving someone because they looked at social media model pictures.
this would be everyones 50th husban lol.
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If you have already made it clear that it makes you uncomfortable previously hell yea I’d be mad! But if this is something you HAVENT talked about try talking to him first!!!
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What I have learned through my marriage is Let It Go. Honey he is not touching any of those women or going to bed with them or anything like that. He’s doing all that with you. Just like a man with a Playboy book. No difference I have guy friends on my Facebook that I talk to some of them live where I live and some of them don’t. Some of them are my ex-boyfriends and some of them are not. But my husband and I are different you know what I mean. When I first got married to my husband his first wife who is now in heaven I would call that she needed something. And they were married 14 years. And she was basically disabled so if she needed something fixed that required needing a man my husband would go over there. I was her friend okay and my daughter called her Aunt Cindy. Jealousy does not get you far in your marriage at all. If you’re going to get jealous like that can you imagine later in your marriage. Okay my husband trims trees and things like that. Palm trees or rebuilding people’s homes or whatever. If I had to worry about my husband stripping some lady down in her bedroom every time he went to work I might as well not be married. How about the lady who said right in front of me and my child that my husband could go in her house and I could go home and he can make more money than trimming palm trees that her husband died six months ago and she was ready to go. And this woman said it right in front of my child. I have an ex-boyfriend and my family sees him every other day. He eats dinner with us all kinds of stuff gives us a ride. What kind of marriage are you going to have if you’re constantly jealous? I can see if this guy was talking to all these girls behind your back or something like that. Then yes okay we’re not playing the cheating game. But honestly men and women both have eyes and we look if we think they’re pretty or attractive or sexy or handsome or whatever it may be. It’s in human nature to be that way. I say let it go and let it be because that is something that may drag your relationship down. That would have been like me letting my husband know that he was not going to go to his first wife and her house and fix a broken toilet even though she could not walk hard and do it herself. Now what kind of wife would I have been? I have had ex-boyfriends bring me a cup of sugar things like that because I needed it for my kid. As long as you’re not cheating or anything like that I think things should be fine. Because let me tell you something about me. And my husband knows it. You’re not going to tell me who I can and can’t talk to you or be friends with or associated with or whatever. As long as I’m being faithful to you that’s all that should matter. You are not going to control me you are not my daddy I have a daddy. And that’s not what marriage is about. You don’t control one another. Now when you start that controlling issue now you have a big issue. Because now you’re going to be fighting over everybody letting you know you can’t control me. So either way you’re fighting. I mean honestly. And I’m the type of girl you do not control like that because I don’t need you in my life like that and I’m a grown woman it’s my own mind and my own way of life and the way I feel about my life and as long as I’m faithful and not cheating why would you bother trying to control my every move. Even Facebook and that is something I still let my husband know about. No I’m not doing away with my Facebook I have family and friends that live in other states. Enjoy my Facebook my pictures of my children my pictures of my food or the house are remodeled or whatever I am not going to get rid of a Facebook page for even my husband. I mean he can hit the road so that’s why I see that. And that’s from 13 years of rough long marriage. I mean you can do what you want you’re a grown person and you have your own mind and you can make your own decisions. Not one single person can tell you on Facebook what you should do only you can tell you what to do
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Why are you up tight? If he’s following and not touching
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Talk to him about it
You start doing the same or buy playgirl magazines and see if he likes it 
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Sooooo, basically all of you saying it’s nasty and disrespectful I’m assuming you’ve never watched porn while in a relationship or found another persons physical appearance attractive??? Like, your eyes really stop working because you’re committed to someone?!?! If he’s not doing anything other than watching videos then you need to do some self reflecting. Find out what’s making you so insecure and work on that instead of wasting time worrying about what he WATCHES online
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You are what you settle for! Tell him how you feel and don’t put up with his crap!!! Demand he treats you like you want to be treated and if he can’t do that kick him to the curb!!!
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I hope you all still feel the same way when it’s the other way around and y’all are watching guys that are attractive half naked
Set up those boundaries early in the “serious relationship” time. Kind of childish after the fact. Ask him if he’d like you to primarily follow sexy hot half naked big muscle men and what that’s make him feel like. And honestly, if he doesn’t care about how that makes you feel inside then hate to break it to you but it’s a red flag for sure!
Definitely A over reaction! Your with him right? He chose you right? Just seems like you have lack of trust in him or have insecurities within your self or relationship. Talk about it communicate with your partner
If there no trust there no relationship
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it’s not what others find disrespectful, it’s what YOU find disrespectful. have a convo with your husband and explain your feelings. go from there.
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Social media is destroying relationships these days. TikTok is not Facebook or Instagram these girls could be showing up on his for you page (which he has no real control over) meaning he might not even be following them. If he is following them then talk to him ask him what made him decide to follow them and unless the girls are mutuals (meaning they are following him back) does it really matter? Sounds like you don’t want him looking at any other female ever which isn’t exactly healthy. Talk with him tell him why it makes you uncomfortable because it sounds to me it’s because you are insecure in some way or he has a history of cheating. Trust is earned and clearly he doesn’t have your trust for some reason.
Sounds more like a trust issue to me.
It’s inappropriate bottom line. Run!
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Yes totally disrespectful!!! It’s one thing to look another to follow and then comment! He wouldn’t like it if you were doing it! I always look at what I’m doing thru my boyfriends eyes if he would be upset if I did it then I don’t do it period! Social media ruins relationships if you don’t set boundaries.
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I dunno… I follow Hank Green
Sorry, you’re overreacting. What are the chances he would ever actually meet them in real life.
Each couple needs to set their own boundaries. What is ok to some women/men will not be ok to others. You define what is cheating or deemed inappropriate in your relationship. It does and should vary from couple to couple.
He can look at all the naked girls on the phone on tv or where ever he may want 1 really dont care he cant rise to the occasion any more 
First if this is not something you cannot deal with walk now. This is who he is. You didn’t just get a child to raise you are marrying a partner with a brain, wants and needs. Second if you want him looking at you instead of TikTok then give him something to look at. It’s your relationship and as long as both of you are happy it no ones business how you keep him happy. If you make this an issue that’s where the hiding things starts and it escalates in him talking to a friend about all things his “fiance” hates which opens the door for those other women. If you act like it’s just a video on the internet and aren’t bothered by it it does two things. One it shows him you are secure in yourself. Men get annoyed when we are insecure about someone they never met on the internet. They think we are ridiculous and out of our minds and it’s not sexy. Two, if you aren’t pissed about it surprisingly he will be more open to sharing the nonsense he sees on the internet that he might think will piss you off. My husband gets nonsense from his friends all the time. If I want to see anything on his phone he lets me because it’s the internet and friends are so stupid stuff. Many times I see 5 seconds and I am good and don’t want to see anymore and just shake my head and walk away. Remember a fiancé is not your child to raise or mold. If there is something you really don’t like tell him WITHOUT an expectation of change as he is a grown man. Pick your battles.
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Disrespectful but I am old school 77 years old.
Why is a grown man on tik tok is my question. It’s for young kids who are immature looking for followers and attention .
I would find it disrespectful. We both have the same feelings about things along those lines, and talked about our expectations before marriage.