What would you ladies do if you found your fiancé’s TikTok account and all he was following were young women in their bathing suits or half-naked? Do you find this disrespectful, or am I overreacting?
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While myself and many others will say overreacting your feelings are valid so speak on them with him… My take on it is he’s only following them and watching their videos… now if he’s messaging them or adding them to other social media’s then you definitely have a right to be upset. My girlfriend follows people and it doesn’t bother me… hell I tag her in videos of pretty girls or videos of girls with nice bodies 
good luck 
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If you don’t like it than yes its disrespectful
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Every relationship will have its own boundaries!
These need to be discussed early on!
Me personally? Could care less. He’s welcome to go to the strippers with his friends!
I prefer a open relationship with communication and no secrets!
I know ALOT of men who hide these types of things from their spouses as the women are so jealous!
But if it’s mutually discussed in the beginning what triggers you , he should be respectful!
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It’s disrespectful for sure.
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It’s immature AF, yes
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It’s disrespectful and immature.
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I don’t like it. I don’t think it’s over reacting.
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Someone needs to grow up…
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Regardless what others say YOUR FEELINGS are valid. That’s your boundary in a relationship and should be respected
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If you are unhappy with it then yes it’s disrespectful. Tell him how it makes you feel.
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He’s following their only fans as well, I can guarantee it.
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It’s extremely immature and disrespectful
If you are in a Christian relationship the Bible talks about these things and a man of God will not need or want to have those kinds of women around in any way and guard his heart from those types of temptations… most will laugh about having that kind of relationship and that guys gawking over women and lusting while married is “normal” and “how we need to accept it” but I assure you, it’s not normal, OR healthy.
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Ehh I feel like all
Men follow half naked chicks on social media. As long as you don’t know them personally and you don’t sleep with them it doesn’t matter what you look at.
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Sinful and will likely lead to worse things!!!
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If you dont like it than yes, its disrespectful. The only time it wouldnt be is if you guys sat down and discussed it and made an agreement together that it is okay.
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All men do not do this lol, for those saying that. Boys maybe
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I follow half naked more attractive men back🤷♀️ #petty
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My husband of 18 years does it but I am not worried about it he doesn’t know them I know where he lays his head at night and it’s with me hell I point some out to him saying hey baby look at her butt… but he has never gave me a reason to worry
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Dumb! On your account…just saying
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It personally doesn’t bother me, ive even told my fiance usernames of girls I think he’d like. But if your uncomfortable with it, discuss it with him. If he stops for you, that’s love and respect but if he refuses to unfollow then your gut.
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I’m too old for this 
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If you were looking at half naked guys would he like it you say it’s a guy thing WRONG
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If you do not like it then yes it is a problem. Have you told him you don’t like this? Personally both me and my husband both have tiktok and it doesn’t really bother me because it’s not like he knows these people.
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Oooo I bet he follow hawkhatesyou or stepmommy
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It’s 100% disrespectful and DO NOT listen to these people telling you to get over it. You sit him down and let him know how you feel and you guys figure out what your boundaries are. Do it NOW before you marry him because if he refuses to respect you and your wishes and keep looking at half naked girls then he doesn’t deserve you and you’re better off without him.
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Look with him and then show him have naked men or naked men and be like dammmmmm . U like that. See how he reacts then tell him to stop. Me personally I will look right at them with my hubby .
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In the first few years of my relationship, I was extremely jealous! I mean… I was bad! He couldn’t look at another female without me climbing his ass! I pushed and pushed until we had major problems. I had to learn that the problem was with me… not him. We’ve been together for 27 years and I surrendered my insecurities a long long time ago. Your fiancé has chosen you to spend the rest of his life with… not the females on Tik Tok that he will never meet.
In my opinion its disrespectful.
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If you don’t like it or are not okay with it, and he knows? Then yes, it’s disrespectful. If he doesn’t know? You can’t be upset with him for a boundary you’ve never asked for. Sit down and talk with him about it. Tell him it makes you uncomfortable, and be honest with why, and try to find out from him why he is interested in that. Find a solution together - whether it’s what you want, because he agrees, it’s what he wants, because you agree, or a compromise to make both happy. But everyone has to agree on the solution.
Don’t go after him like he did something wrong though, especially if you’ve never made that dislike clear. Even if he’s wrong because he knew, going into a conversation like you’re scolding someone, will never work.
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It is disrespectful. Also isn’t tik tok for kids?
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My partner follows all Japanese girls accounts, I follow big wood cutting vikings
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Mine are all cops twerking and “life of a stripper” videos 
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DISRESPECTFUL AF.
I don’t tolerate that in any way.
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I would say bye bye. He is obviously not trustworthy and I see him cheating if you are foolish enough to marry. No respect for you. A total loser. Get out while you can.
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Men get away with a lot because it’s normal… we are taught… Get over it… boys will be boys right…? They ALL do it, right? Well yes and no
They get away with what you allow them to. This goes both ways. Most of the time if you did half the stuff they do, it would be an issue.
If you don’t feel comfortable with it and feel disrespected, talk to him about it. If he loves you… Your feelings and doing his part to keep you happy (I would think) are more important than needing to follow these people.
All relationships are different but one thing that should always be there is respect for one another.
I say all relationships are different. If he gets the OK to do stuff like that then you should be able to as well. You guys are supposed to be equals and respect for each others feelings and boundaries. Some women are ok with it and thats cool.
I don’t think it’s wrong to do but I feel these things need to be talked about early on.
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Years ago I would have said you’re overreacting. But then I found out my husband was cheating with an 25 year old “Instagram model” he was following. So my best advice is to keep your guard up and listen to your gut.
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No need to worry unless your finding messages or he is lying. At the end of the day we are all entitled to look.
It is human nature to look at the opposite sex. However, there should be boundaries.
Pfft. Wait until he spends money on onlyfans, then talk to us. lol
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Totally disrespectful
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Yuck an I hate tic tok such a childish trend 
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My husband and I send them back and forth to eachother. He’s open with me because I don’t judge him. Maybe some of y’all should try it sometime
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Not like he can actually touch them 
Hahahaha.
You should see the men I follow on tiktok. I even tell my husband. Or giggle loudly…
I could care less.
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I ALWAYS hated it when my husband did it😡
It shouldn’t be an issue unless you’re jealous or have trust issues in your relationship.
It’s disrespectful. If you don’t like it then that’s what should matter to him anyway. It’s called respecting your boundaries. Everyone has their own
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Completely disrespectful
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When you are truly in love with another person you won’t feel the need to look at other women in that way but nowadays people think it’s no big deal
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Of course it’s disrespectful
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As long as he’s not flirting with them. I have half naked blokes on my Facebook. It’s only eye candy
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Is he actually following them or are they just showing up on his for you page? I’m asking because the for you page part can be sooo random in its recommendations, it’s supposed to suggest stuff you’ll enjoy but I get some provacativeee behind videos recommended all the time!! Even though I literally just go on there for the comedy side they’ll still pop up. So that can be what it is but if he went out of his way to click and follow all their pages, liking all their post etc then yeah it’s extremely disrespectful when you’re making it known you’re not comfortable with it.
I think it’s normal tbh. He obviously knows you can see his profile and who he follows. If he’s not contacting these girls, then I don’t see what the big deal is. You can turn on the TV and see half naked men and women in commercials, movies, shows, etc.
It is only natural to be attracted to others, regardless if you are in a relationship or not. It is how we as humans are wired. It’s if he is making an effort to talk to these women or spending “your couple time” on this app, or paying a subscription that would have me worried.
Sadly, social media can be distruptive in a relationship.
Can you honestly say you don’t follow any attractive men? It’s not like he’s paying to see these women cause than that’ll be different.
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Yes, it’s annoying but as long as he’s not contacting them, then, Girl, follow some men! 
if its good for him, it’s good for you, until your point is proven. Two can play that game if needed:person_shrugging:
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To me it’s disrespectful. If you truly love that person and have respect for that person, a woman or man shouldn’t be watching or following women or men’s risqué tiptoe videos. It’s called respect. He wouldn’t want you following men who are doing risqué things. You should be enough for each other to not have to follow half naked people twerking or whatever they watch to be satisfied.
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I send my husband the booty toks. I have 0 worries his anxiety ridden ass is going anywhere lol
No. It’s not like he actually knows them… do you hate it when he watches TV shows with women dressed in swimsuits? Or movies cus I’m sorry it’s an app and he can follow whatever he likes
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Eww so disrespectful
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What grown ass man uses tiktok anyways
I’ll never understand how this is disrespectful in an open and trusting relationship.
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Yea I would be upset
Could yous imagine if our grandparents done this type of shit when they were younger hahaha the disrepect. How times have changed
If you dont feel right abt it talk with him .
I don’t get why this is so bad? lol
I’d talk to him if it makes you uncomfortable…
Is he following them or showing up bc their content is what’s hot rn? Also it’s ok to find other people attractive. Lust is not love. He’s with you. I think other people are pretty or handsome but love is love. We are allowed to admire others and support them. Some of these girls pay their rent with their internet income 
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No sorry but why would he want to be looking at other women or following them,I wouldn’t trust him at all and confront him about it and if he lies about it then bye bye as he’s got something to hide.
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So disrespectful … I won’t put up with it,that’s for sure! … seems to be the norm these days😢
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So many controlling women…just because you’re on a diet, dosen’t mean you can’t look at the menu 
set boundaries, trust your partner, and have communication. Easy as that.
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That’s disrespectful
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yep. disrespectful:dart:
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If he didn’t know them then yeah disrespectful
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Also, says you “found” his tik tok account? So I’m going to assume you didn’t know about his account either, if that is the case I’d say goodbye. What else is he hiding that you haven’t found yet? And if you do stay you ll end up investigating everything and that is no life to lead. If there is no trust or respect maybe consider what you would like out of life and know there will be someone who will give you the things you deserve
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I don’t think any self-respecting adult should have a Tik Tok however lots of people do and you can’t control what is on there. Just saying
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Depends. I follow hot young men and women on tiktok and my fiancé knows about it. He doesn’t really care because he knows it doesn’t mean anything and that he’s my number 1. Everyone’s limits are different. Have you talked to him about it or would this come as a surprise to him?
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Are you worried if you don’t have trust you have nothing
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if youre worried then you don’t trust him and if you dont have trust you cant have a relationship
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My husband said he “followed people to get more people to follow him” but he’s on there commenting on every girls videos about how beautiful they are and shit. So yeah I’d say you aren’t overreacting. TikTok is a terrible app.
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To me it’s an overreaction. To you it may not be. To each their own. In my relationship we are very open and comfortable with each other. I know he finds other woman attractive. I don’t care if he looks. We have no issues with trust and he’s always with me. He may like to look at other woman but they are woman he could never had and I know he would always choose me. Sometimes he will watch YouTube videos of Victoria secret models and I just watch with him. I have no shame in admitting another woman’s beauty and I don’t mind if my husband admires them as well. If he does that and gives you no attention then I could see why it would bother you.
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Yeah, I’m voting no on that one. Ew! No no no
There are other things on tik tok than half naked girls. My husband knows my rules and limits as 2 what I put up with and knows better 2 watch things like that. I’m not saying a few things dont slip through but at the same time he has 2 respect me and my feelings just as I have 2 respect his. It’s a 2 way street and if that is all he watches or does it clearly means hes not into u or doesnt respect ur feelings enough 2 care. If ur not talking out ur feelings and what u expect as far as a relationship goes u will always be miserable. If it isnt working for 1 or both of u it’s just best 2 part ways. U cant control his actions but u have the right 2 ask him 2 respect u and the relationship
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Hell yes. I just went through this and tik tok needed to go.
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Overrracrting- yall can still look, just be honest… I’ll look at the same chicks with my hubby- perks of having a bi-wife. 
Hell no that’s disrespectful to u
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You find me one person that isn’t thirst following someone on tiktok and I’ll give you twenty bucks. My husband isn’t a tiktok person, I personally like it. There are a lot of people I follow bc theyre funny, or informative, or something I enjoy…then there are some I follow because its a whole ass thirst trap shrug at the end of the day I know who I’m with and who I want and love, ain’t no insecurities over here. Now if they were exchanging inappropriate messages then sure, but otherwise it aint that serious
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It’s natural for men to look at women as long as he’s not acting on it I wouldn’t worry about it.
I mean I follow some pretty good looking guys, and I have no intention of EVER cheating on my man. I trust him and if he was following girls I don’t see why it would be any different than me following guys?
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I’ve had issue after issue with Tik Tok and its content. The things the app creators allow on there is sickening. Not all of it is bad but half naked TEENAGERS shaking their asses, making sex faces accompanied by sex sounds for “views” is a problem. Anything sexualizing teens shouldn’t be allowed as it is but the amount of dumb trends that are also coming from it as well that are causing kids to harm themselves is a whole other issue with the app.
But if you’re man is looking and you’re uncomfortable with it, talk to him. Set boundaries, explain what bothers you and work around that and if he’s not willing to adjust himself to make you feel better then do what you gotta do to make yourself feel better! I personally think Tik Tok should be shut down or put more limitations on its content. I don’t support it AT ALL and I dont blame you one bit for not liking it or the situation you’re in with your man. Your feelings are VALID, PERIOD.
Wow, just wow,… all these comments. Ya’ll mad when your bfs watch porn too…?? 
Its tiktok… geezuz…
You need to express your feelings. I did. Im insecure (mainly about my self) not that hed run off but yeah… i also over think everything and had over thunk what if he was thinking of other women he had seen instead of me during our time. Ya know? So i asked him about it and asked if he would stop and he respexted me enough to stop.
All you need to do is voice yourself. Youll get farther then being quiet
It is an issue if it doesn’t align with your morals and views because it may indicate that you both have different core values. For me, I don’t care about stuff like that or porn.
I see nothing wrong with it. But If you have a problem with it you should talk to him about it.
He may not be ready for a lifetime commitment. Does he know this bothers you?
Kick him to the. Curb
I personally see nothing wrong with it. I’m secure enough to not be bothered with it. Other people aren’t as secure, and that’s fine as well. However, going psycho-b***h crazy on the dude isn’t the answer (disclaimer: I am in no way implying or assuming that you are going to or have already done so). Express your insecurities in a calm, not accusatory, manner. Do NOT give ultimatums nor attempt to force him to cut off the outside world. That is abuse and not acceptable. Once y’all have the conversation, self-reflect on why it bothers you so much. Work on your confidence. Work at it every waking moment. It is hard work, yes, but it is doable. Once you have that confidence you will realize that you aren’t bothered by it anymore. Especially if he has no other indications of something shady going on. Merely liking/following randos on tiktok really isn’t cause for concern. Truly. I hope I was at least somewhat helpful. Good luck!!
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I wouldn’t care personally but my boyfriend would find it disrespectful to me and not do it. He has crazy good manners, especially for a guy.
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It depends. My rule is you can look but not touch. And we have been happily married for about 4 years. He isnt dead but you have to have trust. I know I can take my husband’s phone at anytime and look at it and he can do the same.
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Just a few I’d say wouldn’t hurt nothing but if they all are then yep.
You are over reacting. Seriously you think those girls want him? No they just want followers.
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