I understand this because usually weekends are mommas days off when daddy’s home 
Yes with no restrictions on him. Be happy he has a healthy activity and outlet. I wish mine could go more, right now we’re reconstructing a whole house to sell, took it down to the guts and rebuilding the inside and the mental load of a man providing is an absolute tundra in their brains, it relieves some of their stress too wether it be hunting, cycling, fishing, gaming whatever they’re into, let him be, let him have this , it very well may be the only thing he has for himself that is specific to him. Your children are old enough to be left alone together for you to go find something of interest to yourself like that as well. Instead of this question maybe ask yourself what do I wanna do. What do I like, is there a hobby or anything I can pick up and enjoy my alone time with? I wish mine got a buck he’s still working on it. It’s frustrating for them too when they are out for hours and come back empty handed. It’s not just fun it’s food on the table and a freezer full for the year. If it matters to him it matters to you. Go get a spa day girl you probably haven’t been treating yourself and it’s the holiday season look on groupon for a coupon inyour area and go get a rub down or rock massage, manicure, facial, some lingerie whatever makes you feel amazing go do that. You guys sound like a regular couple don’t waste the concern on this matter. Go treat yourself and then come home and show him the lingerie you bought or whatever you like. He’s not forgetting you if that’s what’s going on he’s doing guy stuff go do lady stuff or learn to shoot and go along for a day and see how you like it, you might get a deer yourself. I don’t know just offering suggestions. Get off of here and go have fun.
Personally, It would bother me which is why I wouldn’t be with someone who hunts anyways. If you knew he did this when you started together, then you certainly have to deal with it with grace now. If he started doing this after marriage and kids then there should have been a conversation between you two with negotiating what amount of time spent away that you’re comfortable with. Compromise and communication
None of this helps you now, lol. Best of luck in your marriage!
Yep! He hunts & I shop!
If he’s bringing home meat to fill your freezer so your family can eat then I don’t understand what the problem is?
Man if I was you I’d be out living my best life.
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Do you trust him? Is this something he’s always done even before marriage? Does he do it for sport or do you guys benefit from the meat? Are there any red flags? And just because you are a stay at home Mom and your kids are older does not mean you have to keep your mouth shut and take whatever treatment or neglect your partner gives you. It is ok to not like your partner gone from the family for so long. Also the kids are old enough to go with him on some of these trips if they have interest. Some men use hobbies as a means of escaping the reality of having a family and the mental strain of providing and being head of the household. Often leaving their partners to feel alienated and alone thus putting strain on the marriage. I would talk with him and see if you can come up with some compromises that way you feel loved and heard. Go with him. Make it a family thing. Try to find interest in hunting or cycling. You may be surprised that you and the kids may enjoy these activities as well. In the same respect he does need time to decompress. He should be able to pursue hobbies outside the household sometimes. It’s good for his mental health which is often overlooked in men.
I’m a avid hunter and my children as well. So I can’t help ya. But if I wasn’t I would use that time for ME time!
I’m sure he hunted when you met him. So that’s normal for anybody that hunts. After my kids were old enough. I started taking them and I hunt with my children. They are 7 and 10.
Definitely not a problem in my house I even tell him to go when he undecided!! I get many things done when he goes!!
If that’s what he loves to do then of course it’s okay. Hunting makes him a provider, cycling keeps him clear.
He could be out drinking with buddies instead. Like mine was……
What matters is if you are ok with it. If you aren’t and it’s too much that is ok.
I wish people would stop asking “how would you feel about ___?”
Instead maybe ask “how can I communicate my feelings about ____ to my husband?”
It doesn’t matter how others feel. It’s your marriage. It’s your husband and it’s your feelings.
Well beef is at an all time high, so I’m not complaining about filled tags and filled freezers. We got 92lbs of deer meat this year.
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Yeah bc on weekends in the fall, I’m gonna be watching football anyway.
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It’s part of who he is… if you marry a guy who hunts it comes with the territory. Been with my husband 11 years and we have 3 kids 10,9 and 6 and I still struggle sometimes. Yeah it sucks but it’s extra meat in the freezer and something he has to do for himself…sometimes I go and we hunt together but not always, then when we do get time together we appreciate it more.
9,12,15 are pretty much self sufficient and in school all week while you’re home, unless you’re homeschooling… so yea, I’d be fine with him going to hunt. Get a hobby and go do what you want for 8 weekends.
No he works hard too and it’s something he enjoys. It’s not every weekend of the year so I would let him enjoy it.
It always bothers me, I have a 2 year old and a 7 year old. When my 7 yo was born during hunting season but I definitely wanted baby snuggles, with my 2 year old it hit different. Maybe because I was seriously depressed for the longest. … now it’s something my 7 year old and his dad does together, it makes me feel special to spend quality time with my 2 yo little girl. Fishing season always has me upset when I can’t go(because I’d rather go fishing). But I’m excited to see my little girl get on that boat when she’s ready
That’s when you plan your own 8 weekends away alone or with friends and leave him with the kids. If he doesn’t like it, oh well. At least that way you both have time for your own interests and hobbies and can empathize both ways.
We’re all different so asking this question with the hopes of persuading you that you should be ok with it isn’t realistic. If you’re not ok with it talk to your hubby, it’s you guys marriage and relationship. It’s how you feel about it that matters most. Find a happy medium that leaves you both satisfied. Now me answering the question of 8 weekends depends on what we have planned for the kids, have we have alone time, is it every weekend, etc. if my cup is full, we’ve had quality time with the kids, and it’s not every single weekend than go hunt. 
I used to buy my now ex-husband a hunting and fishing license every year for Valentine’s Day. It was more like a present for me.
You’re saying 8 weekends out of the year ? That doesn’t seem like a lot to me.
Honestly I wouldn’t have a problem with it. He is using a hobby to provide food so it’s not really time wasted. Besides your children are not young. The 15 and 12 year Olds could probably go hunting with him if you really need a break that badly. Why not suggest he talk the older kids once or twice?
Yeah and I’d make a deal that next season I can go and do my thing on weekends without kids
I mean I wouldn’t mind. Seeing as ur a stay at home mom with school aged kids. U get a lot of alone time while they’re at school. So he deserves some time to himself as well.
My husband went hunting a lot - didn’t bother me at all
And would you be happy making him resentful and agitated by not having his down time activity?
We both go and grandparents watch the kids.
As long as you’re getting your 8 weekend to yourself thought the year too. 
It’s 8 weekends and your kids are grown it’s not like you have a new born. When he’s home go do something for your self
I don’t see a problem with it unless he comes home empty handed every time. Maybe you should look into hobbies of your own, it sounds like you might be bored. Your kids are older so maybe you should look into getting a part time job or something. That time out of the house might do you some good. I guarantee if you do that and maybe pick up a hobby, these hunting trips wouldn’t be a big deal.
Make time for you when he is home. As long as he isn’t cheating then I wouldn’t mind .
Let the man hunt. I rather him be gone and have a full freezer of food when he comes home.
As long as he lets you go do your own thing when he gets home, yes. Otherwise no.
He should be taking those kids with him, at least some of those times. They need to learn how to ride and hunt too, or else those sports die out.
We just go with him we don’t even hunt. But if we didn’t go I’d be ok with it as long as it doesn’t financially impact is negatively and it wasn’t a sudden out of the blue thing
Why would a wife care? If he is doing his part then he can enjoy some time to do what he loves. Not like they can hunt all year. Hopefully you go do stuff as well and make time for what you like.
My husband has friends that their wives never let them do anything… like play a round of golf… they have to ask and beg weeks in advance. It’s crazy
My step dad goes but they have no kids under 18 and he only goes a couple weekends so no I’d not be okay if it was 8 weekends and if I was not allowed 8 weekends away as well! Or at least close to that amount! You are a SAHM Monday - Friday and I’m sure would love some adult time or time with your husband on the weekends and he leaves for 2 months of weekends in the fall and winter… yeah no!
If he doesn’t come back with a k!ll from hunting at least three times. He isn’t going hunting. He’s using it as an excuse to see a woman.
Crazy how much woman are like I enjoy when he’s gone. I don’t I love having my husband around. We love being in eschothers company.
If he’s bringing home meat from hunting, he’s contributing to the household and I don’t see a problem with that
Do you get to be gone a total of 8 weekends as well? If not, I can see the issue. If you miss him, I can see the issue. I would either go with him or proceed to take my 8 weekends off when he returns (whichever makes you feel better.)
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Yeah it’s ok as long as you get the same amount of time for your hobbies
I’ve been married 38 years this January . All 38 years my hubby has hunted . Brought in lean non processed food in my house and saves us about 600-2000 in meat during the winter . Hell no I’m not mad I encourage him to do it . It’s something he loves to do and he gets a kick out of supplying his family with food . My ? Is why the hell you not going out with him . If not to hunt atleast stay out there with him and enjoy the peace and quiet . Once in awhile I go he prefer me to go every time with him .
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After moving to Wyoming I learned that hunting season takes priority for many including husband’s with kids. Annoying as it may be hunting season is shorter than football which is a bright side.
I’d be fine with it! Bye.
I get why you’re upset but with children that old you should be able to have a life too. If you’re not comfortable leavening your kids home alone tell your husband you’d like to do some activities too
I hope he takes the kids cycling sometimes.
I encourage my husband to hunt. Besides our garden it has helped reduce our grocery bill from the amount of our mortgage a month to about 400$
I’d only be annoyed if he was coming home empty handed
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Eh it sucks but if you marry a hunter … you should know they hunt and how much time they spend . Sucked for me . Now the 2nd didn’t hunt ; and if he were to of started and spent all that time ; yea it would be an issue .
He’s out getting free food shit I’d be happy 
Nope, he goes, not a problem,
I love a freezer full, recipes to try, and a happy man, I get to go on my time also. Go to the salon or plan vacations with family, 
Kids are big enough to take them hunting.
your kids are basically self sufficient at this point so yes. It’s hunting season let him have that.
Yes!!! My time to let kids play on electronics and watch movies, eat crap, have the whole bed to myself, stay up way too late, and read a book!!! Hunting weekends are my favorite and we have 5 kids!! He’s gone just long enough for me to really start missing him and bring a freezer full of meat!! Absolutely!!!
Do you eat what he kills?if so he’s doing his job and providing.
Your kids can take care of themselves! It’s meat in the freezer! Get over yourself!
Sorry but I love this post for getting straight to the point. No girl. When are your 8 weekends? Summer? 
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After reading the comments I realized I gave a Southern California answer. Seems like women who grew up w men that hunt know what to expect and it’s part of the program so…. I dunno. Whatever you need mom let that man know 
If I had small kids, I’d probably be like wtf but your kids are older, so id probably be like BYE
I don’t get the whole to providing thing I’ve seen what’s spent on hunting gear we do hsve meat markets and griferie stores but to each their own personally I wouldn’t care
When your kids are that age I wouldn’t consider yourself a stay at home mom. You have all day to go do something while your kids are in school
I mean. All of your kids are in school. And pretty self sufficient at the ages they are. It’s not like you have 3 toddlers or babies. If he’s bringing home food from his hunt he is providing nourishment for his family and being what a man is. So no. I wouldn’t have a problem with it.
Yes not sure why it would bother you even more so because your kids are old enough to do there own thing not babies.
Is this a troll post?
You get 6 hours a day, 5 days a week to yourself for 9 out of 12 months of the year and you’re complaining about your husband getting 8 out of 52 weekends to himself?!
Take your booty with him!!! 
If u trust him should to be a problem but if it was the situation I was in he would u tell me he was hunting but going to actually see his girlfriend but u got to have trust I never had an issue with mine going at all gave me free time until I found out he was cheating
Eeeh I’d be underestanding of hunting if he keeps the meat and doesn’t sell it or give it away just because that meat will go into yours and the kids bellies, it saves you money than going to the store and paying over $10 for meat.
I’d be happy with that!
My Sons cousin Coon Hunts. His 1st Wife divorced him because he spent every weekend Coon Hunting. He told her she could come with, but she refused. So she divorced him. He is Happily married to a great woman, who don’t care if he is gone Coon Hunting so much!
I’d be HAPPY if my husband Hunted ANYTHING. He is a Hermit. Never leaves the house, except to work!