How would you feel if you went to put a stocking together for your husband and thinking of him and he tells you that he didn’t want anything and then I just said that makes me want to return it because I put thought and time into that and he says do that? I am actually kinda hurt I know he’s not big on gifts but that hurt! were newly weds however been together 11 years prior!
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My husband always says that but ignore him and do what makes me happy and in turn it makes him happy.
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My husband said that all the time he didn’t want gift and to worry about the kids I got him.stuff any ways to me he’s just as important as out kids are I only did stalkings for the kids though
My husbands the same way. I still get him stuff and he’s happy with what I give him.
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I’d take the stuff and give it to someone else or return it. I dont do ungratefulness, even from adults. Everyone smiles and says thank you, and we talk about gifts (things we enjoyed or didn’t care for) later at dinner.
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Return it and buy something for yourself.
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Yes. Yes I would be upset.
My hubs gets irritated when I get him things in general. Unless he absolutely needs it. He says he would rather me spend the money on myself. He’s not into gifts. Si when he says I shouldn’t have I don’t get hurt or mad. I remind him he deserves things too.
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Easy— do what he asks and return it then turn around and buy something for the kids or myself. Your wish is my command! Haha.
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Now did he get you something ?! because I and my bf WILL ALWAYS say we want nothing. But will be very greatful and very appreciative after getting stuff. Alot of ppl don’t wanna be a bother to others . So saying saying they want nothing is just a nice way of saying. Don’t worry about me.
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He didn’t want anything and thats ok. Maybe, is money tight and he rather pay bills? Did he say he didn’t appreciate it?
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You married him, bet he was like that before…
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Has he always been not into gifts? If he has then respect that. Maybe talk to him about it. Find if there’s an underlying reason. He could’ve grown up with gifts having strings, maybe he doesn’t like the commercialism of gifting. I wouldn’t force him into being uncomfortable about gifts just so you feel better about it though. And maybe if it’s things he needs verses unnecessary things he’d compromise.
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Is it because he wasn’t able to get you anything and he feels bad? I see why you’re hurt though.
I personally wouldn’t be hurt and would just give him the gift. It’s the thought that counts and when you ask someone what they want it makes them feel very awkward no matter how long you’ve been together. People are different, what would you do if he said he wanted a motorcycle or new car? I truly believe he loves the gifts you get him
My husband hates getting gifts I buy them anyway. He doesn’t like anyone spending money on him
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Y’all been together a long time has he always been this way ?
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Find out his love language…sometimes receiving gifts is uncomfortable. I know it is for me…
If he said he didn’t want anything then you can’t be hurt by his response. He told you how he felt and you decided that you would go ahead anyways and because you wanted to make him a stocking and put your heart into it then you thought that would change his feelings… sadly, that’s on you and you hurt your own feelings. My hubby don’t like getting gifts. He would rather have the kids all taken care of. If I want to get him something- I don’t give it to him as a gift. I just say here i picked this up for you.
I’m the same , Always been that way hate gifts. I’d rather buy my own stuff, That way I know I’ll like it. Nothing more worse when someone gifts you and you have to pretend you like it. Wastes the grifters money and time
You’ve been with him for 11 years. If he’s always been like this, then why expect anything different just because you’re married? If this isn’t new behavior, maybe try talking to him. Something else could be going in.
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Could be anything
Seasonal depression - struggling finances … doesn’t need anything or want anything so doesn’t see the point
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You should know him well enough if this is new behavior talk to him about it. Your married you should already have open communication at this point. Find out what the real problem is. I went through a similar situation. It was because of his upbringing and he didn’t understand the stocking concept. Most problems will work themselves out.
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I would just tell him, I’d feel bad if I didn’t get you anything and now you go and make me feel bad cause I did. Tell me again why I married such a difficult man.
My husband says that also but loves all his gifts every year. I would do what you planned and if he doesn’t want them he can take them back.
If that’s not how he’s been before, that’s something to be concerned about
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You’re finally seeing his true colors. Don’t turn a blind an eye to it neither. You have every single right to feel hurt. Did he say anything like this prior to this Christmas when you gave him gifts?
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Sounds like y’all need communication. If gifting makes him uncomfortable and you know that, why are you gifting him? For yourself.
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He probably didn’t get you anything and feels bad you got him something. Or his other woman gives him better gifts and he doesn’t like yours.
After 11 years you should know him better, a lot of adults say that they do not want nothing but show gratitude when they actually get a gift , but you replying that you will return the stuffs just made a unnecessary issue .
You hurt yourself in this situation
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My bf is like that. The only reason I made him a stocking is because I know my daughter will ask why daddy didn’t. He hasn’t even looked in it yet lol. And we don’t usually get each other much for Christmas, if at all
I had a boyfriend of 8 years tell me for months that he wanted to get sheepskin car seat covers and when Christmas came around I bought them and when he looked in the first bag he said “take them back!” I said I didn’t go into debt for them. I have been saving the cash from back in June when you first told me you wanted them”. Again he said “take them back!” So I did. We aren’t together anymore …
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I’d say “whelp too bad 
” but I’ve seen a few posts like this where men are saying that so they don’t have to get their wife a gift and I don’t like that. He should have told her more in advance if he didn’t want anything.
Well he told you to begin with that he didn’t want anything. I would think you would know after 11 years.
I’d call his bluff and return everything! Don’t let him see it upset you, he sounds like an insensitive jerk!
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Nope no appreciation no gifts,
No when someone buys you something you accept it and be appreciative no matter what. That’s just being rude and not caring how you feel about it. No excuse for being Rude.
Buy him a burial plot and if he don’t use it by next year don’t buy him nothing else
So return the items for a refund
And spend it on something for you
Problem solved
I tell my husband I don’t want anything. I’m not big into gifts and just his love is enough for me. I’d rather him use the money to take me on a picnic or do something other than giving me a gift. I’m more of a spend time together person. That’s just the way some people are, it’s not to hurt their significant other. Everyone’s love language is different.
We need more context here.
Did he say it in a nasty/mean way?
I’ll ask my husband what he wants for his birthday/anniversary/Christmas and his response is always the same thing - “I don’t want anything”. But he never says it in a negative way. It’s always that he wants me to focus on the kids.
As his wife, I pay attention throughout the year to the things he mentions that he wants, and that’s what he is gifted. I’m always met with “you didn’t have to do this”.
So I think how he said makes a huge impact here.
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If I would have to guess, he’s saying that because he most likely didn’t buy anything for you so he’s feeling a bit guilty.
Everyone says they don’t want anything. My mother used to say this but it means surprise me. Lol some people are serious tho but I think he will forgive u over a stocking. Weird having kids believe in Santa and parents not having anything in their stockings anyways
Maybe he was just being nice and saying he didn’t want anything? My husband and I are very bad at responding so we have both learned to laugh these things off. His response to my gift was “No you didn’t! You didn’t have to”. He still liked it and is using it. I didn’t want anything this year so he had a very hard time shopping for me. My reply was still I didn’t want anything but I appreciated the gesture. It could be possible it’s just what came out. Talk to your man about it.
My husband is a narcissist and always tries to devalue all my acts of love and kindness he used to do this, at some point I got sick of it and I’ll just literally take the whole gift and put it in the bin right in front of him.
I totally stopped gifting him anything whatsoever.
He was probably trying to be polite n say u didnt have to ?
I would take it back an keep the money
Its probably because he didn’t get you much of anything