If it’s your birthday and your SO doesn’t even try to acknowledge it at all, does it hurt hour feelings ? SO got home from work and hasn’t even said a word to me really, just hopped on the laptop and that’s it. It’s hurting my feelings and he’s making me feel like I’m being dumb, when all I wanted was for it to be acknowledged.
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Sometimes I have to remind mine bc he has a terrible memory with stuff like that but at least a “happy birthday love”. I’d be hurt most definitely. Some sort of acknowledgement even though we are adults, acknowledge!!!
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It was my bday Monday (just gone) my husband makes sure he has a card and presents for me,I chose where we are going for dinner as well,I am lucky he makes me feel very special 
I would treat youre husband the way he treats you on youre bday,I would definitely feel hurt!
Happy Birthday!! I hope he wakes up. We don’t normally go to crazy for birthdays, but I better at least hear the words!! Yes, I’d be very angry.
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Happy Birthday 
I wouldn’t say anything. I would do the same for his. Karma…
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You make your birthday special.
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Yes, that’s not okay. Don’t need anything big, just a little effort.
He doesn’t value your relationship! Try doing that to him on his and see how he feels? Bet he won’t do it again! On the flip side mine doesn’t get forgotten as my sons birthdays are the same week, and we all celebrate together
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Maybe he forgot. Sometimes life gets crazy and we can get so overwhelmed with what is going on. If he’s a gamer and doesn’t make time for you….that’s another story. I would buy myself the best birthday present ever with his money and then thank him for it. He won’t forget again
I had a spouse who did this. So one year I completely ignored his birthday. He threw the biggest fit! I said I was just giving you the same as you always give me - you know - exactly what you deem appropriate for birthdays. Enjoy! I think he was gone before my birthday rolled around again thankfully.
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I would get dressed up and take myself to dinner. Don’t send invites his way.
Do this next year. That way you have something to look forward to.
He definitely could’ve done this differently 
My feelings would definitely be hurt. Is this a reoccurring issue, does he ever acknowledge your bday? Or is this a “one off” and he’s got a lot going on and it seemed to slipped past him? I guess it would depend how you respond on his bday and what the norm is for your relationship? Do you normally acknowledge each others day or not really?
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Grab the car keys & go hang out w ur friends!!! Enjoy ur bday!! Dont wait for someone else to celebrate u babes,celebrate yourself 
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Yep. I can’t remember how many times he forgot.
I would be hurt, and I’d make sure to communicate with him what my expectations are for the future. If he dismisses your feelings, or says what you want to hear but then doesn’t follow through next time, then I would consider whether or not it’s a deal breaker.
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I would be devastated but I’d never let him know it. Go shopping, take yourself out. A massage, a good book. Whatever makes you happy.
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I would ignore his bday. Plus I would go take myself out to a nice dinner. He can eat whatever he makes himself at home.
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I was married for 40 year we never forgot something that important
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I could not imagine being with a person who wouldn’t celebrate me on my birthday… life is to short to be with someone who doesn’t appreciate you!
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Yes I would be upset. Little things make such a difference for me. Bringing me my coffee in the am and saying happy birthday would make me feel seen and appreciated. I’m sorry your SO dropped the ball. I hope you enjoy your day.
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Not getting a gift or anything would be fine, but being ignored and not even a happy birthday would be upsetting to me. I’m so sorry. Happy birthday, or happy belated birthday. 
Celebrate yourself! Happy Birthday 
Absolutely. Let him know.
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It would definitely hurt my feelings. We teach people how to treat us by what we allow. Gracefully let him know that it really hurt your feelings and depending on his response you’ll know what to do. We waste so much time treading water with people who arent meant to be in our lives because we think we can fix or make the situation right when in reality some people aren’t going to love you the way you need or want to be loved. It’s a hard and heartbreaking fact. I’d rather be alone then be with someone who made me feel alone like that on my birthday.
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my husband hasn’t remembered my birthday unless someone else brought it up in years 
i don’t even care anymore. it changes nothing of our day to day lives, and if i wanted to celebrate i couldn’t because i’d be too busy making or buying myself a cake, making what i wanted for a birthday dinner, and picking myself out a gift. i stopped having birthdays at 29 anyway:rofl: and plus he doesn’t even remember his own birthday most years
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Honestly, me and my son’s dad have been together for 13 years, if you can say we’re together because he’s wishy washy, and he hasn’t acknowledged mine for the last 3 years. And he’s turned into somebody I don’t even know anymore, so no it doesn’t bother me. I’m learning to turn my feelings off with him, I don’t have the energy to deal with what he puts me through anymore.
I’m sorry that happened to you, but girl keep your head up and celebrate whether he remembers it or not. It’s still YOUR day.
Happy birthday!
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My husband always makes a big fuss over me year round, especially for special occasions, but I don’t ask him to. If he totally disregarded me, I’d be hurt, too. Everyone deserves to be celebrated. I’m sorry.
Oh I would be hot at my husband as much as he announcements his birthday to me!
Sounds like a roommate not a partner of any kind. That would not fly with me. I’m not all about gifts and elaborate parties but if your not even going to wish me a happy birthday and a kiss, then wtf are we doing together?!!
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First of all Happy Birthday!! Second, have you asked him if he remembered what day it is? Maybe he had a bad day at work or something is going on.
Nope but I love to pretend my bday don’t exist so I don’t think I count. I think most “normal” people would be upset
After 28 years I can’t remember when he acknowledged my birthday. Yes it hurts
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I would take the cash out of his wallet and go get a massage
My so and my children didn’t do anything for my birthday this year I was completely shut out
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Depends. My late husband wasn’t big on birthdays . Period. Including his own.
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It’s insanely hurtful. There’s no excuse.
Happy birthday first off 
, I would 100% be annoyed about that! The simple things matter 
Happy birthday my husband sucks at giving gifts, usually it’s an after thought, last year for valentines day he printed out a tattoo gift certificate(not one from an actual shop just a picture he found online)… yea still waiting to get a tattoo…
My birthday present was getting my hair done 3 weeks after my birthday. One year he got me a dishwasher for Christmas because ours broke, and a different year was a vacuum.
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Yes. You’re not dumb. You deserve to be celebrated so. HAPPY BIRTHDAY
Firstly. HAPPY HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!! Adjust that crown and remember who u are.
Ask him. Remember what today is? N see what he says…
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That’s wrong, does he do that for holidays and anniversary too?
Yes, I would be so heartbroken I would take his Credit cards and go shopping
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I’d be devastated can you take off and do something you enjoy? Don’t forget to forget his birthday next year too
I wouldn’t care it’s just another day
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Yes, my husband and I don’t make a big deal over our birthdays although, I make sure that he has candles to blow out FIRST thing in the morning so he can make a birthday wish! We acknowledge each other on our birthdays!!!
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Go out and do something and spend his money
I’d not acknowledge theirs out of spite
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I wouldn’t care really… I see my birthday as any other day of the week. 
I’m not a child so I don’t mind lol I’d be pissed if he forgot our kids bday though.
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Not really. Once you are an adult Christmas and birthdays aren’t really important. Those days are for kids. If someone says happy birthday, it’s nice but a party and balloons and gifts is a bit much for an adult to get this way about.
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I really don’t care for celebrating my birthday anymore it just makes me feel old and lame, I’d probably be a little put off if hubby didn’t acknowledge me but we save the big grand happy birthdays for our kids and stay pretty low key on ours, it’s just another day.
I’ve been with my partner 7 years most times on our birthdays we’ve not been able to afford to get each other something but we do other things like make dinner or foot rubs even just a big overly tight cuddle and a kiss, that’s ment to be your life partner and he can’t even acknowledge you on your birthday it is so disrespectful I dread to think what ever other day of the year is like.
That’s not a real
Partner then
I wouldn’t stress or get upset over it
Most guys don’t remember Those things
Best thing, have kids they won’t let hubby forget, if I didn’t have kids hubby would never remember mine
Nope. I’ve learned I just ignore his birthday and buy myself a present. On both birthdays.
Happy Birthday. Sometimes life goes on and you forget what day it is. or maybe he has something planned and it would be best not to say anything to ruin it
I have this for a father in law. He has never once called my husband or our children on their birthdays. We have 2 children, one 24 and one 19. They are his only grandkids. I’m certain he has no clue when their birthdays are. He doesn’t send a card, nothing. Yet, he would complain like crazy about how we keep the kids from him, they don’t call him even on his birthday, all sorts of whining about how it’s all our fault he has no relationship with them. Some people are just selfish and only think about themselves. They don’t realize they’re doing it, so they get super defensive and annoyed when anyone points it out to them, like they’re being ganged up on or there’s no reason for someone to be upset and they try to turn it around like you’re the crazy one for being annoyed by it. It’s always someone else’s fault.
WOW!!! You act like a child that didn’t get a birthday party. GROW UP!!! It’s just another day. Pick your battles
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Happy birthday!!!
That’s absolutely not ok. My husband is a jerk and still says happy birthday to me. He texted me from work when he remembered lol.
Oh ouch that is hurtful…. I’m so sorry nobody deserves that😢
Is he an introvert? A homebody who doesn’t like a fuss? Then he’s treating you the way he wants to be treated.
You have to sit down & talk with him, write out what you want and spell out what you want to happen and give him the web site page link with what you want for a gift. Many guys just don’t care about those things so you have to be specific about what you want and remind him until he gets it.
Had to train mine to get me Christmas gifts, then wrap them, then put on ribbon (different years, different lessons). Gave him catalog pages with items circled. I gave up on anniversaries and just planned fun stuff for us to do and either told him or “kidnapped” him.
What did he want for his birthday? An ordinary day with no special attention. I got him to agree to one present, cake & ice cream and candles to blow out for the kids and he was OK with that.
Communication. Talk to him.
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When his birthday rolls along take yourself out to dinner and a movie 
if he whinges about then just say you figured birthdays weren’t important to him because he didn’t acknowledge yours so you thought it best not to make big deals of birthdays
What happens if you don’t acknowledge his birthday?
My ex husband did this every year… it did hurt so my pretty ass always “forgot” his and he had a toddler tantrum. Every year he still forgot. Hopefully, in your case, he forgot this year and it’s not a regular occurrence
Read the first sentence. Yes, I’d be upset if I didn’t even get the bare minimum from my SO.
Start making plans to leave. If you’re not a big deal to him, you’re a little deal. Don’t go around this short lifetime being a back burner.
Sorry but he doesn’t really care about you.
Mine doesn’t either, but to be fair, no one including family has ever acted like my existence is anything to celebrate, let alone acknowledge. Do I want him to celebrate it or at least give me a crappy $2 birthday card or Christmas gift, selfishly yes, because I want to feel like I’m more than nothing, but I also have the mentality that if no one else cares then I have no right to care myself or to be upset about it. It’s an emotional struggle but it is what it is.
He’s an inconsiderate jerk. Sounds like he’s unhappy and doing it on purpose to hurt you.
First of all happy bday to you:balloon:, second choke him the f out till he realise why:roll_eyes:
Not really , we are human and some time we can forget about such things ( specifically men ) my partner make me feel loved and special every single day , he sends me flowers for not reason but because he loves me and was thinking of me , he brings me chocolates often , cooks for me etc ….
That’s unkind and thoughtless behaviour no wonder ur upset. I would personally get rid of him x
I would be wondering what he was doing on that laptop
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No, I have to remind my husband or he won’t. He’s not good with dates. He doesn’t remember anyone.
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I know it’s fucked up, but maybe he honestly just forgot. If this is something he does every year, obviously that’s a different story, and yes I’d feel a way about it. But if he usually celebrates it with you, it’s possible he isn’t purposely ignoring your birthday. I know it’s a little awkward but you could throw a hint and see how he responds.
My husband never acknowledged my Birthday or anything else so when special days come around for him I don’t acknowledge it. He starts a week before his bd saying he’s fixing to be a certain age & I ignore him. My daughter always comes over to celebrate my BD & mother’s day but the husband sets on the couch with his face in fb & never celebrates with us
F THAT!!! I’m sorry, but I’m THAT person where I’m counting down my birthday for weeks. Yes, I’m 36 and will always do this!!
My SO did a full weekend of birthday surprises. As I do the same for him with a count down and spoiling him.
Saying " just ignore his birthday " is just childish and that’s a horrible way to have a relationship!!!
Tell him how you feel,and if he isn’t sorry or make it up. That’s who you’re with and if it’s happened before,. It’ll keep happening.
This depends, if your SO is kind, caring, attentive and you guys have what you would consider and all around loving, trusting, honest relationship I would say maybe he just had a bad day and he’s unaware how he’s making you feel because he truthfully forgot than I wouldn’t be to upset. But if you and your SO have an already rocky relationship and he’s just not doing or saying anything than yes I would be upset and mad. 
None. Your. Business. This. Is. Not. A. Real. Person.
Absolutely! My soon to be ex husband made me feel like absolute shit on the last birthday I was with him. Just months later, on our 15th anniversary, he filed for divorce, too. Your partner should of course acknowledge the birthday in some way. For us, we didn’t have the best finances to buy much, and material things aren’t what it’s all about. But try to make something of it.
Red flags… someone who doesn’t acknowledge your birthday, then tries to gaslight you flbecause you’re upset? Nah. BYE! YOU DESERVE SO MUCH. BETTER
This is emotionally abusive I’ve dealt with this
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Where are y’all finding these men?? Piece of shit r Us?? God gave you a frying pan, learn how to use it
Throw the same energy back at him in his.
I was married 14 years I think I got for about 4 birthdays I was told I shouldn’t think about myself as I was a mother etc or didn’t deserve anything or always created drams on birthday Xmas anniversary valentines so in the end never expected to get anything … my other half now never forgets always make sureni have something to open x
I would make other plans, not say a word until walking out the door, going to celebrate my bday!
When you told him you were disappointed that he didn’t acknowledge your birthday what was his response?
Id be pissed too. I get a happy birthday but thats about it - no shout out or anything of that sort unfortunately. I just want an off tune happy birthday song and maybe dinner together at home.
First of all Happy Birthday!! And yes, you have every right to be upset. I would. I say give him the same treatment when his birthday rolls around to see if he likes it.
Yeah I’d be pissed. My hubby says it every morning on my birthday as I do him. Sooo I’d think on if u want to stay in that relationship.
Yes it hurts my feelings. The first year me and my bf were together he came home from work (I was expecting him to spend time with me and cook for me) instead he gets a shower and then gets dressed and told me he was going out to the bar with his buddy for a boys night “it was planned in advance” was his excuse but the thing is I never heard anything about it until then, he promised me he would cook for me and cuddle and watch movies and do other stuff weeks before my birthday. He came home late that night and I was crying and he said he forgot it was my birthday. So when his birthday came around I “forgot” his birthday too he’s remembered my birthday ever since. Do the same thing to him hun it’ll teach him a lesson
It’s rude for sure
Ignore his
Taste of the own medicine, bet he won’t like it
The SO is an @$$hat, and you deserve better.
If this is a common theme (minimizing your feelings), neglecting your needs, or making you “feel dumb,” then this is NOT a healthy human to be in a relationship with.
LEAVE.
he has forgot until after midnight or at midnight told me or next day but i remind him or i have done the same to him on his which is next month.
Ummyes I would be upset. I guess I would be asking myself is this the first time he’s done this or has there been a pattern or series of times where he has done things like this to ruin holidays important dates etc.
Thats just ridiculous, thats not normal at all