Sorry if this isn’t allowed, but I need an opinion. Would you go to a wedding right now? With everything going on? For context, I live in Kansas, and the wedding will be in Missouri, where there are no mask mandates or social distancing guidelines anymore. There will also be about 75 people there, including small children. I also have a two-year-old that I would have to bring with me. I’m so torn. It’s one of my close friends, but I’m not sure I’m comfortable with it, with everything going on. Also, my husband has type 2 diabetes, so we’re trying to avoid Covid as much as possible. I should add that the groom is my husband’s really close friend, and they want him to be there too.
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I would. But I understand if someone would not want too. It’s scary! Do what you feel is best for your family.
Yep. But I haven’t stopped doing anything since the beginning so 
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If you are concerned with your husband conditions maybe not. I have not let covid slow my family down but we don’t have any health concerns
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Nope. Not without the vaccine, for at least your husband.
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If u didnt put that much effort during flu season then no i wouldnt let covid stop me from spending time with my friends or family especially important events like this you still gotta live life
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Go! Don’t let covid stop you it’s just a another cold that got handled poorly!
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Could u live with the guilt of your husband been serious ill/dying if he caught covid due to his underlying health issues if answer is yes then work away
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I would go and have husband stay in the hotel with your child. Go to the wedding but wear a mask and keep your distance.
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I guess I’ll be the odd one out and say personally I would not go. 75+ people? I’m in Canada and we’ve been having so many Covid outbreaks due to large gatherings/parties. Your husband is also high risk for contracting the virus as is your child. For some the virus can be something like the flu, or a cold… for others it could mean death and/or hospitalization. We all want things to go back to normal but that doesn’t mean things are. Covid is still alive and real. Especially that you mentioned there is a no mask mandate that alone would be enough for me to stay away.
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I haven’t been invited to do anything in over a year now. I’m raising my 11 year old son on my own with no help and he has had 18 surgeries,multiple diagnoses and right before covid hit March 2020 they wanted to do another surgery July 2020 which was postponed and we will figure it out at his next appointment. The state I live in lifted the mask mandate but we still wear them when we have to go out…I do not and will not take a chance and risk my sons life. If you are torn then I think you have decided deep down that it is best not to go and you want confirmation.
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No.
These comments are why there are half a million dead already.
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It’s a glorified flu. Stop being so terrified. Wear a mask if you are that concerned. Go out and live your life!
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People can’t live in fear forever! I would go! Supposed to only happen once!
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Well yeah, I haven’t been scared of it in the first place. I went to my sisters wedding in February and go anywhere no matter what it is or how many people.
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Yes don’t quit living life. God is the only one who will decide on when we go.
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I refuse to go to large gatherings until I am vaccinated
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If there is health issues in the family and a 2 yr. old I don’t think I’d go. Maybe there is someone videoing the wedding and your friend could send you a copy. I’m sure you friend will understand. Talk to your husbands Dr. to see what he thinks. My sister is having heart problems and her Dr. won’t let her come see me. I totally understand.
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I look at it like this, if you’re second guessing it then you might already have your answer
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I’ve seen a lot scarier things in healthcare than covid, I never wear a mask anywhere only place I did was work and that was because I liked getting paid so I had to follow the rules, the media has done got y’all people scared to death 
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Hail no. The consequences could be deadly and it’s just not worth it.
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I wouldn’t. I haven’t done anything in the past year other than visit with my children’s grandparents for the most part. Honestly? I have no regrets, Sure I feel bad for some of the stuff I’ve missed out on, but honestly If people can’t offer understanding for a year of life, in a global pandemic, I don’t want to know them anyway. I’d rather miss out on a year than forever due to carelessness. With that said, if your husband wants to go, that’s his choice, but neither of you should be guilted into it. If you don’t want to, don’t.
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I’d go. Wear a mask if you feel more comfortable. Wash your hands often. Wouldn’t really be much different than going to Target or Walmart. There are more than 75 people at those places.
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Hahaha.
You can’t constantly live in fear. Ask yourself if your going to regret not going?
I’d go
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I would 
I live in missouri.
Rural Southern missouri to be specific. I do not believe that we’ve ever actually had a state wide mask mandate. The governor decided to leave that up to individual cities, towns, and counties.
Our town never implemented one. Our schools were opened back up in july (for summer school) students are mask free. We dont social distance much. Most people dont wear masks unless their employer makes them.
We’ve had covid cases…including in our local nursing home but very few deaths, most of the deaths our town has had were elderly who were already on hospice (so the regular flu or strep or RSV could have been deadly to them).
My mom whose in her 50s and a type 2 diabetic had covid and for her it was like a sinus infection.
My family and her live together. When she had it we didnt isolate from her. This includes my 3 and 7 year olds.
Im a type 2 diabetic. If I’ve had it I didnt even know it.
I refuse to live in fear of it.
We had my sons birthday party in July. Had a halloween party in october. We’ve done Thanksgiving and christmas. Been to two other birthday parties.
All these experiences…had we missed them we would have never gotten them back. It’s not worth the trade off to me.
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There is a mask mandate in alot of the counties in missouri.
Just because there is no mask mandate, doesn’t mean you can’t wear one. Go to that wedding and mask up
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I almost died last year due to a heart condition before all the Covid shutdowns. I went into cardiac arrest at work with no warning. They had to do cpr to bring me back. I learned just how little control we truly have over whether or not we even get our next breath. The thought of dying scares me less than not actually living. You can’t lock yourself away forever. And you never know when it will be the last time you get to spend with your family and friends. Don’t miss out on the time by letting fear keep you from being with them.
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I’d wear a mask and go. Can’t be afraid of everything in life. It’s like that saying my grandpa use to say " you can’t be a p***y all your life"
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We’ve gone to 3 weddings this year and I was pregnant for all 3. Everything was fine and we didn’t get sick from any of them.
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Just buy a fancy mask
We are traveling for a wedding in a few weeks… but I am not one that lives in fear over this. I take my precautions but I’m not stopping life over a virus
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I got married in October 
invited about 100 & about 75 showed up. Some wore masks & some didn’t. It was outdoors & I have no regrets!
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Do what your gut says. If you ask a bunch of random strangers and you go against what your gut says, then you’re going to be mad if it outcome isn’t what you originally hoped for.
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I absolutely would! But I also don’t live in fear!
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You already answered your own question, never doubt your instincts
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Video call with someone so you can still witness the occasion with them
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I just had my own wedding recently. No one got sick
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If guy was a real close friend of your husband. He wouldn’t want to put him in that situation…Would I go…no!!!
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Nothing is worth your peace. If you’re uncomfy, don’t go.
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You could go to the ceremony and skip the reception as a compromise.
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The way I see if. Fear of getting sick is not worth losing a friend. If you’re uncomfortable, you and your family can wear masks. Thats your decision.
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If someone’s gunna be mad you didn’t go to their wedding right now, of all times, are they even a friend to begin with?
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You shouldn’t be afraid of Covid-19 the media has hyped this up to scare a lot of people its not very serious for people under the age of 60 it has a 99.97 percent Survival rate its no worse than the flu in fact it actually has a lower death rate than the fly for those under the age of 60 without pre existing health conditions…the deaths due to Covid-19 are actually only 6 percent of the reported deaths this is verifiable on the CDC website…your husband has a higher risk due to his diabetes but there’s great treatments and provolastics now that are great at treating this virus and it is just a virus…don’t be afraid and stop living your life because of a virus…there’s tons of things you can die from including the common flu…if your not living life and enjoying people and events that make life special and worth living…then your already dead!!
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Your diabetic husband and a little child would be susceptible to any health threats, not just Covid19. You have to come up with a wise decision.
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Don’t let fear stop you from living your life
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Just do what’s in your heart and if you don’t want to go then that’s up to you and what is your husband saying
Nope; not a smart decision!
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Yea, I would go. I would be mindful and wash my hands and use sanitizer often, and wouldn’t be drinking out of anyone’s cup or anything but I would go. 
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Went to a Polish September wedding. Full bar and over 100 people at a banquet room. TONS OF FUN, dancing and food!! No fear there. 
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I’d go. Living in fear is ridiculous
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Absolutely not. It’s irresponsible. I’m in Canada 
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If you decide to not go, they definitely shouldn’t be upset.
Would I go? Yes. I’m not too worried about it really, but if you are worried, wear a mask and use hand sanitizer.
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Personally yes!! I’m going to a friends wedding next weekend!
If you don’t feel comfortable don’t going. Send a present & a congratulations!
I’d definitely wouldn’t go.
What would you have done before Covid. I know everyone tells me I should be careful and I am. I take precautions. I say whatever you can live with. I’m 67 in Tennessee
I dont see any harm in going most states are relaxing everything, but if you don’t feel safe yet you need to do what’s best for your family. I am immune compromised and have not had the vaccine, I go places, wear my mask and sanitize often.
I got married last oct, most of my husband’s family and a few friends are out of state and couldn’t/didn’t come because of covid. My husband was bumbed but we understood. If you don’t feel comfortable then don’t go. They will understand
Wow. I can’t believe we’re this far into a pandemic and there are still people who have no idea how masks work. Wearing a mask protects people from you, but does nothing to protect you from people who aren’t wearing a mask.
Is this entire thread a reflection of the US’s failed education system, or is it that most Americans would rather live in denial and risk killing loved ones, because being inconvenienced seems so much worse to them?
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Stop being so afraid of it ! Got ya right where they want ya!
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If you don’t feel comfortable going, you have a valid reason not to attend, due to your husband being diabetic. I had a cousin to recentu
I’d go, you’ll regret it later I’m sure. Can’t live in fear forever either
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I would go, I have an 8 year old and a 3months old but I’d definitely go.
If you wanna go just cause everyone else might not be taking precautions doesn’t mean you can’t you can listen to the 6 feet wearing a mask and sanitizing your area and keeping your family doing the same if it makes you to uncomfortable just don’t go
Just statistically this is a bad idea. You’ll most likely be exposed and who knows what kaleidoscope of symptoms you, your husband or baby will present with since symptoms range from 0-death. I wouldn’t risk it.
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I am also diabetic . I would not go to the wedding unless you and your husband have received both vaccines . I have other serious health issues but I have gone no where except to see my doctors for a year . I will be all good to go on Monday ( two weeks up after two vaccines ) . My son is marrying in April . While I am the mother of the groom , I will still wear my mask the majority of the time at the wedding . Good luck . Don’t risk this for your Husbands sake . Many diabetics are the ones dying from covid .
OMG- wear a mask and go—
Thats a personal choice you have to make for your fambam
That’s a personal decision. I would go, personally. Depends how much of a risk you think it is and whether that risk outweighs your want to go and support your friend.
Definitely agree. It’s a personal choice you guys will have to make.
I would say it’s a personal choice. Myself and my husband and our daughter will be attending a wedding in may in Florida for my sister(not blood)
People should totally understand under the circumstances. If you have any doubt, then you shouldn’t go.
I was in a wedding last September and will be in one this fall
Depending on the county, we have several counties in Missouri with zero active cases if that helps! Lots of vaccines have been given as well. It’s really up to you and how comfortable you feel. 
If you have to ask us you’re already saying no.
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Yes. I am just learning to coexist with the virus at this point. My Family has it in December and did everything right. Now we are just more cautious but stopped not living our lives.
I wouldn’t chance it 
Personal choice but as someone who is high risk as well as having a high risk child with many of the rural counties here not having mask mandates or if they do, people don’t abide by them as well as Missouri being one of the worst states for the vaccine rollout, I would say no. The more urban areas have stricter rules but seventy five people is a lot to be around. I would send a gift and decline to attend. I live in MO, in a rural community and see the described above first hand.
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I wouldn’t go. Your child is going to want to play with the other children and that’s a big risk. And with your husband’s health concerns, I’d just be too nervous. Maybe you could go up the week before and see the couple for a day or so to celebrate them without all the extra people?
I’m sure they wouldn’t mind if you or your family wore a mask while present? You can always take it down for a moment for pictures? Just be honest about your concern so they understand if you socially distance a little more than the rest of the guests. Just try to have fun and enjoy the experience. I’m from Florida and we really haven’t had mandates or restrictions and most everyone I know are healthy and a lot of our elderly have been vaccinated. But I know other states are way different.
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I would go. My best friend is like family. Wear a mask, wash a lot, and enjoy.
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Okay so Missouri doesn’t have a statewide mandate but each county does or does not at its own discretion… Jefferson county here in Missouri has a masked mandate and I do believe St Louis county and St Louis city does too
Think about this;
You are sitting there looking beautiful wearing the cute outfit that you put so much thought and money into, you baby girl is looking adorable too, but she just want to hang out with the other kids
in attendance, No masks in sight )
Now you are all concerned and worried about possibly you and her getting sick.
Are you going to be able to relax and enjoy the special day?
Also we are so afraid to die we are not living.
I am attending a wedding in May, 50 people and everyone in attendance minus one person will be fully vaccinated. I can’t wait!
No, no gatherings for me but I have a chronic illness and wouldn’t want to take the chance. 
personally, i wouldn’t go. it sucks… i think we all have covid fatigue. but i just know i wouldn’t feel comfortable traveling and gathering with that many people. your husbands health issues would also stop me cold. gathering with 75 people with no restrictions would open him up to 75 chances of catching it.
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Ive been all over. Wear a mask if your more comfortable that way.
EDIT: im pre diabetic and overweight. I hardly wear a mask and have yet social distanced from anyone. We just went on vacation to Minneapolis and traveling to Black Hills.
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No matter what you do, if you’re gonna get the virus, you’re gonna get it. We were some of the most cautious people and I didnt even send my kids to school. They are doing virtual learning, and it still hit our house. Might as well go and enjoy yourself.
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Yes. Just wear a mask if you need to. Social distance when possible. We had our wedding in august in CO. Some of our guests wore masks, others chose not to. We had about 75 people. Not one single person sick. Lots of sanitizing and hand washing. It was a fun day. Enjoy the day and be cautious
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Go and wear your mask! No one will mind that you have a mask on…
Go. I’m going next weekend to Nashville
I would absolutely go. Wear a mask if that makes you feel better and keep your distance. I manage a catering company in ohio. People are now starting to get back into the swing of things… it’s wonderful to see
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I would go. Wear a mask. Wash your hands. I’m a nurse and work in it everyday. If he is a Type 2 diabetic he should have received the vaccine by now.
I’m in Kansas City Missouri. We’ve been going out and about this whole time, including gatherings of friends and families. Just wear a mask and wash your hands a lot. We still haven’t gotten Covid. If we get it, we get it. I know lots of people who have hid at home and still managed to contact it
Do you guys both go to work? Church? Etc? The grocery store? Mask up and go if you feel the need to go. If you don’t really feel it’s necessary, then don’t.
Wearing a mask just helps keeps other people safe from you more than it helps you. To really keep you safe the other people would have to wear a mask too. I personally got it and I wear a mask with work and I got it from a student who doesn’t wear a mask. And it was no joke it was very serious and I have issues with my lungs now and didn’t before.
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Honestly I used to hide in my house 24/7 get everything dropped off and I started to lose my mind and I have been going out and about for months now o sent my kids back to school my husband works so really I am more likely to get it suck in the house where my immune system doesn’t have to fight anything. I would go just mask up and wash up if your worried
I’ve been on couple. 1 out of state, 1 in state, and another upcoming in state.
Go, wear masks but try to find a sitter. Weddings are really no place for a baby.
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