Would you let your baby dads new girlfriend come to your kids birthday party if they only hav ebeen dating for a week…apparently they are “serious” and he will NOT come without her…I just think its too soon for her to be meeting my kid…
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Tell him, if it’s serious, she’ll be happy to wait a little longer…
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He can do whatever he wants. I celebrate Birthday parties SEPARATELY…
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He doesn’t want too come but he is going to make it look like it’s your fault he didn’t come cos he knows it too soon for the new girlfriend too meet the child and he knows u’ll say no because it is too soon for her too meet your child so instead of him looking bad he’ll turn it round on u and say it’s your fault he didn’t come
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If you’re done in the relationship is shouldn’t matter. Don’t create unnecessary petty arguments. Your kids doesn’t care.
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I wouldn’t tell my baby dad who he could bring around my child unless I was also going to listen to the same feedback from him.
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I agree with an above commenter.
He doesn’t want to come, but he’s looking for a way to blame you.
If he won’t come without her and you won’t let her come, then he has his out.
Tell him to bring her - this way he has no excuse.
Besides, while a week is no time at all and he shouldn’t be bringing random women around his child, she’s going to be around the child so long as he has visitation. Might as well have him bring her so that you can get a feel for her as well.
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Personally i wouldnt be okay with it being so new. I wouldnt want anyone coming that hadnt been in their life for some amount of time. Also, thats messed up he would miss his childs birthday for something as such. Its ignorant and manipulative.
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He would ditch his kid for his gf? That’s a real winner. I’d tell him hey if you wanna ditch your kid for your gf that’s on you buddy. I hope she knows what kind of man she is dealing with.
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Only been dating for a week? Absolutely not. That’s grounds for the child to end up being collateral damage and I wish more people would not just throw random strangers into their kids lives if they’re not gonna be around forever. (Not saying you would, just venting cause I see people date for a week and let their s/o move in with them and their kids)
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The party isn’t about you and your feelings; it’s about your child. What a better time to meet her than in your presence. I would be more careful with my child meeting her the 1st time if l’m there. Put your feelings aside and let your child have a birthday party with noth parents. The father ( and any new partners) are going to be in the child’s life for a long time so you need to deal with it a positive way.
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Absolutely!! She will be around your kid regardless if you like it or not.
I would love to know who is around my kid
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Not appropriate!!! A week??? And they’re serious??? Tell him no she isn’t invited.
If he has the additude that he won’t come without his new girlfriend then it’s not her you have to worry about but him. The says a lot about who comes first in his life. Will he be that way when they are at his house?
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We all grown I don’t see why not
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Yes I would. I would gladly get to know and try my best to get alone with the other people my kods will be around.
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Definitely to soon and an inappropriate event to do so, it’s about your kiddos birthday not “dad” introducing his current gf tell him it’s to bad he can’t make it but kiddo will have a great day regardless.
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You cannot control his life. If he gets visitation the girlfriend will likely be there. I understand your concern and I kind of agree. It is early. But better this way. Then you can meet her and size her up.
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Girl fck him he’s too stoopid immature silly and full of drama. You’re a mom you don’t have time for no bs. Have that party for the kids and let him have his I wldnt let no bs in my brain
Lmao…a week? Bye boy. If u can’t be there for ur child without this “girlfriend” then that’s pathetic.
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My ex from many years ago told me we were going on a motorcycle ride. We then proceeded to show up at somebody’s house and he told me that he wanted to go see his two kids you that he hadn’t seen in years nor did he pay child support or have a job. So we walked in and his ex-wife and children were standing right there along with his ex mother-in-law in her house, I never felt more uncomfortable in my entire life not only his children for the first time, but I met his ex-wife that he had been only divorced for not very long at all
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If it was me I wouldn’t even invite him. He can throw his own party.
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Too soon for her to even be meeting the kids.
He’s picking her over his own child??? I wouldn’t even want him there anymore
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Yea a week in. That’s weird. Either they been together longer than that or he’s just unstable. I wouldn’t agree to that
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No way. That’s way to soon
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I personally 100% would let her come. I know it’s kinda soon. But from personal experience dating my boyfriend and experiencing some insane baby momma drama. I’d never ever be that Petty baby momma.
My children’s dad’s girlfriend met my children right away, they have been together a good 18 years or so… they love eachother so much & shes amazing to my children & loves them just like her own. 
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There’s no requirement that he be there.
Sure, your kid will be enjoying their party & probably wouldn’t care or be concerned with the gf. She’ll likely be the one sitting feeling/ looking awkward.
Would he agree to say she’s just a friend, not girlfriend at party?
Devil’s advocate here, maybe the new gf is insecure and won’t let him go be around his ex (you). Even for his kids party! Let her come, then she sees she has nothing to worry about.
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Regardless of it being too soon, the fact that he refuses to come if she can’t says ALOT!
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He considers 1 week relationship “serious” andddd said he won’t come if girlfriend isn’t invited?
Is he 16?
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They’ve been dating a week but might’ve been talking before that. Pretty chill environment, I’d allow it, but mostly cause I think he’ll no show on the day anyway.
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My ex who got “psychological dad” he was only with this one girl for like a month and she moved in with him, and then decided to show up to my sons schools open house, I honestly wanted to tell him he wasn’t his dad and he shouldn’t be bringing his flavor of the month to my sons gathering! And before anyone comments on how salty I am I have the right to be, he tried to kill Me in front of both of my kids (choked, drug me by my hair through his trailer and then bashed my head on the walls of his house) I really feel like their should be some kind of law on new relationships with kids
After a week he would refuse to come to his child’s party without her? HIS CHILDS PARTY?! This is a huge red flag. Absolutely not. Children shouldn’t be involved until after a year in my opinion.
No, it’s been a week. If it was 6 months then depending on how the kids feel I would.
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Is this a hill you’re willing to die on? If he’s going to bring her around your kid, you can’t stop him if it’s on his time. At least this way you’re there, able to meet her, and if she’s psycho or sketchy you can always ask them to leave. But if Dad is adamant that she’s going to be around, ultimately, there’s nothing you can do.
You can’t control what other people do - only how you react. The quicker you can get on board with that, the easier your co parenting journey will be.
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Yes… but I see it differently then most. I don’t see the whole time limit thing as a issue. My husband is his daughter moved in with me the day we started dating, which was the same day I met her. Give her a chance and get to know her. You don’t get to control everything.
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Do separate birthday parties.
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He sounds like a real winner
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20 years ago I’d have thought different but looking back on past mistakes I think I’d try to have a decent relationship with my exes girlfriends since stress always carries over into the relationships…which trickles down into the children.
It’s just facts.
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What if is was reverse. If you had a boyfriend/male companion would you want your significant other let you bring your new date?
NO, tell him to have his own party then.
Why is he coming to YOUR party anyways. Tell him to have his own with his family.
If my girlfriend can’t come I’m not gonna see my kid lmaooooo what a fucking immature twat waffle. Classy dad there 
I say have a meetup with just you and them, no kids. See how it goes. If they don’t agree to that then there’s an issue there that needs addressing on their end. They need to grow up. Especially if he won’t go without her and they’ve only dated a week.
nope.
kids don’t need to meet everybody. and definitely not before 6 months months, minimum.
For me it’s the not coming unless she can, he is the father of that child and the child is who comes first here. I would ask my kid to be honest and do what they want lol
Has nothing to do with me or how I feel about it. My children’s father will always be invited and he can bring who he wants to. It’s up to him to decide when it’s appropriate to include his partner in his children’s lives regardless of whether I agree or not. As long as my children are safe, happy and taken care of, nothing else matters. I’d prefer to meet her anyways
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I get where your coming from but chance are he gets visits with the kids I’m guessing. Any court will tell you that you can not stop him from having his girlfriend in there life when he has them it’s hard I get it. At least he is being respectful by wanting to have you there. I kind of think your being a little selfish they party isn’t for you it’s for your daughter and who knows this woman may stick around. She could turn out to be one of the best step moms ever and even a blessing to you. Y’all have to give these woman a chance.
I’d let her come even if it’s only been a week. It would be great for everyone to socialize together. You could always meet the girl friend and father before the party so you can get the awkwardness out of the way before hand.
Absolutely. You do not own him nor can you control him. Honestly your opinion about them doesn’t really matter unless she’s being abusive 
in mediation they tell you that you have no control over who the other person brings around the child so as long has he gets to see him she will be seeing your child as well. Might as well meet her and try to have a decent relationship for the children’s sake. I guess that’s just me tho.