You really can’t. If there’s noting in your custody agreement you’re kinda screwed. Let her go , she’ll have fun & memories. Do FaceTime/ zoom with her .
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If you have no concern over abuse or neglect, your child needs time with both parents. Co-parenting and trying to get a long and work together is the best abs healthiest thing for your child if you are both good normal people, so regardless of the feelings on your personal relationship front with him, you have to consider what’s best for your child. There may also be times you will want to go out of your area on vacation with your child so he will also need to agree, and working with him now may help that happen in the future.
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Let her go! You have a 10 day notice. A child needs and deserves their time with the other parent! You both are the parents and the child shouldn’t be used as a possession!
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You getting a break you complaining lot women wish there ex would give them that break. Some women I heard say they have to beg the ex to pick up kids so they can get a break . That was me if just one day notice I’ll get them clothes ready so fast it make your head swim lolThats a quote older ppl use to say but that’s so true.
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Idk your situation but we are having the same issue and ultimately let him go just because things have sucked so bad that we were glad he could go and get a break. But like I said have no idea of your paticular situation and Im not judging at all!
What a great opportunity! Why would you want to try to stop them? Your daycare cannot control your home. If they know all what’s going on in your home, you share too much!! Wish her a great time and wait for her return!
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I always let my child go no matter how long. For the simple fact he was experiencing somethings I never got to. Hes her dad and she loves and trusts him. Why not. Just make it clear you expect a phone call every day or every other day.
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Let her go… I let my kids see their dad any time they wanted. Whether it was my weekend or not. They love their dad and I had them during the week so why not let him see them when he can? They are better off having a good relationship with their dad.
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Ummm he has every right as a parent to take the child unless he is unfit. Stop being selfish!
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I think she should b allowed to go yes. Be glad the father wants to include her. If u was going would u not take her with to include her? I believe he should b allowed that right as well.
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You need to ask yourself are you being selfish. Is he a good dad? Does he watch her? Is there any reason that you don’t feel comfortable?
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Trust that the father will take care of her. After all he is her dad! Let her go. Be happy you have a man that wants to be a father and take his child on vacation with him🤷🏻♀️
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As long as the other parent is safe then I’d definitely let them go
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Ummmmm…why can’t the baby go? Ain’t he the pappy? He got just as much rights to the child as you do!! Here you have women who can’t get the child’s father to even think of their child. And this the shit you on!!! Guh bye!!!
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We were at Myrtle a few weeks ago- crowds are down and restaurants require you to wear masks to the table and when you leave the table. Servers are all wearing mask. If your ex is a fit parent. I would let her go. Just ask them to make sure she wears her mask in public spaces.
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If they only require a 2 week quarantine why cant you see her for 3 weeks after and 10 days ahead isnt really short notice…
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I would say let her go, it won’t hurt her. Just make sure that you can talk to her when you need to, where exactly they are going, numbers ect if your that worried. I did it all the time as a kid
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Stop being petty and let her go. They deserve a vacation together. You already have custody. Let him try. Damn
If he is her dad, let her go. If he is dad, you should not interfer with their relationship unless there is abuse.
YOU need to step up and do what’s best for your child! Until this COVID-19 B.S. is over - NO time away from home!!!
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I did and didn’t see my child till she was 17. NOT worth it. Also had custody and court papers. No help
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Why wouldn’t you let her go? If the situation was reversed, would you want him to be more understanding than you are being?
Ummm it is her Dad, correct? Is there a reason you don’t want her with her father, like abuse etc? If not I am confused
During a pandemic with no stipulation AND last minute… just say no.
It should have been the fathers responsibility to alert you ahead of time! And to all you cunt bags no in a court of law 10 days is not enough notice
5-10 days for visitation
10-20 days for overnight
And 20-30 for out of state trips
If out of state trip is longer than 48 hr it must be cleared and verified by both parties and a authorized CPS 3rd party
My ex husband is in the army and we have joint custody and I have primary care… 10 days in a court of law IS NOT acceptable (not for Alabama (current state) not for Missouri (his legal residency) or Arkansas and Florida (the states we used to live in)
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Not sure I am misreading but you are saying your ex… and my child! Is this not their child?
Some of you really could just let your kid go and not see them for 3-4 weeks? Not me. I’m a mom. I don’t need or want a break.
Why would u stop her from going its petty
Let her go! It is her dad.
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Yes. Dads have rights too.
Oh and is it her dad or just an ex 
Pretty sure this was misread. The message clearly says “she” is the parent in question.
Ya my husbands baby mamma is crazy and wouldn’t allow it haha it’s sad
Why would you stop your kid from taking a vacation?
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The story is about the child getting back from vacation and can not go back to daycare because she has to quarantine for 10 days and she has no vacation time to be with the child. This is the reason she doesn’t want her to go. Two grown adults with a custody situation can solve it. Me my self I say let her go and have dad take care of her and you take a break
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Let the child go on vacation. There are absolutely worse things than a last minute trip. From a childs standpoint it’ll be absolutely confusing and angering just because you feel you weren’t given enough notice. Maybe she wasnt given much notice either.
So much hate. Yes, he is her dad but I’m also pretty sure we’re in the middle of a pandemic. I live in Canada and wouldn’t take my kids on holidays right now either. She’s entitled to her feelings and I think she has every right not to want her daughter to go. Last I checked the US was still surging with cases and you all want her to let the father risk her health lol no wonder the cases are so high down there, ya’ll are drinking Trumps juice 
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I would reschedule for when things have settled. No way in hell my fathers child would even risk taking them to a crowded place during a pandemic. You two need to sit down and have a conversation.
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You don’t stop her from going 
You are not her only parent! She’s probably going to grow up resenting you for you trying to keep her away from her father.
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Let your kid go with their dad. They will resent you if anything happens and they couldnt go on that one last trip. Let your kid make memories
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Yes I would and have allowed vacations with the other parent even when not convenient for me…
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Let her go. You’re not saying you’re worried about covid you’re basing your decision on selfish reasons.
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Let them go on vacation. Its their child too. They shouldnt be left out because you don’t want them to go.
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Hi I live near Myrtle Beach and just because of the area itself id say no
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Have you been to Myrtle Beach lately? I’d let her go on vacation with dad, but not to Myrtle. Nope.
Not with covid and restrictions I would not
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My kids went last notice 3 weeks ago. With the in law side of family( I don’t talk to them alot of history). I tried to keep them home because I couldnt check in with my kids when ever, but they won and went for a week. They loved it, ad keep talking about it. It just depends how much trust you have with the ex and the age of the kids.
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What can you do to stop them from going? You don’t 
. You let them go on vaction. You’re not her only parent and you got a 10 day notice.
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really it’s her dad and a vacation. You going to be that petty you won’t let her go??
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I wouldn’t let my son go with his dad in the middle of a pandemic not safe and if they do go yes they have to be quarantine for 14 days which you can’t see your child or can’t send your child back to school…its not being rude its just keeping the child safe…
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Let her go time with a parent is so special
Think about your child in this situation. Not you, not their father.
This is a vacation for them that they’ve probably been excited about for a long time. It’s not fair to punish them because their dad fucked up.
Let her have fun. Get a break from the stress of the world. The quarantining will suck, but you can still see her through Skype and such during that time, and then I’d say tell her father you should have her for extra time after that to make up for it.
Don’t punish your child to punish your ex.
My parents did that to me my entire childhood. And it was fucked up, and even though we’re on good terms now, I still have resentments over how I got treated by them to hurt each other.
Don’t do that to her.
I would let my children’s father take them absolutely anywhere they want to go! He is their parent as much as I am.
I wouldn’t allow her to go, but that’s me personally. Not once did HE bring it up with you, your daughter did. One, he’s the adult so he needs to speak to you and 2, it cuts into your time because she’d have to quarantine. Also it’s a PANDEMIC and personally the number of cases is still way too high for me.
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Nope bc of quarintine.
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Y would you not let her go with him unless he is a danger to the child he has rights to he’s the parent as well. Although I do understand if he did not speak to you directly and I’m also not sure I would want anybody going anywhere during all of this. So…idk
I agree with most, he is also a parent to this child and should be allowed to do fun things with her. What I completely find wrong is that your daughter’s father failed to communicate with you about taking your daughter on a vacation. That’s a BIG no no . You shouldn’t hear it from your daughter.
Why try and stop them from going? I’d be happy that the father of your kid wants to do this. Suck it up, it’s still 10 days, that’s over a week, and let her go. He’s just as much of a parent to her as you are.
Wow lol you are one of THOSE moms… Shut up and let them go and stop being bitter.
I let my daughter go with her dad to Mississippi with no notice. It’s his week and we wrote up a vacation clause. He just has to video chat for 5 minutes before bed so I can tell the kids goodnight.
His week he can do whatever he wants. Your week you do you.
Nah let her go. I’m driving home from myrtle beach, personally I thought it was boring and one of the worse places I have ever been but my daughter loves it. Your kids need normalcy in their lives. Don’t make her suffer, because people can’t even get the facts rights.
Yes, I would totally let her go. Why would you stop her from having a vacation with dad? It is good for them to bond with dad as well… That will not affect her relationship with me because we have a strong bond. I’m already her best friend (so she says) just call her everyday and be happy she’s enjoying herself. Life is too short to worry about silly things like last minute vacation I honestly have done it too… Suddenly a last minute invitation or opportunity comes our way and I call my ex ( sometimes the day before) and he just says to my daughter, ok, have fun!
Since you feel uneasy I wouldn’t. There has to a reason you’re not sure about it. Go with your gut.
Let her have her time with him. When a girl feels love and acceptance from her Dad it empowers her to seek that in a spouse. She will have both parents loving her and supporting her. What more could you ask for? You’ll always be her Mom but he is her Dad!
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Why would you try to stop them? This isn’t about you and you not seeing your child. This is about your child being able to have a relationship and make memories with their dad. Get over yourself and deal with the consequences of a broken family. You should be absorbing the stress from that, not your child.
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You don’t get to stop them from going unfortunately once she’s with dad and in his home he’s free to do as he pleases…you need to get over that need to control the situation
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I would say no only because of Covid…if it wasn’t I would let them go if it won’t interfere with school and such. I think traveling with a child nows is a little scary.
Thats a hard situation. This covid has caused such confusion. Where would she quarantine when she came back? Could she just be tested instead?
Why shouldn’t she go?? Sounds like a GREAT experience for her?
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Don’t stop it. If the table was turned you wouldn’t want to miss out on taking her on vacation. Don’t be so selfish.
I would let her go. If you try to stop her from going it would be as though you were punishing her (and your ex). The fact that there are rules regarding your other kids should not affect them and their plans. He’s her father, he has rights too and how would you feel if he interfered with a vacation you had planned?
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Let her go if there is no reason to suspect abuse let that baby go and enjoy a vacation with her dad
Agree’d let her go and quit making it about winning. Typical. Grow up.