Would you put your teen on birth control if they asked? I am struggling with this one…need to know how other parents feel about it.
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I asked my dad to put me on birth control when I was 17, he didn’t think “I needed it” and I was pregnant on my 18th birthday. There’s a reason your kid is asking-they need it.
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10000% yes. That tells me she may be thinking about being s3xually active… and I’d rather her be safe than sorry.
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Yes. If and when they want to start… as long as they’re well informed.
100%. They’re being responsible, honest and proactive. Not putting them on it will not stop them from being active-just puts them at a higher risk for teen pregnancy.
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Yes if she asked absolutely there is a reason she is asking
Yes. Doesn’t mean I’m letting them have boys in their room with the door shut. You can get birth control without condoning sex.
If they’re asking, it’s probably a good idea. It would be worth sitting down with your daughter having a conversation about birth control, side effects, etc so she fully understands what she’s putting into her body. Then if it hasn’t already been had, the sex talk. Uncomfortable, maybe, but the more education the better. There are many different reasons, other than sex, that she wants to be put on birth control, but the talk is never a bad idea if it hasn’t been had yet. But ultimately, if she has a reason she wants it, if it were my daughter, I would.
They don’t actually have to ask you, so I would take that as a sign of trust and honesty.
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My mom put all my sisters and I on bc at 15. She went with the depo because we all had endometriosis and it made the periods stop completely so we didn’t have to miss school for the horrible pain.
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Yes. They are going to have sex whether you approve or not. Birth control won’t change that, but it will help build trust if you take their concerns seriously and it will prevent pregnancy.
Yes!!! Its the responsible thing to do to help your child be safe and prevent teen pregnancy
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1000% YES! No questions asked. Well, not quite. I’d ask what type of BC she wanted, I’d also made sure she knew who to call to make an appointment for STI’s ect…
Absolutely !!! If she asking is becasue 1.She trust you
2. She is sexually active
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Has she said it’s because she wants to have sex? Because of bad periods? Either way, yes. If she wants it because she wants to have sex, at least she is trying to be responsible to not have unwanted pregnancy, and it’s if because period suck then still yes because it can help. I asked for it at 13 and was told no, and my periods were so bad ever two weeks (yes I have a syndrome that causes irregular intense periods) and I would throw up for days on end, unable to eat, being light headed from lack of food/fluids. And my doctors tried treating me for eating disorders. It wasn’t until I was 18 I was able to get on something. I was told I could never have kids so that was never a thought if why I wanted BC. So maybe just talk to her, explain the birth control options with a doctor or just her and a doctor and come up with something she is comfortable with.
I feel I’m 34 & don’t want to be a grandma any time soon, I would be very proud of my daughter that she felt safe and comfortable enough to come talk to me about that. Do I want my children having sex that young? No. But I would absolutely prefer them being safe, and not having unprotected sex and being pregnant in h.s. You say your struggling with the thought, well if you choose not to & you get a grand baby next year what will your thought be?
No. It’s not a safe product to ruin your body with at such a young age.
Yes absolutely!
The fact your teen came to you and asked shows the lines of trust and communication are wide open. And she is being responsible enough to talk to you about it.
I would sit down and have a conversation about the different kinds of birth control, the effects and the fact that birth control does not protect against STD’s and STI’s so the use of condoms is also very important.
Then make a doctors appointment with her and get her on some.
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Please trust your daughter. She’s being open and honest. If she wasn’t thinking of this then she wouldn’t be asking for it.
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Yes. First it helps regulate periods, which is why I was put on it at 14. Secondly it is better to give your daughter a tool in protecting herself when she ultimately (some don’t) had a teenage lapse in judgement.
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Yes. Period regulation and if they are going to have s3x they are going to on bc or not so might as well make sure they are protected.
I would if they asked, but don’t force her to be on it if she doesn’t want to be. It does a lot of changes to a girls body. I was forced to be on it when I was 15( wasn’t even sexually active) and I gained about 50 pounds and had other hormonal issues.
I was on birth control at 13 to help with my period.
Yes! If she’s coming to you and asking, that means she’s thought about it a lot, it takes a lot for a teen to come to their parent with this kind of thing, so don’t think that denying her will stop her from doing it, it won’t. Better for her to be safe.
Trust you daughter. Be grateful that she felt comfortable coming to you. I would 100% out my daughter on birth control if she asked. Birth control trip isn’t meant to be a bad thing, it’s good judgement and great responsibility on both of your parts.
yes!
I was a teen mom. I really wished I had been responsible/educated on birth control.
Write your pros and cons out. I’m sure the pros will out weigh the cons!
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Hormonal birth control is one of the worst things you can do to your body
Yes unless u want to be a grandma!!!
Better them safe than sorry
Absolutely! And make sure your son has access to condoms.
You, your child and the Dr need to sit down and discuss what are the best options for her. Just remember no birth control is 100%.
BC messes with your body.I doubt any 13 yr and up is having any meaningful sex.I think there should be a thorough talk about sex not just the egg meets the sperm talk.A girl should also be instructed that teenage boys are assholes and have a love em and leave em mentality.
Yes!! Especially Bcz they asked.
Sure would. I mean within reason depending on age. If she was responsible enough to ask you that says a lot. I’d rather put her on birth control than help her raise a potential teen pregnancy. She’s going to do the deed whether you say yes or no.
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Yes. She’s trusting you enough to ask for it!
Yes. Of course. Open conversation.
I don’t know if I’d do birth control just because I’m more into holistic living not I would definitely teach and have her put on a female condom/ condom on a banana to mimic a penis, and make an appt with OBGYN so she can talk with them. Definitely stress that BC prevents pregnancy but condoms can protect from diseases too!
Yes and also let her know that birth control doesn’t prevent STDs or STIs and condoms are important to use too
Absolutely. She trusted you to come to you to PREVENT consequences of what she is ALREADY thinking about doing… consider it a blessing she didn’t come to you telling you she already did it with the consequences… either way, she will do what she chooses regardless if you want her to have sex or not, she’s considering it and trying to be responsible. Tell her no she will either a. Have sex anyways without the protection or b. Find a way to get birth control without you… I had to put myself on it at 17 because my mom wouldn’t and then got screamed at when she found it…
I wouldn’t put anyone on birth control. It’s so bad for you.
Yes I would. If they ask to be put on BC then they are responsible to what would happen if they aren’t on BC. I would also explain how BC isn’t 100% effective and that her partner should also use BC to protect against STDs. I was always up front and honest with my kids when they were growing up.
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I would if my child was either active sexually or asked to be put on it.
That’s pretty simple… would you rather them come to you for birth control or come to you to tell you they are pregnant?
Cause no matter how hard you try to prevent it… they gonna find a way if they determined to…
Also, as a medical professional the law states they actually don’t need your permission for birth control they can obtain it for themselves regardless so consider that a consideration of they are coming to you for guidance and trust as a parent.
You can feel any type of way you want about sex, but regardless the main thing is your child being as safe as possible.
If they asked then yes. Have “the chat” tho regarding sti’s (only condoms offer protection) consent, peer pressure etc. if she is mature enough to hold those conversations then she is mature enough to be put on birth control. I’d be very proud that my daughter had the trust and confidence in me as her parent to address this. Awesome kid awesome parent.
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Yes! My mom was going to take my best friend because her own mom wouldn’t, she felt like it was giving her permission to have sex, her mom found out and came and got her before the appointment time. By the time her mom decided to take her a few months later she was 7 weeks pregnant. We were 16! Teens are going to have sex regardless… so as a parent all you can really do is give them the knowledge and the tools to protect themselves.
Yes. Opill OTC over the counter birth control. You can get it at any drugstore, target, Walmart etc.
My MIL who was raising my niece wouldn’t put her on BC because she was so young & asked her to please not be sexually active. She thought she got through to her but, you guessed it, she was pregnant at 15.
Yep. She asked you for a reason and she trust you.
If she asked to be put on it then I would put her on it.
Yes. I was a teen mother, I have always said we can do it, no questions asked but I’m always here to talk. I also give my teens access to condoms as well and tell them to abstain but id rather them be responsible. It’s a touchy subject but necessary. I also give it to her in the morning, teens can be forgetful.
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Yes! Just because she’s asked you is 100% the best reason! She trusts you, that’s the main thing! I had my eldest at 19, I really hope she asks me when she’s ready.
If they asked, absolutely!
Absolutely!! And explain to them that the only way to help prevent STDs is by using a condom. The more they know the more prepared they are. They’re gonna do it or not, anyway, so help them be safe 
Yes. Even if you don’t want your daughter to have sex, she has come to you responsibly. As much as it sucks, you have to do the right thing
Do you want to be a grandparent is the question.
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if she asked 100% she’s most likely already active
Yes. If the teenager asked than just do it. It’s their decision ultimately. They’re actually old enough in their teens to get on it on their own if they wanted to without your approval BUT your teenager asked you which shows they trust me and can confide you. It’s either birth control or your child having unprotected s*x and getting pregnant or possibly painful periods or irregular periods. There’s a reason they asked. Sit down with them and talk to them and see which reason it is. And if it’s because they’re sexually active do not get mad at them please or that will make them not want to confide in you.
Unless you’re ready to be a grandmother, do the right thing, it’s 2024 please be realistic
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Yes bc they will have sex regardless so at least they want to be safe
I did before they asked… no crap on me but I don’t want them to struggle like I did…
It’s either to put them on birth control or have pregnant teen. If they asking about it and being sexually active for me putting them on birth control and talking both sex transmitting infection is better. Usually doctors are good in explaining that to them if you ask them during appointment
Yes, definitely. Be grateful they were comfortable to ask you.
Would and did, we can’t stop all bad things from happening to our kids, but we can be proactive in keeping them from an unplanned pregnacy
Yep! She is being responsible by asking. But it would be a long in-depth conversation about the responsibilities of having relations and takings the meds on time every day
If they ask for it or if you know they are sexualy active unless you’re prepared to raise your grandchild lol
The fact that your teen came to you too ask says they trust you and feel you won’t judge. I wish I had been able to talk to my mom about this stuff
If they are asking at least they are trying to be responsible.id honestly rather my daughter me safe than wide up pregnant or with an STD
If they had the courage to ask you then they are already thinking about it so yes and will def have many talks as well.
My mom put my sister and I both on the depo when we were 14/15… We all went together and yeah she got looks but she was a young mom… and we both had a boyfriend we were seeing for over a year each and we thought it was a probability that it’s best to do that knowing we were growing up lol.
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She’s being honest and trusting you, don’t let her down. This could be the starting of a beautiful trust between you 2. It’s rare.
I put both of my daughters on BC because of their periods. Neither were in a relationship, but I did talk to them and let them know that this does not mean that I approve of them being sexually active.
Being open and honest with them is the most important thing to have!
Research about all the side effects first.
…… yeah, if my child wants to go on birth control - they will be able to go on it. I’ll make sure they get what they need. I’d rather them be safe and be on birth control than them not being safe and risking potential pregnancy as teens. I’d obviously have that conversation with them as far as why they want to go on it and what the repercussions can be.
In my opinion, that’s pretty $hitty parenting if you deny your child birth control. If they are being a responsible and requesting it, there’s a reason WHY
Absolutely… Better than her coming to you 3 months from now pregnant 
I would look at it as she trust you and it’s a sign you guys have a great relationship.
Yes get them on birth control
I didn’t my daughter and she was pregnant at 17. I did my granddaughters!
Yes unless you want to be raising grandkids.
My teenage daughter as soon as she started showing interest, spending time alone with boys and showing signs of wanting more. I mentioned it she asked and I took and put her on the shot. She’s 19 now and has a job. I know I’m not going to be a grandma at 36 if she shows interest in another guy.
Personally, I’d ask why she wanted it. Then have a conversation about the reason. And I’d probably let her.
But you, you need to do what is best for her and you. Listen to her when she talks about it and make the decision. At least she asked. She didn’t go to a clinic or something. Open the dialog
I would rather my daughter ask and be open with me then hide things and end up pregnant as a teenager.
She feels secure enough to ask you for it and she’s being open.
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Absolutely!
Teen mom here… I wish my mother would have listened to me when I asked for birth control.
If she is asking about it, it means that she is either already sexually active or is thinking about becoming sexually active.
Get her on birth control and take this opportunity to either talk to her (if you haven’t before) or talk to her again (if you have before) about the importance of smart choices, consent and boundaries.
If you open the lines of communication with her now - about a topic like this - she will be more comfortable to come to you when she needs you.
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As a teen mom, absolutely and I would be thankful she trusted me enough to ask
A teen asking shows maturity so why wouldn’t you? They’ll do the deed whether you like it or not so at least help them be safe
I would rather put my child on birth control then have them go through what I did at that age and give birth which was traumatizing
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Better on birth control than teen pregnancy.
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Yes. If she’s asking. That means you do it. Unless you’d like to be a grandma.
Yes. Did with my oldest when she was 17, no regrets.
Absolutely!! They’re trying to make a responsible choice and trusting you by telling you. Took my 1 stepdaughter when she wanted to be put on it at 16/17, and will do the same for my daughter when she’s that age or ready…
My mom put me on 4 years before I lost mine she didn’t want me to be a teen mom like her.
Just be careful. Hormonal birth control, and long usage of it, can be very dangerous to her body. Plus she still needs to use condoms to prevent sti.
I would. If they’re asking, they’re attempting to be responsible. I would initiate a conversation about respect for yourself and others, as well as love (boys vs girls), but I definitely would.
I dont agree that it the thing i would encourage her to do but because shes asking it maybe shes telling you something. Just make sure you let her know thay it is in no way permission to just sleep around.
i put her on.
birth control. but we had heart to heart before
Definitely yes 3,000,000%. I wish I could’ve had that conversation with my mom. 
100% I would. She’s planning on having sex if she hasn’t already if she’s asked you for BC. Along with BC, we’d be talking about condoms and being safe and consent.
This is so circumstantial and depends on why you’re struggling with it.
My cousin had to for hormone therapy and also really bad acne. She had cramps so bad and tmi she actually stayed a “virgin” till she was an adult. I would also say it depends on age. If she has hit puberty and is mature I’d say yes honestly. Although I would struggle too just because I don’t like medicine or the obvious of intercourse young but I also believe, your body your choice.
This is a discussion to have with her. If you can’t or you are too uncomfortable to have this discussion with her then it’s not the right time.
No never. The side effects are irreversible. It will effect her mentally and well as physically. There is no safe birth control, no matter what people say.
I’d teach her about her cycle. How to track herself, know the different stages, how to take her temp, understand the difference in her discharge etc. I wish my mother taught me half that.
Girl I have 3 daughters and I put them on birth control at 11. To help with cramps and to prevent accidents.
Yes. If they asked I would make an appointment that week honestly. And we would talk about all options, and side effects.
Yes.
As her mother I’m here to listen. I do know the side effects from the pill.
We can go through them together, along with all other types of bc there is out there. Hopefully, she’ll choose the best one to help protect her.
Open conversation is best.
Listen more. Talk less.