Sounds like first time momma jitters. It’ll get easier as you go. There’s no realistic way that you can literally keep eyes on your child/children at all times and get anything done. She wasn’t left on the floor to roll/crawl around and get into whatever she wanted… she was in a jumper… and if there’s nothing in her jumper with her i.e. toys etc. then there really isn’t much that she can choke on all of a sudden. How can you realistically ask someone not to cook themselves some food all day or not use the bathroom where a child would be out of sight for a moment. I’d suggest maybe bringing your baby monitor over to grandma’s or buy one that she can keep there and use. Also since you’re married to her son that you now have a child with it’s safe to say that she successfully raised at least one whole child herself… give Grandma a little credit 
It sounds like a compromise can be made. Ask her if she is going to be doing things where the baby isn’t in her perimeter, if she would use a baby monitor or prop a door or window open just so she can catch an emergency if it arises.
Listen, have a chat with your mom. Just tell her, maybe next time leave the screen open or a baby monitor. Let her know you are a little paranoid and ask her to humor you. That’s all. It doesn’t have to be a fight. It doesn’t have to be she can’t watch your kiddo etc. At the end of the day, she’s even down this road before, but you are the parent so you are 100% entitled to set boundaries.
She’s fine. If you prefer her to be beside her 24/7 then let her know. She’s not in danger and she was being checked on
Whether people say you are or aren’t, obviously you feel uncomfortable with the situation. She raised children in a different time without modern technology. If she enjoys watching your baby and she is safe other wise, you could buy a simple version of a baby monitor for their house and show her how to use it.
First child? Lol baby is fine
I think you are over reacting.It is not possible to keep an eye on baby 24/7.Things have to get done around the house.The baby was safe.
I think you are seriously overreacting. The baby was in a safe spot and she was checking in on the baby.
Must be a New Mom, Grams didn’t run to the grocery store or party at the neighbors house.
She raised your husband successfully. Remember us grandma’s were parents first and love LOVE our grandbabies and would never do anything to harm them.
The baby was just fine in a secure jumper. People have got to stop acting like they stare at their children 24/7. You’re looking for a reason…
I mean, I think you are overreacting, but, if you don’t like what she’s doing you can always watch your own kid. Problem solved.
If the jumper was locked at the wheels. And not by a staircase Don’t make a big deal. She’s helping you out and has shit to do. I did that w my kids. Either high chair swing or jumper while I cleaned or had to leave room for whatever reason like to take a shower. Lol the baby was fine
YTA, I’m gonna “assume” here that your getting free childcare… and let me tell you if you have more children in the future there is no way your going to be able to keep eyes on a baby 24/7. If she is in a safe area and not eating anything and your MIL is checking on her periodically then you need to zip it and appreciate the fact she is taking care of her and doing a decent job. I assure you daycares do much worse and your paying for it so if you think a daycare can do better then by all means take your baby there. Your MIL can refuse to care for said infant. Sounds to me your trying to nitpick and be slightly petty…
I am toxic enough to have no said anything and taken my baby home. She won’t be fking leaving them alone again after that fear sinks in
You are ta and over reacting. Find someone else to watch your baby if you think eyes have to be on her every second of everyday.
Maybe you should get a baby monitor. It will save alot of tension between you and your MIL. MILs and DILs have enough tension between them as it is.
If your that uncomfortable then put the child in daycare.
The baby was in a jumper which means it can’t move at all. Baby was fine. If you’re uncomfortable with it find a new sitter
You’re very much over reacting. It’s not like she left
Oh lord, you are gonna have a rough time as a mother if you think your going to watch your baby 24/7! Do you stay awake and hover over your baby the entire night?
cut the cord lady. baby was contained. not in any danger. she was getting stuff prepped to cook. you can’t hold your baby 24 7. you’d never get anything done and you’d have a very clingy child🙃
Get over it… Or pay a child care centre… Honestly… grow up…
Yes you are TA but I say that in a gentle way knowing you are a new mom.
First kid makes us all over sensitive. Kids fine. Chill
Sounds like she was alone in the jumper, not alone eating…I wouldn’t be concerned. It was a few minutes
If baby is in a jumper without anything small around it then it couldn’t hurt to walk away for a bit
You’re a first time mom I take it? No one’s ta, eventually you’ll come to see that this really wasn’t a big deal and your baby was just fine with her.
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… told me everything I needed to know. You are over reacting.
You must be a first time mama, wait til numbers 2,3 and 4 are here… you’ll be doing exactly what your MIL is doing and then some 
U are over reacting big time.
Gosh, this must be your first baby 
chill out gf. Adults still have to do a million other things through out the day. What happens when your next one arrives? Or twins? You’d have to leave the baby in a safe spot and do what you have to do.
Yep I think your over reacting
I’m guessing this is your 1st baby 
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He survived. Let her entertain herself a t. As long as she’s checking on the baby.
I think it’s a bit of an over reaction tbh she was checking on your baby and they were safe and content it’s not like she went out and left your baby home alone, I understand you must have felt very upset and your feelings are valid, ask yourself this was your child harmed? Were they left in a soiled diaper crying ect if the answer is no then maybe you’re TA
So she was cooking you dinner on the grill while baby was in the jumper? I’d be happy to come home to that 
Dear mama, you are definitely overreacting. If your baby can hold her head up with her neck, she’s ok in that jumper. The only way to get anything done is to put baby in a safe place, regularly check to make sure baby is ok and then get done what needs to be done. Your MiL is depicting common sense which you seem to be overlooking. If you think your baby should never cry and should never be outside your direct line of vision, you are setting yourself up for some major stress and you will be taking away any chance of your child growing up to be independent. If you want someone to sit with your baby and do nothing else, that person needs to be you.
You are blessed your MiL is willing to watch your baby. Not only that but she’s trying to keep your house running and she’s giving you opportunities to relax by doing housework. You owe her an apology.
I hope you aren’t co-sleeping with baby. You should consider joining a mommies and babies group to observe other moms around their kiddos and to learn to relax around your baby.
Get over yourself ! Your married to her son and he’s fine. People have been raising kids since the beginning of time without monitors or any other crap that’s out now. If you don’t like it stay home and watch your own kid or pay someone who’s a narcotic like you
I think that this is your first kid…no one’s the AH but the baby was safe and being watched…you’ll calm down as time goes on
Relax y’all, if this is her first, I think we all remember what it was like to be a first time mom/parent. Everything is an emergency and scary.
She’s contained in a jumper, being checked on so what’s the problem?
If I was MIL, you could watch your own baby. KAREN.
I wouldn’t let her babysit
I think that if this caused you so much anxiety then it’s not time yet for you to be leaving your baby with anyone else.
Yes things can happen very quickly but it can happen when baby is in your care too.
Chill mum. Honestly, there are going to be lots of bumps in the road ahead. Choose your battles. I don’t think your MIL was negligent in this scenario.
Maybe suggest that next time she take the baby and jumper outside to better observe? (Put in a shady area away from smoke, still in sight)
I would be very upset as well. I’d buy her a baby monitor. Send her a few horror stories that happened with grandparents. I know that’s kinda messed up 
but she’s got to understand how serious it is.
Yes I believe you’re overreacting a little bit I understand being in Mama Bear mode but the 5-month-old was put like in a jumper and was somewhere that was a secure place I don’t see the problem with it You as a mom have to set her down sometimes and walk away to start dinner or grab the laundry out of the washer for a minute remember she’s raised kids too.
So you don’t do anything ever while your baby is in your care other than stare at her?
She can’t cook? I’m confused, don’t you? How do you eat?
I would be a bit pissed off too.
If you have asked that your baby not be left alone then your mil should not leave her unattended. Just because she is in her jumper doesn’t mean some freak accident couldn’t happen. As you said yourself she was in the house, with a fan on, door between mil and your baby closed, and she was a considerable distance away. I wouldn’t be okay with that either
completely unacceptable !!! nobody would be allowed to “watch” my child if they left them unattended like that
You’re so unrealistic. If your baby had not been contained or in a safe place yeah I could see why you’d be angry but a 5 month old in a confined and safe space made for babies with no real danger or choking hazards around? You need to chill and not keep your kid in bubble wrap. I promise they’ll survive sitting in a jumper for a little while while others actually get stuff done. Expecting people to not cook or anything is not only unrealistic but ridiculous
YOU ATA in this situation.
That MIL needs to prepare dinner and clean up at her place- just like you do when you have your baby. The baby wasn’t in distress or able to choke on anything if they’re only 5 months old strapped in their seat or bouncer. Get a grip and get on an anxiety med- 
she raised her child just fine if you married them- and she’s human- maybe if you want someone to hold your baby every second of the day - even when they use the restroom or walk away to tend to something else for a second. Or 5 mins…. Quit your job and watch your own baby and get nothing done all day and see how you fell after a week. You’ll be begging your MIL to watch the baby again.
Coming from a mother who doesn’t trust a soul with my children- not family, not friends, barely even their siblings…. And definitely no centers!
Fun fact:
Nobody is going to watch or love your baby like you would and you’re not perfect either… things you do with yours could be things others wouldn’t do too-
But this specific situation; YOU ARE THE A**HOLE AND being SUPER CONTROLLING AND PETTY -
I don’t know what a TA is . But I have a 30 year old and neither grand parents know I’d have gone off. Especially no monitor. Plus you said when you walked in . So we leave door unlocked with the baby right there. Ñow grandma outside messing with that grill there are so many things that can go wrong with grill what if grandma got hurt. The baby’s alone ? I could see if she was washing dishes in the next room . But she was outside with no digital monitor . Nope
You have every right to be upset.
Can you buy her a baby monitor with a portable camera with sound? Or one with Bluetooth capabilities so you can also check… That might help put your mind at ease a little and no future ooopsies 
Yeah your the AH she’s fine
What would she have choked on? How do you clean your bathroom. Please tell me you’ve cleaned your bathroom in the last 5 months
She is looking after your child which is a big sacrifice for her. I think you are being unfair. Get her a little monitor camera as she obviously needs to do chores unless you want to hire a cleaner so she can ohysicallycwatch your baby all day.
She needs a baby monitor if it’ll stress you out more, but if the baby is asleep or just chilling, it’s fine to leave them in their room in the crib, etc.
She just needs to be in hearing distance and not leave the house to go shopping or whatever. But around the house is fine.
You’re not TA for thinking your MIL shouldn’t have left your baby unattended, it is after all your baby. Just don’t be so quick to dismiss her. Communicate your expectations to her. This made you uncomfortable and why, that way she understands. She did raise children as well so she isn’t clueless. Maybe offer to give her a baby monitor/camera so if she needs to be somewhere else around the home she can still keep an eye on the baby.
You must be a helicopter parent. Yea your over reacting. I think I need to chill out and honestly I’m on kid number 3 how is ur kid going to choke on anything in a bouncer? 5 min? Doesn’t seem very long. And if a baby is crying I can personally hear that thru 3 shut doors and a TV valume on high. Baby cries break the sound barrier you might want to see ur doctor for post partum anxiety. Also that’s grandma especially if she’s watching the baby. Not just your MIL.
She’s 5 months old in a jumper, what can she get hold of? Are you Always in the room with her? How do you vacuum or do laundry? Not like the baby can get out of the jumper. Guess you will have to watch your own child. Or trust you mli has sense to know the child isn’t in danger.
She shouldn’t have left the house for more than a minute. Running out to start the grill, ok. Anything longer, nope
Time to find someone other then your mil… if u have to teach a grown woman to take care of a child. Then there’s no reason for her to keep doing so.
Plus if she kept checking she would have noticed u sooner
Then take “your baby” to the daycare! TF
Is this your first baby? How do you cook when you are alone with your child? What do you do when you have to go to the bathroom? I feel like you’re being a wee bit dramatic.
If you’re gonna b*tch about your MIL watching your baby, maybe it’s time for you to stay at home with your baby and stop complaining. Problem solved 
Buy her the baby monitor and ask her to please use it and to please put the baby swing closer to where she is
So are you holding on to this baby well you’re cooking your family’s dinner ? Where’s the baby when you’re taking a shower ? who’s watching the baby when you’re doing something??
Did she have food to pose a choking hazard?
I am 10000% sure you will leave your baby unattended for more then 5 minutes there for you should be grateful for the help from your MIL
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Would you react the same if it was the same scenario and your own mother?
You’re being petty about this and hypocritical.
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I mean…u had a kid with her kid so she couldn’t have done THAT horrible of a job watching a child
Are you a first time Mother? This is your husband’s Mother, do you think she would intentionally harm your baby? If so don’t use her as a sitter. Better yet get her a baby monitor. There are to many other things in the world to worry about.
I think if I didn’t trust someone I wouldn’t let them watch my child. If I trusted them then I’m going to trust how they watch my child 
Yes you’re overreacting and way to much to say don’t do nothing time consuming while watching your baby smh stay home with your child if you expect ppl to do all that if you’re a first time mom take a breath relax everything will be ok and I promise you once you have another all the things you worried about will be a lot less with your next child you and the baby will be just fine cut ur MIL a break