She’s fine 
If I do that I normally have a monitor on but still… she’s secure safe in the jumper. It’s not a big deal! People can get house things done while watching a baby. Ask her to get a cheap monitor for if she needs to leave the room if it’ll make you feel better though 
Depends if the MIL is just babysitting occasionally
or watching the baby every day. If she is watching the baby every day then juat stay home and raise her yourself!!!
Buy her a monitor? You don’t want her to cook/eat while babysitting?
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I am a great grandma. Raised 4 of my own kept grand kids and great grandkids. It is ok to step away to attend to a chore. However other points of entry to my home other than the door that I was beside would have been locked. It is a wild world . She apparently didn’t hear you come in the house and would not of heard someone else either. We all say not likely to happen that someone could take your baby. We also know it is possible. Get your MIL a baby monitor.
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Be thankful that MIL Is watching your baby. I think what you’re mother in law done absolutely nothing wrong. Do you sit constantly watching the child? If so will never get anything done! Maybe next time ask mother in law to put the baby in a pack in play if she is stepping away from the child.
You’re overreacting for sure.
It’s 50/50. Door should have been open or a monitor…
Oh no, she was 30 feet away from the baby… that’s so far.
It’s a matter of personal judgement and opinion. If you don’t like, tell her or provide her with baby monitors.
You’re way over reacting but you’re a new mom so I understand. I was a totally crazy uptight mom with my first. By the time my third came along I realized how ridiculous I was years prior 
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Get her a baby monitor. But that might mean she is outside even longer. Trust your gut.
Buy her a baby monitor or find someone else that suits your requirements.
Was there even anything to choke on around? We what if everything to death and cause more drama than necessary.
Its physically impossibe to have both eyes on a child literally 24 hours a day, does that mean you dont sleep to watch the baby, i dont see what nan was doing was wrong, but thats just me
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I 100% think that you are overreacting but that’s just my opinion and everybody has one
She should be able to get other things done around the house while having your baby. That’s what mothers do everyday. Even at a daycare your child would be left alone at times.
Get mom a pack n play to place her in when she needs to get things done . It’s fine to walk away from the baby if they are in a safe space and checked on . I would just get a pack n play and ask her to please put her in there if she is cooking or needs to do something
Complete overreaction and nit picking …
I mean… she still has to clean her house and make dinner and do her things to.
I wouldn’t think to much about it. It’s sounds like like baby was fine
Buy her a monitor if your worried
Imo she did nothing wrong. Parents get things done while kids play in their jumpers all the time. If you’re so concerned get her a baby monitor. If not be grateful she’s even watching the child…
Don’t listen to negative Nacys… if it makes you uncomfortable, then don’t let her watch her again… I would cook dinner or clean the bathroom while my kids were in their Walker Johnny jump up, but doors were always open and I always had a baby monitor on me if they were out of sight… and I was never far away… so if I was you, yes I would feel the same… You are right, there is no way she would hear her choking or if anything had happened she would have no idea
Did she have something she could choke on? Other than air. And the remark about the exhaust fan being on has me laughing so hard. Like ok. You could still hear a baby. It’s a fan not a jet plane You sound like a first time mom that’s paranoid. We’ve all been there but you begin to realize what could truly cause harm to your child and what would not. It sounds like there’s a higher chance of lightning striking than something happening in your MIL’s care. It sounds as though you expect her to do absolutely nothing besides stare at / hold your child the entire in her care since you said she can’t cook. You have the right to feel how you want but don’t complain when she is no longer there to help you out.
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Poor mother in law is not even allowed to take a sht 
So I assume since you’re criticizing your MIL for leaving baby in a jumper (where she cannot crawl around getting into cupboards and only god knows what but contained where she’s in a safe place) that you take said baby into the bathroom with you every time you pee or pick her up and take her with you every single time you leave the room including but not limited to doing laundry taking it from room to room to put it away I assume your baby literally never ever has left your sight. Also assume said baby sleeps right next to your bed if not in your bed bc babies can also choke in there sleep too 
I’ve had 4 kids and that’s so not accurate. I as a mother find it way impossible to do everything I just described. But I can only assume that’s how you parent since you’re upset with your MIL for leaving her in a jumper alone only 30 feet from her. 
Ok, if she’s unsafe, what are you? You abandoned your child with this hideous monster, so what does that make you?
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The baby was in a jumper. Wasn’t going anywhere. The baby was fine. Baby’s can be out of site. They don’t need to be held 24/7. No wonder kids are so damn spoiled now adays.
Do you just sit and stare at the baby when she’s home? What do you do for sleep? It’s a little unrealistic to think that baby needs to be watched constantly what about using the bathroom?
She was a mama in a different time. Things have changed so much over time, even in the 15 years I’ve been a mom. In all honesty I’m sure your baby was perfectly fine.
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I get where you’re coming from but maybe get her a portable baby monitor that she can have with her. You can’t expect her not to do anything bc she’s babysitting your child…
I’d be ok with it, but I would definitely buy a baby monitor for her house.
Is this your first baby? If it is I understand your overreaction. The baby is fine. She didn’t leave your baby, she was literally a few feet away.
Honestly the more I go back and read this post the more it completely disturbs me you’re telling your mother-in-law that she cannot cook clean do time consuming tasks because you expect her to watch your child for free while you do what sit on your hands don’t help clean don’t help cook but you expect things to be done for you while you’re there yes but how is she supposed to even prep a meal if she is supposed to sit there on her hands and knees and stare at your kid this is downright ridiculous do you not cook and clean while you have your kid at home that’s pathetic and also nasty you’re supposed to know how to juggle tasks first time mothers excuses are beyond me because I’m a first-time mom and I cook and clean and take care of my daughter all at the same time
Yeah…you’re TA. That baby was completely safe. Would you rather the 5 month old be in the heat? Near a grill? That sounds safe
Yeah, you are overreacting.
Umm yes you are overreacting the poor lady was just trying to fix something on the grill
That’s just…yeah definitely over reacting. Im a mom of 4. I have a 5 month old. If I was to keep an eye on him every second, NOTHING would ever get done. Heck I wouldn’t even be able use the restroom let alone cook! Your baby is fine, and she did nothing wrong. If you don’t like it, buy her a monitor and ask her to use it when she steps away from the baby, for your peace of mind. Besides that, you may need to calm down a little. I would do anything to have someone willing to watch my child/children.
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Watch your child yourself.
Do all of you saying she’s over reacting 
she was outside WITH DOOR CLOSED!!! The door being open is one thing, but the door is CLOSED! yeah, maybe she’s checking on the kid, but all it takes is one second for the baby to choke on something, anything…
buy her one so she has no excuses!
Your baby isn’t hurt or anything so she’s fine . I understand what you are feeling but you are overreacting big time
I’m sorry, she shouldn’t cook while watching the baby? How do you make breakfast/lunch/dinner? Seriously. Yes, you are the asshole. Baby was inside in the AC and in a secure chair. Chill tf out.
I’m sure she was fine , she was in her jumper , I’m sure grandma made sure there was nothing she could choke on. Around her, I’m sure she wasn’t left alone long , without being checked on, you need to relax , or hire and pay a baby sitter ,no matter who watches your baby their eyes are not going to be with them every minute.
I’m a mother of three and a 15 year seasoned First responder. You don’t leave children unattended. Period. You are not the asshole.
Way overreacting! She was fine wasn’t eating so what could she choke on? It’s the same as being in a crib and u being downstairs
Purchase her a baby monitor then.
You could watch your own child 24/7 definitely over reacting. The baby wasn’t crying and she was actually doing something I don’t see the problem.
Your first, isnt it?
Unless she’s leaving baby completely on her own for extensive amounts of time, without checking on her, allowing her to cry, not be somewhere safe, or anything similar to these then, in my opinion, you’re overreacting.
There is no way the baby would randomly choke.
Everyone puts baby somewhere safe to walk away all the time. Dishes, laundry, showering, cooking, using the bathroom.
So long as baby is checked up on and is somewhere safe, then you shouldn’t go after her.
By your MIL a monitor if you don’t like your baby being unattended maybe be grateful she watches her while yous work could pay for childcare if you don’t like how your child is being looked after
Does you mil watch her bcz u work. Maybe u should get a daycare and pay for help so you mil can get on with her own life and doing what she needs to do. Since u paying u can also be fussy about her routines and what u like or do not like.
If it bugs you so much get her a baby monitor
I wouldnt complain and be grateful for support but if you feel strongly about it dont have someone else take care of your child and then you get the care you want for her
Pay someone to watch your baby, and have cameras, I don’t see anything wrong with what she did unless she left the baby unattended with a cookie or something it could choke on,
At least you have a baby sitter she doesn’t have to watch your kid for you
Is she supposed to just sit there and stare at the baby the whole time?
FFS what if she has to blink or use the restroom?
What does the range fan being on have to do with anything?
How do YOU get anything done if you can’t take your eyes off your child?
If you’re that worried buy her a baby monitor or find a day care if you can afford one and also the day care won’t stand and look at your baby all day so chill
I’m quite concerned about young moms who think they have to be attached to baby 24/7. How do you ever do anything? Your house must be a disaster & you must be real hungry.
Your daughter isn’t even mobile yet. She may not even be able to bring things to her mouth. Besides she was in a jumper. She was in a safe place with a sensible adult near by checking on her. Calm down. She wasn’t abandoned or neglected.
Yes you’re overreacting.I can’t get over you saying you’ve told her not to do time consuming activities while she’s babysitting,cooking for gods sake 
you should be grateful you have the help.The baby was in the jumper,so away from all harmful things and she was checking on her.You expect her not to do anything at all,which is just ludicrous.You can cook while a baby is in a safe place as long as you’re checking on it
Take your baby to a daycare and see if anyone has eyes on it every second if you’re not happy
Get ur mom to keep her problem solved.
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You’re definitely overreacting.
Do YOU never take your eye off the child? If you need the bathroom? Cleaning up?
Overreacting. As long as she was keeping check.
Do u sit all day when u r home and look at your child? I don’t think anyone does.!
Overreacting, and acting like it’s a privilege. Don’t like it? then pay a babysitter.
Do you sleep? If you do your baby is unattended. Do you go to the bathroom without your baby? If you do your baby is unattended. A mother or any other person cannot reasonably be with a baby continually. I had 5 babies and they all survived. I slept, showered, pooped, cooked, cleaned, did laundry, I kept the eye in the back of my head, vigilant. Mother’s usually have a sixth sense. Can bad things happen yes, but things still have to get done. This is obviously your 1st, so it is not unusual to be a hyper-crazy-a$$ed-paranoid-over the top 1st time mommy. Almost all 1st time mommys are. Have more I guarantee you’ll get over it. Unless your just a controlling narcissist, then there is no hope.
Yes you are! It not likes she left the baby to go next door or something.
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You may have been over reacting a little.
Your way over reacting…I can see this new generation coming up…gonna need a whole bunch of cotton…And before anyone starts on me…My first was stillborn so I was just like this lady…it’s not gonna end good…
I look at it this way , if your not happy then look else where 
This women has raised babies she isn’t going to put the baby n harms way ,
I honestly don’t see this is a big a big deal
She is watching the baby for free I’m sure
Give her some credit. This isn’t her first rodeo
Is your daycare free?? I think if it is, stop complaining. The baby wasn’t in danger. If it upset you that much, put your baby in a daycare for a ton of money and don’t be shocked when your baby is still left alone at times 
I wouldn’t call you an asshole, necessarily. Overreacting a little?, yes. However, maybe provide a baby monitor like mentioned. Or even ask if she were going to be outside for an extended amount of time,15 minutes or longer, she could maybe put the jumper closer to the sliding door, keep the door atleast cracked…That way she can see and hear the baby and the baby can see and hear her too. Also, maybe ask her to make sure other doors are locked, you came in and she didn’t know.
I dont think u should expect her to sit and stare at your baby every minute she has her…she was obviously ok and safe…how can she get anything done if u expect her to never take her eyes away from the baby…how do u get things done. When your at home
Yeah. The baby was being checked on with a bouncy as a single mom with one so little before. U need to shit. U need to shower. Put them in the bouncer. I need to eat or cook put them in the bouncer.
She was making food. Not being neglect full.
She probably had just checked in on her right before u got there.
And yet she raised your husband no issue death or choking .
Your baby your boundaries I respect that… I do think you’re overreacting a little.
“Tell your mother to never ever take her eyes of my baby. Heaven forbid one tiny glance away from him, ever! Never ever get more than 2 feet from him! She needs to be in his fucken nose hairs OKAY?!?”
Buy her a monitor? Seems like an easy solution
To all those people saying she is overreacting, and ‘haven’t you ever needed to do something’, would 100% be the first to crucify her or her MIL if something DID in fact happen to the baby.
She has mummy instincts for a reason. You can never be too careful with babies. As they get older you can ease up a bit. But 5 months old ? Can that baby even full support it’s own back and sit up unassisted ?
Idk was your baby in the reach of harmful stuff? Is there large animals running loose that are chaotic? Was there any danger for your baby? If she’s outside doing grill stuff wouldn’t you rather the baby be inside away from the possible smoke? Also you can’t expect her to just do absolutely nothing when the baby is there…. If you’re so concerned about her having a baby monitor maybe bring yours to the house or ask her to have one? Idk, I leave my son in his bouncer while I go do some dishes all the time, checking on him occasionally. It’s good for babies to have some alone time entertainment
NTA. If I’m having someone WATCH my child then I expect them to be doing that when I get back. What if she was crying?
You are completely over reacting.
I’ve done it with my own kids, only way I’ll get shit done
Buy a baby monitor or take your baby to a daycare where they are paid to do nothing but watch your child. If you are getting free care and your child was in a safe place, you need to remember that she agreed to watch your child not stop living and taking care of other obligations at the same time. WTH difference does it make how long the exhaust fan had been running?
Lmfao. You are totally overreacting. How do you cook or clean?
I think it’s over reacting about the jumper and such, That being said it’s a little concerning you were able to walk into the house and stand there for 5 mins without her noticing , unless the op entered the house with a key ,I would be concerned that the house was unlocked and someone could have took the child and been gone before grandma looked up and noticed baby gone. Though the chances are very slim I would insist if she is gonna be out back or away from baby for a period of time the door be locked people are nuts and break ins happen,You never know what someone would do if finding a unattended baby.
Girl bye. You’re definitely overreacting.
Buy her a baby monitor and if you are still not comfortable, find another sitter.
OMG…So I am guessing you never went to the bathroom to pee or poop & left your baby alone or taken a shower while your baby was sleeping. Same with doing the laundry or cleaning the house, including vacuuming !!!, Oh & I am also guessing you never fell asleep either. If the baby is either sleeping or awake, it is OK to leave the baby for a few minutes. I honestly expected you to say she was no where to be found!!! So you just want people to say, never leave your baby with her again…end of story!!
I think you are overreacting. You’ve asked her to not do time-consuming activities/cooking while watching your kid? Maybe hire a babysitter and that can just sit all day.
If the baby was left in a space where they could roll away, roll off of, get tangled up in, fall out of something, etc. yes. Not good but a jumper is probably the safest place she could have placed the baby if she needed to tend to something or go use the restroom, etc. A crib would have been too far away for her to use.
If Grandma was outside doing yard work, that would be too much. She was doing a simple task and was in sight of the baby checking on her. Let her do the activities she needs to do like EAT. If she’s watching your baby she can prepare herself food. Please tell me you’re paying her with all these demands.
Seriously is she supposed to stop everything. If the baby was safe and not left in an unsafe manner whats the problem? Do you pay your mil to watch your child? Have you never make dinner or donr other things while your child was in another room? I think this is way over dramatic.
Buy a monitor or put her in day care if you don’t like how she’s looking after her or even better look after her yourself she’s still only a baby after all
Why don’t you get a baby monitor for her?
Lol, she is not a nanny you are paying to take care of your baby, so she has to sit around 24/7 and never leave her alone. She is her grandmaa, giving you a favor by taking care of YOUR CHILD in your absence who is totally YOUR AND YOUR HUSBAND’S responsibility only. MIL has experience and you must trust her with her methods of taking care if you have no other way to take care of your baby.
Amd if not,then hire a nanny or take child to day care or just stay with your baby and take care of him.
Stop overreacting.
Ya your MIL doesn’t know how to raise a kid, monitor without electronics etc. Grow up
Idk that you’re over reacting but I know she wouldn’t have done it had she not trialled it with her own children. She could have put baby outside on a blanket next to her tho just so she was close in case something did happen. I get it, I have a 21 year old and back then I used to trip on dumb shit. Now I’m 42 with a 1 year old and I’m heaps more chill. Babys don’t need to be watched 24/7. They’re fine.
First child? Lol do you piss and shit with the door open to keep an eye on the baby? How do you shower?
If you want someone to keep an eye on her the whole time, seek a nanny and let her know your requirements.
I’d be upset about her closing the door and leaving baby unattended in the jumper. There’s a pretty big risk for position asphyxiation. Do I think she needs to eagle eye the kid all day nope. I think it’s concerning that you were able to come inside the house stand around for 5 minutes and she never knew. I hope you got in bc you had a key and she isn’t leaving doors unlocked. That’s unsafe for everyone.
When I have my 2nd ill have an monter for when baby is sleeping and i have to do laundry or go to the bathroom , as long as I can see or hear baby , and baby is in a safe place then ill be OK , did the same with my first ,
As long as baby is safe, I think it is ok to move out and about and doing things around the house. Asking someone to not cook while babysitting? That’s a little much.
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Get your mother in law a baby monitor