Get grief counseling.
They don’t seem like very good friends if all she does is compare everything that happens with you to her. And then gets mad cause she is jealous or having her boyfriend telling yours to stop doing stuff cause it makes him look bad. Seems like too much drama, I would have stopped being friends with them long ago.
Your grieving, take time but remember these are two different relationships and two different babies. Don’t blame them. I understand been there
Sounds like this couple is a toxic one that I personally would distance myself from
I would drop them as friends.
Just unfollow them they sound rude as hell
Drop them. They are toxic and you don’t need them in your life.
Yeah, get some therapy. There’s no reason for you to dislike the baby from what you’ve wrote.
Please remove urself from that situation! They r not ur friend! The my r toxic and nasty human being with not so nice intentions.
You are spot on, it’s not that you do like the baby, it that you don’t like the baby:s parents. And you are grieving you’re own child.
Also they really aren’t your friends. Get rid of them.
It seems you don’t like the mum which is understandable. Then you are projecting those feelings to the baby. Take time and heal. The baby does not have to be in your life so just stay away. One day, the baby will not trigger bad feelings. All the best.
Why do you keep saying friends? They’re not your friends. They’re not his friends either. Stay away from that energy. It’s for you, your relationship and certainly not good for a growing family. Good luck.
No…you’re grieving. It reminds you of a trauma
That’s not good friendship if they’re that petty. Get grief therapy soon. The earlier the less pain you will go through.
You’re Graving your child it is normal to not like other babies that feeling will pass it may take a while but it will pass it’s hard I’ve been there I understand
Yes. You are wrong for not liking a baby just because you’re in your feelings and have issues with his/her parents🤷🏼‍♀️
Why tf are you referring to the assholes as “friends” they don’t deserve to even be considered acquaintances
Okay, wow I understand where you’re coming from. I can tell you right now this so called friend is very jealous of you, and to be real she seems crazy enough that she may even want your man too. She sounds totally twisted and honestly, I think you may even feel obligated to be friends on social media or any encounter in real life, bc they had the two of you meet. Doesn’t mean you owe them anything. She is a narcissist, and I don’t blame you for not wanting to be a part of this babies life or theirs for that matter. This disturbs your peace, not worth your time. They are most defnot your people, they’re your enemy
There’s a healthy competition type thing among friends and then there’s a psychotic, weird and unhealthy type of competition among frenemies. Also I’ve been in your shoes and it is hard to be happy for someone so close having a baby so close to your loss. You say congrats and part of you means it and part of you is really happy for them but the majority of how your feeling is hurt and grieving which can manifest as resentment. You and your boyfriend have every right to grieve however you need to and distance yourself.
You are still grieving and they are toxic people I would remove entirely from your lives, starting with social media!
It’s natural for you to feel the way you do, right now. It should get better with some more time. May and June weren’t that long ago.
That is not my definition of a friend
It’s hard for you to see the baby because you grieve the loss of yours. I’m so sorry for your loss. 
They are the worst kind of “friends” breaking you down for being happy and being jealous instead of happy for you guys
Sounds very selfish and childish!! Embrace the love you have with your family and stop being so superficial with others happiness!! It’s not the baby’s fault or your so called friends !! Everything happens for a reason, you just don’t know it yet 
Though I understand they were pregnant before you miscarried I think it was really inconsiderate and selfish of them to announce their pregnancy in the same week. Get some therapy, it helps, it really does. Maybe you can deal with how you’re feeling with someone professional, a loss at 19 weeks has to be devastating I’m sorry you had to go through that love. You still need time to grieve, if probably keep my distance from them for awhile until YOU feel like you can handle it. Sending love.
You just talked yourself through it pretty nicely there. You’ll work through it 
Godspeed 
You’re not a bad person it’s grief point blank. My brothers Gf miscarried a month before I had my baby and they came up to the hospital and my brother was oblivious but I could see how hard and painful it was for her and she was trying her best to hid it but she couldn’t hold my baby and my brother was upset to which I fussed at him because I definitely understand it’s something unbelievably hard to go through and when someone close has a child or gets pregnant especially the way you described it hard so just know it’s the grief and and don’t think badly of yourself
Miscarriage matters is a great page in. It’s very common to feel this way after having such a horrible loss. I’m sorry this happened to you
Thats a toxic relationship with those people not a good friendship at all. Regardless how long either of you has been friends with them an your history they are toxic to you and your relationship and arr jealous of what you have. Just like many people already stated you need to cut that attachment . and you can also heal better and grieve better. Ive had 2 miscarriages and unfortunately they were complicated going through the most recent 1 now. But was related to stress due to family and all. It makes it even harder to cope. Take the toxicity out of your life and you will feel so much better and be able to focus more on you and your family and relationship. Wish you the best in your future. Stay strong mama
What you are feeling is completely normal. You are grieving. Those people are not your friends.
These are not your friends and honestly, I would no longer associate myself with people like that, if I were you.
Your feelings of not liking or wanting to be around thst baby is totally normal for someone whos lost a baby, late term at that. I had a lot of those feelings when a friend of mine had a baby shortly after what would have been my angels due date (24wk stillborn).
But those people… especially that girl… sounds toxic and very jealous over your relationship.
You and your man deserve to grieve. No one should tell you any different, nor should they throw their happiness in your face every second you are near. I would distance myself as it sounds the other gal has many insecurities. She just may be too toxic for your relationship.
You’re not a bad person. In fact they’re shitty ass petty jealous friends. Get rid of them.
Oh love I know what you’re going through. I lost my baby at 20 weeks this year and two of mine and my bfs good friends were pregnant also and had their babies the same time I was due. But my baby passed. I was so heartbroken. And it was so hard to see them with their babies… The friend you have sounds very jealous. I’d cut ties with her because she’s watching your every move and anytime anything good happens for you she gets mad and spreads her negativity. I know you’d be better off without a friend like that.
Girl your human and its normal. You and your boyfriend should try therapy. It really helps! Wish you both nothing but the best. They also sound like shitty friends
I’m sorry for your loss. These “friends” are hella toxic! I wouldn’t even associate with them.
Why are you taking your anger out on a baby?
I’m so so sorry for your loss sweetie 
Nothing more devastating than losing a child. Grief has no timeline & you’re NOT selfish. Take the time you need for you & your boyfriend & prayerfully one day you’ll feel strong enough Much love xoxo
You’re being a total child dude. What are you. 20? Please.
I’m just going to be completely real and say I have absolutely no idea what you’re talking about here. I have re-read this several times, there is zero punctuation, and it’s and all over the place. Looking at the comments though:
- Someone introduced you and u got pregnant
- You are of different ethnicities and these said people told you to use your baby daddy for money
- You had a miscarriage and it is sad
- Someone else in the circle of friends is now pregnant
- You are wondering if you should not like the baby of your friend’s friend? Is this a joke?
This post is all over the place. I’m lost.
Get new friends those two are total horseshit
You’re grieving. Ditch them, they’re gross.
I understand the grieving and I don’t think you dislike the baby. You dislike the fact you didn’t get to experience that like you were suppose to. I am confused though when you end the post you wrote you are still wanting another baby…with the right person. Is your bf no longer the right person? Just curious if it was a typo.
I’m so confused rn 
Crazy ppl saying its toxic…just about every one has seen somebody post something and be like …you dont do that for me or you dont buy me Rose’s etc…that dont make ppl toxic …just something lots of ppl do…
BUT
You losing a baby I’m sorry…
But this is normal grief …I hated everybody was pregnant or had a baby lol …well I thought I did…I’ve lost 5 and each time was the same…so I’m guessing it’s normal…
I’d recommend going to grieve therapy. While this is a grieve response it is one that makes me believe you need professional help to overcome this loss. Those people are definitely drama but their baby is just an innocent baby. Your friends are going to continue their lives even though you’re grieving.
Listen, firstly, what you are feeling is normal, and its okay, because In reality,dear, you don’t dislike that baby, you dislike the situation it was created from. It took me 10 years to get pregnant, and I was jealous of every single person I saw having children, I hated them for getting the only thing I wanted in life. Secondly, cut those friends out of your life and stay away from them, they are toxic and the mutual friend is gaslighting you because he’s not ready to make a lifelong commitment and his girlfriend is. That isn’t on you, or your husband,that’s on them.
You guys don’t need people like them around you or in your lives. I would not have them in my life if I experience that.
This is such bullshit
This post is confusing but from what I gather you’re unsure if you’ll see this baby as meaningful because of their reasoning to have a child… that’s not your business and you should just be a good friend and be happy for them. If not then stop being friends with them. I’m sorry for your loss. I’ve been there. Everyone grieves differently and I think this is how you’re grieving by being spiteful cuz your hurting. Every baby is a blessing.
I don’t think the problem is the baby
It’s your friends
Resentment is real and sounds like your loss and your friends drama is where this Resentment starts
Your feelings are totally valid. Grief has a way of making you angry at things you normally wouldn’t. When my mom died I was angry that the entire world kept on going like she didn’t even matter. Every smile made me sick with rage.
Don’t let grief tell you who you are though. That’s not who you are, it is natural to feel that way though if that makes sense?
In any case though it does sound like that friendship is tainted and fading fast. Maybe best to just end it, because a jealous friend is not a friend. She’s constantly comparing her life to yours, and honestly she sounds like a frienemy…
You are a shitty person for disliking a baby.
After reading that only think i can say is you need new friends they sound toxic and you need therapy
It’s okay to be hurt!!! That’s a messed up situation. Not your fault for having feelings and being human, especially with what you have gone through! That poor baby, I feel bad for that child being raised by a parent as a “just to shut her up.”
One day you’ll knock her in the head (mom) if you don’t keep your distance. She’s a toxic person and used your pregnancy to get her own life. You need to grieve and there’s no time limit. That poor baby doesn’t deserve her for a mother, honestly, and I’m sure you feel that way as well. I’m so sorry for your loss my dear!
First off. Those ppl are not your friends.
Second. Find a mother loss group. They are life savers.
Tbh the whole back and forth of your relationship and theirs in comparison with eachother is not healthy and very immature.
Stop competing they need to as well!
But dude… its a baby. A sweet little little human. Don’t allow your grief to make you bitter ik it’s easy to do but it’s really a bad way to live life.
I’m sorry you had to go through this. You most likely are still grieving, but the fact that you’re also surrounded by toxic people doesn’t help. You know it’s not the baby’s fault, but your anger and frustration is being misdirected and that’s something that’s totally understandable… you just have to find the right person or resource to help you find closure so you can be happy and look forward to the future plans. Wishing you all the best
Huni on the baby part, I understand where your coming from I lost my baby boy at 19 weeks ( he should have been 16 this year ) and it took me months for me to even look at a baby, don’t be hard on yourself it takes time and as for those so called friends stay away from them they are toxic
Feelings, especially those that spring up during periods of grief, are often irrational. That doesn’t make them less valid but it does mean you shouldn’t indulge them when they could be hurtful. Step back and take a break from this “friendship” for a while. When you’re in a better place emotionally, reevaluate your feelings and decide if you want to attempt to reconnect. In the mean time reach out to a grief group and make new friends.
Those are not friends. I wouldn’t have them in your life. You are grieving so there is not right or wrong way to feel. Your feelings are valid.
Sounds like they gave you mal ojo. Stay away
You’re still grieving the loss of your baby and your feelings are definitely valid.
Your friends sound really weird
You’re allowed to have feelings. Grief isn’t the same for everyone. You don’t really dislike a baby, you dislike the cards you were dealt while some played shady hands in your face.
Losing a baby is a painful process that takes time. Especially when you were that far along. As for your friends. I would unfriend them and move on. They are not true friends. Friends are supposed to build each other up. Every time they post you will associate it with your loss and that’s just going to sink you more into depression. Unfriend them. Heal. And try again when you are ready.
I have no other words but sending you the biggest hugs your feelings are more then valid… in no way shape or form am I telling you what to do but could you maybe do a memorial type thing for your heaven baby thats allows you to morn and go through all the stages I feel for you and truly am send you the biggest cuddles
Normal feelings of grief of losing a baby. You’re not a bad person just hurt.
It’s because you’re still grieving, and honestly that pain might never go away. I lost our daughter Dylan in 2019 and I had multiple friends that were due around the same time as me, and I was resentful and jealous, like I am happy their babies lived… but at the same time I wonder why their babies survived when I feel like ours would have been born into a better situation. And I feel like crap for thinking like that, so I just try to stay away. But at the same time I also enjoy seeing the pictures because I know about what size and age she would be now, and then it also starts the hurt because I wonder what Dylan would have looked like had she survived. It’s rough, but it is a natural part of grieving. I’ll keep you in my thoughts mama. When you feel ready emotionally, please try again and don’t hold back or worry. I was so stressed when we tried again that I didn’t get to enjoy my pregnancy.
I’m sorry for your loss. Choose your friends because you like them, not because you feel you have to be friends with them.
Those friends sound racist and hateful tbh they probably wished death on your unborn child yeah it sounds silly but never know what people are doing behind your back.
I am sorry for your loss but to say their baby isn’t meaningful is taking it too far.
God just move on make new friends why wallow
Ok that couple was wrong but u are wrong too for getting jealous from innocent baby
I think u need some psychological therapies for this
Just block from being able to see all of it. You can still be friends and not see her stuff I believe. The jealousy runs deep in that one. Just give yourselves time to heal, keep loving each other and posting all the good he does for you. Cause I’m pretty like that. Once I know you’re a hater, I know your weakness and I’m going to expose it.
Dump the toxic couple. They are not bringing any joy into your life and I don’t mean just about the baby. They have been toxic is many ways before they announced their pregnancy. Not worth the friendship. Let it go. I have learned this over and over I had to let certain friends go.
You’re still grieving girl and what you feel is completely normal. Give yourself time and try to stay away from these people, you really don’t need that type of energy right now. Hugs mama
A few things here. 1. Cut them off. They’re toxic both to your relationship and to yall as individuals 2. It may be a good idea to speak to a grievance counselor or someone close to you to help with the loss of your baby
Why exactly are you guys still friends with them? seriously.This isn’t about the innocent child…this is about you being jealous of them because they have something that you lost. I felt the same way when I was in a similar situation (only the people werent toxic) Yall need to ditch them as friends. They are no good for you. As far as you go, I think that counseling might be good. Losing a baby is one of the worse things that can happen and it will eat you alive if you allow it. Make sure to talk through it, and unfriend those people!
Your feelings are valid sorry you had to go through that they sound like shitty friends I would find some new ones
Those people are disgusting and I feel sad for that baby to have parents that are so self involved.
You don’t hate the baby or dislike the baby… the baby is just a reminder and it hurts. You’re not wrong for feeling how you do
Block them out of your lives the best you can. You don’t owe them an explanation or anything. Block them and move on. (Not move on like get over what happened between you and your boyfriend… move on like continue your lives without those people)
You’re grieving. They’re awful.
Keep your heads up and continue to lean on each other. You’ll get through this 
Normal feelings for grief and loss, my husband have been there many times after we lost our baby and 14 weeks and numerous other pregnancies. It’s okay to feel these feelings and you shouldn’t have to validate them to anyone. Be gentle and kind to yourselves it’s a big thing to go through. Xx
They sound toxic as hell, why are y’all even still friends? After the pregnancy announcement I would’ve cut them off completely.
It’s totally normal feelings.
You and your boyfriend were going to have a baby because you WANTED to wholeheartedly keep and raise your baby after finding out.
Where as these people only had one to “shut the girlfriend up”.
It’s normal to be angry and to feel as though you can’t see a baby. Or have resentment.
Read up on the stages of greif, sounds like your experiencing anger, i think seeing someone together and separately would help you both
I’m sorry you have gone through this terrible loss. I would honestly get new friends!!! They sound very heartless, petty and kinda racist! The feelings your having are completely normal through this process but I would seek some help.
They’re gross… you don’t need people like that. You’re grieving 
I’ve been there twice… please take the time for yourselves and process everything. Misery loves company… cut them off before they cause issues between you two.
Ditch them as friends, they bring no joy to your life, also you are still grieving so give yourself and your partner time and maybe go see someone/therapist. Grief has no time limit, be kind to yourself, sorry for your loss, sending you peace and 
Sounds like they’re in competition with you, the best thing you can do is cut ties and move on with your partner start a family and be blessed. They’re not your friends z
- Sorry for your loss!
- Never let anyone create secrets in your relationship! If you haven’t already told your boyfriend about this previous meeting / discussion with them you definitely should.
- Cut them off! They sound extremely toxic and offer nothing positive or healthy with their friendship!
If there so called friends what’s an enemy? I’d definitely cut all ties sounds like they definitely won’t last she’s a controlling freak
You’re still grieving… Ditch the toxic friends…they will always cause conflict in your relationship
I’m so sorry you went through that loss, and I think what you’re feeling is just a stage of grief. If I were you, I’d cut those friends off. They seem extremely toxic
Not your real friends. Cut them off
Just cut them off they sound toxic. You know it’s not the baby’s fault. Just wish them well and cut ties x
I’ll make this short…
These are NOT your people.
I’m very sorry for your loss and I pray you two find more peace