Maybe you should block him instead.
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Yes you are. If you have to ask him to block anyone you shouldnât be with him. Clearly something more than a fantasy going on.
Heâs cheating and your concern is whether youâre being controlling or not? Girl, if you donât leave that man. 
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He cheats with her but youâre controlling?? He doesnât have to actually screw someone else to have an affair. Remember that!!
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Girl you need to run and fast! He is obviously in love with her if she is his fantasy
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Hell no. He may not have cheated in body,⌠maybe, but he definitely cheated in mind. Sometimes worse
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Sounds like an ex boyfriend to me ⌠your man should never make you feel like that .
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There is fire on the mountainâŚRunâŚRun⌠RunâŚ
His ass would be sitting on the curb waiting for this best friend to pick him up and keep him for good!
No. Not controlling at all. Form of cheating if not physical. Just let her have him. Let him have her. Sheâs the moron homewrecker and heâs the thinking with his head between his legs and not the one on his neck. Faithful relationship means no other girls and no flirting and what not.
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Theyâve done the deed together.
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Just leave the guy and his female best friend to their sequel fantasies. You would be the AH if you were just telling him to block his female friends, but this one heâs been messing with. Just throw them both out and start over.
Iâm with everyone else. Leave that man! No good.
Let her have him 
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Hell no if heâs gonna be mad about it leave him
It is not controlling. They cried crossed a boundary in a male/female âfriendshipâ if it was you texting and fantasy role playing with a male friend of yours, heâd have the biggest fit!
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Girl! Let them have each other. You donât need that crap in your life
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Girl let him go! You can do better!
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Sheâs his fling and you get all the other stuff with the BF ⌠Run as fast as you can
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Heâs fantasizing about his girl âbest friendâ yeah no time to drop him thatâs cheating and he knows it he just wants you both
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Haha ha , Youâre being played
What a douche. Lol
Fantasy with another woman (âbest friendâ) 
Iâd done told him to pound pavement
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What. No . Tf. YOU DID NOTHING WRONG . Amber
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Yikes ! Thatâs a messy situation your not controlling but I would reconsider the state of the relationship Best of luck
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Why would you stay at all?
If you have to tell your man to block women to keep him from being unfaithful, heâs not your manâ:woman_facepalming:
if they were really JUST friends (no funny business by any sane personâs interpretation), then yes, youâre controlling.
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Not At tell him to tell her that he got a new number and give her your phone number 
Nothing happened yetâŚ
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why are you even still with him?
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Iâd be blocking him too 
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Dump his ass. I wouldnât give him the time of day. Know your worth, sis.
I wouldnât even make him block her. Iâd just leave.
Fantasies are fine, but when they arenât within your current relationship they should stay in your head.
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Itâs not controlling, itâs setting boundaries. But he have already ste]Ed over that boundary line and disrespected you guys relationship. Just be done with him, because, itâs either he will still communicate with her behind your back or it will be a different female.
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Fantasy??? Meaning he wants to do her sexuallyâŚ. I would leave blocking her doesnât mean crap
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Hell no, I went through a very similar situation with my EX and believe me it got worse. And let me tell you it drove me crazy.
Nope not controlling at all. They both disrespected you, they crossed a boundary that shouldnât have been crossed. They have no business being friends. He should be ok with that if he wants to be with you. If not then yall need to go your separate ways.
I wouldnât have even stayed with him so if he really wants you Iâd say itâs definitely not unreasonable to expect him to cut off all contact with her.
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If the conversation didnât happen between you two before he started the texting, then it isnât unreasonable to want to try and gain some of that trust back. We are humans, we donât own anyone. He isnât YOURS, he is dating you. You deserve honestly, respect, and open communication, that is it. Nothing more, nothing less. He is not obligated to you in anyway. If you arenât compatible, end it.
Sheâs just saying that to make you feel like youâre wrong and youâre crazy itâs a tactic cheaters use. Youâre not wrong, I wouldâve done more than block her. He cheated point blank period. When itâs sexual not involving you, he cheated. Absolutely not.
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No, you are NOT being controlling. They both disrespected you.
BullâŚhell no! Dump him if he is just a bf. Cheater
Girl. He does not love you. He will not change. It will only get worse. Leave if you want to live a happy life.
No F N way. I would be gone. You have nothing but hurt in your future with him.
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Well if he is sending her sexual stuff Iâm sure itâs more than a best friend I would let him keep texting her a d they could have each other and y just leave
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Uh wtfâŚ
Heâs cheating girl. 
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YOU determine whatâs okay and not okay in YOUR relationship. Not her. 
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I donât think blocking her will fix anythingâŚitâs a bandaid on a much bigger issue. But only you can figure out what you need to do.
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Screw that!! Be done with him!
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Theyâre more than best friends darling. Best friends donât send sexually explicit content to each other nor do they have fantasies of being with each other. They both have no respect for you and are playing you for a fool. Clearly they are still talking cause she knows you had him block her, proof they talk about you behind your back too
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Definitely not unreasonable
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I would let him do what he wants. Because I would have left him. If heâs doing that now, it will only get worse. Leave his ass.
Why would you consider him your boyfriend?
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Call a spade a spade and read about gaslightingâ:thinking:
Wow, kick him to the curb, fast!! 
Red flag and wrong wrong wrong! Leave him now and donât look back.
Youâre not being controlling but it certainly sounds like youâre being oblivious and should most definitely leave asap 
Let her have him. He is not going to change trust me.
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Why would u want to keep him. Him Blocking her is not going to matter . U need to block him and move on
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You shouldnât even want to still be with this guy⌠open your eyes, heâs cheating and you need to GO! đđťââď¸
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Is this a serious post? Like she really has no clue that her BF was banging that other girl? We are doomed as a country if this is our future. Girls who would rather put there self worth at zero than accept the situation and move on?
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They were together before. Just leave him bc heâs always gonna want to keep her around wether you like it or notâŚ
Screw what she says⌠what does HE say? And more importantly what do YOU say? Ole girls just mad cuz sheâs losing her fukc buddy. Be done with him sis. But I will say only you know what you can handle and what youâre gonna take off of him. But Iâd be gone.
If youâre fantasizing about another female or male when you are in a relationship, youâre cheating. If you canât control that then you donât need to be in any relationship.
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I wouldnât have made him block her. I would have kicked him to the curb before he could blinkâ
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- Itâs easy to unblock someone just as easy as they blocked them. 2) just because she is blocked doesnât mean they arenât meeting up. Can you handle this going through your mind constantly??
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Geez. Why do you guys allow yourselves to be a manâs doormat? He cheated on you! Dump the boyfriend instead of trying to control what he does. Have some self respect!
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Nope neither one can respect you then itâs time to say bub bye to both of them
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Youâre being naive by staying with a man who was not only unfaithful (even if not to the point of physical) but is also unrepentant AND calling you controlling to boot. Let him have her and find someone who gives a damn about you
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And you think him blocking her is going to stop them from talking lmao theyâre gonna find ways to talk when they want to
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Blocking wonât work Kick him to the curve they probably messing around behind Your back 
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Thin you know the answer⌠go with your gut feels no one elses ⌠he will get a buzz out of it more you keep on at him⌠I wont be having him have his cake and eat it sod that. Your worth moreâŚ
Your man shouldnât even be speaking sexual to anyone but you. He will do it with someone else. Youâre not controlling you are having boundaries and personally Iâm with a lot of these people who say to leave him. But thatâs up to you.
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Not the guy for you. You deserve BETTER Donât beg for what should be yours
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Just leave fuck both of them do better tell them kids your ass and have fun 
Ummm. Wouldnât even go through the effort of having him block her. He knows whatâs right or wrong. Move on. Especially if he canât see why you would have an issue with it.
Why is he playing fantasy with his so-called bf??? RUN ! This is a big RED FLAG how would he feel if it was you doing it?
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No I donât think you are. But now that you know 
i think you need to choose you first 
You need to block him and let her have him.
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Let them have each other. Clearly they donât respect you or your relationship. Tough to hear, whatâs more tough is putting up with it and regretting it later. Do you sis.
Oh eww 
Just walk away. You donât need a garbage boyf like that in your life. Let them have their fantasy so they can ruin their so called âfriendshipâ on their own, lol.
itâs about respect!! My best friend is a male and my fiance has no issues with us spending time together we go on trips, he comes to kids bdays⌠like heâs a big part of our life. Why bc he respects my relationship. I respect my relationship. No issue have or ever will occur. Not only would he not send me sexual stuff I would stop him if he did or vice versa. Boundaries were broken!
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Thats bullish nothing uhappen
Girl youâre accepting him back so might as well keep letting him do whatever he wants since your still staying anyway. Thereâs plenty of ppl who are okay with having open relationships.
To me thatâs cheating
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Just tell him heâs welcome to go live his fantasy and to get the hell out!
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BLOCK!!! If heâs willing to work on your relationship and be faithful, she cannot be around anymore. That is definitely cheating in my eyes and if they both talked sexual then they definitely want to do more. The fact he started or replied means he has no respect for you or your relationship. The fact she knew he was in a relationship and still replied or started it means she doesnât respect you or your relationship either and is a snake. My boyfriend blocked every female he has talked to or been with when we got together out of respect for me. Either he does better or you leave, no questions after that
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If you want to stay with somebody whoâs cheating more power to you.
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Iâm thinking that would be a reason to leave his ass. He may not have physically cheated on you but he still cheated by sending sexual texts to her. Not only that but if they have been friends before you came along he wonât stop being friends with her. Or whatever it is they are doing cause there is more going on then what heâs saying.
Respect. He doesnât, so walk awayâŚ
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NopeâŚget out of this relationship
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No. And he cheated so you should leave
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Ummm texting his bf sexual stuff ya thatâs not his bf she us someone he wants to sleep with or has slept with I would get out fast
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I would of left thatâs cheating and he will and is still doing it with others
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Leave him! What a loser. Fantasies are things you love and desire. He obviously desires his side chick.
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Leave him, that boy clearly is interested in someone else. You donât need that waste of time of the trash in your life girl everyone deserves to be happy
You better block him! He crossed a line and itâll only continue.
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If youâre forcing an adult to do something, you have missed the point. Canât he just unblock her when he is away from you? Start a new account or contact her a different way? You already know your answer.
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Not controlling at all. Itâs called boundaries. Even if not physically he emotionally cheated. Those are lines that should never be crossed. I cannot believe itâs just a âfantasyâ. Something is up. Be happy he is a boyfriend and not husband. Iâd walk.
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Not controlling, but he wonât stop messaging her lol. End your relationship
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That is not a boyfriend! That is an asshole with benefits! Run sister!!