She is no longer a “child”. Yes, she would be using you. Send her a card and skip the gift.
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Don’t do it. She is 13 and is old enough to understand. You cannot buy love.
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She sounds like she’s taking advantage of you. 13 year olds are slick, whether still a child or not.
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Does. not deserve a present, she is using you.
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At the end of the day shes still a child and doesn’t fully understand her feelings for how actions can be hurtful yes she understands to an extent but not how we as adults would. I say take her to lunch or something and have a good talk and see what’s up.
My son is 13 and doesn’t have a grasp of what is “expensive” yet. I would be honest and tell her it’s expensive and you can’t afford it, it’s an important lesson kids need to learn. I tell him I’m happy to buy him things but they need to be reasonable and give him a price range. This is the age they are learning all these concepts so I think it’s important to give guidance regardless of the rest of the situation. It’s what a mom would do.
Why is she or her dad, asking you for this expensive gift, sounds like something my stepsons would of pulled, you are not a cash machine, if she doesn’t acknowledge you, only when its convenient, maybe the feelings mutual, tough love . . . . .
Buy her a gift you can afford… I’m sure you still love her even tho she doesn’t visit with you… Maybe try take her out for a treat without her siblings and have a chat. She’s had a break up too 
sometimes the kids suffer mor ed because they don’t openly give the broken relationship
Gifts are gave out of love. If you don’t love her don’t even worry about her at Christmas. If your heart is two sizes too big, get her a gift. Something affordable, but personally I wouldn’t break the bank on this woman.
Just because a kid asks for a certain present doesn’t mean you have to buy it. You have your own kid to buy presents for. Buy her something small if you want to but you are not obligated to buy her anything
No, no, no! If you want to still give her a gift give something that you can afford and would have given anyway.
Don’t buy a gift. Offer an event that includes you like spa day or dinner.
Refuse! U cant afford it so it ends there, but, also, u cant use people like that!
Nope!! She shouldn’t get anything from you. You are trying to give her what she NEEDS and she won’t see it. Give respect, Get respect. Girl needs to learn her lesson. Stay strong mama! 
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I would feel hurt and USED. Send her a gift card to her favorite store. BE STRONG!!
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Be strong tell her how you feel
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A card would be nice. She is old enough to manipulate she is old enough to get the message.
Don’t buy that child a gift like that, what she is doing is horrible.
Do not buy her anything she is using you.
No she is being a13 yr. old I would give her a small delicut necklace, one you pick out.
I would sit her down and tell her just that…
Say no…she is just using you…
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Do not buy the gift!!!
Yep exactly what April Santos said.
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Hell no don’t get her that. It frustrates the crap out of me when kids just see Christmas as a day you get presents for no reason.
Robert Renn read this
tell her fuck right off 
13 shes not a child theres no way in hell she deserves that I’d tell her straight up u expect me to buy u this but u refuse to come an visit … go shovel driveways and by the damn gift yourself 13 years old she knows better…
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