QUESTION:
"Got into a huge fight with my fiancé last night because he invited his sister/husband to stay with us for the weekend in a couple of weeks.
I’m still deathly afraid of COVID and haven’t had anyone stay in the house since March or really even visit other than a quick necessary drop-by. Not even my mother has stayed with us.
Am I being paranoid here or is anyone else back to usual and having a get-together at home? We’re in Texas if that helps."
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TOP ANSWERS (AS SELECTED BY MODERATOR):
“No you are not. You are only advocating for your health and no one should put you down do that. A home is your safe place where you shouldn’t have to worry about the outside world. I am doing the same thing!”
“I’m in Texas as well and have people over. You have to get on with life and stop living in fear. You can take precautions like masks and having people sanitize their hands, but you can pick up the virus simply by going to the store, going to get gas, etc…”
“I don’t think you’re paranoid at all. Part of the reason we’re not past all this crap yet is that people refuse to do what is needed to decrease positivity rates. I’d be comfortable hanging out with them outside, with masks, but not in my house. Only members of my household are allowed in my house. Do not allow yourself to be made to feel guilty for following your instincts and doing the right thing.”
“I didn’t see my mom since march as well. Bc of covid. She died unexpectedly in July. Worst mistake of my life. As long as you take precautions, I would say let them visit. Have hand sanitizer out. Check their Temps if you have to. Whatever makes you feel more comfortable. But don’t shut your loved ones out.”
“My little family is not going around anyone. I hadn’t seen my mom and brother in five months and the live fifteen minutes away. I only started seeing my mom and brother last month again. It’s so hard. Why do they need to actually stay with you? Maybe offer to pay for their hotel, if possible? He shouldn’t have made that decision without running it by you. Covid-19 numbers seem to be going up again, so I see your concern.”
“OMG, no girl, you are DEFINITELY NOT PARANOID. America is in the grip of a pandemic that is getting worse. Put ya foot down and just say “No Way”. Not until this thing is under control.”
“I haven’t had any visitors, visited anyone’s house, and no one has met my baby. Personally, I think he should have spoken with you before inviting guests over during a pandemic. You’re not being paranoid, you’re being safe.”
“I live in Texas, and there’s no way I would feel comfortable. It’s easy for other people to tell you to live your life. Yes, it’s his house too, but if he’s the one bringing potential harm then he’s the one that doesn’t get to do it. Just because we’re so far into the pandemic doesn’t mean it’s over or less of a threat. We’re building up to another peak! Just because others are ready to move on or turn a blind eye to getting sick doesn’t mean you should feel any obligation to move on with them. Yes, risk factor assessment is a great tool, but with this still being a novel virus that we’re seeing affect people of all ages and health levels, the risk will never be worth it to me. My two kids and I stay home all the time. My husband goes to work with a full respirator and comes home. We get groceries delivered. We’re doing everything we can to absolutely minimize exposure and risk, and we will continue until the is a reasonable solution. I had my second child in May, and he has only met grandparents because they quarantined for two weeks before he was born.”
“You do what’s best for you. If you don’t feel comfortable then don’t do it. We haven’t let anyone in our house.”
“Everyone has their own comfort level! Personally, we are not letting Covid rule our lives. We’ve traveled and stayed with friends, and we have friends and family over. We’re in CA where out Gov likes to shut everything down…so connecting with friends and family is crucial to our mental health! Do what makes you and your family feel comfortable!”
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my kids have been back in school for 4 weeks and have had 3 positive cases at their school. They are in 1st and Kindergarten. Their school has been very upfront and I have had both of them tested when they had runny noses due to allergies. I think it is your personal belief and opinion on everything rn 
My 60 year old mom had it and same for her. Do you and your family have underlying health issues? Co-morbities? If not, It’s not scary. Turn off the news. 98.9% recover perfectly fine. People the age of 75+ recover at 94%.
I had it at 6 months pregnant and baby and I are both fine. I also have underlying health issues. Our daughter goes everywhere we do and my husband works in a restaurant. On the other hand your significant other should not be inviting anyone EVER without talking to you first. That’s just mutual respect!