First off. Don’t beat her up or accuse her right off the bat. If somthing does happen then your husband will be to blame and you should deal with him as you see fit. Yall entered a union together and if he breaks that thats on him. Best advise i can give would be to keep an eye out. Dont act on it unless you have hard evidence. And best of luck. Relationships can be hard. My heart is with you❤
I’d sit down with ur man and talk to him about it. I’d talk to her as well. Call them out on it. More than likely those looks really are happening. Be careful how u complain about ur spouse to her too. Some take those complaints as a way to have a reason to move in on ur man. Js, hope it works out
Go with your gut feeling it will never lie to you. If you feel this way and it’s probably true. Ask her straight up and if you don’t see her anymore then there is your answer
Never trust your freind around your husband or boyfriend. Because things happen at a convenient moment. Not all friends is the same so observed …
If you are catching them in “locked lingering looks,” that proves there is definitely an attraction between the two of them. Now comes a legitimate question, and that’s do you truly trust your husband to not have an affair 100%? If he chooses to have an affair with her, since I am assuming that you don’t live far apart, and on base, he is going to do it whether you keep her close to keep an eye on her, or cut her loose, where he can go to her house without you there to keep an eye on them, to keep any thing from happening. Do you get what I’m saying? You are justified in your suspecians, just keep them where you can keep an eye on them, and NEVER leave them alone together.
I think you should have a conversation with your husband and your friend separately and talk about what you are feeling. Personally, I have a female friend staying with me to help with cleaning and taking care of the kids. My husband and I just celebrated our 10 year anniversary. We had a rough start to our relationship, but by discussing our feelings, we’ve become much stronger. If you don’t feel you can talk to your spouse or friend about these feelings, I’d question whether they were true friends or not. Best of luck to you. I hope that you are just lucky to have found a good friend and everything works out.
Just ask your husband if he thinks maybe she has the hots for him? And if she makes you/your husband uncomfortable, let her know, don’t walk around it. Some ppl are just natural flirts.
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Will you update us on what you find out. I had this same feeling and busted my ex and my sister who had a 3 year relationship while i was pregnant with both of his kids.
As a women always go with your intuition. My grandmother always said don’t trust any women around your husband especially living in your home. It’s a bit harsh but I believe men are wired differently to not pick up on a women’s intention and may just take it as “friendly” behavior. Us women know how we calculate everything we do so you have no idea the newcomer’s wrap sheet. I’m a military wife and I have seen the most vile behavior from civilian and military personnel in relationships. Not everyone is your friend babe.
Yikes. Your women’s intuition, your “gut feeling” if you will, is usually what I go with. What I do is casual conversation…yeah if any B EVER even tried some SH— with my hubby I would whoop her first then wake her up and do it again”. Say with the craziest insane look in your eye 
. I’ve never had problems. 
I used to be best friends with my best friends guy. We were like brother and sister. It was never an issue and never anything inappropriate
The fact you are even questioning that is a red flag go with your instincts they will never lie… good luck
All I have to say is tread lightly…my friend did the same to me…ouch what a sight that was…
They usually say where there is smoke there is fire. Follow your gut, it’s usually right
If your gut is telling you that she wants him, believe me, she wants him. Same happened here. After my hubby finally heard her say that she actually wanted him, he cut of all contact immediately. Shes trying to show him that shes a much better housewife than you.
All I have to say it trust you gut instinct. Its usually right.
Go with the gut feeling that is your antenna it’s a warning cut her off real slow
Distance yourself from her. The staring at each other is a red flag
It sounds to me like u have a good friend. Shes there for u. U trust ur husband so that should be enough. Sometimes when people have depression, there are more things that come with it. You could be delusional, maybe just cuz they made eye contact u may think in ur head it was too long but really wasnt, u may have some insecurities going on. It happens. I suggest u talk to ur therapist about it first before u break up a good friendship. Then u will really be more depressed than what u are. U should also talk to with your husband
maybe talk to your husband about it. if he is trustworthy then he should be supportive and maybe ask him what he thinks.
Personally I would take a step back and realize, your husband likes the same things you do. So it would make sence he likes this woman you made such a connection with
Even the devil dressed like an angel at times go with their instincts sister
If its true love between you and hubby then you should never have to worry!!
Gut feeling “intuition” is right… I don’t trust men in the military…all the ones I’ve met and seen cheat
So I have a story that could maybe help you see things another way.
So long story short my husband and I were in our first year together and we were already having our first baby (I know we moved fast) I had just moved to Texas and was having trouble finding employment. We were getting close to our due date and there were a lot of things we still needed for the baby. So I posted to my social media. A girl I had never met before responded to a post and said she could help. She goes on to tell me that she knew my husband as they were “military acquaintances” she said they were just “friends.” Well my naive gullible a$$ totally believed her and I thought “what an amazing friend I have! So generous and thoughtful of her to go out of her way…” or so I thought…
A short time later I was going through my husband’s emails and I had found an email from this “acquaintance” just some questionable pictures so I got my courage up and I asked my husband who this woman really was to him. Turned out she was a not so long ago one night stand from before he met me…well this turned me off immediately I was offended and hurt. Yes this is partly my husband’s fault for not telling me the truth (he had a long explanation that I won’t get into details about why he didn’t tell me and yes we have had to work out a lot of issues due to this yes it was hurtful and no I wasn’t OK for a long time)
Anyway I played along with this gal for some time I didn’t even mention to her what I knew and she would mention things like “I have known him since you were probably in high school” and “I know a lot about him and all the people I told him not to date” she really tried to make it seem like they just had a super close relationship. My husband claims that she didn’t know sh*t about him.
So one day out of the blue I hit her with the ole “how do you really know my husband?” Her whole demeanor changed in a second. I said “have you ever slept with him?” She said she didn’t need to discuss that with me and that I should ask him and that maybe this relationship is making me feel uncomfortable…
To me if she was a “true friend” she would have been able to tell me the truth herself she then contacted my husband’s sisters and told them how pitiful I was and how she had to buy my baby clothes
I have since realized that it was all a ploy to make herself look good in front of my husband and keep a open line of communication with him she was solely trying to get his attention I have since not ever trusted other women for the life of me…
Put a stop to having her around! In my younger days - the girls wanted married men - she damn near got mine except he found another or another hussy found him!
If she’s military to. Yeah cut her off. Regardless because they’re probably “messing around”
Honestly I would just say something to both of them separately.
If you have a gut feeling, there’s usually a reason why.
Make sure you have a separate checking/savings account. You cannot control others but you can control yourself.
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Just because she might want him, does that mean she gets to have him?? If you trust him, then trust that he’ll come to you if she ever tries anything. Or don’t this happened to me and it turned out I was right about my best friend of almost a decade and my ex sleeping together… sometimes even when I was just in another room for a few minutes. People can be awful but they can also pleasantly surprise you.
Listen to your gut. Separate yourself from her a little and see what happens.
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Thats why you never bring another woman in your home…unless you like that kinda thing!
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Talk to your husband and see if he’s felt anything weird and go from there.
Set her ass up and see for yourself!!! lmao, just kidding, I’m trying not to be toxic these days lol. Namaste 
Trust your gut instincts its never wrong!!
yall are silly if shes your friend like you say sit her down and talk to her about it , yall need to learn communication , cuz thats what friends do they communicate
Best thing to do is communicate with your husband.
Believe me… TRUST THAT GUT INSTINCT!!!
Talk to your husband about your feelings of insecurity in your marriage. I bet it will go well. Communication is key.
Snip snip always trust your feelings
I am n the same position as u… My friend admitted to me she is sleeping with a aqu
Have a talk with her and your husband, separately
Anyone that isn’t a blessing to your peace has to GO.
The devil comes disguised as a blessing
Cut her off
Your gut isn’t wrong 
Trust that gut feeling. It’s hardly ever wrong.
Trust your instincts unless you want to share
You are NOT paranoid. Listen to you gut. Error on the side of safty and protect your family.
If it feels weird you bet it is. Trust your gut.
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We have gut instincts. Don’t ignore them
Yep…she’d be DONE. I’m already paranoid when I see a girl looking at my hubs 
like don’t mess with me I’m crazy!
Talk to her! You can tell by her response. Or talk to your husband…
Thank God for intuition! Trust it.
trust u gut feeling always in learned the hard way twice that’s how it starts
Always listen to your intuition.
Just dont leave them alone together lol
idk if my friend were checking out my hub i’d understand he is handsome 
Trust your intuition. Listen to your gut.
Never discredit your gut instinct!
This is a hard one. Also we don’t have a lot of info.
- she sounds like a good friend.
- could there be attraction but neither of them would act on it?
- gut instincts are never wrong
- has husband ever done anything to make you not trust him?
- if this situation makes you so uncomfortable that you can’t be at peace with her around I guess that would help make the decision to keep her as a close friend or not.
She may need to become a friend you grab coffee alone with once in awhile and nothing more.
Call them out in the moment. Trust your instinct .
Is she worth your peace of mind?
This legit just happened to my friend. Her soon to be ex is in the military and their friend was a really good friend to her. Would take turns watching one anothers kids, coffee dates, play dates, etc and when he got back from leave he told her he wanted a divorce… She later finds out that her “friend” and husband were seeing each other. I would be livid. Just be careful. Nip it before it gets out of hand.
It’s not a feeling babe it’s your GUT
I was married 16 years-to a now veteran of the Navy. If you feel this woman has a crush on your husband-trust your gut, she probably does! I was like you, we made friends, we were younger with little boys, we were super friendly but that’s our nature-innocent. We had a couple women who would linger when I would walk away and my husband would tell me oh such and such was asking me what time you went to bed or she was waiting for you to put the boys down…like many women over a 10 year period. Most of them military wives with husbands deployed-or sadly with their husbands there! I was lucky to have my husband tell me when he felt uncomfortable so I could ask them kindly to kick rocks. It’s a thing. Women lust over married men.
I’m ex-military… And from MY perspective. Your gut is right. I know not all military people are the same… But when I was in - the amount of disloyalty and cheating I saw was beyond disgusting. I had such an image that soldiers were more disciplined and respectful. They are not. 90% of them are the same. There’s that very small 10% who are part of a good bunch. People were getting married just because it doubled their paychecks.
Cut her off slowly, so it seems natural. And maybe talk to your husband… I’d say go through his phone but you may not like the outcome and I’m sure someone will say “don’t invade his privacy.” But that’s one thing that goes out the window when you get married. He shouldn’t have anything to hide.
Best of luck.
Honestly, I’d talk to my man privately about it and see his reactions and then I’d wait and see if it happened again after we have talked. And then the very next moment I saw it, I’d call it out in front of both of them. “Why are yall staring at each other with those fuck me eyes” and see how they both react. 
and then if I see that shit again the bitch is gone and if he wants to act crazy about it, like her 6 month friendship is more important than our marriage, then he can go along with her because obviously if she’s that important, somethings going on that I dont know about but had a feeling about. And I’m not gonna sit there in that situation.
Trust your gut. Speak to your man. Watch his reaction and if he reassures you that nothings happening, or he didnt notice, trust him. And then if you see it again, put them on blast and watch both of their reactions.
Actions, reactions, and body language speak louder than words. Good luck girl! 
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Your gut doesnt lie.
It ain’t nothing to cut that bih off!
You’re not paranoid…trust your instinct.
Get rid of her and maybe him also!!
I don’t trust military guys.
Install a spy camera.
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Uhh yeahhh . Just cut her off . Don’t tell her anything because the last thing you need is for her to say you’re jealous of her . That’s why you shouldn’t let ppl you barely know get so close to you and your family . If anything, you guys want to hang out with each others kids go to the park . No more getting together at your house . Don’t bring your man along either if you guys keep hanging out . And also learn from this don’t bring ppl to your house you barely know or to help you clean because they will thro that in your face. That your jealous and dirty
Fuck a snake, and if you love him and you trying to keep a husband DROP HER ASS! Ain’t no one making me feel insecure no matter how much they help. That’s the weak spot talking to make her way in. DROP 
A HO!
I would recommend talking to her about it. If I was your friend, I would whole heartedly want to know that I was a participant in making you feel that way and would definitely do what I could to ease those anxieties, validate your feelings and support you while we worked through it. I know if I was willing to come clean with you or watch your children I’d be more than happy to listen to feedback on how we can improve our friendship. Of course, if that doesn’t appeal to you, that’s okay too! Trust your gut mama.
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I’d also be talking to your husband, not just the woman. If he is staring at her just as long, that is a red flag right there. Good luck.
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Cut her off trust me your gut never lies sometimes people aren’t happy until they get what u have in this case it’s your husband
Most military men are horny dogs. They like the attention of other women and are always looking for female friends. Always willing to help when other womens husbands are away. If you catch my drift.
My best friend since I was 5 and my only and first boyfriend of 9 years got along just like that. J never thought anything of it. Came home one day from work earlier than I said. Who was in my bed with him but mh bff… allt of friends are only there for yoh for selfish reasons. Trust your gut
A woman’s intuition is a strong feeling we own. Dont doubt your views and gut feeling
Watch a little longer and make a decision. Good luck. Worst feeling ever.
My friend was doing flirty things and ended up taking my husband away
I think if u trust your husband then your fine because if she tries anything then I’m sure your husband will either tell u and if they do stuff together that they shouldn’t then we’ll ur better off alone and getting rid of them both 
Advice from the a old cuban mom: don’t bring your girlfriends home where you and your husband lay … it made more sense when I got older
Oh hell no…Trust your gut…call out the staring in the moment. You can boot her out of your life , but the introduction has already happened , so if its gonna go down , its gonna go down.
I would bring your concern to him, because at face value, you cant trust him after catching that going on more then once.
If you’ve caught them staring, and Im sorry to say this, but odds are something has already been said to one another or something has already happened and that’s why they’re looking at each other.
Trust no one, especially another female, and especially one you just met.
Don’t waste your time and life on it. Get to the bottom and get out.
I stopped reading after the first sentence. If you’re paranoid you have a good enough reason to cut a bitch off 
Cheaters .com. Find out one way or another. Suspicion is a pot of boiling water and until you know the truth you will follow that tunnel down the drain. Don’t breed the content find out for sure. Then move on
Women have 6 senses you better use them. You seen what Horcha did
Always trust your gut. Don’t leave them alone.
Ulterior motive springs to mind ,
Go with your gut. Cut her off.
Poly is always an option
Hes military she has a vagina…done. They are probably fuckin already
Listen to your instincts
Listen to your gut feeling. It’s always right!
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trust your gut it isn’t wrong
Ask her and ask him…
Trust your gut. Bye bye.
Trust your gut feeling
Keep some disstannccee….then snip snip if you have to 
. Trust your intuition
Nah I’m a HUGE believer you my friend not my mans. I’ve had MANY friends disrespect me in the past so my guard will always be up. I’m far from insecure, but I’m huge on respect. I hang out girls on my time now. I’ve had the craziest most hurtful things happen so once again she’s YOUR friend not his and many have their preferences in marriages and allow a lot but everyone has their boundaries and I lay mines out to be respected then again i no longer have my tribe due to disrespect so always go with your gut feeling.! Intuition we have it for a reason, cut that bitch off and I’d be damn to ever trust someone knowing 6 months idc how sweet you been that’s how my ex girl was and she had the nerve to ask me was my husband dick big LIKE WTF YOU ASKING ABOUT MINES FOR ? Still can’t believe it till this day imagine how long she was thinking this in the 3 yrs of friendship makes me sick it’s disgusting out here stay safe momma