Nah, I’d cut her off…listen to your instincts girl…but I’d also let my husband know why I feel the need to and see how he reacts…as a military wife I’ve learned that a lot of military wives are sneaky ass hoes…lol…unfortunately, it’s just facts…I trust my husband but I also refuse to let nonsense like that in my home…
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Girls instincts are always Right.
When u feel uncomfortable with another girl hanging around or being with u and ur husband then dont let your sitwasion or relationship ruined by another girl.
Gut feeling never wrong! Put some cameras in the house and invite her over when you are out and hubby home… get home after she is there and watch the cameras after and see if there was anything going on w them two! Gut feeling never wrong
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Dont bring her over anymore. I would not allow someone to waltz in my home & take my man lol
Most wives can tell when their husband is lying… I would have a conversation with him, cut ties with her…
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Better knock them both out just in case…
Trust your gut if the signs are there and your gut feeling isnt ending you’re not being paranoid
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I think considering the 40 jodys you’ve been with well he’s deployed you should overlook his exchanged glances lol
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A woman’s intuition is always right
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Phase that btch out now. Don’t act like you don’t know when clearly do
Those that hurt u let’s have some coffee u know talk about morals n shit
They fucking for sure
Trust your gut girl she needs to go
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Keep her away she wants your life
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Trust your gut girl.
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Follow your gut feeling
ALWAYS trust your gut.
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Follow your gut girl. Never steered me wrong!
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Trust. Your. Instinct.
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Poly is an option. She sounds like a great person to be apart of yalls family.
One, I would always say, always always always go with your gut feeling. … like, always. A woman’s intuition is a gift from god to let you know when your being a naïeve bitch lol … no, but seriously, it really is.
But also, I would be an adult and openly have the conversation with both of them at the same time, and let them know what’s bothering you.
Make them squirm for a few, watch the reactions and watch the body language. That will give you a gauge on what’s actually going down.
But again
Trust your gut !
Girl,
Seriously.
What is your gut telling you?
With that asked, stop all gatherings unless it’s the 4 of you…
If you’re sensing “something”, it’s coming in a whisper before the scream.
Most wives can tell when their husband is lying… I would have a conversation with him, cut ties with her…
Trust your gut 100%. And I’d tell your husband your worries. See what he has to say. If you don’t want to end your friendship just hang with her when your husbands not around.
Please trust your gut. Things are not always as good as they seem . Unfortunately:( that’s all I can personally say. Stay away from her .
Maybe you should try to tell him. You are feeling vulnerable and scared of the flirty sort of behavior. My first husband wound up turned out him and my friend were doing it behind my back, nothing tears your heart our harder.
Please PROTECT your hubby, tell him you feel she’s a snake, there’s plenty of them…
Google : UCMJ ARTICLE 134.
Yes trust your gut for sure! Mine had a friend that he’s had for years, before we even knew each other existed. She’s married to but she legit would always hang on him and want pictures and I finally told him how uncomfortable it made me. He ended up confiding that it made him feel super awkward too and that he didn’t like it. Needless to say she’s no longer in his life! Speak up girl, you got this!
I’m so sorry!!! Cheaters are !!! But imo, you asked this question to outsiders, in hopes that anonymous posters replies would back up your heart. Because, your mind and gut both already know…
If jealousy isn’t something you deal with regularly for seemingly no reason— you need to trust your gut. You know yourself and your family better than any of us, of course. So you already know if you’re being paranoid or not. You just need to trust what your heart is telling you, whatever that is.
Trust your gut!!! I think our intuition is usually pretty accurate.
Trust your instincts, you feel uneasy for a reason.
Honestly, it could be completely innocent but if you have a feeling, its probably right in a way. Even if they aren’t messing around, maybe they get along with him really well, and are just friends. But I had a “bestfriend” and she would always snapchat my husband and i tried to give them the benefit of the doubt but they were not being innocent. And it sucked bad. So, if you really feel like it’s something that needs to be addressed, I would address it. Don’t worry about the consequences. Just tell her that you just have this uneasy feeling and you needed to get it out.
Your gut is never wrong
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Never bring another women to be comfortable into your home. Go with your gut! 
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Listen to your gut. Remember an affair starts with talking…
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Trust your gut that’s all I can say. Set boundaries and never let anybody too close. Same thing happened to me after 14 years of marriage and two kids. He is with her now and we are going through a divorce.
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A bitch that does the most DOES the most honey! Justin Timberlake her ass BYE BYE BYE 
Put cameras in the house and record from your phone! If they try to deny they act like that… SHOW THEM! You may even catch them in more then you will know for sure! My Ex-Husband was having an affair with my brother wife while we were still married. He moved in with her before we even got divorced!
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Sometimes your body responds to energy your mind and your heart don’t want to comprehend, listen to that feeling! That’s your intuition. 
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Trust your inner feelings.
Set up a hidden nanny cam leave the room or got to bed and watch and see what happens
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Idk I’m a jealous person when it comes to my husband lol so I can’t give u great advice 
as soon as I would see the eye contact I’d be like hell naw lmao. And depends on the kind of “staring” like wtf
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You better create some distance before she becomes a blessing to your huzzband under them sheets bu…sometimes bonds develop unwillingly and then theres a force for them to act out because inevitable…never have too close if friendship like that
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If they are doing something that upsets you and worries you then you have your answer right there. Vibes don’t lie, but cheaters do.
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Trust your first instinct
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Her niceness doesn’t prevent her to hook up with your husband!
As a married woman I always try to keep respectful relationships to other people’s husband, Not getting into the deep conversations or try to discover
Out common interests, it’s just a common sense, you don’t
Became friend to your friend’s spouses, keep it simple with them!
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Tell your husband your concerns. If he’s supportive and wants to reassure you he’s faithful then he’s probably telling the truth. If he reacts defensively or tries to gaslight you and makes you feel bad for thinking he’s unfaithful then he’s emotionally abusive and probably unfaithful. I would confront this sooner than later. For your benefit. I know it’ll be hard to face but you’re well being and future are worth it in the end
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Sounds like you’re very insecure, if neither of them have done anything to make you think this. It sounds like it’s something in you. People can look at eachother, and even have good chemistry without wanting to get into bed together. You need to find out why YOU don’t trust them
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Same exact thing happened to me. She was so cool, generous helpful, loved my kids and called me her sister but I couldn’t shake that feeling. I talked to my husband and learned he thought she was cool but thought she would overstep his boundaries sometimes. Eventually we found out she was a compulsive liar that’ll sleep with anything. So I “broke it off” with her after she pulled some sketchy shit with my sister and the relief I felt, was amazing. Even though I trust my husband it was relieving to not be paranoid about her
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Anybody except family can never b trusted!..sorry but for the sake of some help u gonna burn your hands!
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Or they could be just simply friends
Follow your gut!!!
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Trust yr gut feeling and never ever let a 3rd party come close to your marriage. Just because she helps/is nice doesn’t prevent her from not doing or having any feelings for him. Stop it when it’s early before its too late.
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Talk to your husband about how this is making you feel. Trust your gut gurl…its a second brain
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Trust your instincts
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Trust your gut!!! I don’t care how nice she is… listen to that little thing that’s telling u something… I wish I would of… maybe my husband and MY Best Friend wouldn’t have been caught in the shower together “while I was at work”
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Your instinct is right. Pull her to the side, tell her don’t come back. Then watch for the disappearing game. It may be to late.
Ditch the friend! You don’t need a friend that’s that close to your husband you only need family
Go with your gut, every single time.
Trust your gut, always! Your girlfriends should never try so hard to be friends with your husband. Yes it’s great they get along but there is a fine line that should never be crossed.
Trust your gut and tell her like it is!!!
I had this happen, thought she was my friend always came over n then I found them texting and my EX husband asking for boob pic’s and he even went as far as putting her number under a different name
Trust your gut always I did and it was true
Yes to the last question you asked. Simple as that.
She sounds like a great friend. I’d look deep into my self and see where these insecurities come from. Sounds like a form of jealousy you have. I’d talk to her. You said you have depression so being insecure in your relationships is normal with depression. I’d also talk to him. I feel as if youre struggling with something within yourself and projecting staring at each other isn’t anything big. I’d talk to her if she’s your friend she will ease your mind and I’d talk to him. Sounds like you need some sort of reassurance.
Trust your damn gut and get that girl out your husband face. Your husband may know that your friend has a thing for him but isn’t willing to speak up because he doesn’t want to ruin the friendship.
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Always trust your gut
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Trust your gut and set boundaries with both your friend and your husband. I would definitely talk to your husband first and set boundaries there and then plan on hanging out with the friend separate from your husband. Boundaries are so important in this situation. No, you are not paranoid. I would not cut off the friendship but I would definitely be cautious and watch.
I will never ignore my intuition again. Don’t doubt your gut! If you really don’t want to lose her, talk to your husband and ask if he’s gotten any vibes from her about it and go from there
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Trust your gut. If you feel something isn’t right, it’s for a reason! Is she coming around more often when he’s at home?? The staring thing doesn’t sit right w/ me… I would also have a conversation w/ your hubby! Best of luck mama! 
She sounds a little too* helpful and available. I wouldn’t let another woman come in and clean my house or have access to my private family life like that. It sounds like she’s trying to impress someone. Never ignore your intuition. If I were you I would put up boundaries with her and see what happens. Don’t invite her over for a while, make sure she and your husband are never around each other and watch how they both react. Is he asking about her, has he noticed that she hasn’t been around? Is she pushing to come over and help* ? That should tell you everything you need to know.
Trust your intuition. It’s at least worth bringing up the convo with your SO. Maybe he’s been already feeling it too but guys don’t say it as fast when a girl is hitting on them… he could be scared to say anything. Just have a convo. You’ll feel better.
I never invited female friends to hang out at my house when I was married. I learned a long time ago that you never give place to the devil. What starts out as comfortable can change in an instant. Don’t tempt fate. Maybe that’s just me but I stick to it.
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Where is your communication woman, talk dont accuse your husband, let him know this bothers you, see if things change, no one can read your mind, see if he pays more physical attention to you in front of her, a hug, touches and affection can show her how he feels about you and help you deal with this insecurity! If nothing changes and it continues then you have to deal with it straight on!
In situations like this, she ain’t the issue. If you trust your husband and truly believe that the foundation of your marriage is stable , then you honestly shouldn’t have anything to worry about. If either of them are being disrespectful to your marriage, then maybe you need to drop your friend and have a discussion with your husband. Trying to focus your attention on her alone wont do you any good if your husband is “entertaining” the attention. Have a chat with him and see where how he is interpreting the situation. It could be just that they click on a platonic level that may appear threatening to you. She sounds like a great friend…but hey, if deep down you feel that something is a miss, than maybe you should really consider having this conversation with your husband. We as women always know when something just isn’t right. Best of luck with your situation. Blessings.
If it were me, I would ask my husband “Is it just me or does she stare at you a lot?” Cause we’re comfortable having those conversations and most of the time he’ll be like “yeah I noticed too” and agree that whatever the situation was was weird.
I would treat her as the friend she is being to you until she gives you a reason not to… Real friends are few and far between, and sounds like she’s a good one. Your husband owes you loyalty, and until he does something to break your trust, you should believe in him and your marriage. With depression comes insecurities, and that’s all it could be. Try talking to both of them about it… A real friend will help put them feelings to rest, and your husband should go out of his way to do the same… But, Unless there is more to the story, it just sounds like that’s what you’re experiencing. Hopefully, that’s what it is, and it can be put to rest easily w a simple conversation
I’m sorry to break it to you but that woman is secretly fantasizing getting herself off every night to your husband. If they haven’t already. Cut her off like a diabetic toe. Cut anything off that threatens your marriage or how do you feeling some type of way
I would go to my husband and let him know my concerns and or even my thoughts, he is your other half and you trust him. You don’t feel a certain way for no reason, and plus you shouldn’t in your own house. So if she does try it he will tell you.
Set up times to hang out when the husband’s not around if she’s just as willing as when he is around. You may just be looking into things to hard. They very well may have an attraction to each other, but if you trust him then trust him. There’s nothing wrong work an attraction as long as no one acts on it. And he may truly like her bc of how good of a friend she is to you. But either way do what makes you feel comfortable, just know cutting off relationships bc of jealousy sounds very toxic situation to stay in.
And yeah…someone I know had her husband of 10 years leave her for her best friend! Came home and he had left a note saying they were in love and he was moving in with her! My sister and him got divorced and he married her best friend…still married to her now! The shit happens. Never open your home to it!
Trust your gut. I had same issue and now they are engaged… It has completely destroyed my faith in most girls. I always have that in back of my mind even though I have moved on I still worry about other girls and my man. Good luck
When in doubt, kick her out. I would slowly start to distance myself from her. Trust your gut, especially if you still move a lot. If she questions just tell her you don’t want to get too close because you will be moving again. Then just say “I hope you understand”
Yes I can see how this could become a sticky situation and nothings more important than your family I’d drop her like a hat girl… nobody makes googly eyes at my hubby but me!!!
Where there’s smoke there’s fire! They call it women’s intuition. Trust your gut. Just start being “unavailable” to hang out whenever your husband is around. My elders always taught us to never trust any woman around our men. If she is causing you to doubt her loyalty and making you uncomfortable when he’s around, keep them away from one another.
I too have great friends that I love dearly who are a great support as I am to them. However there are a few that I will never trust to be around any man I’ve ever been involved with and definitely not my husband. Some women are just “desperately seeking Susans” and feel that any man is fair game. She already knows he’s a good man because he’s the joy and love of your life. She sees the good life the two of you have and she wants it for herself. Is she “happily married”?
This is sad b/c it’s hard to gauge. It would not be far-fetched if she did like your husband being that you click as well as you do (likely common thought patterns). So I say if she is a true friend then she should understand the conversation you are about to have. She would even understand the girl code and limit her presence when he is home. The other conversation should be w/your husband to let him know your discomfort with the attention he shows her and how it will impact your support system in his absence b/c b4 I would let this friendship impact my home negatively, I would protect my home. Friends come and go, (especially in a military setting) marriage is a life-long commitment.
Trust your gut! I would stop inviting her over. If she wants to come by with the kids, I’d tell her you’d rather meet at the park. Always follow your gut. It will never steer you wrong.
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BEST PRACTICE: Don’t have other women around your husband. Whether you trust your husband or not isn’t the ?. He’s human and so is she, so don’t dangle the fruit because eventually they may bite. Keep her as YOUR friend, not Y’ALL’s friend. Do things with her that doesn’t include your husband.
There is no right way to go with this. If you cant shake the feeling, take a break. It doesnt have to be cutting her off. Plan some busy days and plan some things without her included without making it seem purposeful. See how she responds and if he asks about her. That leaves room for an open discussion and leaves opportunity to check your own feelings. We all need moments to decompress and we all need a break at times. Give yourself some headspace and if she feels offended, just simply say “I’ve been wanting to focus on the kids a bit more and I feel a little off lately” and again, it opens the conversation. You can discuss with her that you’re wanting more quality time as a family (INSERT BIG ON THE THIS IS MY FAMILY) and you can tell your husband that you’d like to reconnect emotionally.
Again… it will sell them out if they begin raising an eyebrow. Secure and breathe.
If it is brought up I highly suggest being upfront with your husband. “I wasnt feeling comfortable with the way I had caught you two at times looking at each other and it made me realise I was feeling insecure and insecurity in marriages often lead to divorce so I wanted to take time to discover my reasonings and to make sure you’re happy”… 1. Its acknowledged 2. He knows you’re watching 3. It’s not blaming or accusing.
His response is what you need to look at. It also keeps him in check to know you will not tolerate that behavior and the outcome if so. Remain calm and take it to the table.
Trust your gut. Bring it up. But honestly if it was me I’d wait until I’d catch them staring at each other and say it then. “Excuse me?? I don’t like drama but I don’t like being crossed. If you two don’t know boundaries and that includes prolonged eye stares than this friendship is gonna have to end right now. I get to people are attractive but there’s a line and I’m it”
She’ll know you’re not one to mess with and so will he. Then have an open discussion with him later that night.
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Set boundaries, figure out what they are and stick to them. Voice them to each separately and be confident in your feelings. Your gut is always right.
Are you an insecure person or is it common for you to question of ppl want him… that’s the first question to ask your self… if no this behavior is not apart of your usual thought process um listen to your instincts and investigate into it. But I wouldn’t say anything unless there was something… I would fear planting the seed
I would most definitely talk to them separately, and see how they react, and let them know that you are not OK with the lingering looks that you are catching. Then start having her over only when your husband is not around. In the end, its your call. But don’t give them the opportunity to prove your gut feeling right. I have learned the hard way that men and women can’t be just friends. There is always an alterior, underlying motive either on her end, or his. Also, if you know his phone password, check and see if they have each others phone numbers, and if the message back and forth. If they do have each others cell numbers, you know beyond a shadow of a doubt that there is more going on than meets the eye. Its not being paranoid, its looking out for you and your kids. I learned this the hard way.
Back out of the friendship SLOWLY but FAST enough!! It’s nice and all to have friends but you’ve got to protect your family here! And don’t go and talk about it with your husband though, he won’t understand and you’ll make him think about it and create something unnecessary so NO. Find some excuses for her to not come or spend time and look for other friends. Trust me, I know lots of friends and colleagues who lost their husbands because of this!!! It’s time! Now! Out!
Trust your gut… it’s right. Staring at each other a few times?!! She’s not a blessing but a snake with a smile and some coffee… cut her off and don’t say shit to your husband about doing it.
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OOPS, was I not suppose to crack jokes and make eye contact with my friends hubby? If ya man is going to cheat, he will cheat irregardless if she’s your friend or not. I would talk to hubby and watch out for anything that’s inappropriate.
I have insecurities, I hide them but sometimes they show. My son to be sil and I have been close for a long time. She went to school with my husband, I’m not from here where they are. She always showed up for me! When I was in labor them meds and hormones hit! Hubby was heading to cafeteria (I was ok with it he was having a break down) she insisted she go with him, just to make sure he was ok. Fatherhood hit him hard but he handled it than I did motherhood in the beginning. I snapped! When I say I snapped I mean it!! It was so horrible that if I wasn’t hooked to machines I probably would’ve jumped her. Hubs of course stayed and now it’s a joke to us all. Sad that so many people have harm in their heart that we can’t trust the God ones. Now, that same chick is pregnant with my nephew Wyatt!
You can’t stop a person from cheating. I’m not sure what cutting her off is going to accomplish if they do have a thing for each other. If he wants to be with you, he will. If he wants to be with her, he will. Nothing you do is going to change that. You can’t cut her off and expect different results. I’d talk to my husband though and tell him that you’re not comfortable and this is how you feel. If it continues anyway (it will if it’s real), you just gotta walk away. Nobody is worth your sanity.
Trust is key. Trust your intuition, but also weigh out the pros and cons. If you trusted your husband enough to marry him, ask him, and if he says that isnt the case, let it go. The look may be an inside joke and that’s it. I’d say if she’s more of a blessing and you already trust her with your children, leave it be. Its difficult on children to lose people they end up caring about. That goes for you and her children too. It takes a village sometimes.
Ugh…tough 1. That gut is there not to just digest food…u feeling something…then more than likely, u aint far off. They might be attracted to 1 another, but acting on that attraction is when that line gets crossed! Ik they havent done anything, but a woman’s intuition is real. Idgaf what ne1 says.
Best advice, just keep it to where u both still hang but maybe avoid having your husband and her around each other IF U CAN. Slowly diminish the time spent instead of ridding her all together…maybe as time goes on, u will get a better read on the situation and will know better then to rid her or not