Make this make sense 
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I’m sorry for your loss.
However I don’t understand the end part, what did she do wrong?
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Your being pretty. She probably didn’t want to announce it because she knew it would hurt you. That’s not her intentions. It might be hard but be happy for her. She deserves the same you had when you told everyone. Sorry but your trauma (which is sad and unfortunate) isn’t her fault. She should have to feel guilty and that’s exactly how your going to make her feel.
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None of this makes sence.
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I don’t understand the question
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Where’s the issue? You should be happy for your friend. It seems she didn’t want to talk about pregnancy around you knowing your loss, which seems respectful to me.
Don’t be bitter about someone else’s life, okay? Mourn your loss, but don’t let it make you treat others shitty.
Here’s my view of this you are hurt and you’re going through some mental and emotional Healing. Your friend did not want to announce it because she knows of your mental healing and internal battles going on. She still deserves the right to be happy, yes I have personally gone through miscarriages. I have also personally did not want to see anyone who was pregnant didn’t want to be around anyone who is pregnant because of my internal battle with my heart in my mind. I knew I had to be strong and happy for it a friend that was expecting but is still struggling with my losses. The best way I can explain it is to you talk to your friend and she shows she has a big and caring heart because as joyful as having a child in She still thought of you. I suggestion is to sit her down talk to her let her know what your feeling but also let her know you are happy for her. It will help you heal in so many ways but that is your best bet as to talk to her.
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Anybody else have trouble following along or is it just me? 
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I’m not really understanding what input you want to hear this post was confusing
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I don’t understand what the question is? 
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What tf did I just read? Girl idk what you are asking. Your mans cousins girl is pregnant okay… and? What’s there to be petty about makes no sense
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I feel like it’s a sad loss on your part but you should be happy for anyone else. Not like they shouldn’t get pregnant because of what happened to you.
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What’s the question 
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It takes time to be ok with someone else’s pregnancy just take the time you need. When I lost my twins I couldn’t even look at a pregnant woman without getting teary or crying, would be worse around certain days. Sending you lots of hugs, things will get better, just take whatever time you need
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Listen, I’m sorry for your losses, but you can’t expect everyone else around you to stop their lives and have kids because you are having issues. I’m so, so sorry, and wish you weren’t experiencing this, but I lost my youngest, 5 month old daughter to SIDS. Yes, for awhile I couldn’t be around babies, so I wasn’t. But then, I went on with life. My sister got pregnant with one and then two of my sweet nieceys. You can’t live your life this way, getting upset because people are living their lives. Grieve and then move on. It’s hard, but it needs to happen. If not, you’ll isolate yourself from friends and family. That’s not what you need. Love, hugs and prayers your way 
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So sorry for your loss… My daughter had two miscarriage…her best friend was pregnant… she didn’t want to tell her because she didn’t want to hurt her feelings… My daughter was more hurt because she wasn’t told…
Unless you’re getting at your husband is the child’s father then there is not much of a question here. I’m sorry for your losses, I myself have been there and know how heart breaking it is. You need to grieve. Count the blessings you do have, a husband and a home is more than a lot of women can say.
Find someone to talk to and start healing. It will take time but it will happen. Dont let your heart become bitter and jaded.
Sending hugs.
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I didn’t understand half of this question but others can’t help the fact that they have happy news, be happy for her and Don’t hold resentment and go see a fertility specialist to see what your problems are and get treatment
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Be happy for her and maybe one day when you least expect it it will be your turn
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I’m confused🤔 where’s the question?
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I think the lady is saying that she has had trouble getting pregnant. But now her cousin’s gf is pregnant. The gf announced her pregnancy somehow but acts like she wanted it to stay quiet towards according to the lady. She might feel like the gf is rubbing it in
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You’re letting your emotions get the best of you. Any woman who gets pregnant and happy to be will be happy to tell the world. She’s not being selfish! She’s just happy to be pregnant and is sharing her great news! This is what happy pregnant women do!
It is very unfortunate you have had difficulty and I really hope you become a mother soon and I’m sure you will be the best mother ever. Until then, try not to feel disturbed, hurt or upset if someone else experiences motherhood before you, that’s not fair to them and certainly not their fault. I would recommend you stay positive and pray about it. It’s unfair for us to expect others to hide happiness because we’re not. I wish you the best.
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My only advice is take a good multivitamin high in folic acid. I had fertility issues for years and started taking vitamins and got pregnant after 3 months of taking them.
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I’m sorry you lost your 2 babies but what exactly are you asking? Do you expect no one to have a baby because you unfortunately lost yours? Get you some grief counseling because you need it. No one should feel they need to hide there pregnant because it might make you feel some type of way.
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You are being
Petty 
it’s hard for people close to you to announce that when they know you are struggling with it. But your struggles shouldn’t make her excitement any less unfortunately. She should be able to be happy
And excited. Doesn’t mean she doesn’t respect you or what you are going through. I know It’s Tough. But if she is your friend support her and let her feel happy. It will happen for you one way or another 
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Bet she loves you and had a hard time even announcing it to try and protect you. That’s why she kept it a secret.
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I think you’re jealous which is understandable… but what is the question about paranoia?
You need to speak to your Dr.
You may need to go on progesterone, take your multivitamin and an aspirin.
These will help in conceiving.
But it’s all up to you and speaking to your specialist.
Good Luck
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My daughter was my 11th pregnancy (1st ivf cycle). I had 7 miscarriages and 3 ectopics (all naturally conceived) before we did ivf.
I found it hard when others announced their pregnancy’s but I never became nasty about it. If your not coping right now go seek some help, it is definitely worth learning how to cope with losses.
Also get some tests done to see why your not able to hold a pregnancy. I ended up loosing both my tubes to ectopics so am not able to conceive naturally anymore. I found out while doing ivf that I don’t produce enough progesterone and I could have had one of those babies I lost if my doctor just picked up on it.
Goodluck with your journey 
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Maybe it isn’t actually about you…maybe it’s about them, and their good news.
My dad died but I don’t go around being pissed at people who celebrate fathers day.
Cause that’d be selfish and narcissistic, wouldn’t it?
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Your story is sad, but she did nothing wrong and she shouldn’t have to keep her good news secret no matter what issues you are having.
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You are not been petty or paranoid you are all shades of jealous, seriously I don’t know what you are even asking here! Gurl stop throwing pity parties here and go drink some vitamins or something
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I think shes trying to protect your feelings actually and not sure how to handle the situation herself. Be happy for her!
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Yea a little bit. I get how her news would’ve been hard for you but she still has a right to share and be happy about her pregnancy. I was told I’d never have children because I have pcos and mthfr (both of which I recommend you getting tested for just in case) and I struggled when my cousin got pregnant but that was my issue not hers. And believe me when I say my cousin doesn’t have a maternal bone in her body and her son suffers for it. Luckily I did end up getting pregnant with my now 5 year old daughter which is why I urge you to get those tests done with answers come solutions. If you need to distance yourself from her pregnancy that’s fine but never take it out on her she didn’t do anything wrong.
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I have lost 4 myself, my advice to you is be happy for that person, but don’t undervalue your own emotions. You’re allowed to be happy for them, but sad for yourself xx but keep in mind every woman walks a different journey, and to not let your anger and hurt out on the women who walk their paths because yours is painful
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I’m as lost as an Easter egg
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She wanted to hide it to be sensitive to your feelings.
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Shes probably trying to keep your feelings and emotions into consideration… that is empathetic and respectful
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I’m so confused 
What does someone else’s announcement have to do with you buying a house and getting married?
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When you were pregnant did you change how you felt or acted based on others , did it even cross your mind abt other couples trying to conceive? She is just celebrating her experience, be happy every baby is a blessing.
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Try not to focus on what or how she announced the pregnancy. Focus on healing from your losses, I’m so sorry mama- that is very hard to go through. She may know it’s not an easy conversation or announcement for you to hear at the moment and may not know how to address the situation tbh I’m certain her intent is not to hurt you or be insensitive. Especially if you two have been building a friendship
A miscarriage is a Rollercoaster of things to over come , some of these comments seam so harsh and for someone possibly not in the right mental state after suffer a loss these comments can be so damaging . Dear I’ve been where ur at with the losses and others being pregnant at the same time . But it’s not their fault , u can’t blame them or there babies . U need to work on ur self and be happy for them still . This is still a happy time for them don’t let it ruin relationships for u. Seek counseling if ur struggling don’t suffer in silence. I feel like u asked if this was petty or paranoid because maybe u think she got pregnant on purpose cuz u were ?? Maybe she did idk I think that would be awsome as she had hopes of going thru that experience with u ?? Or maybe it’s just cuz she denied she announced it to u .but hun shes going thru such a magical time right now and she’s so beyond happy about the little life she holds , she deserves to be happy . Maybe she tried to keep it from u to spare ur feelings . Who knows. Either way she has all right to tell who she wants when she wants . Deffinatly speak with ur doctor hun . Don’t let this Rollercoaster eat away at u .
No woman should be made feel bad about growing the gift of life inside of her. I myself have had in the region of 20+ miscarriages and right now recieving treatment to have our rainbow baby, but I would never be anything but happy for any woman announcing her pregnancy and would wish her and her unborn baby all the health in the world
I’ve lost 2 and not long after I lost my first my sister gave birth to her baby, fast forward and I nearly die losing another one (horrible memory) and a couple years later my sister is pregnant again. I would lie if I said it didn’t hurt to hear the announcement, yes I’m still hurt and jealous but you can’t take that away from her. If it bothers you maybe you should consider counseling to help you or just take some time to yourself and focus on healing from it. You never forget and you’ll never get over the loss but you will over time learn to live with it and know how to control it better.
Not sure what the problem is? Because you are having problems right now doesn’t mean you can share joy for someone u are friends with. I won’t be a friend to you as when in prgressing…you will be the jealous negative one to pull me down
I don’t get it? What does one thing have to do with another?
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This post is kinda confusing or is it just me?
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Is part of this missing?
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What are you asking? Being Petty about what?!??
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i got yall, shes mad bc she cant have kids and the cousins gf can
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This made my head hurt a little. Maybe she wanted to keep it a secret from you because you had a miscarriage recently and didn’t want to hurt your feelings with her news? Maybe she wanted to wait to tell you later idk… what exactly is your concern? That the baby may be your husbands? I’m confused
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Could you clarify? I’m not really even sure what you’re trying to get across here…
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Are you mad she announced it and is now acting like she didn’t? Is she mad over it? I’m a little confused. But maybe she’s just trying to find a nice way to not talk about it in front of you because she doesn’t know how you feel about it?
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As long as no one cheated….this isn’t your mans baby….etc you should be happy for her.
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Are you mad she’s pregnant?
Paranoid it’s his?
Anyone?
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So whoever wrote this has broken English. It’s definitely not typos, that’s just how they speak. Also I think what she’s trying to say is the cousins girlfriend is now pregnant and keeping her pregnancy quiet, and she feels some type of way about it and is wondering if she’s being petty towards the girl for her keeping her pregnancy kind of quiet.
I don’t get your paranoid part. But you can’t put your pregnancy hard times on others. Just because someone else can have a kid easily you shouldn’t determine how you act towards them when they announce that they’re pregnant. People have a hard time getting pregnant all the time. And it doesn’t seem like she’s trying to shove it in your face and trying to ignore it when she’s around you so it doesn’t bring up those sad hard feelings for you. I bet she’s trying to just be respectful of you and your situation. I have been on the opposite end of you. My sister had been trying to get pregnant for years. And I got pregnant from a one night stand and through my whole pregnancy she was rude and distant and try to make me feel guilty for being able to get pregnant easily. Not that my pregnancy was easy but it didn’t help that she was mad that I got pregnant and she didn’t. And it’s really hard on the pregnant person Jew let them know it wasn’t anything they could do. They always wish that she could be pregnant and I not but that’s not how it was because it’s not how it works. I couldn’t do anything about my circumstances when I found out I was pregnant at 25 weeks and it was a surprise to all of us. So give her some grace and talk to her. And don’t harbor any bitter feelings.
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What I think you are asking is if you are being petty about the girl announcing (but denying announcing) her pregnancy after you had a recent miscarriage.
If this is the case I understand the pain of seeing others announcing a pregnancy after suffering the loss of a baby. It’s difficult no doubt. Try to be happy for her and explain while you are happy for her it still hurts (if she is really a friend she will understand this).
If she slept with your hubby and is pregnant then the only advice I have is leave as it won’t get better.
Losing a baby, especially multiple times messes with our head and our emotions. If this isn’t your hubby’s baby then all I can suggest is try to be supportive even though I understand the pain involved. Just let her know even if you seem distant you are happy It’s just sometimes the pain is great.
Hopefully she isn’t trying to shove the pregnancy in your face.
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Say whatttt???
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Are you upset that there was a delay of her announcing her pregnancy? Maybe it was awkward for her to say she was when you just had a miscarriage. Also, some would wait until the 2nd trimester before announcing their pregnancy as the miscarriage percentage are higher in the 1st trimester.
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Maybe she didn’t want to hurt you with her good news, or maybe she didn’t want to announce too soon in case anything went wrong.
Something else is missing
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She’s probably trying to spare your feelings or just didn’t know how to break the news.
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Not petty at all. I was 31 and my sister and sister-in-law were having babies and I decided it was my time too! Having lost many pregnancies before that I WAS jealous and a bit depressed. I think it is natural
Paranoid that it is your husbands?
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Since you have accepted your condition, just be happy for her. Your turn will come n when it comes, dont announce it… keep it till youre showing 
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this makes no sense, is the girls baby your husbands? Otherwise why would you care?
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I don’t understand what you’re meaning at all and I’m confused. But not being kind and close to someone because they’re pregnant, isn’t okay, that’s petty. Yes you lost a baby and it’s absolutely tragic and awful (I have also), but hers is a blessing too so you don’t want to bring that light down.
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What??? Is it your husbands? If not….don’t understand what the problem is! Lol
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Sounds like she was trying to be considerate of your feelings. Why do you feel like you should be worried? Is their more to this story?
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What’s your question ?
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I know it hurts but she is pregnant and has every right to be excited. I’m sure she did not want to hurt you.
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I’m with others what does ur back story have anything 2 do with what I think ur asking? u don’t sound petty or paranoid. u sound jealous that she is having a baby and ur not. Grieve in ur own way by all means but be happy 4 those who can get that joy and be there 4 her if things go south because ull know the pain. I know most hate it when their told their time will come and it doesn’t make it any easier 2 see others get that joy but that’s the only advice I have right now. Ur time will come when u were meant 2 get that joy.
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What the hell are you talking about. Context… Punctuation… Full sentences… Come on now.
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You have a right to your feelings. After I miscarried years ago, I had to stay away from pregnant women and children for a while. It was my first pregnancy and it tore me apart. Do what is right for you and don’t let anyone make you feel like you’re being petty or spiteful. The truth is that a lot of people have had miscarriages and have not wanted to be around other pregnant women for a while as a result. Heal yourself. If others can’t be sensitive to the loss of your child, that’s on them, and you have the right to step back for a while. Don’t feel forced to be happy for them if it hurts you too much. Work on healing yourself, and only then can you be happy for others and feel joy with others.
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What does her being pregnant have anything to do with you?
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What is the question? Where is the advice needed?
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And…
Did your husband impregnate her?
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I’m confused. I can’t understand what exactly is going on here. 
English 101, is a thing.
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If you think it then you are
Maybe she wanted to keep it a secret to not hurt you? I don’t really get what you’re being petty or paranoid about?
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Hun. Look. I know it sucks. I know it. I know on a personal level. I’ve been there. I get it. But you have got to be happy for others. It is not their fault. It is not your fault. I’m not sure if you are religious or not, but I gotta tell you, I FIRMLY believe it’s in God’s hands. It is in His timing. I went to a specialist for over a year. No baby. Then my specialist retired. I gave up for a year. My husband and I started just focusing on our marriage and spending time with each other. We got closer and the stress melted away as we accepted what is, even though we still had hope for the future. I am happy to say that we were completely baffled that I am now pregnant. My marriage is stronger and I fully believe that was His plan all along. Sometimes we need to go through trials. Be happy for her, your day will come, whether it’s the way you planned or not. Be gracious, be kind, and give it all over to Him I wish you the best of luck.
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You need to English a bit better lol. I think she was trying to be considerate of your feelings with announcing it then keeping it a secret, she probably doesn’t know what to do… you should try to be happy for her, it’s not her fault that you miscarry and she deserves to be able to enjoy her moment. You sound like you like each other and could be really good friends so be good to each other, be there for each other, it’s her moment now, you’ve got your husband there for you. I’m sorry for your loss, I know how it feels. Good luck 
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I don’t get it you didn’t get to the conclusion here
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Keep trying, my mom had 6 miscarriages before having 4 beautiful children.
I hate movies with endings like that lol
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This didnt make much sense to me. Sry.
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I have no idea what this post is about. What are you saying? What is the issue? Sorry for your losses (I got that part) I wish you the best. I’m just genuinely confused by this post.
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People around you are still going to get pregnant. It’s selfish to hold that against them. They want to have babies and families just like you. Unfortunately, it’s not as easy for everyone. From what I gather, she pretending to keep it a secret, so that maybe she didn’t hurt your feelings because she was excited. If she is your friend, you should be excited for her, regardless of what has happened to you. But, for yourself, keep trying, or look at other options to aid in it.
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I’ve no idea what the backstory about you getting married and having a house has got to do with the fact someone else is pregnant but if she is pregnant and it’s not your husbands then it would be petty to feel negativity towards her- as heartbreaking as your situation is with losing a child- you cannot use that shadow to dim someone else’s light of having a baby
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Maybe ha a heart to heart and explain that you would love to be part of her pregnancy and the baby’s life. Your loss could never overshadow someone’s happiness. Hurt in private, it’s not a rub.
I’m confused… what does her pregnancy have to do with you or your husband??
Well if your unable to have your own. Think about adopting. So many beautiful kids need parents. Good luck .
there is no problem to talk about i mean it doesn’t makes sense
Go easy on her. Every woman who has lost a child at first hurts when everyone around her are having babies. She probably did not want to hurt you. I have been on both sides. I am not sure if there is any right way to act? My own sister wanted a baby so bad she had a psychotic pregnancy, filled her home with baby things. We live in different states. During this time I was pregnant with my rainbow baby. I got a baby boy and she had a doctor tell her it was a hysteric pregnancy. I felt so very bad for her, I did not want to tell her when I delivered my baby. 
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I understand your sadness of your miscarriage, I am sure the young lady was not trying to be over excited or insensitive but she does have the right to be happy and you should be happy for her as well.
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She may be trying to protect your feelings
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Do you know your blood type? RH negative people have a harder time if their partner is positive
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More than likely while she wanted to be happy and excited (rightfully so) she also didn’t want to seem or be insensitive. If you like her and think of her at this point as your friend then acknowledge your happiness for her so she doesn’t have to feel scared of upsetting you and also because she’s your friend.
I’m sorry for your loss…I hope when you get pregnant again all goes well.
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