He has a family n SHOULD B HOME EVERY NIGHT.
Dude could have a whole other family
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Goin for a few pints once in a while with the lads after work is fine my fella has done this but it’s always once in a blue moon hes never stayed out or anything and is home quite early tbh
My husband is a travel softball coach so he has multiple nights a week where he comes home later, but he still comes home. It’s okay for both of you to do things without each other. I think it’s healthy even. If you prefer to stay home that’s fine, but if he likes to be more out and social that’s fine too. I would put a stop to him not coming home at all those 3 nights though. It’s okay for him to spend time with his friends, but he still needs to come home to his family at the end of the day.
Ok I’ll be honest in my humble opinion. You’ve been with him 6 years and have a child. No ring or talk of marriage I guess? Girl no it is not normal! Do not question yourself. You are home being a responsible parent. And he is acting single!!! No you don’t get to stay out all night with “your boys”. This sounds very suspicious! He is living another life if not with another woman, then by running the road. What you have is a part time boyfriend.
Your child needs a full time father, just saying. And if your willing to stay cook and clean and wait for him then that’s fine. But never expect more than what you have allowed him to do.
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My man comes home everyday after work, but he’s also tired 99% of the time and if he does anything with friends, I’ll usually at least be invited to go
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Doesn’t sound like a relationship to me … Your not too clingy that’s what he’s apparently telling you.
I think both people should have friends and hobbies outside the home. It’s not wrong that he has friends and spends time with them, but it is kind of unusual that he doesn’t come home at all on nights he goes out. However, there may be a reason for it. Maybe he feels suffocated by you.
Either way, if you want it to work then you need to sit down together and work out your issues together.
It’s toxic enough u believe that’s normal.
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Three days a week with friends or three days a week with a side piece?
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Boys don’t have sleepovers. If he’s spending night out, it ain’t with his homies.
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Both me and my boyfriend of 10yrs(I dont want to get married) come home after work. We share responsibilities. If he gets off 1st he gets the kids or I do if I’m off first. He cooks dinner some nights as do I. Same for the kids activities and school work. If we have free time we do things as a family. Or he and i go out for date night. So no i dont think it’s right for him to leave u hanging several nights a week. Maybe once and a while go out with friends but always come home and give ur wife and child a good night hug and kiss!
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You need to find a new husband, you and your son is unimportant to him, he would rather out with friends. You are not clingy, he’s in available to you
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He should be coming home to his family every night. You are not being codependent you just want a secure family structure and he wants to be out partying and living the single life without facing the responsibility a family and household bring. I personally would not put up with this. Be honest with yourself about what you want in a partner and let him know. If he doesn’t care about what you want or your happiness then do yourself a favor and leave.
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Girl, my boyfriend and haven’t had the easiest time… but he always comes home after work, and stays home. You need to talk to him asap… that isn’t normal.
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Hmmm my boyfriend comes home every night. And I’m like his only friend. I know not everyone is the same. But honestly I wouldn’t let that shit slide. When’s do you get a break?? When do you get to have sleep over?? When will he watch your kid for you??
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My issue wouldn’t be him not coming home right after work to see friends but not coming home at all would be a huge issue.
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He doesn’t come home 3 days a week. That’s a huge problem. I don’t know any men who do this WTF.
Thats not normal and I wouldn’t put up with that at all. You go to work you come home you don’t go out with friends and never come home. Sounds like cheating or doesn’t want to be home…sorry…
My husband and I both probably spend one weekend night away each every 2 months or so. It’s moreso because both of our good friends live an hour away…it’s just easier to go overnight and have a good time. Next week, hubby will be in alabama with friends for a guys motorcycle trip- something he does 2-3 times a year usually but this will be his first trip because of COVID. It’s been nice having him home but I enjoy his time away too. Gives me quiet time to do my own thing
Now I feel you may be over reacting a little except for the part where he doesn’t come home! That’s a big no no for me and I would be worried about him cheating. Everyone needs their space and to do things alone. It’s not a bad thing at all. You need to talk with him and come up with a solution or all that’s gonna happen is your gonna end up hating him if you keep letting it happen. If he wants to make it work he will compromise with you.
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I get every relationship is different and there’s no “one size fits all” answer, but I don’t know anyone who’s significant other stays out all night or doesn’t come home regularly. That goes double for people with kids. I mean if you might as well be a single mom at that point. And it seems like he’s convinced you that having an issue with this makes you “codependent” which is just him gaslighting you. Whole thing sounds super toxic
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My guy does something one day a week after work but he asks me first out of respect or to see if we have prior plans.
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I think outside of your home life it is normal to have other hobbies, and it is healthy to have other friends besides each other. HOWEVER, I didn’t realize this in the beginning of my husband and I’s relationship. It took me a while. I always felt down like he didn’t want to spend time with me, but after a few months, it was like a switch flipped!! He didn’t want to go anywhere without me, he always wanted to be with me and that was when I realized that i was then the one who wanted to get out and do something. And have a little time to myself without kids and see a new face here and there.
Everyone needs time to miss each other. The 3 nights a week, and not coming home, is a little excessive IMO. But if he were to give you a heads up about going somewhere maybe once MAYBE twice a week, and not every week, I think that should be okay.
But him not being home for pretty much HALF the week and you’re always home, I think also means he’s slacking on responsibilities. He should definitely step up and you guys should sit down and have a calm discussion together
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My hubby and I both work full time, im not much of a social butterfly where he is. He comes home every day after work and does stuff with us throughout the week, on weekends he typically spends most of the time with friends instead of at home with us. Its annoying as we never have time for us but its who he is and how he’s always been. However he is home every night, the only time he’s not is when hes out drinking and those nights he gets me to go with him so I can drive.
You aren’t too clingy and it sounds like he is treating you like a roommate and not a partner. There are serious red flags here that need to be addressed ASAP. He shouldn’t be out three nights a week ever let alone weekly you have a child to take care of. I could see one night here and there but not how he is behaving now. Is he really with friends or does he have a girlfriend
You’re definitely not co dependent sounds like you miss him. Being gone that many days I’d be pissed!
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My boyfriend and I spend most of our free time together. Sometimes he goes fishing with friends or I’ll hang out with one of mine but generally I like to be at home to recharge 
too much interaction, especially with people I don’t like, leaves me feeling exhausted
That wouldn’t be co-dependant. Co dependence is needing someone to need you. You want someoneto depend on you.
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You teach people how to treat you. If you keep accepting it, it will continue.
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Honey, you’re an easy lay. Kick his butt to the curb, see an attorney and ask for child support.
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It sounds like a lot to me personally. If he had actual things to do (coaching a team, being a part of an organization, etc) then maybe, but it should really be something you 2 agree on. The not coming home at night is unacceptable and cheating could easily be a concern under these circumstances. Between work and his outings, that doesn’t really leave you guys much time together.
What happens if you ask him to cut the outings down to 1-2 times a week and always being home by midnight or something reasonable? Also, does he work? How does all of this affect that? Is he drinking a lot while he’s out?
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Your husband should go home to you everynight.where else should he be.
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It’s reasonable for anyone to want to have time alone or time with friends, but in a moderated way that puts his family (spouse and children) as their first priority. It sounds like he is not doing that.
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Um no my husband does not go out 3 nights a week and stay out over night. Not even when we werr dating. That is not normal and I would assume cheating or drug/alcohol abuse.
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He’ll continue doing this bc you’re allowing it. Not coming home at all ?? Then where does he go or stay on those nights. I’m sorry but if he doesn’t have another girl on the side, then his friends seem more important than you! Get rid of him or give him an ultimatum bc three days can lead to more! You don’t need that 
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I’d follow him. Something is not right
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Nope that’s not normal at all. Spending the night somewhere like that is super weird, being out 3 days a week when you guys have a toddler at home is weird too. He’s super selfish.
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Whoa. No ma’am. My husband does not stay anywhere at night other than at his house with his family. It has nothing to do with cheating but everything to do with being a grown ass man. This ain’t high school (I’m assuming you’re older than that, but even if you’re not- having children requires growing up on the fast track). So it isn’t like friends are a priority and crashing out at whoever’s house is cool all the time. Uh-uh. It’s ok to go have dinner and a drink or 2 like normal adults every once in a while and then go home. Sounds like you’re excusing him when in reality, he needs to mature. 
My husband works throughout the week and comes home every night after work. He usually only goes out once a month, if that. He says home is where he wants to be. 
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Your not worried about him cheating? You just pointed out all the red flags!!
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This is definitely not normal in my opinion
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Yeah… Red flags to me
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Uhh hell no. You are NOT co-dependent. You’re a grown ass woman who has her priorities right. I’m sorry if my husband/boyfriend was out 3 nights a week and not coming home when we have a baby, I wouldn’t be there when he came home. You’re supposed to be a family, that’s what family does. They spend time together… you are completely right in your feelings. He should be home with you most nights. Maybe once a week IF you’re ok with it and he should be home, not staying out.
Ok so I have the similar relationship, we have 2 children together and been together 8yrs now… but the first 4yrs he didnt live with us although I moved out there on his parents property after our 1st daughter was born… I also have 3other kids myself…and I do everything…1st 4yrs…hardly seen him except when he came down to have sex then he went back home…to his parents house… every time he got mad we were done…fastfoward hes been living with us 2yrs now and ok hes all about sex I’m not…though his bday he got what he wanted and guess what got our 2and daughter come from that…shell be 2 in December… she is my 5th child and I got tubes tied after her…cuz no more…but since then I dont have any desire to have sex at all…n that’s all he cares for…dsnt matter anything else I do for him… shld also say I work he dsnt…n I work overnights n still take care the kids and the house…I’ve tried to buy a house before didnt get it…n I tried to rent an apt but make too less to get it… out where were at dnt pay rent just utilities n propane… all we do is fight n I hate it making a toxic environment for our daughters n my kids too… he always says he tries to be nice n does things for me…but really he only does to get some n if he dsnt he gets mad…dsnt matter we have small children who go to bed late n then I wanna sleep… I’m not perfect n I cld treat him better as well but to him it’s all me…dsnt matter I was alone for 4yrs till he wanted to be with us…n then it’s my fault the kids want nothing to do with him… I swear hes a bipolar narcissist and I just dont know what to do… I’ve done lost myself I believe…I care for him n do love him…but then again I dnt but can u understand as to why…plus if hes an ass all day then that dsnt make me want him not just not feeling like sex… idk what I asking here I guess I’m just venting of my life is
This is not co dependent. He should be coming home at night not staying with friends. It seems you need to have a conversation about his priorities because it seems the family he has created with you is on the back burner while his friends are ahead of you. Tell him how you feel and that you need him to change his behaviors. If this were me cheating would definitely be on my mind or possibly drug abuse. Did he ever invite you and your child to hang out with him? This is just a major red flag.
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NOPE NOPE NOPE not on my watch.
You want to go out with your boys? Fine. Yo ass better be home after.
He’s just not respecting you or your family.
Let the door hit him in to booty!
( I realize it’s never that easy ! )
Nope not normal at all. I’d be concerned why he isn’t wanting to be home more.
My fiance has never not come home. If he tried that pathetic shit the doors would be locked and he would be looking for a new place to stay.
No problem going out with mates, but no way staying out all night.
Sounds to me like he is cheating. He should know better you two have a child and you should speak up about how you feel. If he berates you over it…you need to kick him to the curb. No man should be out all the time leaving you home…ESPECIALLY over night
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No problem within reason that is, not 3 nights a week. Wants his cake and eat it. Wants to live like a single man, then make him single.
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What the heck. No even if he visits friends he shouldn’t be gone all night. Not that he can’t have friends. Maybe once a year he should be able to go on a vacation with friends (my husband likes to do motorcycle trips once a year but he hasn’t gone in over 3 years), mostly because of financial difficulties and his friends schedules. But 3 days and nights a week! That is just ridiculous. So he has a part time family and part time friends and act single?! Sounds like he wants his cake and eats it too.
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Yea I stopped reading where you said he goes out and doesn’t come home. So I think he has a second life and none of that sounds normal. Yes it’s great to have your own friends and interest but at the end of the day he needs to come home to his family.
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Yeah he needs to grow up. He needs to come home no matter what. And more likely his cheating, open ur eyes.
I wish my man would stay gone 3 nites a week 
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This is him and not you I went through this and although we worked out in the end it was a tough 6 years of our relationship if you ask me now I would say leave ask me 6 years ago I’d say stay but that’s when I had more patience I do not have time for that now
All night?! Absolutely not normal.
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I’m kinda like that toi and me and my boyfriend have Adapted howeverrrrrrrrr!!!
Wtf do u mean ur HUSBAND doesn’t come home why are you allowing this if he wants to spend the night out he should be single move out or be on dating terms. He’s cheating whether u are worried or not what man can leave home for three whole days are u waiting on him to come home and say he has another family.
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I don’t think 3 times a week is healthy for him to be out with friends I mean maybe a couple hours a week with a friend or something but 3 days sounds like a lot to me especially if he stays out all night. I would not be trusting of that situation.
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Me EX husband used to do this. He would be home through the week but always stayed out in the garage until bedtime. Come Friday night after work he would go to a friend’s house and stay until Sunday night. After 16 yrs I found out about 4 affairs one of which was with his male friend he stayed with on weekends. Don’t ever be so sure that he won’t cheat. I was the love of his life, his soul mate, couldn’t live without me. He married someone else 2 days after our divorce finalized
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Were you cheated on in old relationship? I’m like this.But I’m so clingy when hes gone I sit at home.I can go out but I’d rather not.3 night! Thats heaps. Nothing wrong with being clingy it beats being a play up
You should think he’s cheating.
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He sounds like he’s got his cake and ice cream to
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He’s cheating. If he’s not coming home!
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It’s very rare (and i mean rare as 1 night every couple months otherwise we all go and visit his family and friends together) for my partner to go away for the night with friends, he stays there because they’ll drink and in his home town not where we live. But otherwise he is home every night to be with our family we have 3 kids and one on the way. But if he wanted to go do things one night on the weekend to have a break it’d be ok, I don’t think what your partner is doing is normal though. His friends seem to come before you and your family you have together…
My husband has never not come home. And it is very unfair for him to go out three days a week and have a social life while you are at home caring for the child you two made together! Of course you are angry and probably stressed the hell out! You should absolutely be upset!
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He should not spend nights at a time out all night with freinds when he has a kid and girfreind at home,especially if you all live together and its a pretty permanent situation…and you really think he isn’t stepping out…I would never be ok with this…he should be home with you and his child…he isn’t single anymore,time to grow up little boy,he is using you to take care of his house and kid.
Just because he’s your child’s father doesn’t mean that it’s a good relationship for you. You don’t have to stay with him. He apparently thinks he’s living a fancy free and single life and goes back to you so you can do his laundry.
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Ahh no. He’s meant to be in a relationship with you. He should not ever be out with other females and then spend the night at there’s, that screams a player big time. He’s definitely cheating… He should be coming home every night with his family. He has it too easy… It’s ok to go out at least once with mates a week, but home again after a few hours…
Sounds like he’s not committed to the relationship at all
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What’s good for the goose is good for the gander. Start going out and not coming home a few nights a week like him and see how that plays out. On the days he comes home meet him at door and leave. Go to a family members house without your child and don’t tell him where you’re goin and stay the night. Come home right before he leaves for work the next day. My guess is he won’t like it one bit.
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This is definitely not normal one bit at all he should be wanting to come home something is up with that for sure and to I wonder if this been going on awhile and you just let it go if definitely say something and stand up for myself and not just let him get away with it he has a family and if you keep allowing it it will continue not to sound rude but you need to take control of the situation I hear so much of woman going through a lot with so because they don’t take control over it and don’t make stands for themselves they just put up with it know you’re worth if you ain’t worthy enough for him to come home 
than what does that tell you he will do worse if you don’t make a stand
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Oh hell no my husband comes home every night unless he has a planned hunting trip which is always in advance. I really dnt think that’s healthy at all and I’d be really concerned.
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Not normal to be hanging out with friends that often…He needs to watch your child while you do something for yourself…
My ex-husband had a different schedule where he worked 4 days, if 3 days, usually during the week. He would dissappear for those days. Turned out he was doing meth. My BD would just stay out all night, till 4 the next morning, we split for cheating. So either way, I’d be cautious of the staying out all night. I think it’s normal to want to have a guys night now & then, but 3 nights a week & all night, nope, not having it
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Hope my comment reaches you. My fiance an i have been together almost 6 years 3 children all under 4 an we literally spend every breathing moment together most might find it odd but this is how we like to live an love each other very much. So its never a problem to be clingy to the one you love. We also work all together as a family so might seem much but wouldnt trade the way my life is everyday because im spend literally every moment with the ones i love most my kids an their daddy.
I hope maybe you can sit down an ask him whats wrong about not coming home to his family because thats how every man should be if they have a family to come home to no matter what.
Pray things get better for you!!!
This wouldn’t fly with me, smell his dick!! 
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Sounds like he’s taking advantage that you’re naive to having relationships. All signs point to cheating or man-child. You don’t need either!
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Um sorry honey but he is cheating. I went through the same BS with my current husband when i was pregnant with our child. Granted he was influenced by my family to believe the baby wasn’t his. We’ve talked about things and making it work. But honey, he is cheating on you. Those “friends” are probably his side chick. Id sit down and have a serious talk with him and if he dont straighten up and step up to the plate as a DAD, then its time to move on.
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Try talking to him, and Let him know that you want him to spend more time with you,ur baby not just being out ,Like he has no care in the world,tell him you need him to take responsibility to his baby, ,as well if you don’t speak to him about it then in his mind it’s ok tell him how you feel about what he’s doing that’s bothering you, if you don’t say something to him how do you ever want this to resolve this matter he need’s to grow up ,be aman and a father good Luck
Oh honey, you are being used. If he loved you he would be with you every day. Stop making excuses for him.
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In addition to my prior comment LEAVE THAT LITTLE BOY SIS 
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He’s staying out all night and you’re worried if you’re clingy? Get an std test.
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I get going out to see and hang out friends to a point. We all need that.
I draw the line at staying at friends houses for 3 night a week. I wouldn’t care if my husband was going out that amount of time for a few hours after work, as long as I knew he was coming home to his family.
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Someone needs to grow up! And it’s not you.
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Okay, so the fact that this guy chooses to be away from his girlfriend three nights a week is definitely not normal. But more than anything, the fact that this guy chooses to be away from his CHILD three nights a week is fucked up.
I used to be very clingy also. We have been together 10 years, it’ll be 11 years on Halloween. We have a 5 year old together. He would hang out with some people I wasn’t to fond off. We’d fight, he’d hang with them all night. One night he hadn’t come out yet, so I went to his friends house, his truck was there, he wasn’t. I came home and put all my clothes on the couch so that’d be the 1st thing he saw when he came in. I told him next day that we are a family and there is no reason he should stay out all night when he has us at home and if he didn’t stop, he wouldn’t have us anymore cause i was gonna leave. Before our son it was different, but now having him, I dont want him raised to think it was okay for a man to not come home and be with his family. He could spend time with his friends on his days off. Id tell him that he could either choose to spend his days and nights with his friends or come home and be a father and SO. He can see his friends on his days off but he should be a man and choose you and your child.
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I hate the term “co-dependent”–a totally made up disorder–absolutely no such thing. Your partner is not interested in being with you–counseling or work on how to get out of the relationship.
If my husband did that he wouldn’t be my husband anymore. Don’t get me wrong I’m all about him hanging out with his friends but 3 nights a week - I don’t freaking think so. But I can honestly say he wouldn’t want to be either he would rather be home with us. I personally would be reevaluating my situation if I were you.
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Honestly I don’t think there is a right answer here. It comes down to what works best for the two of you. My fiancé goes to his friends once a week, and I’ll go months at a time without seeing my friends, but that’s by choice. I’d much rather stay home and be lazy on the couch with my fiancé then have to go out somewhere.
You are not clingy hun, he is living his best 2 lives. You deserve so much more, he should treat you like his first priority and want to be with his child, being at work he should miss you both and want to be enjoying special family. Time to tell him or don’t waste your life your young. He either wants his family or dosent.
Never the only time my boyfriend doesn’t come home is when he is at work because he works over nights.
He’s not worth staying with, you would be better without hm. I would give him the choice.
There is nothing wrong with you wanting to spend time with your boyfriend as a family due to you having a child together. Some guys love to spend time with their family than go out. My husband is like that. He’d rather stay in than go out. His friends from work always asked him but he would turn them down. You should make him choose he would rather be with. If he chooses his friends over you, he isn’t worth it.
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Your husband has a second family or he is sleeping with his male friend!!!
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Having a family changes everything. He shouldn’t be gone at all. Maybe come home late a night from hanging with friends.Sounds like he is backing out of his responsibility. Your too nice.
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I have been cheated on and even then he still came home… the not coming home would be a huge red flag to me
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That’s not ok at all. He’s taking advantage
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Oh my God .He wouldn’t be my husband. You have to respect your self, and you are not doing it by allowing him to do what he is doing. Good luck and God Bless You.
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