He is the father, he needs to be a father to his child. If you worked a full 8, we all knows it’s way more than that. But let’s says it’s only 8, like he does, then you would both come home and parent together. Just because you work at home does not absolve him from being a parent. Dishes, cooking, laundry, fine, that’s your job…I am a sahm mom too. But taking care of the kids, it took 2 to make them, it takes 2 to raise them…its not fair to the kids if dad is not involved in their life like he should be. I have been having this argument with my husband since we had our 2nd and I stopped working, to take care of our 2 kids. Being a sahm is way more than any full time job. You dont even get schedule lunch breaks, like he does, where noone gets to bother you while you eat cause your not clocked in. You are always on call. Tell him to grow up and be the father you know he can be.
- How does he even expect a relationship with his kids then ?
I couldn’t do this to my man … He already provides and makes it possible for me to stay home and enjoy the kids/pregnancy . But I was a single mom of 4 before him so I’m used to doing way more .I can’t imagine putting more on him after a long day at work .
Some men are so selfish when it comes to housework & taking care of the kids even when the mother does work. It’s his baby too they just don’t want to do it 
I don’t think you’re wrong at all. Would you feel bad for helping if the tables were turned?
Being a parent is not a job its a responsibility & it takes 2 parents to raise one so he needs to get that through his head.
My husband works,cleans,and take care of the baby! He loves being a daddy to our lil girl he cherish her! So I think maybe y’all need to find new husbands!
I’m a SAHM of 4… ages 16, 5, 2 & 4 months… I also homeschool the 16& 5 year olds… i cook, clean, laundry, diapers, nurse the baby… I mean the list goes on… my husband works 12 hours a day… but when he comes home (after he changes clothes & has his coffee) he helps… but I also don’t require much help from him… I’m very OCD about my house & the kids so its really just a matter of him spending time with them (since he hasn’t seen them all day) & it gives me the little bit of free time to do something for myself… but in all honesty… he really didn’t start til they were about 2 years old… he doesn’t do diapers or bottle feeding or wake in the middle of the night… but I actually prefer it tht way… thts just me
“Your job” “My job” bs! You’re partners…you both have to help each other. So ask him this…ask him how come when your jobs done for the day, you get to relax…ask him when do YOU get to relax! The only way you can is if he takes care of the kids for a little while so you can become human again! If he can’t do at least that much, then he isn’t much of a man!
My SO comes home to a half clean house and 50/50 chance at dinner being ready or me being passed out when he gets here. But he wakes up with our LO in the morning and takes care of her until I wake up, I do nighttime wake ups, and we BOTH do whatever she needs when were BOTH home.
my significant other wanted more children! But guess what !?! He FAILED the test!! Not much if any help with the 1 st baby soo there for no need to hv another, because if you lady’s think it will be better think again!! 
Give him 30 mins to unwind and hand her over!!!
My hubby worked when our daughter was little, tired or not he came in grabbed dinner and the baby. He ate one handed at least 3 days a week so I didn’t have to. So he should be helping but if he really doesn’t want to & it’s been acceptable behavior in the past he won’t.
Being a parent is both of y’all’s job whether you stay home or not. I can guarantee you if he was staying home he would still expect you to do all the childcare during the hours you were home.
You both made a baby so you both look after the baby. Regardless if one parent works or not.
I’d pull a b word move. Next time he gets home, dont make dinner, dont clean up… sit down and start watching TV and eating chips. Then turn and ask him “what’s for dinner? I already worked all day and am exhausted”. The golden rule to adult man children is stop doing it for them… even when its painful for you. Needless to say, but I’ve trained my husband out of the attitude that he doesnt need to help after work.
Your job is keep house decent and watch baby while your husband is at work. When he is home its both your job.
I think it depends on each relationship and expectations. Those should be clear. Just because he works doesn’t mean he’s not a dad.
Finding balance for stay at home parents is hard. It is hard to understand how much work it is if you haven’t done it. At the same time as much as you need a break at the end of a long day he does too! That’s parenting.
Having a clear conversation is important. From there it’s what you need.
absolutely not my dad had 30 minutes to unwind when he got home from work and then he always took me for at least an hour or so my mom could cook dinner no matter how tired he was.
You are not in the wrong. He helped make that beautiful girl and he can help take care of her too. You need your own space and time to make sure you are 100% before it gets worse. Talk to him about your needs and hope he listens 
50/50 your job outside the home doesnt take away from responsibility at home. Being a SAHM is a blessing but also can be overwhelming and draining. He helped make that child he needs to help care for that child and not just money wise. If he isn’t willing to spend time with child when he gets home he doesnt deserve the title of father. Sorry but both parents need to work together. I always say going to work is actually a break!!! He needs to step UP or step OUT
I don’t expect my man to come home and clean the whole house and stuff. But I do expect him to come home and pick up some toys or change a diaper, fix a bowl of food or a bottle for the kids. He can wash a dish load, or change the clothes over to the dryer. He can do SOMETHING whether it’s big or little. He’s a parent and it’s his house too. I can’t understand a man who can’t take of his family other than “paying the Bills”.
It absolutely kills me the some men still think this way.
What the hell does he think you’re doing at home all day? Your busting ass just as hard id nit harder then he does!!
The difference is he makes a paycheck and gets to clock out at 5:00.
Why does he get to sit on his ass to relax when he gets home and you’re still working until after your children are in bed and later? It is a completely unfair double standard. The sad thing is even working mom’s carry most Of the weight of the home and children.
I don’t worry about putting more work on him because moms don’t get a break!!
We are partners and teammates if you sitting there watching your teammate bust their ass while you’re sitting on yours then you’re not a very good team right now are you?
I think his way of thinking is a bit bullshit. Being a parent and having a partner, there shouldn’t be designated jobs. You need extra help some days, and I bet so does he some days.
But he needs to get off his high horse. There’s nothing wrong with you taking a nap and him spending time with his child while you do so. Or maybe him cooking a meal while you’re tending to y’all’s child. It’s all about perspective though.
If he feels like he shouldn’t have to spend time with the child or help take care of her sometimes, then I’d stop doing his laundry, I wouldn’t make him a dinner plate, etc.
Y’all aren’t married so I’d make my point now, before you expect more from him and get married under false pretenses.
Depends on how many hours he’s working…I can understand he wants to relax after working all day. Maybe he can just bath the baby or put the baby to bed. I didn’t expect my husband to look after our kids when he got home from work but that’s me
90% of Non stay at home parents have this attitude and it seriously pisses me off. I doubt he will ever change they never do, no matter how many times you explain it.
You both work. The difference is he gets time off and you work 24/7 - 365.
Helping you with the baby is called “parenting”. He needs to help out regardless of if he works outside the home. It’s him stepping up and parenting his child.
My husband helps. You are not crazy
When my fiance was with his ex he was working 12-14 hours a day and still coming home to take care of his infant until he went to sleep and all throughout the night. There’s NO excuse a man can’t raise his child whether he works 8 hours, 12 hours, it doesn’t matter. That’s his baby and regardless of what you do he needs to help raise it like he did make it
Uhh it takes 2 to tango! My husband works about 65-80+ hours a week, I’m home pregnant and taking care of our 8mo old, I don’t always get the house clean, I don’t always have s hot meal waiting for him but lemme tell you this man comes come and gives me a break! He will sometimes strap our baby to him and he will clean and cook just so I can rest and shower etc! He views our child as his responsibility as well!
He should absolutely be helping you. Sit down and have a conversation about the expectations you have. Let him know that this is non-negotiable. Work out a fair work load between the both of you.
Your not in the wrong…my hsband is a great dad to pur daughter but i have always done more with her and take care of her more but it doesnt bother me we still make sure for family time together also but if it bugs you id deff talk to him about it
Erm no, not how a household should be run when you’re both home it should be a team effort, my partner works 40plus hours a week and he still baths the kids, helps clean, vacuums, cleans up the dining table after dinner and we both put 1 child to bed each (we have 2 kids older then yours but still)
We’ve had our hardships, but we work together as a team to create a happy and health space for our family, we will be together 9 years next year so we’re doing something right.
I’m not gonna lie, or sugar coat this. When he comes home let him chill for about half hour to an hour, then give him the baby and tell him your going out and go. If he says anything just say you got this I need some me time. And go. If he doesn’t like it to bad. He helped created that baby he should want to be helping you take care of her too. Put your foot down.
Ummmm he’s a dad… that means he changes diaper, entertains baby, bonds with baby, etc etc. He’s crazy for thinking baby only needs a mom…
I have news for you both. You are also working a full time job, and you’re not getting paid for it! So, yes, he needs to be an engaged, helpful father. Period
Does he get to leave work and decompress?
Why can’t you be allowed to do the same?
He needs to step it up.
Working is not an excuse to not parent!!
My husband works 5 days a week 12+ hours when he gets home I have dinner done house cleaned. And I take his shoes off as soon as he sits down. The only time I ask him to help with the kids is when I need a showering barley that. I take both kids everywhere I go. Imagine how hard it must be for men to work all day almost everyday of the week. The weight on his shoulders taking care of a whole household 3 other individual and himself. It’s a different story if you did work. I’m a stay at home mom of a 6 months old and almost 3. Being a stay at home mom isn’t easy but it’s a all of a lot easier than work 40 hours and coming home to do it all anyways.
HAHAHA omg men fucking make me laugh, he should help being a dad!
My boyfriend doesn’t help much either. He just wants “a break, time to himself” I have 2 kids. I cant even go the bathroom alone. I want time to myself too
Nope he should my husband works 10-12 hour days he has food clean house everything done for him and first thing he does home is grab the kids jumps in and spends time with them he cry’s all week about how much he misses us he’s a dad first and knows how hard kids can be
You both have jobs. One is paid. One isn’t. Believe it or not your gorgeous baby, at 5 months, is easy! Kids only get more demanding. Tell him to get off his ass and help out. Or just don’t have a hot meal for him to come home to every night 
. He’ll soon get the picture. You’re working way harder than he realises and I bet you’re rocking it mama!!!
He is part of the family and home too, it is NOT your job alone. At one point I worked a full time job plus and my fiance stayed home with the kids and I still came home and did my share. That isn’t the correct mind set.
Yes I never expected my husband to cause eim a house wife and I never rely on anyone
You both decided to have a baby… You are both a team to raise ur children…there is a ton of single parents out there who go to work and come home and take care of their children… So if he can’t come home and give you a little bit of free time to yourself then clearly he thinks because he works he doesn’t have to lift a finger once he’s home… My suggestion is two very clearly tell him that’s not how it’s going to go…otherwise you’re setting the president’s for the rest of your life with this man to be like that.
You arent wrong for wanting some help. That being said, if he isnt willing to help, I wouldn’t fight about it but I would hire a teen to come in and babysit for a couple hours a week/every other day so I could shower, read etc in my room or whatever. If he doesnt want to pay for help, he should be the help.
This is a constant fight for way too many people and it’s sad. No matter who is working outside of the home or not, it is BOTH parents responsibility to care for their children. Tired or not. Give each other breaks and don’t forget to love one another in the process or it’ll never work out.
I go through this all the time with my husband. YES ask him for help. SO he gets to clock out and relax while your day gets busier when he gets home. You dont get to clock out!
Stop trying to be the ‘perfect’ housewife with a clean house and dinner on the table. You are now a Mother and that is the most exhausting job in the world. Take time through the day to put your feet up when the baby sleeps. Make sandwiches for your partners dinner! Leave a bit of a mess in the house. He thinks you are coping because he is still being looked after. Look after yourself first so you are healthy to look after your baby.
I don’t understand men like this. My fiance works 9+ hour days, walks to and from work, and is excited even to come home and hold and play with his children while I have minute to myself.
Honey, first you have to acknowledge that he in fact does “not have it easy”. He is the sole provider and responsible for all your and your child’s needs. Knowing that he has a crazy schedule and understanding what he goes through are two totally different things.
Now that said, being a SAHM is very difficult, especially since it’s not like a job that you can walk away from and get rest. It’s the only 24 hour a day job that you are “expected” to do. What you can do is talk to your husband when you both are calm and tell him where you need his help. We get frustrated when our expectations are not being met so ask him what are 3 things he can commit to doing to help you get the rest you need so that you can be yourself again. You can not get upset if he is straight up honest and tells you what he can or can’t do.
I had an issue with my husband about childcare. I work Nightshift, 12 hours, 3 days a week. He. Worked dayshift 5-6 days a week. When he’d get home from work, he’d have to take care of the baby while I left to work. But when i’d get home in the morning, I had to get a babysitter because I needed to sleep to be able to function at night. He thought it was a luxury that I got a babysitter and therefore refused to help pay for daycare because he had to watch the baby and had no babysitter. We fought about this for years and even went to counseling because we both felt very strong about our views. My counselor told me that I had to respect his truth, no matter what it was because he is clearly saying he cannot do it. It was very difficult for him no matter how I felt about it. We still argued about it and as the baby got older, we argued a lot less but seeing each other’s point of view was a good start.
Cook for you and the baby and tell him it’s his job to take care of his hunger
You’re not wrong exactly, but there’s a difference between a job as sahm and motherhood…just as his work isn’t fatherhood. Talk to him because you need a break and carry all the work when he’s away. Or suggest part time daycare if you’re expected to work 24-7 so you have time uninterrupted too.
I am apparently on a different page than most people here. Dad worked full time and I was stay at home until both our kids were 8 months, just as background. Yes, being a stay at home mom does mean you need to take care of kid(s) and the house and meals and laundry and whatever else you can during the day. What most people do not appreciate is the underlying assumption that because you are solely responsible for all of that during the day as a ‘job’, it has no cut off time, which means that effectively one is on the clock 24/7.
It’s exhausting and wearing and unreasonable. As a converse argument, one would think it unfair in a domestic partnership if the stay at home punched the clock as soon as the spouse came home from working outside the house and left them to all the domestic duties for the rest of the day.
I have few sympathies for one working outside the house because both inside and outside work have their unique stressors. No disrespect but kudos to the women with young children who can manage the entire house and kids everyday and then continue to cater to their husband’s needs after they are ‘off the clock’. If that works for you guys and you’re happy and fulfilled by it, great. My personal two cents is that inside and outside is a full day of work. When outside gets home, it is a partnership with shared responsibilities.
Well aware I may be skewered for this but that’s where I stand on this.
I am a stay at home mom. I cook dinner every night, do laundry, and clean. My SO feeds my son a snack and does bath time when he gets home. It takes two to raise a child!!!
Being a parent “isn’t a job” why in the world would anyone not want to spend time with their kids when they come home after being gone all day from them.
I don’t know many men who really help.
Tell him it’s his “job” to be a father.
He should absolutely be helping you. Tonight when he is home go take a bath don’t ask him to help, just leave the baby with him. Go light some candles, put on some music and relax for awhile. Or when he gets home tell him you are going to the store ALONE! Don’t ask him to help just put him in situations where he has to help. You shouldn’t have to ask. My husband helps with everything in our house. We both work full time in management positions, we both also cook, clean, transport kids to and from school. The only thing he doesn’t help with is the kid’s laundry. The kids are old enough now to help too. I can imagine how frustrated you must be, I’m sorry.
Fricken divorce get yourself a MAN!
Try being married for 10 years + 4 kids. Get over yourself you’re a mother you got this he works fine… My husband works 40+ a week sometimes weekends. We got this we don’t need help we just need love and affection and occasionally a pat on the back. Be your own self don’t expect shit from anyone in reality we got this. They have it easy. Not the other way around. Hound me if you please shit we’re working overtime thru thick thin snow and hell no pay … cherish it they ain’t little long. You’ll miss it.
Sorry but as a sahm myself who was a prior workaholic before having a child, I definitely think the sole provider of the household has it 1000x harder than you. More stress, responsibility, burden, deadlines rest on their shoulders and since I became a sahm, I now see that and feel for my husband. He helps with little stuff if he sees I’m busy but I still prefer to do the majority of things myself unless I’m sick or uncomfortable due to my current pregnancy, then I’ll tell him to take the reigns, which he has no prob with. And I was a former “oh he needs to help idgaf how many hours he worked” type before too. Perhaps you could ask your husband to take over the child rearing for an hour or two so you can do something you enjoy. Like for me, I love doing my nails. Like salon type stuff to my nails so I’ll have my husband keep an eye on our daughter so I can do my nails in peace and honestly it makes me happy 
so work something out with your husband but don’t expect him to take on half your duties either. I’ve been on both sides and I still think they have it way harder than us.
Next time bub dose a messy nappy give him bub and say your about to wet yourself help and finish up please, then come back and say that you hadn’t had a chance to go to the toilet today, which let me tell you happens a lot, also works with bath time
I think it says a lot about men that dont want to spend time with their baby. Believe it or not most men are eager to get home to hold and love on them.
It shouldn’t be a chore to care for your child, especially when they’re babies.
Your man obviously isnt a real dad. He just pays the bills.
Sounds like he treats you like a doormat and wipes his feet on you.
It will only get worse
Tell him at least he gets to come home and have a break from work. You are at your job 24/7 and don’t get paid for it
If its not 50/50 he goes!!
Are his legs broken…
I believe rather or not man works he should help with kids and home… i cant find a man that wants to do any of the above so i stay single…
Do for you and baby… and let him fend for himself… if a grown ass man cannot take care of himself… as in food and washing clothes. Or care for his child… you dont need him…
This one’s heading to court
You do all the childcare and house work while he’s at work. And while he’s at work, he does all his work. But when he comes home, you share the responsibilities, because if you both worked, that’s how that would go. If you worked opposite him, he would be in charge of childcare and house 100% while you were at work and still have to go to work during his shift. If they were in daycare, you would both work and share the responsibility at home… unless he would tell you you have to handle 100% of work at home and 100% of work at work? Ask him. If that’s the case, then you need to reevaluate your choice of “partner”. If it’s not the case, and he would share the home duties after work if you also worked outside the house, then it should be no different. You have your individual jobs, and when he comes home, you have your shared responsibilities. No one with kids gets to relax. It’s called life. If that’s not the life he wanted, he should have said something earlier, kept his dick in his pants, or make enough money to afford a fucking nanny.
It’s still his child. If you’re doing everything that you say then you are doing your job but he still should give his child attention when he comes home…he’s a parent. Life doesn’t stop at 5. 
Uh no. I’m pretty sure that you’re not a solo parent.
Must go to family counseling!!
It’s the opposite for us. I work and fiancé stays home with our 2yo.
When I get home I get some me time to unwind and shower. He brings me dinner in bed (home late) and then cleans and does laundry while I play with the kiddo. He should want to play with baby
You both created her, you should both take care of her. My husband worked 12 hour shifts, left in the afternoon came home in the morning and still helped with our son, even though I stayed home with him and when we get to bring our daughter home, he will help with her as well. He helps clean up if I need help.
“Its your job.” W T F
His child is your job ?
So he wants nothing to do w the child ?
A REAL MAN WANTS TO SPEND TIME W HIS CHILD.
I won’t tell you how hard, how long my husband works.
And he comes home and WANTS to spend time w our child.
He’s exhausted. Filthy.
Yet he wants to talk to. Play with our child.
Some men are assholes.
Some are not.
It’s a women’s choice to what she will put up with.
I go on strike one full week if he wants dinner after work you can cook his own meal he was clean clothes for work he can wash his own
Do you know how he felt before you had his child. They don’t change over night.
He should help u out even if u need a shower ect
Personally I believe the parent who works shouldn’t have to help with most child care tasks when they get home from work. People here acting like he doesn’t contribute to parenting - he puts a roof over your head, food on the table, clothes on you and your children, etc., that’s his contribution.
Now, as a decent human being he should help once in a while, but no - he shouldn’t be expected or required to.
I never expected my husband to help if he was working long hours outside the home. Home was my job. Different if you both work ‘outside’.
He should want to help. I work full time my husband works full time, I get home before my husband so I pick up kids from daycare, cook and pick up a little. At night he helps with bedtimes and on weekends he picks up slack. At the end of the night we’re spent and we slowly die on the couch.
It depends. Does he play or hold the baby when home? Just not help with dirty diapers/bath time etc? I like doing it because i feel bad that i havent even gotten a work from home job and he’s the only one brining in income
Nah tell that boy he has two jobs, working outside the home, and being a father. He’s ungrateful and selfish. He helped make the child he needs to help raise it, that baby might grow up disliking him too
Do it all, 
percent for 7 yrs. My baby daddy is a crap., I am so tired I could die.
Well, she is his child too, enough said.
It is acceptable for you to ask your children’s father for help. It is not okay for him to act like it’s not his responsibility. Idk and will never understand why any woman accepts that behavior.
Honestly idgaf if you were the laziest wife on the world and didn’t cook his meal or fo his laundry…those are his kids too and as much his responsibility as yours!
My husband works 6 days a week most weeks and lately it’s been 7 but he STILL helps with the kids when he is here. I do admit he does nothing else, I cant remember the last time he started a load of laundry, he’s likely washed dishes only three times this past year or two, he doesn’t cook more than the occasional burger or steak on the grill but he does work ALOT and does help with our children.
I guess he thinks the same as me. How LUCKY AND BLESSED are we that he gets to come home every single night to us even if it is after putting in 12 hours? He puts my twi youngest to bed 90% of the time’he plays with all three almost daily and wouldn’t have it any other way. I think its completely sucky that any person let’s the type of behavior you are talking about slide!
It took 2 people to make a baby. Caring for a baby is a different kind of job. Like others have said he should WANT to help with the baby. With house chores, my husband doesnt clean unless i explicity ask him to do something but its not that he thinks it MY “job”. Ive been on both ends.i used to work fulltime evenings and weekends-opposite shifts to hubby.right now i am in fulltime school.i am not paid.we still do house work and kid stuff together.he is VERY immature if he thinks the baby and house duties are YOUR JOB
Girl I worked full time was able to take my kids to work with me. Came home cleaned, cooked, did laundry, bathed the kids, put them to bed and so on. My ex now work 70 hours a week. I never asked him to do anything cause he worked so many hours.
U guys need to work as a team. You’re both exhausted and it’s a give and take situation. Maybe alternate nights? Or alternate shifts throughout the night? Working crazy hours is hard as well. My husband is a police officer and his hours are maddening but he still does his share around the house and with our kids without being prompted but I make sure much is done to avoid him over tiring himself as he have to work the next day plus he’s always on call.
Why do some men make it seem easier to be single that to put up with their bullshit?
I never expected my husband to help after working out in either the extreme heat or freezing weather. He spent his time with the babies and when he & the babies were sleeping …that was MY TIME to relax. Count your blessings!!! Do you realize how blessed you are to be able to be home with your child? And not have to drop your child off to a daycare or whatever?
Nope nope nope
It’s 50/50 here and I stay home.
Husband owns a kitchen company it’s very hard work. He gets home and takes our boys 1.5 & 3 outside to play
He helps with feeding the kids, bath and we take turns with bedtime.
When you are both home it’s 50/50.
My father never helped nor did my husband so this is new to me. But guess most husbands do help these days, put daughter in his lap maybe with the bottle. Could be the way he was brought up? women vs men. He doesn’t have to do allot when he comes home so he can hold the baby for a bit to give you a break. I didn’t really need for my husband to cause our son was either napping or in a playpen.
Does he love you? Does he love the baby? Or does he love himself more? He should want to play with baby and share his heart and time with you all. If he has no desire to give of himself then he’s very selfish and need’s to grow up. Let Him know this in a kind and loving way. Prayfully he’ll accept it and things will get better.
You are not alone in this. I work 48-72 hours a week, sometimes more. My saint of a bride homeschools our 13, 11, and autistic 9 year old. It has taken a lot for us to learn to communicate our needs and individual struggles. IMO, he needs to do your side for a little while. You could/should/need a day off or even a weekend away. Girls weekend, visit your mom, sister, girl friend, whatever. You need adult conversation and interaction. (Especially with fellow women.) It is not healthy to go without that. He needs to be a dad. Sons need to see how to be future men and husbands, and daughters need to see what a caring man looks like so she knows not to settle for less. Don’t feel bad if he does great (better than you even) while you are gone. (Ha ha.) His pride may have pushed him through a weekend to show you it is no big deal, but secretly he is spent. He will have gotten the point. (Ha ha.)
Marriage is not 50/50, it is a 100/100 partnership. Some days I only can give 1, and my bride shows up willing to carry the other 99, some days it is the other way around. We are always working for what is best for each other. I highly recommend the book “His Needs, Her Needs”. It helped us see how our needs were different and if our legitimate needs were not met or atleast acknowledged, we each would find it difficult to meet the other’s needs. We learned to speak each others love language. You could spend all day doing acts of service but it not mean much to him because his love language is touch, so all you’d have to do is make him a pb&j and give him physical intamacy (anywhere from touching his arm you, ahem 
) and he feels loved and validated. Or maybe it is words of affirmation and all you had to do is give him a couple compliments every now and then? Maybe he thinks he is filling your love bank account by financially providing, but what you really need is one of the other languages. That is something for you two to figure out. It is life changing when you do!
But seriously, have a girls night/weekend.
I HATE that phrase “it’s your job”… well I sure as crap dont get paid for 24/7 work or I’d be in a whole new tax bracket. Lol…
The way I see it, he was at work for what twelve hours?? What did YOU do for those 12 hours? Work… so when he is home, its 50/50… it’s kind of weird to see it any other way.
He may have a physically demanding job, but being a stay at home mom is mentally draining and it’s so lonely. You love your kids, but you miss adult interaction. I’m not saying he should come home and work. But when he gets home, didnt he miss his kid? Doesnt he want to do things for the baby? Doesnt he see you as a human who has been at the SAME things all day and want to give you a breath of relief.