If ever taken to court, the courts will decide that you must meet halfway. Been through this a few time.
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It’s his responsibility for transportation the sole custody parent does not have to accommodate the secondary parent
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At least he’s willing to meet you halfway. My kids dad expected me to bring my son there and back (1 hour each way for a total of 4 hour he expected me drive on his weekends) and when I said I couldn’t do it anymore and he needed to meet me halfway or pick him up or drop him off and I would do the other he refused and acted like I was trying to keep him from. The kids and he hasnt seen them in years. He tells anyone who will listen that I don’t let him see his kids because I won’t drive 4 hours to bring them and pick them up. I think you should work with him and meet halfway.
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Think of it as doing for the kids not him. My ex lives an hour away I make that drive not for him but for my child.
Take him to court. He chose to move an hour away. He can make the drive, not you.
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I live 2.5 hrs from my EX. He must come here to see my son. He chooses NOT to and has had NO contact since March 2020!
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He is chosing to move therefore it is his responsibility to get or drop off the kids.
Seriously, with how you portray his attitude, if you moved I don’t think he would be so accommodating.
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In most cases the parent entering parenting time has to pick up. If he is willing to meet half way why not just do it? I mean it’s a half hour one way, that’s better then driving 1 hour one way…
My ex husband made the choice to move towns away… I made it clear that was his choice and i would not be acquiring any new costs associated with HIS choice ( like gas)
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In other words if it’s not court ordered by a judge…if he’s allowed/wants the kids he has to pick up and drop off or he dosnt see them.
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Ask your attorney. It should of been in your divorce papers
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Oh God, just meet him half way! Seriously, what is your malfunction? It’s about the kid, not you. 
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He is moving, He is aware of the distance, Its up to him to work it out.
While some of these ladies say things like “Suck it up i drive further” and “its for the kids” thats just not possible for everyone, Congrats for doing so but dont push onto others what you choose to do under different circumstances.
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You could just do it to show the kids that you’re still capable of working together and that his time with them is as important as yours.
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He can expect all he wants, but if you have custody & he has visitation, it’s his job to come & visit them!
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He is making the decision to move. Noone is making him move. So it would be up to him to pick up his kid’s and bring them back home. You want hope that he doesn’t move further away he will want you to do it then to. So i think where ever he moves it’s up to him to pick up his kid’s and bring them back home. Not yours
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My ex moved 4 hours away and expects me to drive two hours one way to drop off and two home then again on Sunday 
it sucks but for my daughter I do it
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I meet my son’s dad halfway on Fridays and Sundays. My son’s dad lives 2 hours away from me. It’s not unreasonable for him to ask to meet halfway. That’s pretty standard.
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Idk about yours, but my divorce states that the part time parent is to pick up and drop off his children at their primary residence on so and so day, at such and such time
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My ex would send the woman he left me for and I picked them up.
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If it was the other way around, would he do the driving? Just a thought.
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Meet halfway- both ways.
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Normally, he would have to come get them for “his” time and you have to get them for “your” time.
If it is not court ordered do not do it. It is his responsibility to make time for his children.
Each case is diff. Some judges say no meeting at primary residence and parents must meet and some say one parent is responsible ect. It depends. The only One that could make the decision beside you and other parent agreeing is a judge. You should always do what’s best for your child.
If he moves, he can make the drive, end of.
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Be a good parent and do what’s best for the kids.
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My ex moved 7 hours away and he’s expected to pay all his travel expenses himself
If the car doesn’t work well, explain that. You don’t want to end up stuck awhile aways from home with the kids and end up losing your only form of transportation. If he moved, that was on him. I get wanting to meet halfway and show the kids, but make sure you keep your vehicle working
Well let him know you expect him to travel to your home to pick up yalls daughter if he wants his visit or he is more than welcome to buy you a new more reliable vehicle.
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You don’t have to but is it really worth the fight? You can’t drive 30 mins? Do you drive it anywhere?
Your child will see that.
I didn’t have to meet my son’s father but I drove 3hrs (one way) a few times bc I’m not petty. 
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In my divorce papers it says that parent could not move over a 100 miles away. It is his responsibility to come and get his child and have that child back at a certain time. Depends on you l would think.
We meet at a half way point. Only thing it states in ours was that we cannot live more than 100 miles apart and that we were to meet at the office of where each other lived at the time. I have since moved to a house and my lawyer said to just handle it ourselves, so we chose a halfway point instead of having to go back to court and redo papers. It’s all about being adults and doing what’s best for the children.
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If he moves… He has to plan and pay for the child to visit him.
He has to provide the transportation. I moved 6 hours away with my child and I have to transport her once a month for 2 hour visits.
Its half an hour fucking get over yourself…
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Uuuhhhm no! this is HIS choice, he can go all the way to your house to pick the children
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Meeting half way, I would consider acceptable, my ex (got a dwi a year ago) has driving restrictions on his license so I have to take our boys to and from every weekend … I would be thrilled to meet halfway, my car isn’t the most reliable either but I try to be the ’ get along with ’ person just to make things easier.to me a 30 minute drive is nothing, now if it was a couple of hours drive, that’s a different story.
Personally, I’d explain the situation to him, voice your concerns. Your car is 16 years old, depending on what type of car that’s not really anything. I have a Honda Civic 90 and it’s drives perfect. I’ve driven to Florida in it twice. It’s really all about maintaining the car. If you haven’t maintained your car well sweetie that one is on you
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My ex moved from NJ to Florida and I was court ordered to drive them to the airport and pay for half the flight just so he could have visitation!!
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My dad lived 3 hours away and drove the entire way… 12 hours total in the car from Friday to Sunday and not once did he complain
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He can make the drive hes the one thay moved
What DOES your order say? There should always be a transportation clause.
Ours states that the parent who wAnts parenting time is responsible for picking the child up.
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Take him to court to do a parenting modification before he does. There’s no way I’d put that much stress in a 16yo car. He can drive to you, back home with her them back again. Otherwise you can come up with a different parenting plan. He’s choosing to move away. He needs to accept the burden. I bet he wouldn’t allow you to move your daughter that far away from him.
Ugh. Just try being nice.
You probably don’t “have” to, but maybe, just maybe, it would be the kind thing to do.
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I moved 45 mins away and we agreed on half- he drops off and I pick up
Me and my ex arrangement is we drop her off and he brings her back and vise versa, he lives 2 hrs away and he doesn’t see her much due to his work commitments, so 2 hrs a few times isn’t bad really but it should be shared really to avoid arguments. But your ex shouldn’t really wack that on you like that you need to discuss arrangements now as he was the one that moved away.
Meet him halfway, or you drop off at his house and he drops back to your house. It’s not an unreasonable request. It’s for your children that you are doing this for. Not for him.
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It’s only a short distance … some people I’m sure go alot further than that
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You mean to tell me you can’t drive the car a half hr one way. If you went to custody court they would laugh and say figure it out because there is no reason you can’t meet half way. My ex dod this and he had to figure it out. It’s both parents responsibility and it seems as though he knows that. You can’t be unfair because your not happy.
He decided to move that far away, he should drive the distance. I would for my kid if it were me.
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It’s the right thing to do to meet half way, or he does full trip to pick them up and you do full trip to pick them back up. Could have very easily been you moving with the kids 100ks away, what would you expect him to do then?
Like others also stated, it’s called healthy co parenting, you do it for the kids, not your ex husband.
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I would say as a divorced parent no you’re not expected to but just do it especially because you need time away , your children need their father and you might find unexpected little things that you enjoy on the way and on the way home stop at a local store make it something fun for you, and as u drive away, big smile on ur face that he’s even farther away from u and ur lives , u win
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The judge would tell him it’s on him bc he moved.
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Either meet half way or take turns dropping off at the others house. It’s not about you or him, it’s about the kids. Most meet half way which is fair. If you had moved an hour away then you’d probably ask the same. It’s 30 minutes to meet half way, that’s actually not bad at all. Not everything will always be convenient for you or him, you meet in the middle for the kids.
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Take him to court for it. Or just don’t help and wait til he does. It’s not your responsibility to make sure he gets his children it is his, and he is choosing to move. Have a lawyer go over your divorce decree with u and see what it says about transportation.
Call and ask a attorney see what your custody papers says. Then go from there. Good luck and prayers 
for you and your family. God bless y’all always.
His move…his travel. You should check with your lawyer. He may not even be able to move far away, but in any case, he needs to do the driving… the whole distance!
My husband and I moved an hour away from my step son and we drive the full way there and back every time for our time.
You can either meet half way each drop off or drive to his house to drop off to him and he drive to you to drop off to you. Either way you’re meeting each other in the middle
Personally I do whatever I can to make sure my son gets as much time with his dad as needed because thats what my son deserves. My ex moved an hour away because he needed more space and the price was more reasonable for a home, we made arrangements to help eachother out to make sure our child got the best possible experience. Whether it be meet halfway, drop off or pick up on our times, or both depending on the situation at that time. Its EXPECTED of me as a mother to make sure my sons needs are met and one of those needs is to make sure he sees his father.
Yea he chose to move blah blah blah who gives a shit. This is about your child. I drive a 2007 car thats literally falling apart. But I will do ANYTHING to make sure my son is happy and one of the ways he is happy is seeing his dad.
So I live about an 1 1/2 to 2 hrs away from my child’s father and my step sons mother. I drive every Friday to pick him up from school, my daughter’s dad drives here to pick her up every Friday from school as well. Then on Sundays I drove back to exchange my step son (mom refuses to drive she will only meet in the same city she lives in) and pick my daughter up.
That being said I have a good vehicle I can do that with. If this is not the case for you then state that and make an arrangement that works for you guys. Talk it out that’s what co parenting is.
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He must Fetch them and bring them back home
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Transportation is provided by the visiting parent unless stated in your custody papers.
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He should bring them back
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Wait a minute you have the children 4 weeks he has the children 2 weekends a month I think he I think he should make the trip make the trip spend a little more time with them on the drive home
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Check with your attorney but he chose to move away from the kids. So it’s his job to maintain that relationship. Not yours to help him do that.
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He should man up and bring his kids home. They don’t even live with him. You do all the hard work throughout the week and you gotta meet him halfway for a playtime weekend?
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Eh, figure out something that works for both of you. We drop off the stepson (hour drive to him and then hour back). If either one of us is having car issues we chip in for gas. I’ve got a 20 year old Honda running on hopes, dreams, and some zip ties.
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Just do it for your kids. Dont be petty.
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Im seriously concerned about how many petty women commented on this.
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If you had to move away how would you feel about it then ? Just meet half way, you really think he chooses to live further away from his kids ? Come on now
Ask the courts. My nephew had a set limit how far away x can move. Also tell courts about transportation
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Just be workable, for your kids sake
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I had a similar situation with my ex but I didn’t own a vehicle at the time so we came to the agreement that I would knock $100 off his child support payment to cover his gas for doing all the driving. Perhaps you guys can come to a similar agreement. Either he drives the whole thing and you lower his support payment by said amount for travel or you meet him half way but he pays gas? Or to make it even, one does the whole drive trip there and that at drop off the other parent does it.
If I had owned a vehicle, I definitely would have agreed to meet him half way just to make things easier for the distance didn’t effect my sons time with his dad.
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If it were me I would meet him half way but that’s just me anything to coparent
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You will either have to meet him halfway to meet and pickup or you will have to either take them and him bring them back or he picks them up and you drive and pick them up from dad
If your vehicle cant make an hour round trip (halfway there & back) is it even considered a car?? 
Any normal coparent would meet halfway!!!
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That’s supposed to be an agreement at court. However it’s the other parent responsible to make the necessary accommodations for the children.
Dick move…renegotiate the divorce.
Half way I moved an 1 hr away and have to take the interstate he only has to drive 40min through the mountains and town walmart is security cameras
Sometimes I seriously cannot believe what I’m reading. You’re being petty. Put your kids first. Meet halfway. Something. Make it work. FOR THE KIDS. You sound bitter.
my ex never met me halfway on anything
1/2 way and or receiving parent is responsible for pick up. Just the way it works.
You just make it work for the kids. If you have to go to court or ask a lawyer
Most custody agreements state the parent whose time it is is responsible for transporting. He would pick them up for his time, but you would drive to pick them up when it’s your time. …in this case he’s trying to find a middle ground where you both travel halfway. Just do the halfway.