If your paying for everything then kick him out…they wont take your baby unless they have a reason…he will continue to treat you this way he wont change
I would first speak with your landlord and see if they take assistance. Explain the situation to them. Once you leave him you will probably get help. I would also file a 30 day evict notice if his name isnt on the lease. Go to the county office and file for everything. Food stamps. Child support wic etc. Also go to the courts and file for custody. Most states are a mom state. Get him out. Their never going to give him your kid. Most of the stuff you can do online too
Sounds like he doesnt want to change. You cant stay with someone and expect them to change into the person you want then to be.
Get out now before you end up 3 kids deep and no way out!!! Run baby girl!!! Take it from experience!!! It only gets worse
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Evict him. Lose him. Move forward without this barnacle attached to your finances. You’re his sugar momma. Don’t worry, he’ll find another sugar momma to take your place. They always do.
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I would take baby and self as fast I could to the car while he’s busy playing video games but first look for another place to live, away from him.
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Wow, kick him out now. You pay the bills, he’s just mooching. And if he doesn’t leave, you call the police.
Also, no judge is going to give him your baby. He doesn’t have a job, can’t pass a drug test, and he doesn’t have a license.
Seriously, kick him out.
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I’d get emergency custody and placement of that baby and leave. You earn the money. He doesn’t. File child support and take your car. Don’t settle for less than you deserve especially before anymore kids get made.
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Oh hun he using u and he dead weight let that go it only get worser
please read what you wrote & then say OMG…what am I doing with him !!!
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Toxic, yes. The even bigger problem is he’s a lowlife loser, living off of a woman instead of supporting his family.
Get out! Be safe doing it, but don’t waste your life OR your son’s!
If you already pay all ghe bills and stuff kick him out! You dont need to take care of a baby and a man child
You need to run, and run quickly. That’s emotional and mental abuse. And he knows he has control over you with fear. Get out!
Your not alone I just went through this except my kids dad whole family was like this right after I had our son his mom oddly insisted we live with her I agreed because we didn’t have much of a choice and she seemed great but was just kissing my ass and putting on a show to get me to trust her it was so horrible him his mom and his moms gf constantly put me through physical and mental abuse they’d always call me a pos would try to kick me out their house and keep the baby then when that didn’t work when I told them I wouldn’t leave without my baby his mom would cys on us to come to her own home! Then got to the point I wasn’t allowed to take him anywhere but dr appts with their choice on who took us then to the point where they’d lock my son in the room with them I wasn’t allowed to have him then one day shit hit the fan I tried to leave because I was tired of the abuse i tried to get my mother to come get me and my baby so they took my phone off of my so I tried taking the baby and going next door because she knew my mom I told the lady next door to call my mom they won’t let me have my baby but after they took my phone and I tried to leave they were like playing tug of war with the baby with me but I was able to get to the neighbors then my child’s dad came out with a sledgehammer because I was going to leave with the baby and take the baby away from all them crazies I made a stupid decision and decided to stay though because the cops wouldn’t take the baby from his father because there was no custody drawn up and I said I do not trust them I will not leave without my son so I pretty much had to stay and deal with the abuse for a bit longer he’d punch me in the head push me etc and his mother would just watch and defend him it was so sickening it was hell for me but I got out of it and it’s changed me into a better person be careful who you have a child with and if your being abused do not stay because one day could be your last you might never think it could happen to you I used to think that before I met my child’s father/ ex husband were divorced now I have a pfa and he is now in jail for being caught with drugs
Girl you are not in a relationship you are in prison. Time to go!! You are making it on your own without him. Plus you would save money by not supporting him.
You need to leave or get him to. And there’s no way he could take your baby away from you… what a waste of space 
Don’t walk, run, girl!! You get out right this minute.
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You need to put him out
Time to walk out. Take your baby, seek help from a women’s group with experience on how to get out safely.
I’m sorry but literally there’s 1-2 red flags in EVERY sentence you’ve written. Idk why you haven’t left
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wow, I can’t believe u stay with him. leave before it gets worse. the cps have no reason to take your son from u. get rid of him
Document his and his families bahavior and get the fuck out. Why are you paying all his shit when your child needs things and then you expect him to pay for it. If he’s got you paying for everything don’t expect him to pay for his child.
It sounds like he’s controlling, not responsible, and has a lot of personal issues to confront. Let him call CPS, they will see what this woman is describing for themselves. The only thing that has her under his control is the fear he put in her about her age which is not true. Tell her to call CPS herself and she will see how they are more than willing to help her.
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Dont talk about it. Just go. It wont be as hard as u may feel… especially if he isnt worth a damn
Take yur car and yur baby and run! Dont let him bully u n2 believing he will get yur child.ant no way just go.you and baby r better than that!!
Please read what toy wrote. You pray the bills and have a job. Age has nothing to do with it. Start documenting all of it and get out.
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My momma always said if you have to ask then you know your answer 
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Cps will not give him cousody he drinks and gets high and you have 2 jobs and goes to school the next time he takes your car call the police he doesn’t have a license if he gets into a accident with your car it’s going to be your fault cause you didn’t call the police to report that he doesn’t have a license and you didn’t say he could use your car and if he is drinking and getting high around your baby you both will lose cousody of your baby so if I was you I would get the hell away from him fast and don’t look back make a better life for you and your baby
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If you have to ask if its toxic then yes its toxic for you. Yes you are in a terrible relationship. Leave him, let him call CPS or the police because it sounds like your going to win either way. Leave. Protect your child.
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What U allow is what Ur teaching Ur child to accept in their future relationship/marriage
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Take your son and run as far and fast as possible. You other half doesn’t have a chance to get custody because he has not means of support for the baby and has very bad habits. Don’t worry just get out.
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- When he takes ur car call the police and report it stolen. 2. While he is in jail change the locks 3. Get a protective order for you and baby in place against him and his family.
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Leave or ruin more of your life.
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Let him call they get him instead because of his own habits
Run as fast as you can!
Let him call the cops.
You answered your question.
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Take ur kid and run girl don’t let him control you anymore
I guess you have 2 children miss. Can’t raise a man enuh a him mom job that send the baby back to him parents
I didnt even have to read past “he spent his money on weed and alcohol when our baby needed diapers”. Stand up for yourself and your baby and leave him. Speak with your landlord and your utility companies about transferring or canceling services if they are all in your name.
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Get rid of him. He’s a controlling dick! I wouldnt have a man around my 6 month old smoking weed or drinking excessively. Put you and your child first. You two are the priority, not that piece of shit.
Remember if you are tired of being a door mat it’s time to get up off the floor. He is playing mind games with you. CPS is not going to give a child to a man that won’t work and drinks and does drugs. Pack his things up then call the police to get him out of your house. Get a EPO AGAINST him. Do not let him back into your home. Make sure he has no keys to your home or vehicle. Also if he is driving your vehicle with no license your insurance is no good and you then become liable for anything that happen while he is driving it unless you call the police and report he stoled it. Good luck amday Good bless you.
He’s using you for a free ride. Leave him
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Leave that relationship ASAP! He will not change and it will only get worse. You are in a relationship with a narcissist.
Why are you with him if you do everything? He just uses you & it’s draining you. Ditch his ass, you’d do fine without taking care of a grown ass man too
You don’t need another mouth to feed. If you pay for everything he does nothing but complain you would be better off without him. He should find another place SOON.
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RED FLAGS EVERYWHERE
He can’t take your kid from you if you are supporting all 3 of you, HE is the unfit parent in this scenario
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You said you can’t leave? You leave when you go to work right leave then and don’t look back
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Those are just threats to scare you and intimidate you, take your child and go!
LEAVE HIS ASS. fuck that. Unless you’re on drugs CPS won’t take your kid from you. If you have family, go move in with them. Tell no one. Get out of your lease. Fucking leave ASAP. That’s a narcissist right there.
Call the cops and tell them you want him to leave. They will come and make him
Get rid of the lazy bum…he doesn’t have a job therefore no way to support the baby without you the court won’t allow it…let him call the police and CPS that way everyone can see for themselves what a bum he is…leave him as soon as you get the chance far away…he’s controlling you and he’s the one cheating if he looks at your phone constantly there’s no reason for that…either he trusts you or he doesn’t either way that’s his problem…move on quickly with your baby!
I didnt even finish reading this , ur an idiot! Any man who puts WEED & ALCOHOL above his son 1. Needs HELP 2. Is a POSn
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Call cps and or the cops and say you don’t feel safe and that you just found out he’s doing drugs. If everything is in your name they will kick him out. They won’t let him see his kid until he can pass a drug test and paternity test. If that happens he’ll have to pay child support so I don’t see him fighting since he has no job…
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Leave his ass he is a peace of shit get your son away from him my daughter is going thru the same shit you guys think that’s love well it’s not your. Wasting the best years of your life your never gonna get back
You should call the police when he wont let you leave as he is keeping you prisoner in yiur home and that is illegal.Why so you continue to support an adult who is capable of working.why do you stay.you should take baby and run as fast as you can and dont.look back.Many times men use the I will take the baby and the courts wull take it.Wow he doesnt know the law very well.diesnt have anything to do with your age as you are the soul supporter.dont.let another day go by living with him.
In answer to your question: yes the relationship is toxic. Don’t even know how you could wonder. Get out now
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Get rid of him u have enuf with one bb dnt need another!!
Leave NOW he is useless to you and your child!
Sounds like hes using you or something. Sounds like hes not doing anything for you or the baby other than dragging you down. You dont need him and hes not worth having around.
If you are paying everything kick his ass out or shut everything off and give the keys up and leave.
Get some proof he’s a total bum and then leave. Doubtful he would try to get custody because that would mean he would have to get an income. But you can go to the courts and show them you’re the financially and mentally stable parent and get custody. If you need help leaving, get a friend or two to come over and physically stand there to prevent him from getting physical. Man friends if possible.
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Leave him quick he will never change … trust me know been through this before… focus on you & your beautiful baby … good luck x
I’d kick that dude to the curb! He has NO leg to stand on. If you can prove your jobs and the fact YOU are the one supporting baby, he’s the one screwed. This guy sounds like a gaslighter and I’d leave fast.
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Read this back and pretend your friend wrote it to you!
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If you have to ask if it’s a toxic relationship it most likely is
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Um yes dear you are in an extremely toxic relationship. You need to leave for your child’s sake and yours as well. He ain’t gonna do anything. Sounds like he’s all about mind control.
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Call the police the next time he takes your car. You are liable for the car. Ask your landlord if you can change your locks (most contracts, its illegal to change anything without written consent) ,get protective order to keep him away. Does your child have your last name or his?? (Doesn’t matter?) Stay away from him, apply for child support. I know he isn’t working, but he might get a job, or go to jail for no support. OR BETTER YET, MAYBE HE WILL SKIP TOWN FOR A WHILE and you can get your life back. Good luck
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I think you know the answer to your question already. Yes, you are in a terribly bad toxic relationship. Leave him.
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Girl leave. Put him on cs and stay away from him and his family
Yes. Run. Now. I would call the cops to help you leave or as soon as you leave file for a pfa. There is NO judge that will take your baby from you as long as they are safe and taken care of. Get a book… Write down everything you can think of then keep a log date and time with details of what he is doin that makes him a bad parent. Sounds like he’s got some growing up to do. Good luck.
Girl he ain’t got shit on you if he were to take you to court (and where is he gunna get the money?) They would ask where he lives and how much he makes which is nothing and if you need to I’m sure you can provide proof that you have had the bills in your name and he doesn’t have anything, they will see that you are working and going to school and you will get your child, also I live in MN and found out that if you were never married then unless there is abuse or neglect being proven the mother has full physical and legal custody I would check around when you can to see if there Is legal assistance through your county office and see if they know if a place that does this and even if he did take you to court like you said he and his family are not financially stable you will be fine and yes you need to get the hell out now and get on your own feet
Take your child and run. Sounds like an emotional abuser. Only will get worse
Run don’t walk you will be fine
Sounds like abuse… U needa leave or kick him out… U are too good for him
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Yes, very toxic relationship. Please leave him. And no, a court system won’t take custody from u and give it to him? That’s not how it works.
No way in hell would a judge give him the baby. YOU’RE the one supporting the baby not him. Kick his sorry ass to the curb.
The only reason he says those things is bc he is a shitty MF.
Leave him quick!! He wont take your child bc he doesn’t work and he wont pass a drug test. If you dont want to leave, change the locks and if you see I’m lurking call the cops. Always call the cops and make police reports. Incase you want full custody later on
Thats extremely abusive and CPS isn’t going to take your child and give her to him.
I didn’t even need to continue reading to know you should get rid of him. Ask yourself what are you actually getting out of this relationship? He’s not helping to support your child. He certainly doesn’t respect you in any way if he’s calling you lazy. I didn’t even finish reading but it doesn’t sound like you need that Bum! Byyeee 
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Yes. Get out or kick him out before it’s to late.
Get out and he wouldn’t get custody of the child either
What is wrong with young women that they tolerate such unjust treatment. How could you allow someone to wreck your life like this? You have allowed yourself to become a victim of domestic violence.
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You just answered your own question. 
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yes u r, and ur able didn’t matter even 16 yr olds get full cusdty, it depends on the situation and who better off for the child sounds lol ur busting ass as it is, and not smoking and drinking too,
i feel this way too much
Leave. His. Dumb. Ass.
You need to take your baby and run as far away as you can it’s only going to get worse but i no it’s easier said than done if he won’t let you go anywhere without him just call the police or speak to someone get a ball rolling and get out of there
You have your answer, get out now.
They would most likely give custody to you. Age doesnt matter. He drinks, smokes weed and doesnt have a job nor pay bills. You would win without breaking a sweat.
If you are able I would move to my parents that way you have them to be whiteness for when he shows up acting a fool. You can then always put an order of protection on him for you and your baby. In most states if you are not married the mother technically has custody of the child. You definitely need to get a game plan and move on. I went through this for 14 yrs and they don’t change! Wish you the best💕
Totally toxic, sounds like you have nothing to worry about with CPS but he sure does. He’s a manipulative narcissistic asshole. Get out now while you can, lean on your family and friends. It will be hard, heartbreaking and scary but you can do this. Not only for you but your little boy. You deserve so much more.
No it not you would get the kid you work and everything .
This isn’t just toxic this is abusive. I’ve lived a similar situation and let me tell you now he is bullshitting! He is telling you these things to get in your head and make you scared so you don’t leave because he knows damn well it’s not true and if you left he would lose you and the baby… and his meal ticket. Get out as soon as you can. I promise you this will only get worse. I stayed because he did a really good job scaring me and the mental and emotional abuse turned physical. It peaked when he threw a box fan at me and hit our 6 month old daughter instead who was in her swing. I ran to call the cops and he came up behind me and broke the phone, he put me in a head lock and we fell to the floor with him choking me. My 1 yr old son was standing next to us crying hysterically and all I could think was he’s gonna kill me. My poor son is gonna watch me die. It started to go black. Then he let go. And I grabbed my babies and I ran. Please don’t let it get to that point. He’s trying so hard to control and manipulate you and his actions will continue to progress.
Get out now… dont keep waiting for him to change. He won’t
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Boyfriend! Not husband! Kick him to the curb. Does the baby have your last name or his?
This is a very toxic and very abusive relationship. You need to move out. If he takes your car again, report it stolen.
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If you don’t leave cps may get involved and you’d lose you child due to keeping them in unhealthy circumstances
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Yes very toxic. Leave him ASAP. And no they will not take your child away.
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Leave, if you need help contact your company nurse or HR they will call the police and help you, been there, best thing I ever did was leave him
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